Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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When is it acceptable to share personal information I have about a coworker who disappeared? [closed]

This girl from my office kind of disappeared, she hasn't been in for 4 days now. Apparently nobody has her number or details either. The one person who has her details and would know where she is (...
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My co-worker is secretly taking pictures of me

I started working at my first real job (not student work) in autumn of last year. In my job there are mostly male employees. I am a (like I want to believe, good looking) female – age 25. We have two ...
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It's not my job to answer the phone [duplicate]

I happen to sit near the secretary who handles the company phone. The secretary doesn't always come to work at my office as she alternates working between multiple offices. Hence, whenever she's not ...
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New supposedly experienced software developer disrupting my existing work in volunteer organisation

Update: this situation is solved Read how it all ended at the bottom of the post. Background I am a graduating Software Engineering student, working as a backend application developer. About a ...
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How to stop a coworker from constantly nagging about joining his “initiative”

In my open-space office our 5-man team, "A" sits next to 8-man team "B". About 3 weeks ago, a colleague from HR came and asked team "B" to mind their behaviour because they were rather loud and tended ...
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How to retain a healthy relationship with colleagues after beating them at golf?

Some background information about myself: I am generally a life-before-work kind of person, and tend to mind my own business in the workplace. However, I will socialise with colleagues, if the chance ...
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Is it ethical to include opinion based code comments for future developers?

Scenario: You are a developer working alone for a company. You are due to leave the company in the near future and your successor will not be starting until after you leave, meaning no handover period ...
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Is there anything too menial to be done by an intern?

I am a student, currently interning at a fairly new startup. (I am amongst the first 10 employees). I have a role of a software developer there and the work for the most of it is very good. The pay is ...
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Coworker, driving drunk, was arrested; I was his passenger. Do I tell employer?

We have a "work" softball team (it is made up of all people who I work with but the company doesn't sponsor it although we do have the same team name as our company name). I got a ride from one of my ...
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Is it rude to correct a non-native English speaker?

A Spanish colleague of mine makes occasional, but repetitive English mistakes. Would it be considered rude or impolite to correct him? I haven't actually corrected him at all, but I feel as if I ...
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Using a colleague's laptop without asking for permission

In one of my previous jobs, I had the following situation, and I'm not sure what would have been the right way to react. Once, during a team meeting, I was showing something work related on my laptop ...
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Are such religious references typical for US-based companies or should I be worried?

I was shown a job ad at StackOverflow from a US-based company which had caught my eye. Now, I don't have any immediate plans to move to US, but I do check out opportunities from time to time. Besides, ...
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How can I politely decline a team lunch?

Most of the time, I find that lunch time is the one time that some bond occurs with between colleagues. There is a canteen onsite which we go to. We get to know a bit more about the person we are ...
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How to deal with an incendiary email that was recalled

I recently received a critical email from someone who works at a company I deal with. It made a number of broad and inaccurate criticisms of some work I'd done. Copying in several managers for good ...
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A coworker is asking me to stop sharing links from Bloomberg because he thinks it risks our business. Is he right?

I work in a tech company and we recently joined an incubator along with many other companies. We use slack for communication purposes. I shared a link from an article in Bloomberg's website in the #...
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A co-worker is using my cup

I have a co-worker using my coffee mug at work. I want to make him stop without sounding like I'm being picky. I have tried making the point indirectly that the cup belongs to me but he still uses it. ...
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How to react professionally when a colleague comes to work with a black eye?

A colleague came to work with a black eye. His bruises have nothing to do with work and don't impair him. We are on the same hierarchical level, but work in different teams and on different projects. ...
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Our company is exposing the public to a health risk and my boss doesn't want to deal with it [closed]

I am partly responsible for the maintenance of some arcade machines. My official title is "Arcade Attendant", but I can act as a technician. These arcade machines are in an extremely high traffic area....
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How to tell a colleague that I want to stop sharing the ride?

A few months ago, we hired a new temporary worker, Joe. Joe does not have a car so I offered to share the ride with him 4 times per day, which is about 45 km daily. I asked for 4€/day. Joe's salary ...
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Managing “workplace martyrs”

I have some employees who will pick up any task that falls by the wayside, take on tasks or responsibilities that other people should be doing but aren't, and end up doing all the things no-one else ...
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Senior colleague feels threatened by me, an intern

I've been living a quite bizarre and pretty depressing situation the last few months. I'm currently interning as a financial engineer, and to make it short and blunt and without being too arrogant, ...
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Sexual Harassment, helpless and scared

Disclaimer: I am not even posting this anonymous, because I really don't care anymore, and I want to be able to answer every single comment, and thank every single answer. Background Information: ...
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How to tell coworkers I need to leave early without telling them why?

So, I recently started group therapy for some mental health issues, and the only slot available was 4-5pm. So I need to leave work around 3:30 twice a week for this. It's not really an issue because ...
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How can I respond to coffees offered by coworkers when I'm not on permanent staff? [closed]

I work in Italy. In my office (200-300 people), there are several coffee machines that work either by using coins or by using a pre-credited magnetic key. These machines don't give back the eventual ...
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How to respond to your boss's email about a coworker's accusation?

There was a very serious conflict this morning with a coworker which resulted in an angry email from by boss with an accusation that isn't true. How do I handle this without sounding juvenile? Here'...
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How can I deal with a difficult coworker?

I have a member on my team who acts like a boorish pig. He "borrows" my belongings without asking, almost as if he's entitled to it. Last time, I had some snack on my desk and he just took it to his ...
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Co-worker regularly placing his foot on my desk - how to get out of the situation?

A certain co-worker of mine has a habit of placing his foot on my desk while conversing with me. My desk is an L shape and where he stands is not across the desk from me, but at the end of one of the ...
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How do I deal with an unproductive colleague in a small company?

I am an employee in a small company (under 30 people). I have a colleague who is basically not really productive. We've been at the company for about the same amount of time, and we both joined while ...
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How to answer professionally to coworkers who tease me because I am vegan?

I have been in this company for one year but still, being the sole developer, I haven't had many occasions to talk a lot with my coworkers and we haven't even had many chances to chit-chat that much. ...
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How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick?

I work as an administrator in a company with about 30 employees. In my position I have insight into many processes and I see many things my colleagues are doing wrong. This annoys me a lot and I ...
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How do I deal with a coworker that keeps changing the look of a report I'm building, without documenting the changes in a design template?

Ideally this was to be an easy project. Create a report for a website. Something like this: I am provided a template (drawn up by graphics designer) I implement/update the programming to match (...
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How can I socialize when I sit apart from the rest of the team?

About a month ago, I started work as a software developer in an office of about 50 people, as part of a team of eight. Most of the team sits in cubicles in a section off to one side of the office; ...
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Junior colleague is questioning my methodology in front of client

My junior colleague and I attend a meeting every week. Last week I was giving a presentation about the proposed work to be done and my colleague questioned my methodologies in front of the client. At ...
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How to deal with your co worker telling you “not to do stuff so fast”?

I like to do stuff right when people ask me. When they need help, if I'm doing nothing, I love to go there and help, or to call them and fix the problem, because I like to be pro active. But my co ...
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How to deal with a colleague who makes personal jokes about my appearance?

I've worked with an engineering consultancy firm for a little over 2 years now, on a team of approximately 15 people. I’m one of three graduates on the team and there’s one guy (we’ll call him John), ...
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What should I do when colleagues keep commenting on my attire?

What should I do when my colleagues, on finding me wearing new dresses to work, are greeting me with "Happy birthday" everyday in a sarcastic way? I am just mix and matching my attire in a formal way....
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As a Brit working in America, how can I get my American colleagues to stop mocking my accent/spelling?

I am not a person of colour and I do not pretend to understand the struggle of those who endure racial discrimination, prejudice and persecution based on their race or ethnic background. However, ...
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I suspect my coworker is trying to take revenge. How do my career and I survive an extra few weeks of working together?

A few months ago, I was temporarily (until the end of this year) put on another team. There is one other developer, and we've been struggling in our day-to-day interactions from day one. He's not used ...
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How to deal with a nit-picky coworker

I'm a self-taught software developer here. I am wondering if anyone has advice about how to handle a coworker (with about 1 month of experience at my workplace compared to my 18 months) who takes ...
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How to respond to caste-based discrimination in the workplace?

India is a place where people from different communities, religions live together. More than 80% (around 1 Billion) of country's total population (1.2 Billion) is of Hinduism religion. Our country has ...
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How should I maintain a professional relationship with female coworkers?

I am a recently graduated engineer and have just joined a small software company in India. Our company is divided into project teams that are further divided into groups of three people. My first ...
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Coworker doesn't actually work - how to deal with the situation? [duplicate]

We have a colleague who prefers to waste time at work instead of well... working. He's either watching movies, playing online games, or he's always on social sites. This is all on company time, with ...
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Should I warn a friend about a former employer?

I have a friend who for the purposes of this question we'll refer to as Paul. Paul is a University professor who hasn't been actively involved in business outside of academia. He's shown me some ...
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How to help a colleague after termination warning

I am a software developer. I have a colleague of mine, who is a tester. The colleague was given a termination warning last week. In the warning, he was given a huge amount of work to finish during ...
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Is it unethical/unprofessional to keep a record of quotes from my colleague's outbursts?

My colleague is a 64 year old guy who is very verbal when working. He often shouts out slander towards his computer and also an ex-employee. Even though these outbursts are incredibly unprofessional I ...
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How to talk to others when they're busy?

Whenever I need to talk to one of my coworkers or my manager, I often have trouble initiating conversation because they look busy and I don't want to interrupt. I work in a software environment where ...
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Should I always give way to my colleague just because of their age?

My colleague and I were hired at the same time, for the same position some months ago. Now we're getting a new office room, with the possibility of setting up our desks and furniture. I did ask her ...
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Dealing with people after a mishap spread by department head

Recently I broke our office kettle, and one of the department heads has spread the news turning me into a laughing stock. From time to time I encounter her in a meeting or update on my visa. I knew ...
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How can I politely decline my boss's invitations to social events after-hours or on the weekend

I'm currently working in a software company and I am enjoying it so far. Everyone is quite friendly and gets along well together. A lot of times since I have started here my boss has asked me to ...
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What to do about a colleague playing pranks on a manager?

I have the following situation at work. A colleague I work with sometimes plays pranks on a young manager. They've known each other for 3-4 years and the manager has the habit of forgetting to lock ...