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Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How can I deal with my coworker having zero social awareness?

My coworker is ruining what's otherwise a great job. I love all my other coworkers and the benefits are great, but this guy is incredibly offensive and rude. Here's some highlights: He'll make ...
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How to deal with a weeping co-worker [duplicate]

My co-worker weeps due to their family problems at office. They don't seek privacy. I don't intervene because I don't think it is my place to ask about their problems when they are not willing to ...
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How to deal with an underperforming subordinate?

I'm a Software Developer with experience of more than 1.5 years. After being happy with my performance, the CTO of my company made me a team lead of 3 new employees (2 of them graduated recently). ...
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My boss hits too hard *UPDATE*

I'm new to the company, Oct 2018, and I'm just now getting back into the technology field after being a classroom teacher for the last 10 years. I left education because of the lack of money, and I've ...
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Intern is not acceptable. What to do as an apprentice?

I work as a programmer in a small software company (<10 people) for round about 2 years now. I am 25 and in an apprenticeship. A random ~50 year old guy - let's name him Chris - has been working ...
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Coworker asking me to not bring cakes due to self control issue. What should I do?

Sometimes I bring cakes to work, e.g. leftovers from birthday party to one of the family members. Most coworkers are happy about it and eat them without a problem, however one employee doesn't want ...
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Too much for a beginner?

So I started working at a job soon after I finished my college studies. Currently, I am assigned a task to rectify some calculations in some fields of an application, of which I was given bare minimum ...
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Co-worker fired, now I am the only worker left in my department [on hold]

To cut a long story short; I started working at a new company where it was me and another coworker doing all the work. He had been at this company for 5 months. He was the one that trained me and now ...
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How to help a fellow employee care less so he won't work himself to the grave

This question is inspired by How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick? I recognize a similar scenario as described within this question. However, not with my self, but with my fellow ...
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How to deal with intrusive colleague?

I work in a small business with relaxed management, where work gets done at a none pressuring pace. I'm pretty quick however and get most work done way before schedule and often have a drought, ...
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Coworker is trying to get me to sign his petition to run for office. How to decline politely?

My coworker knows that I live in "his district" and he's been coming up to my desk for the past few days asking me to sign his petition to run for local office. Personally we don't share the same ...
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Manager has noticed coworker's excessive breaks. Should I warn him?

A junior coworker of mine takes very long breaks every day. I've timed them; he makes hour-long visits to the restroom every day. He is paid by the hour, leaves after 8 hours, and is not allowed to ...
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How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick?

I work as an administrator in a company with about 30 employees. In my position I have insight into many processes and I see many things my colleagues are doing wrong. This annoys me a lot and I ...
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Insecure colleagues creating ruckus at office

My current company's strength is 25. A manager in his late forties sits at the office handling everything, tech and non-tech stuff, administrative work amongst others. It is just the boss and no one ...
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How to handle myself with a coworker who keeps requesting too frequent status updates, repeating my tasks completely and in full every day?

There is an employee I work with who is effectively my customer, where the work I do is for the benefit of his department, and he represents his department when communicating to me. He keeps checking ...
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How to end useless, drawn-out technical conversations?

For context, I work on a software development team and I have a teammate we'll call Bob. Bob regularly comes up with ideas on how we can improve things and proposes these ideas to his teammates. In ...
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How to tell my freelance designer to deliver on time

I have a really talented designer working for me remotely. No complains with his work but he always delivers them late. I couldn't handle it anymore so I stopped sending him work. Just a while ago I ...
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How and when to let people know other person who is sharing credit with me has not done anything

We are a small company of about 100 people. I along with another senior member (same designation as me but older and more experienced) are jointly incharge of developing a product. We have a team ...
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Remote manager keeps taking it out on the same colleague

I am a young software developer working in a big french tech company. There is this toxic relationship between one of my colleague and our manager that I am really concerned about. There has been many ...
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Service Delivery Manager making threats

I am an IT Technician working for a company in the UK. Last year, a project over ran by 3 weeks and the Project Manager was sacked as a result. I was also involved, but as a pawn I only had my ...
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How to deal with a colleague who makes personal jokes about my appearance?

I've worked with an engineering consultancy firm for a little over 2 years now, on a team of approximately 15 people. I’m one of three graduates on the team and there’s one guy (we’ll call him John), ...
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UK temporary agency worker training full time permanent colleague

Good evening everyone, I reside in the UK and I have been working on behalf of an agency for a company on a temporary basis for 6 months now. Recently (2 months ago) a new colleague with no ...
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How to deal with coworker who abuse me a lot? [closed]

I have 5 years of PHP Development experience and in our team there is game developer who has 1.5 years experience. Since I have 5 years I knows some of programming topics or in other words I more ...
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How to retain a healthy relationship with colleagues after beating them at golf?

Some background information about myself: I am generally a life-before-work kind of person, and tend to mind my own business in the workplace. However, I will socialise with colleagues, if the chance ...
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Co-worker becoming rude - how to work with him?

I work in an IT department with two others. My other colleague is a very confident type but not very knowledgable. He sometimes messes things up for others and people don't like him very much. ...
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Staff returning to work after gross misconduct

I was wondering I someone could help me with the below on what paths I can take? I am from the UK. Recently, accusations was made about myself that could ruin the career I am in. The owner of the ...
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Is it appropriate to give an unsolicited negative referral?

I recently discovered that an acquaintance of mine (Bob) might be applying for a position in the same group that I'm in. While I am on good terms with Bob, he is not very personable and I do not want ...
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Using a colleague's laptop without asking for permission

In one of my previous jobs, I had the following situation, and I'm not sure what would have been the right way to react. Once, during a team meeting, I was showing something work related on my laptop ...
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Coworkers can't tell me apart from the only other Asian guy

I work in a big company where I'm one of two Asian guys in my department, and most of my coworkers can't tell us apart. Almost every day someone will email one of us intending to talk to the other one....
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How to respond when someone thanks me for my work in the workspace?

I usually feel confused when someone thanks me for my work at the workplace. In my view, work is what I am supposed to do, and it is my duty. It's difficult for me to respond in a way that makes ...
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How should one approach a coworker's wardrobe malfunction?

While on a video call with a group of coworkers, the coworker whose laptop was being used to call me in leant over her laptop to use it for something, and due to her (somewhat) low-cut top and the ...
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How to deal with a senior leader who is frequently finding shortcomings with others' work?

I am dealing with a senior leader (let us call him John) who always seem to be pointing out others' mistakes and shortcomings in everyone's work via email. John frequently does this to architects, ...
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Is it unethical/unprofessional to keep a record of quotes from my colleague's outbursts?

My colleague is a 64 year old guy who is very verbal when working. He often shouts out slander towards his computer and also an ex-employee. Even though these outbursts are incredibly unprofessional I ...
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Coworker keeps threatening to tattle on me for “time theft”

One of my coworkers is especially nosy and keeps tabs on when I come to work and leave, and how long my lunch break is, how many times I go to the restroom and how long each break takes, and so on. ...
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How to deal with my colleague copying my work?

I am a programmer working for a Tech company. There is a colleague of mine who I work with on different projects. When working with him I've noticed a bothering trend that appears to be a very ...
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My adult son embarrassed me in front of my coworkers - how to react to provocations?

I am located in the north of Germany. We had an event where the whole company got together, about 200 people. We had dinner, a live band, all in all it was a great evening. My small department (about ...
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How can team relations be maintained along with maintaining personal and professional boundaries?

There are many situations in which the management, esp of the small medium business domain, organize events such as sports matches and frequent outings in the name of team bonding. Instead of bonding, ...
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Coworker watches content on his phone all day

I work at a software company. I have a coworker who props up his phone most of the day, watching stuff while he works such as video game streamers, or cooking shows, or whatever. He's trying to give ...
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Coworker keeps asking questions while I am busy; how can I handle this?

I work with another individual in an office (we work in a large office everyone has a roommate (s) ) She has been in her job for 15 years. I have been in my position for 5, in the past I was a ...
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Why would HR think it's inappropriate that I visited a coworker in the hospital?

I just got out of a meeting with my supervisor and a member of our HR department, giving me a "formal warning" for engaging in inappropriate conduct by visiting a coworker in the hospital. HR told me ...
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Talkative colleague I can’t get away from

Once a week I share a room with a colleague, our desks face each other. This colleague will not stop talking. He asks work related questions which quickly decend into chat about just about anything. ...
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How to deal with a politically opinionated coworker

I'm looking for guidance on an issue that's been dividing my team, which is composed of 24 techie 20-somethings, in a very laissez-faire office with various inclinations all over the political and ...
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My team mate is talking trash about me behind my back with my manager

I am leading a team of 5 and there is 1 manager who is above/supervising us. One of my team-mates I get along well with; she behaves well and I discuss personal stuff and share jokes with her. ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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Ethical Dilemma - Boss Gift Promotion

What would you do? A team leader (she) at a distribution center gets promoted to a operations manager role by the general manager (he). The team leader asks all the associates on the distribution ...
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Uninvited colleague insists on using my ergonomically set-up desk

I have a question about uninvited users of my desk that was set up for my ergonomic needs. I have a colleague who likes to use my ergonomically set up desk and my chair, with re-adjusting the settings ...
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How to deal with a colleague who I manage and who often gets angry?

I'm managing a newly created team and I'm also learning the whole dev environment we are working with. Our team has a mix of young devs and older devs. One of my colleagues is a senior developer. ...
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How to convey to a coworker the explanation for avoiding working for some managers without badmouthing them?

Recently a colleague told me that the project she is working is going to end and that she must choose another team/project to work next, so she is trying to understand where she might fit better (both ...
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Co-workers posting photos and videos of people without their consent

I work for a company that is distributed over several branches across different countries. Every once in a while we're having these group video calls/conferences where all branches participate and ...
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How to deal with favoritism in a scrum team? [closed]

How to deal with a situation when a scrum team colleague wants to cherry-pick interesting topics, manage and oversee the work of others and gets the Manager and PO's unofficial support? Our company ...