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Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How to respond to controlling colleague?

Recently a new colleague joined our team. He came with great recommendations and seemed generally great at the job. There were a few instances where I heard him being aggressive rather than assertive ...
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How do I work with someone that shows no effort of working with me?

I have worked at a startup for 3 years alongside the CEO and another developer which I will refer to as Tom from this point forward. Tom is 35 years older than me and is seen as the more experienced ...
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My boss ask me to collect feedback from my colleagues about another colleague for promoting him

I have been very recently promoted at senior (expertise) position but without any management role in a 100-employee research agency, with the strong support of my boss (direct manager). Today, my ...
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Would it be ethical to privately tell a colleague that our boss will probably fire him soon? [duplicate]

Big IT company. Today, my colleagues of our team project (5 people) except one developer (let his name be John) and I were invited to talk with our boss. It gets out that our boss wants to replace ...
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Does management has a spy on floor? [on hold]

Recently the company I joined which had made some people redundant and there was a meeting to make sure no one else is getting laid off, but since then a guy is always hovering the floor like keeping ...
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killing workplace environment [closed]

I am not a people person , i don't know how to interact with anyone socially, apart from work, I tried so many times but never gets a response and am the odd one out in office group. So in I have no ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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How to deal with incompetent coworker/passive manager?

My current coworker has very little, if any, responsibilities. My manager is aware of the issue and has let the issue linger for months on end, resulting in me being the one to pick up the slack for ...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down

Environment: My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question. I ...
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How to deal with co-worker who promises a lot, but does not deliver?

I work for a very large, multinational company. In our company, we are often tasked to work with employees from different countries, from different teams, etc. Recently, I had to work on a big ...
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Work environment of favoritism, limited professional growth, and possible subtle subconscious age-discrimination at play?

I've been with a small tech company just over 4 years now, and was one of the first employees with the company, creating the prototype for what ultimately became the first product. I was one of about ...
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best approach with my colleagues - saying goodbye for the weekend at a new job

I've just started my first job a week or two ago, and I am trying my best to approach my workmates and fit in with the team. It seems they're all busy, they haven't talked to me very much. I wonder if ...
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I stressed my coworker into reprioritizing their work and now I feel bad about it. Did I mess up?

I have a deadline coming up in two weeks. An internal webapplication needed a small new feature to finish the project. The maintainer of the web application has been extremily helpful in helping me do ...
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Am I obliged to report rude/awkward language even if it doesn't offend me?

There is a colleague at my (American) workplace who is young and smart, but fairly inept at using his filter function while he's talking. At a group meeting (his manager was present), he went on ...
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How to commend a remote colleague?

I'm a software engineer and recently I've been working on a remote team's package to integrate it with a project I've been assigned to. It's really difficult to ramp up on and pretty impenetrable to ...
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6answers
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Someone from HR suggesting that I should not hang out with a coworker [closed]

I am pretty new at my work, having only been there for a few months (compared to people who have worked there for up to 10 years) and I felt a little pushed aside during lunch breaks or company ...
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7answers
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How to deal with apathetic co-worker?

I work in gastronomy in a rather small restaurant. The co-worker I spend most of my work-day around has become more and more apathetic over the past few months. It was a very gradual change, so I am ...
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How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?

I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
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What are some strategies for managing irritation with colleagues? [closed]

I have two colleagues whom I often get annoyed with. I don’t believe the details are too important — suffice to say that their lack of planning sometimes causes me to have to do extra work. I have ...
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My teammates are all unhappy with their raise, but I know I got more than them. How to handle?

I have just come back after one month break from work (this is relevant) and am faced with a bit of a strange situation. This is in the UK. Whilst I was away there was pay review meetings at work ...
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Coworkers talking on cell phones in the bathroom

I work on a floor with approximately 120 people sharing one set of bathrooms (one men's and one women's with approx 6 stalls each). There are a couple of people on the floor who feel absolutely no ...
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Co-workers posting photos and videos of people without their consent

I work for a company that is distributed over several branches across different countries. Every once in a while we're having these group video calls/conferences where all branches participate and ...
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How to deal with a colleague who is being aggressive?

I’ve found that a relatively new addition to our team is being needlessly aggressive and I’m not sure if I should speak to them or our mutual manager about this face to face, or try some other ...
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First project as Dev Lead: Which questions to ask to get solid feedback? [closed]

I'm a mid level developer and I recently (successfully) completed my first project where I was acting as the lead developer. It was a fairly small situation: I was assigned to build something out ...
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Teammate is avoiding me but won’t tell me why

One of my colleagues seems to have an issue with me. We were friends before I joined the company, he even referred me to the position I’m now in. He actually tried to get me on his team when I had ...
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Sexual Harassment, helpless and scared

Disclaimer: I am not even posting this anonymous, because I really don't care anymore, and I want to be able to answer every single comment, and thank every single answer. Background Information: ...
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Team member is vehemently against code formatting

I am the manager of a small team of developers (5 engineers, including me). A few months ago, on the suggestion of another colleague we introduced mandatory code formatting in the code base, for our ...
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Team has team lunch everyday, am I forced to go?

I don't want to join my colleagues for lunch, but I am an intern so joining is important for relationship building. I don't know how they manage to have lunch everyday together but they do. Am I ...
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Dealing with a co-worker in development undermining teamwork

My issue is on how to deal with obnoxious, conniving co-workers. I have never had an issue with the older team of developers back in the day; we then hired a phd graduate who worked in academics for a ...
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4answers
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Boss stalling on raise he acknowledges I deserve [closed]

I would like to start off with the fact that I am not the smartest or greatest developer by any means, but I do have a good work ethic and finish my tasks, although it may take longer than others do. ...
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Should I send a “thank you” message to someone who forwarded it to a colleague?

I would need some advice about the customs of answering with a "thank you" message to someone who forwarded my mail to a colleague. To give you more context, I was contacting this person for the ...
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How to handle hostile comments by the CTO which imply I'm making mistakes?

UPDATE AFTER ONE MONTH I wish I'd trusted my instincts: this initial bad treatment was a big red flag. I was hired to replace someone else who quit because of the CTO. The bad treatment has only ...
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How to like somebody who you dont like at work? [closed]

I guess its the most natural of all feelings, some people we like, others we dont. But at work, wanting to be professional and to the advantage of the business, I believe collaboration is best when ...
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Employee wants to bring in his dog for a kids event

I was surprised that our company didn't do anything for national Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day, so I volunteered to organize our own version of it (just calling it Bring Your Child to Work ...
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How to phrase negative feedback to senior coworker about unwise jokes?

My company has a tool that they use for requesting & providing feedback from others in a respectful & productive way (for both positive & negative feedback). It has a list of standard ...
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Many employees including my manager leave their computer unlocked - how to Enforce good practice? [duplicate]

My manager constantly leaves his computer unlocked. The problem is that he's the IT director, and I'm the IT Systems Administrator, and I leave my computer locked whenever I'm not near it. How can I ...
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Colleague overloaded with work, does not realize problem

TL;DR: My colleague receives way too much work and intends to work on holidays, without realizing the problem let alone airing it to management. How can I convince her to discuss with her manager? "...
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What to do when a jealous coworker is doing my tasks?

We are a team of five members, each working on his own tasks. These tasks are not necessarily individual, by which I mean that if someone needs help the others can help him without any problem. ...
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How to deal with relatively technically incompetent coworker?

I'm a software engineer. I work in a mid-sized startup that is growing very, very fast. Overall, I love my job, my coworkers and the atmosphere. One thing about my company is that most staff have ...
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How do you deal with a coworker who seems provoke you constantly?

I just switched jobs (I work on Qt based display codes; currently assigned to fixing assigned issues/bugs) in December. I was assigned to a project; good manager, okay-ish work, a polite client. All ...
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How to get project manager to be in charge of communications with the client?

I am developer in a technology consulting company, where each developer is assigned to multiple client projects simultaneously. Each client project has a designated project manager who is responsible ...
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How to be confident/assertive? [closed]

How to be assertive? Yesterday one girl from my office asked me to change with places where we seat (she sits very far away like far behind from team, alone). She did it in front of other people like ...
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How to deal with a manager who is bad-mouthing my client?

I'm currently working in a small team where my client can be seen as my line-manager, although he is not. My client and me are working for department X of the group Z. I'm contracting. Another team, ...
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Senior developer peer pressures me into getting cakes [closed]

I am the junior developer in a team of two in the UK and my senior developer calls me selfish and peer pressures me into going upstairs into an office of 30+ people and getting cakes to bring back ...
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How to respond when someone thanks me for my work in the workspace?

I usually feel confused when someone thanks me for my work at the workplace. In my view, work is what I am supposed to do, and it is my duty. It's difficult for me to respond in a way that makes ...
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How to stop co-workers from teasing me because I know Russian?

I work on a team of 8 people for a U.S financial company, and a few weeks ago, a business meeting with some clients overseas was taking place. My manager asked us in an e-mail if anyone can speak and ...
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How can I deal with a new coworker who lies about his knowledge and experience? [closed]

I'm the Team Lead of a company. Recently the manager decided to hire a new coworker as performance tester (against mine and some colleagues' opinions that he wouldn't fit the team). From his CV seems ...
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Colleague appears insensitive to the fact I wear glasses now

I recently went to the eye doctor, and got myself some nice glasses. They are great, and I paid for all the goodies. Non glare, etc. I have a coworker whose desk is over my left shoulder directly ...
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How can I persuade colleagues to turn their computers off when leaving the office?

Most of my colleagues leave their laptops on when they go home - even over the weekends. I regard this as a colossal waste of electricity, especially when we have a public holiday coming up next ...
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How do I deal with a coworker that keeps changing the look of a report I'm building, without documenting the changes in a design template?

Ideally this was to be an easy project. Create a report for a website. Something like this: I am provided a template (drawn up by graphics designer) I implement/update the programming to match (...