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Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How to do things right while trying to date a coworker?

I'm based in Western Europe. Relationships among coworkers aren't rare here and I know several couples who met in the office, including bosses who married and had kids with their (former) subordinates....
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How to deal with a manager who lies and hides information? [closed]

I work for a very large company in USA. Some of us are allowed to work remotely sometimes or always. A few months after starting my job, I saw evidence that my manager praised me in front of me, but ...
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I'm new, should I tell my boss about this other new colleague's bad approach/performance?

Since 1 month and a half I've started a new job. Since 2 weeks a new colleague joined as well, and the future plan for us is to work together more often (but on different things). We have already ...
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Informing my boss about nasty remarks about me from a colleague

There is one annoying junior colleague in the office. We are in the same project but on different teams. For reasons best known to him, he has made a nasty comment about my experience in the ...
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Colleague overshares medical information

My usually taciturn peer of 7 years (let's say Anna) overshares when explaining her sick leave or coming back from one. It's a fairly recent development of about one year. It's not necessary to tell ...
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Colleagues feeling insecure when I do my work [closed]

I am a person who wants to learn and grow by doing challenging tasks that are assigned to me. Whenever I do some challenging work which helps the organization, a few of my colleagues feel insecure and ...
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Co-worker team leader wants to inject his friend's awful software into our development. What should I say to our common boss?

In theory, he is on the same level as me. In practice, he is above me (as de-facto team-leader). I am working in development/devops, with a partial overlap with his projects. We just had a meeting ...
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Not being delegated enough work, compared to colleague

I've been at my full-time position (software developer) for almost an year now, as a college hire. I started at the same time with another college hire, with the same title. Naturally, we both ...
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Private or public agenda?

Question Question: at work is your agenda private or public? E.g., can colleagues see your agenda (subject + location) within, for instance, Outlook? Help request What arguments can I give to ...
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How to educate teammate to take screenshots for bugs without unwanted stuff

We have a new team mate as a QA (software tester). He recently started to execute the regression suites in our application and reporting bugs. When reporting the bugs in TFS, he used to attach the ...
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Dealing with a Coworker who always knows better [closed]

I am currently in my second year of my apprenticeship in Computer Science/Programming, located in Germany. At the moment I am working on a redo of a website for our customers together with the ...
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How to handle a coworker's morbid attention seeking?

I have a coworker in my department whose morbid "sense of humor" is inconsiderate to others in the office. I find it to be disrespectful and insensitive. I don't want to get too specific with events, ...
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HR asked me about what I think about my colleagues when I'm resigning [duplicate]

I am leaving the company for another opportunity as I am quite dissatisfied about the behaviors of some colleagues. HR specifically asked me what I think about other people in my team in a meeting ...
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I'm resigning after only a few months due to issues with my supervisor. Other colleagues are questioning why. Should I tell them the truth? [closed]

As per the title, I had a really tough time working with my boss and have issues with them. Both personally and professionally. Thus, I have decided to resign after only working a few months here ...
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Sexual Harassment, helpless and scared

Disclaimer: I am not even posting this anonymous, because I really don't care anymore, and I want to be able to answer every single comment, and thank every single answer. Background Information: ...
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team in charge of product X not able to deliver something I already created

During october/november, I developped for the team I was working with a tool to achieve functionality "X" in a specific language. As far as I know this tool is re-usable by other teams and feature-...
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Colleague “invited” himself to my assignment

I am in a team of 3 senior developers. In our current assignment we were supposed to analyze a certain project and identify key areas to work on. After that, each of us was supposed to take one area ...
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How do I tell my boss he is being extremely rude?

I work in IT. Recently there was a computer issue that cost the company about 4k. It wasn't preventable, predictable, or my fault. However, it did happen under my watch. When I explained the situation ...
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Coworker makes offensive comments outside office hours - should I raise this with HR?

A coworker of mine has recently made a series of jokes in poor taste regarding rape - an excerpt, verbatim: "It's always the right time for a rape joke" all outside of the office/work hours. He's ...
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How to deal with an incendiary email that was recalled

I recently received a critical email from someone who works at a company I deal with. It made a number of broad and inaccurate criticisms of some work I'd done. Copying in several managers for good ...
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Party game to help learn coworkers' names and positions [closed]

I had suggested we host an ice cream social at my work, so I have been tasked with handling all the details. We have a lot of new faces, so management wants me to incorporate a short game/party ...
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How should I have handled a harassment accusation? [closed]

I am currently a graduate student in a medium research university. I experienced a false accusation in college, and would like to know how I could've handled it better. In my sophomore year, I took a ...
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My colleague is away and tasked me with his job, but everyone is still messaging him

I work on web development but this week a colleague of mine entrusted me to do some devops work. He'd shown me how a couple of things work and what should I do if someone asked me to do them. He also ...
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Is the new hire gunning for me?

My workplace recently hired two new employees, one with a lot of experience and one who needed training. I’m starting to think that the experienced one is gunning for me and I’d like advice on how to ...
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Am I responsible for the work produced by coworkers since we are a team even though they excluded me?

I have been working for my current company for 7 months now and I am completing my two years in the industry in total. My company is a large enterprise, with relatively relaxed deadlines and flexible ...
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How to politely refuse in-office gym instructor for steroids and protein

In my office, the in-house gym instructor asked me to have protein, amino and steroids. Almost twice a week he insists that I use those. From my experience, I don't want to use those things at all, ...
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How can I deal with my coworker having zero social awareness?

My coworker is ruining what's otherwise a great job. I love all my other coworkers and the benefits are great, but this guy is incredibly offensive and rude. Here's some highlights: He'll make ...
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How to deal with a weeping co-worker

My co-worker weeps due to their family problems at office. They don't seek privacy. I don't intervene because I don't think it is my place to ask about their problems when they are not willing to ...
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How to deal with an underperforming subordinate?

I'm a Software Developer with experience of more than 1.5 years. After being happy with my performance, the CTO of my company made me a team lead of 3 new employees (2 of them graduated recently). ...
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My boss hits too hard

I'm new to the company, Oct 2018, and I'm just now getting back into the technology field after being a classroom teacher for the last 10 years. I left education because of the lack of money, and I've ...
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Intern is not acceptable. What to do as an apprentice?

I work as a programmer in a small software company (<10 people) for round about 2 years now. I am 25 and in an apprenticeship. A random ~50 year old guy - let's name him Chris - has been working ...
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Coworker asking me to not bring cakes due to self control issue. What should I do?

Sometimes I bring cakes to work, e.g. leftovers from birthday party to one of the family members. Most coworkers are happy about it and eat them without a problem, however one employee doesn't want ...
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Too much for a beginner?

So I started working at a job soon after I finished my college studies. Currently, I am assigned a task to rectify some calculations in some fields of an application, of which I was given bare minimum ...
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Co-worker fired, now I am the only worker left in my department [closed]

To cut a long story short; I started working at a new company where it was me and another coworker doing all the work. He had been at this company for 5 months. He was the one that trained me and now ...
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How to help a fellow employee care less so he won't work himself to the grave

This question is inspired by How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick? I recognize a similar scenario as described within this question. However, not with my self, but with my fellow ...
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How to deal with intrusive colleague?

I work in a small business with relaxed management, where work gets done at a none pressuring pace. I'm pretty quick however and get most work done way before schedule and often have a drought, ...
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Coworker is trying to get me to sign his petition to run for office. How to decline politely?

My coworker knows that I live in "his district" and he's been coming up to my desk for the past few days asking me to sign his petition to run for local office. Personally we don't share the same ...
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Manager has noticed coworker's excessive breaks. Should I warn him?

A junior coworker of mine takes very long breaks every day. I've timed them; he makes hour-long visits to the restroom every day. He is paid by the hour, leaves after 8 hours, and is not allowed to ...
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How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick?

I work as an administrator in a company with about 30 employees. In my position I have insight into many processes and I see many things my colleagues are doing wrong. This annoys me a lot and I ...
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Insecure colleagues creating ruckus at office

My current company's strength is 25. A manager in his late forties sits at the office handling everything, tech and non-tech stuff, administrative work amongst others. It is just the boss and no one ...
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How to handle myself with a coworker who keeps requesting too frequent status updates, repeating my tasks completely and in full every day?

There is an employee I work with who is effectively my customer, where the work I do is for the benefit of his department, and he represents his department when communicating to me. He keeps checking ...
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How to end useless, drawn-out technical conversations?

For context, I work on a software development team and I have a teammate we'll call Bob. Bob regularly comes up with ideas on how we can improve things and proposes these ideas to his teammates. In ...
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How to tell my freelance designer to deliver on time

I have a really talented designer working for me remotely. No complains with his work but he always delivers them late. I couldn't handle it anymore so I stopped sending him work. Just a while ago I ...
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How and when to let people know other person who is sharing credit with me has not done anything

We are a small company of about 100 people. I along with another senior member (same designation as me but older and more experienced) are jointly incharge of developing a product. We have a team ...
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Remote manager keeps taking it out on the same colleague

I am a young software developer working in a big french tech company. There is this toxic relationship between one of my colleague and our manager that I am really concerned about. There has been many ...
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Service Delivery Manager making threats

I am an IT Technician working for a company in the UK. Last year, a project over ran by 3 weeks and the Project Manager was sacked as a result. I was also involved, but as a pawn I only had my ...
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How to deal with a colleague who makes personal jokes about my appearance?

I've worked with an engineering consultancy firm for a little over 2 years now, on a team of approximately 15 people. I’m one of three graduates on the team and there’s one guy (we’ll call him John), ...
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UK temporary agency worker training full time permanent colleague

Good evening everyone, I reside in the UK and I have been working on behalf of an agency for a company on a temporary basis for 6 months now. Recently (2 months ago) a new colleague with no ...
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How to deal with coworker who abuse me a lot? [closed]

I have 5 years of PHP Development experience and in our team there is game developer who has 1.5 years experience. Since I have 5 years I knows some of programming topics or in other words I more ...
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How to retain a healthy relationship with colleagues after beating them at golf?

Some background information about myself: I am generally a life-before-work kind of person, and tend to mind my own business in the workplace. However, I will socialise with colleagues, if the chance ...