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Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How to remove guilt from accepting job promotion?

My friend has been at a company for just short of a year. Recently a senior job role came up for internal staff only so they applied. When his colleagues found out he'd applied everyone was angry as ...
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How to deal with constantly bragging co-worker?

recently a new collegue started to work for the IT company I work for. He seems quite polite and nice but when it comes to lunch time he very often brags and - for lack of a better word - talks utter ...
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What should I do when colleagues keep commenting on my attire?

What should I do when my colleagues, on finding me wearing new dresses to work, are greeting me with "Happy birthday" everyday in a sarcastic way? I am just mix and matching my attire in a formal way....
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Appropriate condolences for boss at work

I'm enquiring about sending a condolence card or note to my boss, whose parent passed away. They are quite a private person, and I'm not sure they'd appreciate having such a personal card passed ...
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How to properly “complain” about your co-worker's slow progress? [duplicate]

A co-worker and I work on a project. We generally split the task half and half. The problem is he is very slow in progress. What would be a good strategy to talk to my boss for this problem? My ...
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Helping someone who did not employ me (or his employee)

(This problem takes place at a university, but I still think it belongs here, as it is more about colleague relationship / work ethics than about academia.) I work as an assistant at a university. My ...
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Intern I am working in pair with is slacking and disrupts our work

I am two months into my last internship as a Software Engineer, and the workplace is fine, except for one other intern, who I happen to work in pair with. We work on our own project in the company, ...
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Found out a coworker's salary after looking at her boss's unlocked computer

My friend is facing the following problem: Her boss left his computer open and she then looked at his screen, where the salary of a coworker at her level (who since has left the company) was ...
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My colleague burps loudly all the time, How to handle the situation ?

This colleague of mine sits next to me like barely 2-3 feet apart. she keeps burping out loud all day every 10-15 min or so. It's annoying and i cannot find a way to tell her without sounding rude. ...
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How to politely suggest a co-worker needs to try to find the answer on their own before coming to me?

I am a senior-level developer in a large corporation in the US. Two of my co-workers on the same project work with me and sit in the same office, right by me. We'll call them Bob and Jim. They are ...
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Helping someone who has antagonized her colleagues [closed]

I work as a developer in the web/mobile department of a big org. We have developers divided in teams, we have team leads, and we have project leaders. There’s a “new” project leader who is having ...
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HR treating new hires like kids [closed]

Recently graduated and started working for a large organization. The company provides training for new hires. Throughout the training, we are mentored by more senior employees. As a part of the ...
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Feeling left out at work. What do I do?

I've been at the company for 2 months now, yet I feel so ostracised by my co-workers. In the first month, I tried fitting in by being proactive in involving myself with work events and socialising ...
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How to deal with colleagues who laugh at me when I study something?

I want to advance my knowledge of algorithms and data structures, and sometimes I study them at work when there's nothing to do, because I usually do things fast and no one needs my help. A lot of ...
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How to deal with manager who expects more than we can contribute?

I am in a very complicated situation: I was hired 2.5 years ago at this company for a job I was not trained for but I was sure I could do it. I was very upfront about it at the interview and I was ...
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Colleagues going overboard as they get more envious [closed]

One of my cousins has joined an year old startup. She is full of ideas and expressed it right at the time of interview. The panel was impressed with her. With a period of 2-3 months, she introduced ...
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Colleague appears insensitive to the fact I wear glasses now

I recently went to the eye doctor, and got myself some nice glasses. They are great, and I paid for all the goodies. Non glare, etc. I have a coworker whose desk is over my left shoulder directly ...
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How to deal with a colleague who consistently schedules meetings that should be emails? [duplicate]

I've got a great team to work in and I absolutely love my job, but one of my colleagues will continually insist on meetings, even/especially after a 'long' email discussion. They're often <= 30 ...
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How to address a coworker about their emotional behavior at work?

I have a coworker who produces good work, but is difficult to work with. When confronted with a problem, he can easily get frustrated and will frequently derail meetings and hinder progress once he ...
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How can I encourage my coworkers to produce better quality code? [closed]

I'm a team lead for a small group of programmers. We share several projects with other teams. Lately the quality of two other teams' code has deteriorated to the point where it is slowing us down and ...
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Talking to colleague I am close to regarding their performance issues

I have recently become my colleague's Team Lead. Within a week of being in the post, I have been asked to address some issues (performance) that were found with her work. The colleague and I are ...
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How to Approach Coworker About Eating Habits? [duplicate]

A co-worker of mine frequently has candy or chips while he's working. I don't mind if he's snacking, the problem is what he does while snacking...he chews with his mouth open. I don't sit close enough ...
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How to write peer reviews and still maintain anonymity?

We have 360 degree peer reviews which are anonymous. I heard that we should give concrete examples while giving a review. If I give concrete example, I lose my anonymity. The recipient would also know ...
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Is it ethical to share information that could get a competitive colleague fired?

I have information that could get a competitive colleague fired. If I share it, I would have to do it anonymously. This colleague has done some very shady things to me in the past. I'm feeling ...
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Colleague blocks change request in peer review because of perceived mistakes in code, but suggested improvements do not work

In the company I work for, change requests go through various steps, including a development step, a peer review step and a testing step. On this particular change request, I have been assigned as a ...
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How to respond to colleague's sharing about me during daily scrum?

I recently joined a new team. There is one co-worker who, whenever I ask him any question, brings it up in the next day's stand-up saying I asked a question on X topic. He seems quite detailed in ...
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How to deal with a uncommitted coworker, it affects my performance too [duplicate]

I am a back end developer for a data visualization tool. I have to work with a coworker who does the front end part. We established the deadline date to the client (it is a internal client in a big ...
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Talkative Coworkers [duplicate]

I have a colleague that is really good at his job but sometimes we get off topic and explore a few "rabbit holes" onto more personal topics. I don't want to appear that I'm a chatty Cathy so I am ...
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How to handle colleagues who are unwilling to write a bug report?

I'm working as a software developer at a small-ish company (~50 employees). My main project is a mobile app. I have most of my colleagues on the alpha test channel and customers do not have access to ...
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Manager Prioritising Colleagues holidays

Background: So I work in a company where we have flexi time and our holidays are first come first serve. It's in the policy of the company. I work with 2 other developers but our manager (for obvious ...
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Competition with colleagues, is it professional ?

We have a mailing list, where people can post interesting problems to work on. Less than 2 weeks ago my boss posted a very interesting problem. To accomplish it one needs to read a very mathematically ...
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Is it unprofessional to car share?

To save some money, my colleague and I decided to start car sharing to and from work. Our workplace operates a flexible working policy between 7 and 7 and we often come in early and leave early to ...
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Should I continue to help my colleague?

Few colleagues and I are currently under probation in a web developing company. We have assigned specific tasks. Some of the tasks may look difficult so we often brainstorm and work together to solve ...
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How to prepare for a leaving colleague without letting the company know about it

we are a small company with about 100 employees. Our department consists of three people. Our bus factor is as close to 1 as it can get. I know for certain, that a colleague will be leaving in october,...
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How to deal with a person who constantly explains things you already know well?

One of my colleagues enjoys explaining things a lot, and he does it very well. This comes up handy when I am missing something on a subject: I come to him, and he teaches me everything I have to know ...
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Consequences of not attending work offsite day as a contractor? [duplicate]

The scenario is the whole office (30 people) is having an off-site day at park, like a (catered) picnic. It’s not a teamwork type of retreat, though I’m sure a side effect is better teamwork in the ...
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How would you deal with a colleague who arranges meeting with your manager to discuss team processes?

I have a teammate who pings our boss quite often behind my back (I'm lead for my teammate) and it is okay for our boss to be pinged quite often (just a character). This time he arranged a meeting ...
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Dealing with co-workers who don't understand timezones

I work for a small startup that builds software used by people in different timezones. In recent months the company has been trying to improve issues related to timezones, but they are not investing ...
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Should I report incidents which only affect me? [closed]

I am not on good terms with a colleague of mine, a salesperson who is the definition of "professional liar". This person is never accountable for anything. I am trying to ignore this. However, we ...
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How to spend less time answering basic programming questions?

What is the best way to stop spending so much time teaching a co-worker basic things, without being hurtful? Background: I am a computer programmer, and my work is generally tested by a business ...
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How to come out gay without jeopardising relationships with colleagues?

I have a friend who is openly gay, but the team does not know. The team refers to his partner as his girlfriend. This has been going on for a while, and it is now too awkward to go back and disclose ...
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Can you get demoted to your previous position if that position is already filled? [duplicate]

If you have been promoted to a higher position and now that’s position is getting eliminated, Can you get demoted to your previous position ( manager) if that’s position has been advertised and ...
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Lazy, arrogant and unskilled coworker [closed]

LE: This is not a duplicate of What can I do to make a coworkers lack of effort more visible because: . I think the other question only addresses part of my situation (the subjects of that question ...
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Toxic situation in big corp workplace [closed]

TL;DR What to do when your colleague get all the projects because he/she's careless of cumbersome task/change management, so therefore can deliver faster and you are left with less important non-...
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How to avoid revealing to (soon to be ex) colleagues the name of the new employer? [duplicate]

I'm about to move to my new job, and my current colleagues are curious about the new enterprise that hired me. I discussed with them the organization, benefits, pros and cons of the actual vs the new ...
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How to handle a subordinate who asks the same question repeatedly?

I just joined a new company. My team of direct reports is new as well. We all started the same day. I have a direct report who tends to ask the same question multiple times but rephrased. For ...
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How can I respectfully disengage from a coworker that won't stop talking?

In the last couple of places I've worked, I've found there is at least one person in my department that just won't stop talking, once I get them started. What typically happens is that I'll go over to ...
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How do I stop my habit of gossiping in my office negatively impacting my colleagues? [closed]

I have this bad habit of gossiping around everyone. Sometimes, it feels really embarrassing as I think that gossiping and backstabbing about my colleagues, I am not only cheating them but myself too. ...
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Freelance co-worker not doing anything at all [duplicate]

TLDR: Alice is not doing her job and I end up pushing all the activities and doing her tasks because I'm afraid of being let go. Should I inform management about this ? The backstory: I've been ...
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How to work with a senior colleague that you have bad chemistry with?

I work as a junior-ish software developer in a small team inside a fairly large company. We've recently hired a new senior software developer. He is very good at what he does, with lots more ...