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Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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Had miscarriage, how to deal with coworkers

I was pregnant and exhibited pregnancy symptoms throughout first trimester. Some co-workers guessed I was pregnant. I just found out I miscarried and will have procedure tomorrow. Next week I return ...
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How do you handle co-workers that want to converse with you in the bathroom?

I find that when I am in the bathroom I want to get in and out. I don't mind a simple "Hi" or "How's it going?" when I wash my hands but some co-workers step over this line. I have had managers talk ...
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Male colleague using female bathroom and not cleaning up

I work in a growing company with only 1 bathroom for women, and 1 for men. The bathrooms are always occupied and everyone needs to wait from time to time. My male colleague uses the female bathroom, ...
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How do I get a coworker to stop chit chatting?

I am a software developer and I have an older coworker (60+ years old) who comes to me every time he has a question about anything involved with computers. Most of the time I am busy and I have no ...
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What should I do with my perverted and gloomy colleague?

I have this colleague that I am close to at work although we work in different floors. He has been very supportive when I was having a difficult time with my colleagues in my department when I was ...
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Should I recommend a fired colleague?

I work at a multi-location company, on a project involving people from different offices. I had a co-worker at another location who worked on the same project as me for a few months. Recently she was ...
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How to decline a colleague's requests for a drive home?

I have a colleague that asked me for a ride home once because he had to get home in a hurry, so I gave him a lift. Now yesterday he asked for a ride home again, and while I did give him a lift, I ...
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How can I recommend that a colleague be excluded from my team?

Background My colleague and I were hired as leads on a new data warehousing team. She does great in meetings, knows the right questions to ask and appears very competent in customer-facing ...
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Co-Worker Overreacts to Request for Clarification

I received an email from a business user requesting an update of national identifiers for 1150 employees. Being the fairly new guy (I've been with the company for only a year), I looped in the other ...
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How to deal with a developer who thinks all technical questions should be answered by him only?

I work as a UX Program manager in a large creative team where we take on a number of projects. The team by itself is pretty amazing and I get along with everyone and enjoy learning with everyone. ...
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I don't want to congratulate a colleague for a poorly done final year project

One of my colleagues told everyone at work that her final year project, an Android mobile app, has been approved. I don't think highly of this project as it is a copy of another app already published ...
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How to respond to unprofessional gossip about colleague in the workplace?

Jane is one of my female colleagues. She doesn't get on well with a third colleague, Joe. As he does every morning, Joe comes in to our office to say hello. Right after that, I receive an instant ...
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Should I be giving unsolicited help?

Situation is this: X and Y sit near my cubicle. X asks Y some question, which Y doesn't know an answer to, but together they spend quite some time talking on that. I have heard their conversation, ...
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How to deal with a colleague who consistently schedules meetings that should be emails? [duplicate]

I've got a great team to work in and I absolutely love my job, but one of my colleagues will continually insist on meetings, even/especially after a 'long' email discussion. They're often <= 30 ...
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I will soon become the manager of a close friend. How do I be an effective manager and friend?

A close friend of mine will soon be moving into my department. We see each other outside of work and our significant others both work together at a different institution. I want to be an effective ...
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How to behave with women in my company when it's International Women's Day?

Today I woke up and remembered that today is International Women's Day. I am not exactly the person who likes to greet and give wishes to everyone, and I am often kinda embarrassed when I have to do ...
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How do I tell a coworker not to keep asking me to pass on illness/absence messages to our manager?

Maybe I'm being petty, but my friend and co-worker has, on a few occasions now, asked me to tell our manager that e.g. he's not working today or that he'll be working from home because he's sick or ...
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My boss slapped me over a calculation error [closed]

My boss slapped me because My Excel file had a calculational error. I fixed the error and saved the file to the network. If I complain, I guess I will just get fired. But I don't want to work for ...
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Is it professional to write unrelated content in an almost-empty email?

I am employed in a consultancy company and I work at the client workplace. Monthly, I have a client employee sign a timesheet to certify the number of hours I have actually worked. I then scan the ...
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How can I achieve and excel in a civilian job where the leadership essentially refuses to allow growth?

Tl;dr: I am not getting the tools and knowledge required in order to complete my job effectively, despite repeated requests and attempts to do so. I want to keep the job and be good at it. How can I ...
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Friend got overpaid but doesn’t report it - is it my obligation to report it?

A friend/coworker of mine recently left the company after his internship ended. He later told me that got overpaid with his last salary but also said that I shouldn’t tell anyone so he didn’t have to ...
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How to deal with apathetic co-worker?

I work in gastronomy in a rather small restaurant. The co-worker I spend most of my work-day around has become more and more apathetic over the past few months. It was a very gradual change, so I am ...
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How to approach senior colleague who overwrote my work files?

I've been working on a SQL dashboard project whereby I modified a template script. I became stuck on part of the project and asked for help from a senior colleague (on the same level as my manager ...
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How can I deal with a coworker who keeps trying to put blame on my shoulders?

I have this coworker that I help out very often. One reason he would approach me is that he doesn't have much experience in web applications. However, he is good in his domain. This person has a ...
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Workplace gossip makes me uncomfortable - how do I deal with it?

At some of my jobs people love to gossip about each other. I don't like to participate in gossip. I've found that if I speak up to tell these people that I believe gossipping is bad, I become a ...
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Coworker has a borderline-NSFW ringtone that is disturbing. How can I get him to change it?

A coworker has a song as their phone's ringtone, and the song lyrics could be flagged NSFW. It does not contain actual cursing, but has tons of obvious sexual innuendo. I think it is disturbing. I ...
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How to handle unreachable colleagues not performing / your work being blocked

I'm responsible for the setup of a whole range of new servers, to replace older platforms. This is in a multi-national, with offices across the world. As such I've had to order servers through each ...
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How can I deal with favoritism?

I work in a small team where our lead likes one person more than others. Here are some examples which made me conclude this - Whatever code others write is always looked upon with suspicion. They ...
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Problems with loud, bossy colleague

I just graduated from college and started in this new company 6 months ago. I have a problem with a colleague at work. He is not well liked by other colleagues in the office. He's loud, bossy and ...
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Is it rude to email a coworker that I expect him to do something?

I recently told a coworker on a different team in an email (with 10 people on CC as part of the conversation): I expect you to talk to me regarding [issue], and not wait for things to happen. ...
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Confront boss when he divulges a private discussion about another employee?

Our small team which consists of 3 staff and our boss recently have added a fourth person to the mix. It became immediately clear that he was not a fit personality-wise or skill-wise. He was a rush-...
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Should I tell a fellow intern that he won't be hired?

I am presently interning at a company as a part of my B.Tech curriculum. This is my final semester, and once this internship ends that is the end of my B.Tech degree. One of my B Tech colleagues ...
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Send wedding invitations to some co-workers but not all

I am getting married next year and want to invite some co-workers to my wedding because I have a friendly connection with them. I work at an open floor plan and we lunch with about 15 people every ...
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How do I get my coworkers to not touch my computer screen?

It bothers me when a coworker who is talking with me at my desk reaches out and stabs a finger into the screen, leaving fingerprints/skin oil (sometimes repeatedly and lingeringly rolling that finger ...
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Should I help co-workers with their projects?

A new employee joined our company 2 months ago. He was a newbie (well, I am not a pro either, but I definitely know more than he does) so he often asked me for help. And today when I arrived at work I ...
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What is an appropriate response to the death of a coworker's loved one?

My coworker's father passed away. The following day, an employee from HR sent out an office-wide email with the obituary and viewing details with the coworker's permission, and started a fund for a ...
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How to handle unintentional innuendos [duplicate]

Working in international groups where different participants communicate through a common language, often English, can lead to unintentional innuendo. In this case the innuendo is due to slang terms ...
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Coworker CCs boss on trivial email correspondence

I have a coworker who has a habit of CCing our common boss on nearly all email correspondence. The boss is hands-on enough to know what we are talking about but he is also cool and practical enough ...
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How to deal with an incompetent colleague?

The setup... A little more than a year ago, we started a search for a "rock star" developer. We had lost our legitimately brilliant lead developer to a start up. I was able to step in and fill his ...
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How to manage a co-worker you dislike

I have recently been promoted to manage a small team I worked in before. My problem is, one of my coworkers. The co-worker (Jane) is a person I really do not like. We’ve had several loud clashes. ...
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How handle a situation in which a domain-expert has fabricated his history of expertise?

I work in a large multinational which is experimenting in new forms of project management. We have invested a great deal of trust to an individual who is training members of staff. He was hired ...
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HR treating new hires like kids [closed]

Recently graduated and started working for a large organization. The company provides training for new hires. Throughout the training, we are mentored by more senior employees. As a part of the ...
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How can I communicate better with a co-worker who is not a good listener?

I've been working as an engineer in a company. I have been working alone on a large scale maintaining project and there is a project manager beside me. Recently, the company hired an employee who ...
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How to deal with a coworker that told you about the position and now feels he/she owns you?

I am currently working on a company I found through a compatriot who is currently my coworker, and I get the feeling that he is acting as if he owned me because he told me about the position the ...
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Working with another intern who does nothing? [duplicate]

I'm working as a software engineering intern at a corporate company. I'm ecstatic for this opportunity and trying my hardest to read code, ask questions, make mistakes and learn. However, I'm paired ...
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Should I Just Deal With Interruptions?

I'm a lead developer of a 6 person software team. Among the applications we develop are some that are used for in-house operations. As lead, I'm a resource to the other developers and a liaison to ...
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How do I avoid company outings without being an outcast?

I currently work for a small (15-25 employees) startup that likes to have company outings. Things like going bowling, going to a bar, etc. Work is never discussed. There is a lot of social pressure to ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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Asked to use CCTV to check fellow employee's hours

I am the only employee with access to the CCTV system but I have never been certified in CCTV operation and we do not have a CCTV policy. I inherited it as I am the IT Systems Administrator. HR have ...
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Someone from HR suggesting that I should not hang out with a coworker [closed]

I am pretty new at my work, having only been there for a few months (compared to people who have worked there for up to 10 years) and I felt a little pushed aside during lunch breaks or company ...