Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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Romantically rejected a more senior coworker; how can I protect myself?

A coworker recently asked me out in a romantic way and I turned them down. I don't work directly with this person, or report to them. They're not on my team. They are older and more senior. I don't ...
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How do I handle friends asking for second chance at an interview I set up that they refused?

Recently a kickass tech company offered internships when they visited our campus. Everyone applying for the internship was to go through the campus' screening process before they would make it to the ...
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Manager has noticed coworker's excessive breaks. Should I warn him?

A junior coworker of mine takes very long breaks every day. I've timed them; he makes hour-long visits to the restroom every day. He is paid by the hour, leaves after 8 hours, and is not allowed to ...
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How to deal with a noisy senior [duplicate]

I work for a medium sized software development firm who provides ERP solutions. The office space is great and so is the working culture where every department is nicely divided, even the one where I'...
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Supporting developers who insist on using their pet language

I've joined a team of around five developers building a microservice-based website, in a shop that emphasises autonomy and learning. However, it turns out one of the developers is writing "his" parts ...
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Co-worker works way more than he should

I work in a research facility in Germany. I have lots of co-workers that are from other countries, mostly part of some international collaborative research projects. There's one guy from China who's ...
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How handle a situation in which a domain-expert has fabricated his history of expertise?

I work in a large multinational which is experimenting in new forms of project management. We have invested a great deal of trust to an individual who is training members of staff. He was hired ...
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Should I approach my manager about an incompetent tech lead?

I work as an engineer in a team structured as follows project manager (my manager) └─── lead data scientist (my technical lead) └─── me (and other engineers) Unfortunately, I'm not convinced ...
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Is this worth to return to project where I had negative communication experience with colleagues and solution architect?

I've been working for the same employer for many years. During the last 6 years, I was working on two projects: Project A, where I used to be a team member for a short period of time and after that I ...
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I have a hyper empathetic colleague that I do not get along with that sits accross from me. How do I improve the situation?

I have a colleague who is extremely empathetic, and can always tell exactly what I'm feeling, why I'm feeling it, and can predict what I may want him to do. He often takes various actions on my behalf ...
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Feeling embarrassed after purchasing a gift for a co-worker as an apology

I purchased a co-worker a statue of a bear riding a bicycle, for some reason, as an apology for being late to a meeting. He decided to put it, and the note I wrote introducing the bear, on the table ...
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Should I avoid revealing my age at a new role?

I've recently been offered a role at a large company (I've usually worked in companies with less than 100 employees). I'm a unusually high seniority for my age (22) but started my career at 17 so I ...
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Taking advantage when HR forgets to communicate the rules

I currently work as a software engineer at a company in Europe. One detail that's going to be important below is that everybody here has a contract for 40h/week. If you work more, you can use the ...
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How do you build relationships with a colocated team as the only remote person? [duplicate]

My department recently reorged and restructured a few teams. I'm in City A's office and am joining a team all located in City B. This team is a former start-up that my (very) large company purchased,...
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Team member is vehemently against code formatting

I am the manager of a small team of developers (5 engineers, including me). A few months ago, on the suggestion of another colleague we introduced mandatory code formatting in the code base, for our ...
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I stressed my coworker into reprioritizing their work and now I feel bad about it. Did I mess up?

I have a deadline coming up in two weeks. An internal web application needed a small new feature to finish the project. The maintainer of the web application has been extremely helpful in helping me ...
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How to deal with an overly flirtatious friend?

I have a friend who I consider lucky to have. Her kindness, intelligence and understanding helped me on many occasions since childhood. There is just one problem; she does not understand professional ...
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How to respond to someone who condemns behavior similar to what they exhibit?

I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at ...
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Sudden termination for indefinite time for health recovery [closed]

First of all, this is my first company. I have been here for more than one and a half year. I've been under pressure to take leave for an indefinite time for health recovery due to my poor health. I ...
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Deal with the thirst for power of a colleague [closed]

I am working in a company, and I am having this type of problem: whenever we start a new project a colleague of mine always wants to be the leader of the project. He is now leading a very important ...
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Denied vacation time

I'm in a difficult position because I was denied vacation time (only 1.5 days off requested). Well, my manager did not explicitly say no but replied to me with "It will be difficult for me to approve ...
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Clash of working styles with boss

My boss and I have different working styles and I'm out of ideas for how to address this. First, I want to be absolutely clear. On a personal level he and I get along great. We go out for a beer ...
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How to deal with a coworker who may be depressed

Recently an intern joined me to work on a project. We are the only people working on this project. A month went by and it was going well; he was completing all the tasks in time and has the talent to ...
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My colleague is constantly blaming me for his errors

I'm a junior software developer in a small company. I'm working on a project since I finished my internship contract 4 months ago. It's a small project, so there's only another programmer (junior too ...
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My colleague thinks I'm showing off, how do deal with it? [closed]

We both are pipeline developers working in an animation company. As we are developers, we deal with text-editors/IDE. I use certain tools that suit my needs. A coworker who is unfamiliar with that ...
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Colleague asks me to compare my performance with other person, should I provide this info?

Me and two other developers (A and B) work remotely for an IT company. Here's the situation: Coworker A has a hostile attitude towards others, sometimes mentions that they don't work well enough when ...
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How to tell boss that we need a test plan and to ensure developers use the QA process?

I just got a Warning letter for poor performance I joined a new company as an Associate QA engineer and almost 70% of the developers are juniors and there are no project managers and business ...
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Proposals and Solutions Frequently Dismissed

I work at a large company with different groups and divisions and things like that. We are made to participate in several cross-company workshops where many issues are discussed. In one group, ...
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Should I make an event at work to celebrate my soon-to-be-wedding?

So it's my first time getting married (hope the only one) but I started a new job in a foreign country where I don't know the habits in term of mini events in workplace. I work in Germany and since I ...
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Coworker demands silence in a rude way. How to react?

We work in a quite noisy place where speaking is not prohibited. Moreover, the operations we do are not quiet at all. Some coworkers are eating, listening to music, talking, etc. during the day. It's ...
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Colleagues Ignoring me as I work Independently on my Schedule

Well, I have been to this new Job. It's been like around 5 months. The work atmosphere was the best which I ever experienced (I only worked in small companies for short periods of time due to some ...
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How to respond to controlling colleague?

Recently a new colleague joined our team. He came with great recommendations and seemed generally great at the job. There were a few instances where I heard him being aggressive rather than assertive ...
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How do I work with someone that shows no effort of working with me?

I have worked at a startup for 3 years alongside the CEO and another developer which I will refer to as Tom from this point forward. Tom is 35 years older than me and is seen as the more experienced ...
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My boss ask me to collect feedback from my colleagues about another colleague for promoting him

I have been very recently promoted at senior (expertise) position but without any management role in a 100-employee research agency, with the strong support of my boss (direct manager). Today, my ...
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Would it be ethical to privately tell a colleague that our boss will probably fire him soon? [duplicate]

Big IT company. Today, my colleagues of our team project (5 people) except one developer (let his name be John) and I were invited to talk with our boss. It gets out that our boss wants to replace ...
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Does management has a spy on floor? [closed]

Recently the company I joined which had made some people redundant and there was a meeting to make sure no one else is getting laid off, but since then a guy is always hovering the floor like keeping ...
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killing workplace environment [closed]

I am not a people person , i don't know how to interact with anyone socially, apart from work, I tried so many times but never gets a response and am the odd one out in office group. So in I have no ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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How to deal with incompetent coworker/passive manager?

My current coworker has very little, if any, responsibilities. My manager is aware of the issue and has let the issue linger for months on end, resulting in me being the one to pick up the slack for ...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down

Environment: My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question. I ...
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How to deal with co-worker who promises a lot, but does not deliver?

I work for a very large, multinational company. In our company, we are often tasked to work with employees from different countries, from different teams, etc. Recently, I had to work on a big ...
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Work environment of favoritism, limited professional growth, and possible subtle subconscious age-discrimination at play?

I've been with a small tech company just over 4 years now, and was one of the first employees with the company, creating the prototype for what ultimately became the first product. I was one of about ...
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best approach with my colleagues - saying goodbye for the weekend at a new job

I've just started my first job a week or two ago, and I am trying my best to approach my workmates and fit in with the team. It seems they're all busy, they haven't talked to me very much. I wonder if ...
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Am I obliged to report rude/awkward language even if it doesn't offend me?

There is a colleague at my (American) workplace who is young and smart, but fairly inept at using his filter function while he's talking. At a group meeting (his manager was present), he went on ...
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How to commend a remote colleague?

I'm a software engineer and recently I've been working on a remote team's package to integrate it with a project I've been assigned to. It's really difficult to ramp up on and pretty impenetrable to ...
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Someone from HR suggesting that I should not hang out with a coworker [closed]

I am pretty new at my work, having only been there for a few months (compared to people who have worked there for up to 10 years) and I felt a little pushed aside during lunch breaks or company ...
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How to deal with apathetic co-worker?

I work in gastronomy in a rather small restaurant. The co-worker I spend most of my work-day around has become more and more apathetic over the past few months. It was a very gradual change, so I am ...
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How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?

I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
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What are some strategies for managing irritation with colleagues? [closed]

I have two colleagues whom I often get annoyed with. I don’t believe the details are too important — suffice to say that their lack of planning sometimes causes me to have to do extra work. I have ...
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My teammates are all unhappy with their raise, but I know I got more than them. How to handle?

I have just come back after one month break from work (this is relevant) and am faced with a bit of a strange situation. This is in the UK. Whilst I was away there was pay review meetings at work ...