Questions tagged [bullying]

Questions relating to abusive / intimidating behaviour in the workplace

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Prospective employer “begging” me for a second chance

Unusual situation here. I was contacted for a "dream role" at a small company. I have been searching for a similar role for a long time and these type of roles are very competitive so I was very ...
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What and how to explain recruiter about quitting job due to bullying [duplicate]

I have been having serious problem with my head of department. TLDR: If I said it was day, she would argue and say it's night. She was really rude, would speak with me rudely in meetings, shout at ...
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How can I stop my colleagues from making fun of me?

My colleagues make dirty jokes about me, gossip about my personal life, laugh at me and try to make a fool of me. For example, they make fun of and make dirty jokes about my family. They laugh at me ...
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Workplace condones bullying - resignation letters and future interviews

Note: With respect to the possible duplicate of the question relating to "badmouthing a previous employer" - there is no intent on doing such a thing, I am asking for the diplomatic way out re both ...
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How to handle a workplace bully who often degrades others work?

I work in a small software team. we have this one brilliant programmer who has an opinion about everything. He often comes around looks at the peers' code and make rude comments like "what kind ...
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Colleague ignores my emails and accuses me of bullying [closed]

Although my emails are not specifically work related, we are a small company who need to work collectively without personal conflicts and his attitude towards me causes a lot of tension, yet he is the ...
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Is it professional for a manager to publicly warn of “serious consequences”?

My manager recently sent an email to my team reminding us to do a certain task some employees usually forget about. The task is very simple: Untick the "Allow Facebook Comments" button before ...
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Is this a case of workplace bullying or I'm I just being paranoid? [closed]

I've been in my current place of employment for some time now circa 5 years and never had any issue. Recently the company was taken over and as part of that we had a reshuffle in terms of expanding ...
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At new job coworker acts aggressively as a joke

I started a new job at a call center recently. The office is quite large and the company itself has about 50,000 employees. There's one guy I sit close to who is making me uncomfortable and ...
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Employee's Relative and Theft from the Workplace

We recently had some public strikes and protests in Brazil which caused some major inconveniences all around. One of those inconveniences was the lack of public transport for today, so my direct boss (...
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Should I put a bully boss during my exit interview [closed]

I'll try to make this brief and whine free: a year ago I was contacted by my former boss who is now the head boss at my current org. He and one of the deputy directors pitched me an Operations role ...
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Handling interview with manipulative colleague from past job

At my new company, I've done well for myself, but one of the engineers from my last company (a senior one that was buddy-buddy with the CEO of Miserable Company Inc.) is applying to my current company....
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Overheard coworker talking about me

I currently work in a junior position for a big corporation. I recently overheard someone in a senior role making fun of me to other senior people and it has upset me to the point of wanting to leave....
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HR and work emails forwarded to private email - can they be used in a court of law? [closed]

I am in a middle of a "misunderstanding" with my current employer - I have called for internal bullying resolution twice. In effect, I have got relocated, and am denied access to my work mailbox, ...
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Dealing with senior bullying [closed]

I have recently joined a renowned firm as a consultant. I had high expectations and the salary was also good. But from the first day itself I was treated differently. After few days I became friend of ...
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Office violence [closed]

A friend of mine, Manos, was working in Greece as a junior civil engineer, in a small office of 10 people give or take. In four months as a fledgling there, with almost no support, he struggled to ...
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Coworker may have maliciously fooled with PC, how do I leave the company safely? [closed]

When I joined this company, I had the unfortunate experience of working with very jaded and unprofessional developers. They wanted me to work on their personal projects and hide my activity from IT by ...
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Is this coercion or bullying?

I am a senior manager at a small not for profit organisation. Whilst I and our CEO was on leave recently our HR Manager made each of my team meet with her on an individual basis. At these meetings she ...
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Dealing with aggressive co-worker while feeling weak

I'm a foreign woman in Germany working in the IT field, as provider for another company. I sit in an office with a guy who is loud, despises some groups of people, and sometimes even insults me. We ...
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My authority is undermined by my boss and coworker behavior, and the quality of my work is suffering, what can I do to improve the situation? [closed]

I have been working in my office for a few years. Around one year ago the only two people in the office were my boss and I. We honestly didn't like each other too much but we had always been polite to ...
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Dealing with colleagues that appear to have a lot of pull in the workplace [closed]

I once had a colleague that seemed to have a lot of pull in the workplace. She was able to openly slack off in the department manager who would smile and chat with her, and managers all seemed ...
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My employer is ignoring my emails [closed]

Last year I agreed a 12, month career break with my employer. During this time I was abroad and it was agreed that I would contact my employer 2 months before returning to my position. As I was in a ...
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How can an organization maintain an atmosphere of zero bullying? [closed]

Workplace bullying by co-workers is a very common problem in a workplace. It is a pervasive problem in India. What specific policy can an organization adopt to maintain zero office bullying?
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My colleagues make fool out of me, how can I deal with this?

I'm a very softly spoken, respectful, honorable, decent, innocent, and polite man who never hurts anyone, never strikes back with bad answers, and never makes fun of others. My colleagues makes fun ...
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Nepotism lying and manipulative ceo [duplicate]

I've been working at the same company for 8 years. Initially I started as a junior manager and reported to the General Manager of the department. The General Manager left as he became bored and ...
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Senior colleague mocking voice and accent [closed]

I have been working in the US for over 10 years. My accent isn't thick anymore and people don't have a hard time understanding me. My level of English is fluent at this point. In all my jobs, I feel ...
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Recording Phone Calls with No Company HR Policy [closed]

I was recently a part of an unforeseen call between two departments over a failing project. During the call, my manager had blatantly lied to our HR director regarding this failing project and where ...
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Workplace Bullying by jilted guy, please advice [closed]

This is a long read. Sorry. My office has a selective easy hire easy fire policy. I have a female boss. I am female. I am an asexual, no one knows my sexuality; I tell people at work I have a ...
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Coworker being disrespectful in meetings and other areas

I was recently promoted to a lead position of a sales team with several direct reports under me. My manager also has a team, mainly support staff, who do not report to me. One of his employees ...
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When To Go Over Boss's Head? [duplicate]

Asking on behalf of a friend. We will call her Jane. Jane finds herself as a target for the workplace bully. This bully has caused 2 other members of the team to quit prior to Jane's arrival. 1 ...
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More work getting assigned, lot of criticism and bully - signifies what [closed]

I am working as a lead in software company. I have been given 2-3 projects to manage simultaneously. I have been spending more than 12 hours in a day. In short lot of work one after the another. But ...
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Worried about potential bad reference

TL; DR: Bullying in workplace, unable to do anything about it, bully is responsible for informing boss of my performance and thus content for a reference, can I consequently get a bad reference? What ...
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Was I bullied? Coworkers ignoring my existence [closed]

This has happened many months ago, however I have lost much sleep over this issue, and I would like your honest opinion. I am a graduate, and through this, and experienced 'workplace politics', and ...
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Boss watched me do anonymous survey, treats me different now

My boss was continuously walking past me as I was filling in an anonymous survey, she saw me put a negative comment in about the workplace itself. All day after that she seemed to be picking on me ...
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Official report on bullying [closed]

I wasn’t sure if this was best fit for here, on law.se or highereducation.se but since it primarily happened at work, I decided here. I just graduated from university. I completed the co-op program. ...
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Is HR protecting a bully and what should I do about it? [closed]

I am working in a small company. I met a man there and we started a relationship. We worked in the same position but in different teams. The relationship started smoothly but after three months he ...
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Mobbing (bullying) between production operators [closed]

Firstly, this is a special, not a general question about mobbing (bullying). My mother was without a workplace for a long time, now after two years doing nothing she finally found a place to work at a ...
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Dealing with boss and his request to (male) employees including myself, how to handle this right? [closed]

I work for a small firm here in Minnesota; only 30 people work there. Well, 27 men, 3 women. I[m a 37 year old guy, married, to my wife, 34, with a 14 year old daughter in highschool. Our boss (a ...
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Should I call out former boss for his unreasonable demands to return the equipment in solely his terms even if I am in no position to do so? [closed]

UPDATE: I had a cousin who invited me to his car ride. We are now bringing over the equipment to the office. We will not leave until we see my former employer. I also have a turnover document with me, ...
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What do you say on bullying documentation if you don't know the exact date of the incident? [closed]

If you are writing a bullying report for HR but you only have a vague idea of when the incident happened e.g. Early in March what do you say? Do you say that you don't know when? Or explain why you ...
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Bullying (physically and verbally) by relatives of a manager

I would like to know what is the best way to deal with work colleagues who are physically and verbally abusive to me at work. In this case, the bullies are relatives of the HR manager, who I report to ...
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How to deal with the team members who always turn a blind eye to this joker who mocks me [closed]

I'm from india and my workplace consists of people across india, meaning that people of different mother languages come to work in the same workplace. Recently when I and my team mates were ...
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How to evade work-safe topics when I don't have a culture-safe opinion? [closed]

Politics is moving further and further away from work safe, but sadly, it still comes up every now and then. In my workplace, a few very vocal people are in support of a certain presidential-...
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What does it mean when your boss calls you to tell you that someone got fired? [closed]

My boss called me when I was working at home and he said in a very angry voice: So and So got fired. Do you want to know why? They weren't as talented as the others. I didn't work with the ...
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Is this normal workplace behavior, and should I stay or go? [closed]

Thanks in advance for your help. I started a new job a few months ago. During this time, I've noticed a number of events that I have actively been trying not to interpret as red flags, but lately ...
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Am I a employee or freelance? [closed]

If you work anywhere full time, 5 days a week from 10am to 6pm and found on a website that you should be a fully contracted member of staff by law and that the boss should be paying tax and other ...
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Supervisor “Jokingly” Slapped my bum

I was getting ready to leave my Christmas party when my supervisor (both of us are women) grabbed then slapped my ass quite hard. In her head I think she meant this as a joke, but that combined with ...
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Coworkers constantly make fun of my buying habits

I work in a small startup of 10 people in a house converted to an office that's spread across 3 floors. I am friendly with all coworkers including people from another startup that's sharing the space. ...
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Senior architect lashing out when junior developer asks questions. What to do?

I'm a female developer and I've been working at my current employer for 4 months. I’m new to the technology and to the business domain. I basically don’t know much about anything. I am working on the ...
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Dealing with aggression where contacting HR is discouraged

A female friend of mine has been a victim of verbal abuse and yelling in the workplace today. The aggressor is the partner of my friend in a 2-men software development team. While I don't have the ...