Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How can I politely decline my boss's invitations to social events after-hours or on the weekend

I'm currently working in a software company and I am enjoying it so far. Everyone is quite friendly and gets along well together. A lot of times since I have started here my boss has asked me to ...
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What to do about a colleague playing pranks on a manager?

I have the following situation at work. A colleague I work with sometimes plays pranks on a young manager. They've known each other for 3-4 years and the manager has the habit of forgetting to lock ...
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In a family business, do I refer to people by their name or by how they're related to the person I'm speaking to?

When speaking with a boss/manager's son, should I say: Your father requested so and so. or rather: Mr. Doe requested so and so I only have a professional relationship with the son. We don't ...
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What do I say to my manager if he asked me about a colleague's raise?

So my boss asked me to come to his office to take my opinion about a raise that my colleague asked for earlier. This colleague started only months ago but he proved that he is very good at it. Took ...
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Is it right to expect my co-workers to have the same dedication to work as me?

I've just started working and I have found that many people I work along with do not share the same commitment to work as I do. I've an instance to share. Once I had stayed back late since I had work ...
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Taking advantage when HR forgets to communicate the rules

I currently work as a software engineer at a company in Europe. One detail that's going to be important below is that everybody here has a contract for 40h/week. If you work more, you can use the ...
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How should I deal with colleagues asking me to hide problems with their work?

My specific situation is that I am working as tester for a web application project, and after some low level security tests I realized the application has lots of vulnerabilities. I would normally ...
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My colleagues feel that I go into discussions too aggressively - how do I fix this?

One of the main feedback points I got from my performance review was that my colleagues complained/commented that they feel that I go into discussions too aggressively, that I try to push through on ...
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Employee wants to bring in his dog for a kids event

I was surprised that our company didn't do anything for national Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day, so I volunteered to organize our own version of it (just calling it Bring Your Child to Work ...
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Should I give honest (but bad) feedback about a colleague when asked by another team looking to hire him?

A colleague of mine has potential job offer from another team, which I have worked for in the past. Somebody from my old team has asked me what I think about him. To be perfectly honest, I think he ...
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How can I deal with the blame-game played by my colleague in office?

My colleague (call him Bob) and I are Software Developers with experience of 1 year. Our CTO considers me to be more intelligent than him. For the last few months both of us have been working on the ...
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My intended position means a colleague's job disappears, should I give him a heads-up?

I'm wondering if I'm being loyal enough and how much of a heads up I should give a colleague whose job will disappear. My place of work has been reorganising, and one of the consequences is the ...
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My ex-coworker wants to know my Bitlocker password

I worked for X company as an applications developer and one of my former coworkers (not my supervisor or an IT person) asked me for my BitLocker password. I left the company 2 weeks ago for a new job....
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Coworker is lying about having kids to get extra time off. What should I do?

A peer of mine (same organization but different scrum team) is a very involved father. He is often taking time off of work to watch his kids and leaving early to take his kids to soccer practice. I ...
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How can I politely ask potential colleagues about the negative aspects of their company?

After a series of interviews with a software company, I have been invited to work with the team for one day. During the day I will attend the daily scrum meeting be assigned a low priority bug ticket ...
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How to win over jealous subordinate who is mocking me after my promotion?

I was promoted to manage my team a couple of months ago. While it was a stressful learning experience in itself, I enjoyed it and most of my team accepted me and appreciated my leadership - except for ...
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How do I get a coworker to do something that they don’t want to do, as they disrespect me?

I asked a colleague at work to do a 5-minute task, which is part of their role. I sent an email, but they didn't reply. I went up to the person’s desk and they totally dismissed the request saying ...
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Coworker keeps opening blind which makes it difficult to see my screen

I'm positioned with a window next to me my coworker sits in front but have a wall to their side, then in front of them there is another window: | <---window | || <-- wall || O <--- coworker |...
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How to approach coworker who has cancer, if I'm not supposed to know?

One of my coworkers in the department whom I know of but don't interact with much has been diagnosed with cancer. I only knew about this because of a confidant who made me promise not to tell. ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life

This is happening in central Europe. So basically I got this co-worker (let's call her Stacy) who regularly tries to undermine me. She disrupts my work, puts me in a bad light and doesn't cooperate ...
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How do I find common ground with a coworker who thinks very differently from myself?

I design electrical circuits for a living. Over the past few years, I've established a logical design method which works for me and helps me to keep track of how everything is connected together. ...
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How to deal with a colleague who is being aggressive?

I’ve found that a relatively new addition to our team is being needlessly aggressive and I’m not sure if I should speak to them or our mutual manager about this face to face, or try some other ...
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How to deal with a new, inexperienced and hostile colleague

In my company we have recently received a new hire that is specializing in automating testing, which is a part of what we do but it is not our core business. I specialized at university in the field ...
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How do I tell a colleague that I don't want to add him to Facebook?

I consider Facebook to have information that is personal and that I only share with close friends and family. However, in my new workplace I’ve been asked several times for my Facebook username and/or ...
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How to shoo away people who make informal requests at the desk or canteen? [duplicate]

My role involves working with teams across the company, but there is a strong tendency for people to come and chat us up informally in order to get their things done, put pressure and even "blackmail" ...
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Motivate coworkers to use strong passwords

I work for an expanding company, and we are currently establishing a new IT-infrastructure and several company-policies (privacy/safety rules). One of my biggest concerns is the acceptance of ...
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Is it unprofessional to bring your spouse/kids to work to visit? [closed]

When I was younger in my career (20's), and worked at smaller companies, I often brought my spouse and kids into work. I had good relationships with my co-workers, and even saw some of them outside of ...
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HR advised colleague not to notify department he is leaving

An engineering colleague of mine has been planning on leaving for the last several months and is leaving in about a months time. Over this period, the engineering department has not been aware of this ...
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How do you respond to a colleague from another team when they're wrongly expecting that you'll help them?

Here's the situation. There is a person on Team X. They share some hardware that I also work on. They're trying to create a setup for something and struggling big time with it. It's none of my ...
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How do I ask a co-worker to turn down the volume on their laptop, when I don't know which co-worker to blame?

I work in an open office with about 10-12 workers, all in partitioned cubicles. Most of us have the sound turned off on our laptops out of respect for the rest of the team. However, one (or maybe ...
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How to handle constant jokes from senior coworkers and manager dissing your competence and gender

I am a young woman fresh out of college in a department filled with older men. I'm afraid if my situation isn't corrected soon I'll be dealing with it long term. My coworkers make the sort of jokes ...
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Theft from communal kitchen causing issues across teams [duplicate]

I have reviewed how can we prevent theft of food from shared fridges by coworkers and whilst similar I think the differences warrant me posting this as a separate question. Me and my team (12 in ...
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How to handle demoralization caused by a slacker in the team?

I recently started working a programming contract at a company, and initially everything was going fine. I was very focused, I came in on time every day and got a load of work done, and never let ...
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How to deal with a senior coworker who wrote their own programming language? [closed]

I'm on a team with a senior developer who has been with the company for a long time (maybe 15 years) and works exclusively on the backend architecture of our 25-year old product. Recently, as part of ...
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Told boss about racist remarks coworker made, but they don't want HR involved. What do I do?

I have a coworker who seems to make it a point to discuss religion/politics/everything most would deem unacceptable during work hours. The other day, he interrupted a conversation between myself and ...
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How to deal with an underperforming subordinate?

I'm a Software Developer with experience of more than 1.5 years. After being happy with my performance, the CTO of my company made me a team lead of 3 new employees (2 of them graduated recently). ...
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Can my employer force me to fix employees' personal computers?

I run an IT department at a mid-size retailer with 1000 employees. Throughout my career, there have been a many instances where people have brought in their personal equipment from home (phones, PCs, ...
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How can I stop a flirting co-worker without damaging our professional relationship?

There is a co-worker that is being way overly friendly with me. Nothing that would really be deemed unprofessional, and I am not offended in any way, but it is just that little notch beyond what a ...
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How can you fix someone else's work without seeming pretentious, mean, or arrogant?

I joined up at a place a few months ago as a web developer. They hired me thinking I was "green" to the industry, placing me as a junior developer, and giving me menial tasks at first. I've since ...
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Can I bring food to share only with the people in my team/around me?

I work in an open plan office space, where we sit in teams, placed in table island of about 8 tables per island. My hobby is baking and I often have leftovers that I would like to bring with me to ...
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How to mention that teammate accomplished nothing in team lead's absence [duplicate]

My team lead went on vacation for 2 weeks, mid-sprint. So my team, 3-ish developers, had a fair amount of work to finish the sprint off. Then we were told to work on the backlog and bugs in his ...
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Co-worker has annoying ringtone

There is a co-worker who has this annoying ringtone of "In the end - Linkin park" and gets about 10 to 15 calls every day. Every time his phone rings I get really annoyed. I feel like I should tell ...
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What can I do if I have a colleague who is picking on me?

I have a colleague who is making unrelated non-professional remarks (for example she criticized the socks I was wearing last time). It looks like that she is frustrated and this is her strategy to ...
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How to deal with a co-worker who assumes “unofficial” ownership of a project?

I am assigned to work with a co-worker on a project. Before we even start, he is saying exactly every single way we should do every feature. Neither of us are assigned as the "product owner". Often ...
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I'm not Junior/Entry-Level, but Senior Dev treats me like one

I'm currently a 24 yr old contract-to-hire developer at this company. I'm five months in to a six month contract. My job title is "Developer." No prefix. I'm between Junior/Entry-Level and Senior. I'm ...
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I saw a colleague - my ex tutor - spying on my conversation with CEO about salary [closed]

A few weeks ago I got a good news from the CEO of the company where I did an internship. He told me that he wanted to hire me. A few days later I was called by him to talk about the contract details ...
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How to deal with a coworker that shuts me down?

I have a coworker that works in a different department than me that I frequently consult with to perform my duties. For example if I need something changed on the server, they are the one I need to ...
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I think I smelled whiskey in a colleague's cup at work. What’s the right way to approach this?

So I was helping a colleague to fix a bug and definitely smelled whiskey in his cup. I have no idea what my company’s policy is on alcohol while working, but can only assume it’s frowned upon. We ...
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How to handle another intern from the same school lying to leave work early?

I'm currently doing an internship while being a student. The company I'm at has always hired interns from my school and given them good projects, it's really a big opportunity for students. Another ...