Questions tagged [colleagues]
Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?
TL;DR
A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do?
The long version:
I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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How to avoid funny initiatives?
I recently started a new job as software engineer in a company with 100 to 200 employees. The company is run like a startup (flexibility, flat management, etc) and there are plenty of interesting ...
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What should I tell a customer when my co-worker fails to show up to a meeting?
I'll typically have meetings with customers in which they set it up and invite me and other co-workers. Sometimes I will show up to this meeting and my co-worker(s) won't because they forgot, became ...
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Relationship with former colleagues
Recently I have been receiving private messages from two former colleagues whom I worked closely with while was working as an intern at my previous workplace. The first guy was my supervisor, he ...
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Problem with coworker frequently cutting me off
I am having a problem with one of my coworkers that seems to be getting worse. We are both Senior Engineers of equal position on the same team, working for a large multinational Engineering company.
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Colleague taking credit for my work [closed]
I work at an engineering company where we do circuit development. I was handed the task of laying out the circuit board, tracking everything up, placing components etc on a very small PCB. To fit ...
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How to decline invite to team dinner when I have a prior engagement?
I am being invited to a team dinner which I won't be able to attend as I have to go for swimming coaching classes every evening.
I don't know how to decline the invitation and also politely tell ...
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Work ethic ,Simulating activity and being loud [closed]
I have the following situation and I'm not sure how to react.
In my team there are three members:
A Junior with 2 years of experience
Myself and another Senior with 15+ years of experience (...
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Should I talk to a colleague who seems to be suddenly annoyed with me?
I'm in a four person team that is comprised by me, my sister and 2 other guys.
One of the two other team members seems to be pissed off about something and I am not sure if I need to address it or ...
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How to deal with co-worker who is unwilling to communicate during meetings?
I have a co-worker who communicates very little during meetings. She is very talkative and outgoing in other situations outside the scheduled meetings.
My supervisors keeps asking the two of us to ...
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How do I stop my colleague trying to convince me that I'm trans?
I'm a female software engineer at a medium sized startup in the USA and I've always been a bit masculine[1]. It's never really bothered me.
I recently started working on a new project with another ...
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How do I get work done in an open office environment? [duplicate]
I work in an office with an open floor plan and I am distracted by noise around me. I am much less productive and less comfortable when people talk around me.
I'll outline the problem and then what ...
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Is it ethical to single-out and fire someone for drinking at lunch when the manager and co-workers did the same?
After 28 very successful days outperforming others in the office, I was fired. From my first day the manager and 5-6 others would have lunch. Manager bought drinks. I thought this was unusual, but ...
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New job, getting pulled into co worker drama
I started an ER registration job about 3 months ago, and there are two coworkers responsible for my training who are going through some teenager level of drama.
Apparently, since I am friendly with ...
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Handle criticism over early code at startup
A year ago I started working in a very agile startup. I was the first non-intern developer to join and I worked closely with the CTO to put together a beta version of a pipeline and a product. Due to ...
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My co-worker withholds information about his systems and blames me for “bugs” which aren't my fault
I've been working at a company for some years in a lead position where I have responsibility for a large array of systems. I work with another co-worker at the same level, on independent systems, ...
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Employer hired the wrong skills, what can I do?
I have just been hired by a start-up as a back-end engineer, along with 1 other front-end dev. They want us to developer a complex mobile application within a short deadline.
The front-end is a ...
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What is the best way of dealing with a work colleague who triggers my anxiety?
I am in the unfortunate situation where a colleague who literally sits at my bank of desks constantly triggers my anxiety.
This has progressed over time and can be anything from: commenting ...
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Colleague used admin access to view my private employee order
A colleague of mine in a different department is a developer for an internal, employee-only discounted retail site within our company. Today, I made a rather large purchase on that site before heading ...
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How can I make sure colleagues do not feel like I accuse them of doing something wrong?
I work in a small company in Thailand, SE Asia. I am originally from Europe. I live and work there since many years, we all speak English in the company, and normally communication works fine.
I am ...
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Coworkers accusing me of “cheating” for working more efficiently
I'm a CAD drafter. We have quotas of drawings to get done each day, usually 5/day with the correct forms attached with them. Each one would regularly take around 1.5-2 hours at a normal pace, so to ...
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What can be done about a manager who has driven away several employees?
There is a manager who has been at my company for a long time. Let's call him Dick. He's not my manager, but I frequently work with him, and I get along with him for the most part. Many other people ...
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What's a good way to foster an environment where colleagues feel free to express their opinions, if I'm not in a management role?
I'm a developer working in a team of around 10-15 people, with almost two thirds of them working remotely. We use scrum, and have daily standups, sprint plannings and other meetings over conference ...
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What to do if you are unintentionaly subject of favoritism?
I have the following situation at work. I am part of a team with people having different background age-wise and business wise. Since the beginning of the project It happened so that I took the role ...
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Is it poor workplace etiquette to display signs of relative “wealth” at work when others are struggling financially?
I work in an office with about 40 other people in varying situations (junior up to director level). I'm a little older than my immediate peers (the people I work with and socialize with) and more ...
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How should I professionally not shake hands with women colleagues at the first working day?
At the first I should add that different cultures have different attitudes and believes, so with that in mind I would like to ask my question that may seem weird to almost all European, American, ...
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On notice period - coworker I need to train is giving me the silent treatment
I gave my two-week notice last week and I'm spending this week finishing projects, writing documentation, and passing off some stuff for after I'm gone. Part of my work is sysadmin and we have shitty ...
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How can I politely request that my colleague reduces the number of trivial help requests?
Background:
A colleague of mine has recently been moved to my team for which I have been given a more senior role in.
The colleague is a very friendly and enthusiastic individual that I get on quite ...
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Bothered by watching coworkers slacking off
Situation
I am working in a small office of 4 people, where 2 of us work independently and the 2 others are in a team.
It has started to bother me that those 2 in the team are not getting much work ...
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How can I deal with teammate who is not a team player, possibly searching for glory? [closed]
To clarify, this is actually my senior project for my university so no changes could be made personnel wise. However, I'd like to apply this situation to a workplace setting, as that's what it is, ...
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Advice on defusing a tense situation after disrespectful behaviour from a colleague [closed]
This happened to me today and I'm still trying to digest it. To give you some context, I'm working on IT at a company with several branches across Europe. I don't hold any position of responsibility ...
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How to address smirking of colleague [closed]
I work in a small team, this guy had recently joined, like a month ago and I love to teach/mentor and my manager sees me enjoying and good at it, the colleague is of my age but he smirks a lot e.g. If ...
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Handling prospective awkwardness with an internal team move
I have been at a mid-size company for a while (over a year) in team X in a software capacity. I am not growing as well as I anticipated within X and I have been more than patient with regards to the ...
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How to deal with my team leader who keeps calling me about project updates even though I am on leave for personal reasons?
I am working in an IT company as a software developer. I work on several projects and my TL is the one who takes the client calls and reports to the manager.
The problem is this guy doesn't asks many ...
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(How long) Should I indulge my new co-workers?
I started in a new position, in a new company last week, after 5 years in a similar position in an other company.
There are two other guys, both twice my age, doing the same job, and a manager in a ...
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How can I respond to comments, made by colleagues, about my job performance?
I work for an animal charity in the uk as a fundraiser and recently found out that the staff who work with the animals think I "don't do anything".
I was told by a trusted co-worker that this was ...
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Junior peer (I'm a senior but not a 'line manager') who's continually convinced that we're all about to be laid off etc and keeps voicing it
My team/role:
I'm part of a team of 6 (1 senior (myself) 3 'standard' and 2 junior/trainee) that would broadly be described as "data analysts" and we report to a 'Analytics Manager'. Our everyday ...
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Might have gotten a coworker sick, should I address this?
This is in the US. Last Wednesday, I woke up feeling under the weather, but it appeared to just be allergies. Regardless, I still took precautions to avoid spreading anything (washing hands, excusing ...
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Should internal documentation use citations that follow academic standards?
My work experience has mostly been in academia. Recently I began work in a startup software company.
One of my team members has the task of developing documentation.
My concern is the prepared ...
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How to ask your company to participate in humanitarian services?
In light of the recent damage to the Bahamas cause by hurricane Dorian, I’m wanting to do what I can to help.
Originally I had an idea to contact companies like Pepsi and Walmart with regards to ...
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Coworker assigned his work to me with little notice; how to handle this?
My coworker who likes to push his work to other people emailed my supervisor with me as CC. Email goes like this:
Hi Team Lead,
Here’s the task assignment for tomorrow.
A. WORK WORK WORK ...
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How to amend relationship with a co-worker after I accidentally offended them?
I'm a 24 year-old male that has just worked for 3 months in this new job. Sitting next to me a is woman who is 4 years older than I. We have a normal colleague relationship (at least I think it's ...
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Coworker constantly sitting and spending time in HR / director office [closed]
I've had a coworker in the past who was constantly sitting with HR and with the director of the company (mind you this was a 100 people company so not very big), in their offices.
There was not much ...
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Is “Don't mix work and relationships” good advice? [closed]
My father always tell me "Don't mix relationships and work" - i.e., avoid romantic relationships with individuals that you work with.
Is this good advice? What are the risks of pursuing a romantic ...
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Keeping proof of requests from coworkers
If a colleague asks me for something (for example to show them how to use something), is it ok for me to ask them to send me an e-mail with their request, and then for me to answer them also in ...
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Objective in a new software job when no objective is given [closed]
Two weeks ago I started a new job in an automated medicine dispensing company. The company is not very big, around 50 employees. I was hired to work 50% / 50% with automated medicine dispensers (...
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Hiring a graduate student for R&D research [closed]
Recently I started working in a company as an intern. The things that I am working are for the future of the company and applications that I develop solves companies existing problems.
I am facing ...
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Team asked to stay late to finish another team's work. Finished my portion first and left, then criticised for leaving - was I in the wrong?
Our team of 5 (including supervisor) were asked by higher management to stay late after work to carry out a task that isn't part of our normal duties, but was necessary for the company as a whole due ...
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New coworker has strange workplace requirements - how should I deal with them?
A new coworker just started in our office, and on her first day she told us:
No one can speak to her. Communication needs to be done over email only.
No one can speak in the room we work in. There's ...
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Departing senior is ghosting me, I need info and code from him
Some background - I joined the company fresh out of college a year ago. My feedbacks till now from my manager and other team members have been quite positive.
After couple of months after I joined ...
