Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How do I say my reasons for leaving without being/sounding rude and without burning any bridges? [duplicate]

I work as a software dev and I'm about to change my job, signing new contract shortly. After I sign it I'll give a notice at my current workplace to my CEO. The management board is rather distanced ...
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Coming into the office early and leaving early [duplicate]

It was brought to my attention (from part of my boss) that my coworkers have told him that they've noticed I've been leaving 10 minutes early. I leave early because I have an hour commute to work - if ...
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HR asked me about what I think about my colleagues when I'm resigning [duplicate]

I am leaving the company for another opportunity as I am quite dissatisfied about the behaviors of some colleagues. HR specifically asked me what I think about other people in my team in a meeting ...
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How to convey I am overwhelmed without damaging perceptions and lateral relationships at company?

Half of my work are orders from my direct manager, the other half requires that I address specific needs across the whole company - mostly lateral in authority but also a few senior managers. My ...
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How to deal with a noisy senior [duplicate]

I work for a medium sized software development firm who provides ERP solutions. The office space is great and so is the working culture where every department is nicely divided, even the one where I'...
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How to deal with colleague with annoying behaviours? [duplicate]

I sit between two coworkers, we are software enginners and we share the same table. The guy on my left spends all his day knocking on his part of the table (like it were drums), whistling, doing some ...
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How to deal with a coworker that writes software to give him job security instead of solving problems?

I have a coworker that primarily develops programs for internal use in the company. They design their programs in such a way that they progressively consolidate their position within the company so ...
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Coworker keeps threatening to tattle on me for “time theft”

One of my coworkers is especially nosy and keeps tabs on when I come to work and leave, and how long my lunch break is, how many times I go to the restroom and how long each break takes, and so on. ...
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Confessions of an incompetent worker. How to cope with colleagues hating me and failing in self improvement?

As the title above explains it all, yes, I suck at my job. Almost 2 years into my job as a system engineer for the IT department of a manufacturing firm, I can confidently do about a portion of my ...
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How to deal with an “I'm not paid enough to do this task” argument?

I'm the current tech lead and team lead of our development team. We usually function like clockwork (with the intern somewhat behind), but today I encountered a problem that I wasn't able to solve. ...
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Manager has noticed coworker's excessive breaks. Should I warn him?

A junior coworker of mine takes very long breaks every day. I've timed them; he makes hour-long visits to the restroom every day. He is paid by the hour, leaves after 8 hours, and is not allowed to ...
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Is it right to expect my co-workers to have the same dedication to work as me?

I've just started working and I have found that many people I work along with do not share the same commitment to work as I do. I've an instance to share. Once I had stayed back late since I had work ...
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Anxiety attack at work, caused by colleague, how to handle?

I have a colleague who thinks he knows everything better than me. Sure, he knows many things, but not everything. He knows quite some things better than me, but I also know other things better than ...
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A co-worker is using my cup

I have a co-worker using my coffee mug at work. I want to make him stop without sounding like I'm being picky. I have tried making the point indirectly that the cup belongs to me but he still uses it. ...
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Should I avoid telling others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow? [closed]

I'm often afraid to tell others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow. A good programmer should be able to solve problems by searching for solutions independently, right? I feel like if someone ...
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My manager told me to stop helping a (supposedly) underperforming coworker. What are my options?

A bit of background I'm a junior female developer working for a telecommunications company. Shortly after I started, another young woman joined the team. Our manager sat us together with the ...
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How to disclose negative information about a candidate when I'd rather not reveal its source?

We are a small start-up and I'm one of the senior members. After a hard work day, I went to a bar, where I met an attractive young nonlocal man. We had a one-night stand. We conducted job interviews ...
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How to win over jealous subordinate who is mocking me after my promotion?

I was promoted to manage my team a couple of months ago. While it was a stressful learning experience in itself, I enjoyed it and most of my team accepted me and appreciated my leadership - except for ...
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How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick?

I work as an administrator in a company with about 30 employees. In my position I have insight into many processes and I see many things my colleagues are doing wrong. This annoys me a lot and I ...
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Colleagues speaking another language and it impacts work

I am aware of the following questions, but feel like they don't apply completely here because of the meeting issue (point 2 below): Everyone at work except me speaks another language How to deal ...
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How should I deal with colleagues asking me to hide problems with their work?

My specific situation is that I am working as tester for a web application project, and after some low level security tests I realized the application has lots of vulnerabilities. I would normally ...
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Having lunch at home

I live near my employer's office. All I need to do to reach home is walk for five minutes. To go straight to the point, I prefer having lunch at home. It costs me way less money than going to ...
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Coworker curses under his breath as he works - should I ignore?

I work in an office where there are 4 of us in the corners of a cube. One of the guys who sits in an adjacent corner acts a little strange. A few times a day (or more), he curses under his breath as ...
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How to politely avoid eating with a colleague

About my eating habits: I usually go to a nearby restaurant to eat. Sometimes I bring away the food and eat it in the company kitchen, but sometimes I go with a group of random people there. ...
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How to politely ask colleagues to converse somewhere else?

I work in an open plan office and we have some meeting rooms people can use. However, often when people leave these rooms they will keep talking outside of the meeting rooms for 10-15 minutes, ...
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How can I socialize when I sit apart from the rest of the team?

About a month ago, I started work as a software developer in an office of about 50 people, as part of a team of eight. Most of the team sits in cubicles in a section off to one side of the office; ...
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How to deal with a new, inexperienced and hostile colleague

In my company we have recently received a new hire that is specializing in automating testing, which is a part of what we do but it is not our core business. I specialized at university in the field ...
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I have reason to believe that my very competent coworker is being severely underpaid - any tactful way to tell a boss?

I am located in United States. I have a coworker who is senior to me (in that, if my title is "Blah", his title is literally "Senior Blah"). This morning he made a comment about job postings for a ...
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How should I maintain a professional relationship with female coworkers?

I am a recently graduated engineer and have just joined a small software company in India. Our company is divided into project teams that are further divided into groups of three people. My first ...
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How can I deal with a coworker who keeps trying to put blame on my shoulders?

I have this coworker that I help out very often. One reason he would approach me is that he doesn't have much experience in web applications. However, he is good in his domain. This person has a ...
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Is it unprofessional to car share?

To save some money, my colleague and I decided to start car sharing to and from work. Our workplace operates a flexible working policy between 7 and 7 and we often come in early and leave early to ...
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Sexual Harassment, helpless and scared

Disclaimer: I am not even posting this anonymous, because I really don't care anymore, and I want to be able to answer every single comment, and thank every single answer. Background Information: ...
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How to deal with an underperforming subordinate?

I'm a Software Developer with experience of more than 1.5 years. After being happy with my performance, the CTO of my company made me a team lead of 3 new employees (2 of them graduated recently). ...
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Co-Worker Overreacts to Request for Clarification

I received an email from a business user requesting an update of national identifiers for 1150 employees. Being the fairly new guy (I've been with the company for only a year), I looped in the other ...
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How can I achieve and excel in a civilian job where the leadership essentially refuses to allow growth?

Tl;dr: I am not getting the tools and knowledge required in order to complete my job effectively, despite repeated requests and attempts to do so. I want to keep the job and be good at it. How can I ...
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How to handle unwanted attention from “fans” in the workplace?

(Disclaimer: I am by no means a famous person, but I do have a medium sized YouTube channel with around 100k subscribers.) So it just happenend that the company I worked for a couple years now hired ...
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Theft from communal kitchen causing issues across teams [duplicate]

I have reviewed how can we prevent theft of food from shared fridges by coworkers and whilst similar I think the differences warrant me posting this as a separate question. Me and my team (12 in ...
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How to deal with a developer who thinks all technical questions should be answered by him only?

I work as a UX Program manager in a large creative team where we take on a number of projects. The team by itself is pretty amazing and I get along with everyone and enjoy learning with everyone. ...
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How can I communicate better with a co-worker who is not a good listener?

I've been working as an engineer in a company. I have been working alone on a large scale maintaining project and there is a project manager beside me. Recently, the company hired an employee who ...
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Coworker keeps opening blind which makes it difficult to see my screen

I'm positioned with a window next to me my coworker sits in front but have a wall to their side, then in front of them there is another window: | <---window | || <-- wall || O <--- coworker |...
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How to deal with a co-worker who assumes “unofficial” ownership of a project?

I am assigned to work with a co-worker on a project. Before we even start, he is saying exactly every single way we should do every feature. Neither of us are assigned as the "product owner". Often ...
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How do I get my coworkers to not touch my computer screen?

It bothers me when a coworker who is talking with me at my desk reaches out and stabs a finger into the screen, leaving fingerprints/skin oil (sometimes repeatedly and lingeringly rolling that finger ...
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How to deal with a colleague who wants to be a personal friend and not just a work colleague?

I have had to work closely with a colleague on several projects. I am a very easy going, open and friendly person so when discussions got side tracked sometimes to personal life I went along with the ...
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How to talk to others when they're busy?

Whenever I need to talk to one of my coworkers or my manager, I often have trouble initiating conversation because they look busy and I don't want to interrupt. I work in a software environment where ...
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How to deal with a colleague who is showing off my work as his own?

The situation goes like this. A project in research lab involves programming, data analysis and writing reports. I have done most of the programming and data analysis on my own thus far. I shared ...
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How to tell a colleague that I want to stop sharing the ride?

A few months ago, we hired a new temporary worker, Joe. Joe does not have a car so I offered to share the ride with him 4 times per day, which is about 45 km daily. I asked for 4€/day. Joe's salary ...
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Asked to use CCTV to check fellow employee's hours

I am the only employee with access to the CCTV system but I have never been certified in CCTV operation and we do not have a CCTV policy. I inherited it as I am the IT Systems Administrator. HR have ...
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How to behave with a colleague who suffered the loss of a close family member?

A colleague had recently lost a close relative and was out of office for about a week. He just returned to work. We do not interact frequently as our duties are not directly related. However, we sit ...
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I am leaving soon for a new opportunity. Should I mention my co-worker's deficiency to our manager as I leave?

Background A colleague (we'll call him Tim) and myself work to support/develop several products, including a mobile application. This guy has been here for 2 years and 8 months (I joined 1 month ...
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How do I handle conflict with an extrovert boss?

I am a female programmer who is an introvert. My lead is a male who is an extrovert. We are a team of two and we both started in this company at the same time couple of months back and my lead is new ...