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Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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Staff returning to work after gross misconduct

I was wondering I someone could help me with the below on what paths I can take? I am from the UK. Recently, accusations was made about myself that could ruin the career I am in. The owner of the ...
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Is it appropriate to give an unsolicited negative referral?

I recently discovered that an acquaintance of mine (Bob) might be applying for a position in the same group that I'm in. While I am on good terms with Bob, he is not very personable and I do not want ...
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Using a colleague's laptop without asking for permission

In one of my previous jobs, I had the following situation, and I'm not sure what would have been the right way to react. Once, during a team meeting, I was showing something work related on my laptop ...
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Coworkers can't tell me apart from the only other Asian guy

I work in a big company where I'm one of two Asian guys in my department, and most of my coworkers can't tell us apart. Almost every day someone will email one of us intending to talk to the other one....
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How to respond when someone thanks me for my work in the workspace?

I usually feel confused when someone thanks me for my work at the workplace. In my view, work is what I am supposed to do, and it is my duty. It's difficult for me to respond in a way that makes ...
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How should one approach a coworker's wardrobe malfunction?

While on a video call with a group of coworkers, the coworker whose laptop was being used to call me in leant over her laptop to use it for something, and due to her (somewhat) low-cut top and the ...
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How to deal with a senior leader who is frequently finding shortcomings with others' work?

I am dealing with a senior leader (let us call him John) who always seem to be pointing out others' mistakes and shortcomings in everyone's work via email. John frequently does this to architects, ...
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Is it unethical/unprofessional to keep a record of quotes from my colleague's outbursts?

My colleague is a 64 year old guy who is very verbal when working. He often shouts out slander towards his computer and also an ex-employee. Even though these outbursts are incredibly unprofessional I ...
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Coworker keeps threatening to tattle on me for “time theft”

One of my coworkers is especially nosy and keeps tabs on when I come to work and leave, and how long my lunch break is, how many times I go to the restroom and how long each break takes, and so on. ...
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How to deal with my colleague copying my work?

I am a programmer working for a Tech company. There is a colleague of mine who I work with on different projects. When working with him I've noticed a bothering trend that appears to be a very ...
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My adult son embarrassed me in front of my coworkers - how to react to provocations?

I am located in the north of Germany. We had an event where the whole company got together, about 200 people. We had dinner, a live band, all in all it was a great evening. My small department (about ...
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How can team relations be maintained along with maintaining personal and professional boundaries?

There are many situations in which the management, esp of the small medium business domain, organize events such as sports matches and frequent outings in the name of team bonding. Instead of bonding, ...
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Coworker watches content on his phone all day

I work at a software company. I have a coworker who props up his phone most of the day, watching stuff while he works such as video game streamers, or cooking shows, or whatever. He's trying to give ...
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Coworker keeps asking questions while I am busy; how can I handle this?

I work with another individual in an office (we work in a large office everyone has a roommate (s) ) She has been in her job for 15 years. I have been in my position for 5, in the past I was a ...
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Why would HR think it's inappropriate that I visited a coworker in the hospital?

I just got out of a meeting with my supervisor and a member of our HR department, giving me a "formal warning" for engaging in inappropriate conduct by visiting a coworker in the hospital. HR told me ...
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Talkative colleague I can’t get away from

Once a week I share a room with a colleague, our desks face each other. This colleague will not stop talking. He asks work related questions which quickly decend into chat about just about anything. ...
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How to deal with a politically opinionated coworker

I'm looking for guidance on an issue that's been dividing my team, which is composed of 24 techie 20-somethings, in a very laissez-faire office with various inclinations all over the political and ...
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My team mate is talking trash about me behind my back with my manager

I am leading a team of 5 and there is 1 manager who is above/supervising us. One of my team-mates I get along well with; she behaves well and I discuss personal stuff and share jokes with her. ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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Ethical Dilemma - Boss Gift Promotion

What would you do? A team leader (she) at a distribution center gets promoted to a operations manager role by the general manager (he). The team leader asks all the associates on the distribution ...
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Uninvited colleague insists on using my ergonomically set-up desk

I have a question about uninvited users of my desk that was set up for my ergonomic needs. I have a colleague who likes to use my ergonomically set up desk and my chair, with re-adjusting the settings ...
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How to deal with a colleague who I manage and who often gets angry?

I'm managing a newly created team and I'm also learning the whole dev environment we are working with. Our team has a mix of young devs and older devs. One of my colleagues is a senior developer. ...
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How to convey to a coworker the explanation for avoiding working for some managers without badmouthing them?

Recently a colleague told me that the project she is working is going to end and that she must choose another team/project to work next, so she is trying to understand where she might fit better (both ...
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Co-workers posting photos and videos of people without their consent

I work for a company that is distributed over several branches across different countries. Every once in a while we're having these group video calls/conferences where all branches participate and ...
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How to deal with favoritism in a scrum team? [closed]

How to deal with a situation when a scrum team colleague wants to cherry-pick interesting topics, manage and oversee the work of others and gets the Manager and PO's unofficial support? Our company ...
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How to request colleague assistance for on call support during manager vacation?

I recently joined the information security team at my employer about a month ago. Just this week, I started to participate in off hours on-call support as security must be available on a continuous ...
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Is it inappropriate to invite all my coworkers except for one person to a private event?

I work in a fairly small department, I have 8 coworkers. 7 of them are great, we're good friends, and I love spending time with them - we hang out outside of work often, but usually in groups of 3-4. ...
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Could I make the loud sneezer/ noseblower leave the “silent room” [duplicate]

I'm a junior programmer from Germany with 2 years of work experience in a German company. We have an open office with multiple meeting rooms and one room which we call the "silent room". It has just 6 ...
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How to assist non - technical end users communicate effectively and concisely during incident response?

As a member of the Information Security team at my workplace, triaging, researching, and escalating if necessary of SIEM / IDS alerts is one of my job duties. I work at central company headquarters ...
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How to handle when another dev screwed up a project?

I was working in a project and I finished all my tasks. Another dev started to work in the new tasks. Now I have downloaded the project and its with some build errors on it. How can I handle with ...
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Should I tell my going-to-be-my-boss colleague I'm leaving if it hurts his career? [closed]

Finally, after ten years, I'm about to give in my notice. The exact details of the new contract are still to be agreed upon, but as soon as that's done, I'm off. The department is being restructured ...
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Dealing with difficult fellow colleagues/students [closed]

I'm in my first year of a PhD at a UK university as part of a Centre for Doctoral Training (CDT) programme. I am part of a cohort of students, most of whom have come straight from an undergraduate ...
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Software Industry - How do I deal with legacy code and clean code effectively?

I am currently working with a company which has produced a lot of useful, but old code. Many of my peers and software developers have spent a lot of time building this library and use it extensively. ...
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Drunkenly said something offensive to a coworker

So. Christmas dinner office party. Drank way too much too fast. Told a coworker he reminded me of a cow, but I didn't mean anything bad by it. He has this sort of "cow looking at the cars from behind ...
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Can I file a complaint with HR against a coworker’s promotion? [closed]

I work as a Senior Software Engineer on my team, and I have a coworker who was recently promoted to the same level, but she has nowhere near the qualifications for the position, she lies regularly, ...
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How do I deal with a slow co-worker whose attitude is affecting my team?

So, I have this colleague (call him Mark). Both of us are software developers with more than a year’s experience (his being two months longer than mine). Since we were hired, he has been working on ...
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How to deal with dishonest boss and colleagues [closed]

Characters: Me - senior year college student. Back-end and infrastructure dev.. Boss X - junior year (different) college student Colleague Y - junior year college student (same school as I, we meet ...
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How to find workplaces with high proportion of young (20-something) college-educated population? [closed]

How does a 20-something find a white collar job with lots of 20-somethings? Statistics/finance/accounting/applied-math field.
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Should I hold a grudge against my ex-colleagues? [closed]

I was let go at my company, as I did 'fit in with the culture'. I'm not too worried about being fired, as I've already gotten a job offer, however, during my time at the company my ex-team acted like ...
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How do I move forward after a misunderstanding at our year end function?

Last night we had our year end function at a local restaurant where a couple of tables were arranged to form one big square table. At one stage a colleague who was sitting next to me moved a few ...
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Confessions of an incompetent worker. How to cope with colleagues hating me and failing in self improvement?

As the title above explains it all, yes, I suck at my job. Almost 2 years into my job as a system engineer for the IT department of a manufacturing firm, I can confidently do about a portion of my ...
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Coworker is lying about insignificant things…?

So I work a mechanic-esque shop. We've all got these jackets that have the company logo on it. And you can get them with or without your name on it as well. Today, a coworker (let's call him Bob) ...
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I suspect my coworker is trying to take revenge. How do my career and I survive an extra few weeks of working together?

A few months ago, I was temporarily (until the end of this year) put on another team. There is one other developer, and we've been struggling in our day-to-day interactions from day one. He's not used ...
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My colleagues earn 1.5 times more money than I. How do I increase my salary? [duplicate]

A year ago I got relocated to the UK from the Netherlands and continued in the same company(in one of the big 4). As I was happy to have a job in my host country I accepted the salary of 38.500. Which ...
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Festive Email To Close Colleagues

First off, I've had a good year at work. I've learnt a lot and progressed in my profession which I attribute to the help of certain people I work with. I'm your standard introvert type so my idea was ...
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How to handle disrespectful treatment at workplace? [closed]

I joined in an organisation before 6 months as Ruby on Rails (ROR) Developer. I have complete experience as ROR Developer and with mid level front end skills. This organisation is wholly a JAVA based ...
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How to work around the Manager's favorites?

How to work around a Manager's favoured team member? I was moved from TeamA to TeamB as a new project was about to begin; So I came under this TeamB Lead. TeamB has a member (call him Dave) whom the ...
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How to ask co-worker to let me work?

As most people, I am not productive 100% of the time I spend at the office, but I try to keep my procrastination time to the minimum (preparing tea, going to the bathroom, answering my messages) and ...
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HR advised colleague not to notify department he is leaving

An engineering colleague of mine has been planning on leaving for the last several months and is leaving in about a months time. Over this period, the engineering department has not been aware of this ...
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How could I answer to the question: “Why are you leaving your company?” without looking conceited? [duplicate]

I'm planning to look for another job. I am a programmer. I have a lot of reasons, but some of them, which are important to me, and not only salary related, make me think a bit. For example: 1) All ...