Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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Someone from HR suggesting that I should not hang out with a coworker [closed]

I am pretty new at my work, having only been there for a few months (compared to people who have worked there for up to 10 years) and I felt a little pushed aside during lunch breaks or company ...
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How to prevent managers from unequally distributing work?

I work at a relatively new startup. I work with a particular language known for its high level abstraction, and my coworkers work with other programming languages. Now, I am relatively skilled at a ...
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Improving social interaction at work [closed]

I'm working in a small team of developers and often it's very quiet. While that's a plus, it is sometimes a bit awkward if nobody talks for almost the whole day. It feels like you go to work, program ...
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What do I do if a co-worker is leaving early frequently while the boss is out?

We are a team of 10 people, and one of them is leaving early. They are supposed to work 8:00 hours like everyone else but they are working about 7:30. Our manager is out of office till next month. ...
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Govt job, I'm given 2x more work for the same pay as my coworkers [closed]

I work for a State Government, doing acquisition of property for public projects. We essentially get assigned "parcels", and have what is referred to as a LET date, where we need to acquire everything....
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How to come out gay without jeopardising relationships with colleagues?

I have a friend who is openly gay, but the team does not know. The team refers to his partner as his girlfriend. This has been going on for a while, and it is now too awkward to go back and disclose ...
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My co-worker is not happy when I do well [closed]

I work as a qualified dental technician. I started about a year ago at my current lab and a few months after, a trainee joined. I work part time (30 hours a week) and she works full time. She is hard-...
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How can I learn to communicate better with colleagues from another profession?

My experience is in online marketing, UI/UX and web design, but I know virtually no programming. I have recently been hired to build a new, fairly complex site from scratch, for which I will be ...
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How to educate teammate to take screenshots for bugs without unwanted stuff

We have a new team mate as a QA (software tester). He recently started to execute the regression suites in our application and reporting bugs. When reporting the bugs in TFS, he used to attach the ...
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Should I mention a coworker working on personal projects to my manager? [duplicate]

In short, a coworker is working on short stories / novels during his down time at work. While I have looked at this question, I think it's different in that his writing is definitely for profit, not ...
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How to deal with a colleague who mocks me

A member of the team I work with is a guy who considers himself "super-smart". He makes snide remarks to me for no specific reason. I have not previously had any such problems with others, so I can't ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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How to behave with a colleague who suffered the loss of a close family member?

A colleague had recently lost a close relative and was out of office for about a week. He just returned to work. We do not interact frequently as our duties are not directly related. However, we sit ...
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What do I have to consider when working with Muslim colleagues?

We have a new colleague in our team and she's Muslim. Technically she's my subordinate, so I want to avoid as many pitfalls as possible. What are things one needs to know in this context? Prayer-...
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How can I ask a coworker about their salary package?

I may get a promotion in the upcoming month, and I want to know what sort of pay to expect or negotiate for. My senior colleague is in the same position I would be promoted to, and I would like to ...
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How to deal with a colleague who wants to groom me for the job unsolicited?

I am working in a somewhat old startup with a team size of 10. In my opinion, all members are technically sound and work great as a team. A few months before I joined, another programmer joined the ...
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A colleague borrowed a book, then took home without permission. How can I get it returned? [closed]

A colleague borrowed a work-related book (value ~£30) a few months back. Recently I went to ask for it back, but they had taken it home without permission. For the past two weeks they 'keep ...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down

Environment: My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question. I ...
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The CEO wants my colleague to work more hours than what we pay him for [duplicate]

My boss wants projects to be delivered 'quicker', he is a workaholic and expects everyone else to follow suit. By that, he means telling my colleague who is working out in India to work longer hours i....
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How soon after should I follow up on a missed deadline?

If someone working on a document tells me he will email it to me tomorrow, and that I will have it by 10:00, how long after the deadline should I wait to follow up? I feel that emailing (or worse, ...
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Teammates are actively ignoring my work, what should I do?

Foreword: some specifics are related to software development, but this is a workplace problem, so I believe it belongs here. I'm the only junior developer in a team of senior mobile developers, ...
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Crying Co-Worker

I sit next to a co-worker who consistently has issues. As a human being I feel bad for her, but at the same time I do not appreciate the constant (once a week) loud personal conversations that she ...
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How to work with somebody who works quickly without caring for quality? [closed]

I work at an organisation with a very small dev department, developing a project with one co-worker only. We are both junior, never used ASP MVC .NET or worked on production grade code before. The ...
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Should we maintain the difference between personal and professional contacts?

I am a newbie in a professional world and hence I have some new friends in my working area including some seniors. So, we are also connected from a social networking site but the issues is I am ...
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How do I politely ask my co-workers and my boss not to talk in a regional local language during meetings and project discussions [duplicate]

Last week I was deputed to my office headquarter. In the beginning everything was fine, but after a few weeks some of my co-workers started having conversations in local regional language during ...
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How to deal with colleagues applying to the same company where I was just hired?

I am in a new situation and I don't know if I am supposed to do something about it or not. I was hired by a new company and will be starting in January. As soon as I had the new contract I resigned ...
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How to prevent non-technical and disruptive persons from coming to our technical meetings? [closed]

I work in a small team and recently we had to merge with another team (slightly larger) in a business vertical. Both teams are dealing with some satellite applications related to Business Intelligence....
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How do I tell a coworker he's wrong?

At my job as a software engineer, I am in a situation where I am right and my coworker is wrong. This is definitive; it's a black and white situation that can be "Googled" for an answer. Normally I ...
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What happens if I poison a co-worker who has been stealing my food? [closed]

I must have the worst luck. Not only have I been feeling rather 'backed up*' lately but someone at work has also been stealing my sandwiches! I’m not looking for help on either of these issues ...
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How do I motivate my colleagues?

Sometimes I have to work with a particular colleague on my team; the problem is, in my opinion, that he takes his work too lightly. When I start a job, I commit to it and want to meet my deadlines and ...
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Balance between quiet workplace and necessary discussion

We are having some strain in the team due to the level of noise in the office. Background: We share a single office with a team of six software developers. We generally have a good team atmosphere, ...
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How to deal with under-performing coworker during leadership change

I work in IT, in a healthcare facility in the US. The IT department manager was fired. Unrelated, the next level boss—the CFO—transferred to another facility. It has been declared that the manager ...
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How should I tell a coworker that his headphones are too loud?

I work in an open cubicle environment, and as is common elsewhere, people use headphones to deal with the noise. I have an across-the-wall coworker who frequently listens to music so loud that I can ...
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How can I deal with co-workers that send me a lot of off topic emails?

A few of my colleagues have a tendency of sending a variety of off topic emails, ranging from the usual "funny" stuff to serious, but still not work related stuff. I really don't like that, my inbox ...
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Shared Fluorescent Light Problem

Our office is primarily lit by very intense, very annoying fluorescent lights, and I find that they give me a headache if I sit under them for too long. My resolution for this is to get a lamp with a ...
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Gotten enmeshed with constantly helping a co-worker with their homework during work

Prior to getting my degree and becoming a programmer, I was the head tutor of my college. When I was hired, part of my expectations were to help teach programming concepts to the team when they ...
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When you have passive aggressive co-workers

I've been at the same gig for almost 8 years. I was hired in as a software developer (the entire SDLC) and am the only developer in a small IT department. We went through lay offs awhile back and ...
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How can I keep myself from overstepping my authority with co-workers?

The other day, my boss approached me in private and had a very surprising talk with me - a talk about how important it is for me and my co-worker to go to him for help, to work together where we can, ...
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How do I deal with a team member that keeps taking on tasks that he cannot solve?

I was hesitant whether I should post this on programmers instead, but I think that this problem is generally applicable. We have a junior team member (about two years with the company) who keeps ...
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Slowed down by code reviews

Our dev team have agreed that all code contributed to the project must be reviewed. We branch off master and merge back for every unit of work (sometimes a whole feature, sometimes just work-in-...
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Should I report to HR and involve others if I am being wrongly accused of theft?

Today something weird happened to me at work - I was accused of stealing a ring by my company's security personnel. Of course, I didn't do it; I even helped my colleague to try to find the ring. My ...
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Should I tell on my colleague for not keeping to assigned work-hours and abusing work-hours as break time? [closed]

Update: Thanks for all the answers, some more useful than others. Conclusion is: I went to HR and told them my concerns about said employees behavior. Turns out I wasn't the first to complain so they ...
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How do I deal with a co-worker who thinks his own shortcomings are funny?

I have a co-worker who constantly misses deadlines, hands in incomplete work, or claims that things he doesn't want to deal with are 'too hard'. For reasons beyond the scope of this question he will ...
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Should I report a coworker who is stealing from me?

This may seem pretty trivial, but it really bothers me. In my cubicle I have an area set aside for my personal effects, nothing expensive. Among those items is a carton containing packages of peanut ...
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Sexist and homophobic jokes from teammates. Should I approach my Scrum Master or Manager?

I belong to a team of engineers and I have been often hearing sexist, racist, homophobic and transmisogynist jokes from some of them. At first they have been telling it to themselves, which I don't ...
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How can I get my colleagues to stop interrupting me?

I am the youngest and the least experienced member of my team of eight. Everyone else has at least six years' experience. I have been observing that, for a long time now, whenever I try making a ...
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In an exit interview, (how) do I tell my manager about my replacement's lack of skills?

I'm a software engineering co-op that's finishing my term in the next few days. I've worked solo on a decently sized project that seems to have garnered some interest from my co-workers. I really like ...
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How to defend myself from someone trying to undermine me?

TL;DR Co-worker doesn't do his job and is trying to blame me for his low performance, what is the best way to get out of this situation? Is talking to his manager a good option? At my company, my ...
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Is it ok to ask former colleagues for feedback after being terminated?

I was recently fired from a job, and am struggling to understand why. The reasons given were unclear and contradictory, and management were defensive when I asked for detail - this was also my ...