Questions tagged [colleagues]
Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.
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Manipulative coworker who monopolizes conversations [on hold]
I've recently had to deal with a coworker who was quite manipulative in conversations, and had a great expertise in communication.
I will explain the situation:
me and him are of the same ...
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Approving claims although subordinate didn't drive
I'm in such a dilemma now. A little background of this department. There are 2 teams in this department. I'm a team leader for team A, and there's another team leader for team B.
Both of teams are ...
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Googling: Breaking the ice without coming across as a creep
I joined a company last week, and one of my co-workers (not on my specific team, but still part of our overarching team) has a pretty unique/interesting name. I Googled it out of curiosity and learned ...
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Other employees not following company policy
So, recently I volunteered for a shift a local movie theater and had to go through an orientation that lasted around 20 minutes and some of the things that were discussed included,
If under 18, you ...
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My work is being pawned off to my colleague. Is it reasonable to apologize to my colleague?
I recently came back from a long trip at a client's location. This trip took longer than expected. There were many problems and I couldn't figure out if they were caused by my lack of knowledge in ...
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What to do if I have been accused of sexual misconduct?
I recently joined a company. Our training sessions are going on. During pair programming round, to try to make things go faster(as we are falling behind) when I tried to grab my pair's laptop(as we ...
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Romantically rejected a more senior coworker; how can I protect myself?
A coworker recently asked me out in a romantic way and I turned them down. I don't work directly with this person, or report to them. They're not on my team. They are older and more senior. I don't ...
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Supporting developers who insist on using their pet language
I've joined a team of around five developers building a microservice-based website, in a shop that emphasises autonomy and learning. However, it turns out one of the developers is writing "his" parts ...
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Should I approach my manager about an incompetent tech lead?
I work as an engineer in a team structured as follows
project manager (my manager)
└─── lead data scientist (my technical lead)
└─── me (and other engineers)
Unfortunately, I'm not convinced ...
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I have a hyper empathetic colleague that I do not get along with that sits accross from me. How do I improve the situation?
I have a colleague who is extremely empathetic, and can always tell exactly what I'm feeling, why I'm feeling it, and can predict what I may want him to do. He often takes various actions on my behalf ...
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Feeling embarrassed after purchasing a gift for a co-worker as an apology
I purchased a co-worker a statue of a bear riding a bicycle, for some reason, as an apology for being late to a meeting. He decided to put it, and the note I wrote introducing the bear, on the table ...
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Should I avoid revealing my age at a new role?
I've recently been offered a role at a large company (I've usually worked in companies with less than 100 employees). I'm a unusually high seniority for my age (22) but started my career at 17 so I ...
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How do you build relationships with a colocated team as the only remote person? [duplicate]
My department recently reorged and restructured a few teams. I'm in City A's office and am joining a team all located in City B. This team is a former start-up that my (very) large company purchased,...
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Is this worth to return to project where I had negative communication experience with colleagues and solution architect?
I've been working for the same employer for many years.
During the last 6 years, I was working on two projects:
Project A, where I used to be a team member for a short period of time and after that I ...
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Taking advantage when HR forgets to communicate the rules
I currently work as a software engineer at a company in Europe. One detail that's going to be important below is that everybody here has a contract for 40h/week. If you work more, you can use the ...
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How to respond to someone who condemns behavior similar to what they exhibit?
I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at ...
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Sudden termination for indefinite time for health recovery [closed]
First of all, this is my first company. I have been here for more than one and a half year. I've been under pressure to take leave for an indefinite time for health recovery due to my poor health. I ...
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Deal with the thirst for power of a colleague [closed]
I am working in a company, and I am having this type of problem: whenever we start a new project a colleague of mine always wants to be the leader of the project.
He is now leading a very important ...
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Clash of working styles with boss
My boss and I have different working styles and I'm out of ideas for how to address this.
First, I want to be absolutely clear. On a personal level he and I get along great. We go out for a beer ...
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Denied vacation time
I'm in a difficult position because I was denied vacation time (only 1.5 days off requested). Well, my manager did not explicitly say no but replied to me with "It will be difficult for me to approve ...
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My colleague thinks I'm showing off, how do deal with it? [closed]
We both are pipeline developers working in an animation company. As we are developers, we deal with text-editors/IDE.
I use certain tools that suit my needs. A coworker who is unfamiliar with that ...
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Should I make an event at work to celebrate my soon-to-be-wedding?
So it's my first time getting married (hope the only one) but I started a new job in a foreign country where I don't know the habits in term of mini events in workplace.
I work in Germany and since I ...
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How to tell boss that we need a test plan and to ensure developers use the QA process?
I just got a Warning letter for poor performance
I joined a new company as an Associate QA engineer and almost 70% of the developers are juniors and there are no project managers and business ...
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Proposals and Solutions Frequently Dismissed
I work at a large company with different groups and divisions and things like that.
We are made to participate in several cross-company workshops where many issues are discussed. In one group, ...
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My colleague is constantly blaming me for his errors
I'm a junior software developer in a small company. I'm working on a project since I finished my internship contract 4 months ago. It's a small project, so there's only another programmer (junior too ...
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Coworker demands silence in a rude way. How to react?
We work in a quite noisy place where speaking is not prohibited. Moreover, the operations we do are not quiet at all. Some coworkers are eating, listening to music, talking, etc. during the day. It's ...
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Colleagues Ignoring me as I work Independently on my Schedule
Well, I have been to this new Job. It's been like around 5 months. The work atmosphere was the best which I ever experienced (I only worked in small companies for short periods of time due to some ...
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How do I work with someone that shows no effort of working with me?
I have worked at a startup for 3 years alongside the CEO and another developer which I will refer to as Tom from this point forward.
Tom is 35 years older than me and is seen as the more experienced ...
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How to respond to controlling colleague?
Recently a new colleague joined our team. He came with great recommendations and seemed generally great at the job.
There were a few instances where I heard him being aggressive rather than assertive ...
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Would it be ethical to privately tell a colleague that our boss will probably fire him soon? [duplicate]
Big IT company.
Today, my colleagues of our team project (5 people) except one developer (let his name be John) and I were invited to talk with our boss.
It gets out that our boss wants to replace ...
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My boss ask me to collect feedback from my colleagues about another colleague for promoting him
I have been very recently promoted at senior (expertise) position but without any management role in a 100-employee research agency, with the strong support of my boss (direct manager).
Today, my ...
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Does management has a spy on floor? [closed]
Recently the company I joined which had made some people redundant and there was a meeting to make sure no one else is getting laid off, but since then a guy is always hovering the floor like keeping ...
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How to deal with incompetent coworker/passive manager?
My current coworker has very little, if any, responsibilities. My manager is aware of the issue and has let the issue linger for months on end, resulting in me being the one to pick up the slack for ...
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How to deal with co-worker who promises a lot, but does not deliver?
I work for a very large, multinational company. In our company, we are often tasked to work with employees from different countries, from different teams, etc.
Recently, I had to work on a big ...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down
Environment:
My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question.
I ...
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Work environment of favoritism, limited professional growth, and possible subtle subconscious age-discrimination at play?
I've been with a small tech company just over 4 years now, and was one of the first employees with the company, creating the prototype for what ultimately became the first product. I was one of about ...
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I stressed my coworker into reprioritizing their work and now I feel bad about it. Did I mess up?
I have a deadline coming up in two weeks. An internal web application needed a small new feature to finish the project. The maintainer of the web application has been extremely helpful in helping me ...
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best approach with my colleagues - saying goodbye for the weekend at a new job
I've just started my first job a week or two ago, and I am trying my best to approach my workmates and fit in with the team. It seems they're all busy, they haven't talked to me very much. I wonder if ...
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How to commend a remote colleague?
I'm a software engineer and recently I've been working on a remote team's package to integrate it with a project I've been assigned to. It's really difficult to ramp up on and pretty impenetrable to ...
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Am I obliged to report rude/awkward language even if it doesn't offend me?
There is a colleague at my (American) workplace who is young and smart, but fairly inept at using his filter function while he's talking.
At a group meeting (his manager was present), he went on ...
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Someone from HR suggesting that I should not hang out with a coworker [closed]
I am pretty new at my work, having only been there for a few months (compared to people who have worked there for up to 10 years) and I felt a little pushed aside during lunch breaks or company ...
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What are some strategies for managing irritation with colleagues? [closed]
I have two colleagues whom I often get annoyed with. I don’t believe the details are too important — suffice to say that their lack of planning sometimes causes me to have to do extra work. I have ...
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How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?
I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
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How to deal with apathetic co-worker?
I work in gastronomy in a rather small restaurant. The co-worker I spend most of my work-day around has become more and more apathetic over the past few months. It was a very gradual change, so I am ...
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killing workplace environment [closed]
I am not a people person , i don't know how to interact with anyone socially, apart from work, I tried so many times but never gets a response and am the odd one out in office group. So in I have no ...
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My teammates are all unhappy with their raise, but I know I got more than them. How to handle?
I have just come back after one month break from work (this is relevant) and am faced with a bit of a strange situation. This is in the UK.
Whilst I was away there was pay review meetings at work ...
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Coworkers talking on cell phones in the bathroom
I work on a floor with approximately 120 people sharing one set of bathrooms (one men's and one women's with approx 6 stalls each). There are a couple of people on the floor who feel absolutely no ...
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How to deal with a colleague who is being aggressive?
I’ve found that a relatively new addition to our team is being needlessly aggressive and I’m not sure if I should speak to them or our mutual manager about this face to face, or try some other ...
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Teammate is avoiding me but won’t tell me why
One of my colleagues seems to have an issue with me. We were friends before I joined the company, he even referred me to the position I’m now in. He actually tried to get me on his team when I had ...
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Team has team lunch everyday, am I forced to go?
I don't want to join my colleagues for lunch, but I am an intern so joining is important for relationship building.
I don't know how they manage to have lunch everyday together but they do. Am I ...
