Questions tagged [colleagues]
Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.
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How can I help developers reduce amount of instant messages to my team?
I am the team lead of the IT security team where I currently work. We have recently completed our annual vulnerability penetration testing and now user stories to remediate vulnerabilities are been ...
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How to deal with a coworker who may be depressed
Recently an intern joined me to work on a project. We are the only people working on this project. A month went by and it was going well; he was completing all the tasks in time and has the talent to ...
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How do I lean in into a new job without sounding needy
I am fortunate to not only have a job in the current climate, but am paid decently well. However, I am the newest employee in the "team" and about to complete week 4. I work for a relatively decent ...
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Was I wrong asking my boss whether my co-worker needed to get checked at Employee Health?
My co-worker just flew back from vacations in Ft. Lauderdale and had previously said she needed to get checked at Employee Health before returning to work, but she just showed up.
I asked her ...
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How can I survive in a company where everyone's trying to throw each other under the bus?
I joined my company a few months ago. Every time I've asked someone for help with something, they'll both:
Email my manager to let them know that I didn't know something, and ask if my manager was ...
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How to deal with being the 'loud person'
There are already a few questions and answers from the perspective of workers who deal with loud colleagues:
Loud and unprofessional employee and
What can I do about a very loud coworker?
As someone ...
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Instant Messaging: How to Politely Re-ask an Ignored Question
With the current state of the workplace, many companies now run things from a 'work from home' perspective. My current workplace is similar, with everyone working from home, so there is no way to ask ...
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Using a colleague's laptop without asking for permission
In one of my previous jobs, I had the following situation, and I'm not sure what would have been the right way to react.
Once, during a team meeting, I was showing something work related on my laptop ...
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How do I deal with a senior coworker with argumentative and disrespectful tone in emails?
I am a remote worker on a mostly office-bound team. I am not particularly experienced (about 3 years out of college, all with this same company), but our team is mostly people around my age, with one ...
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Should I work while on vacation?
I am the only web guy in our firm and get asked to work on client issues even while on vacation (PTO). It's understandable if it's an emergency production issue, but even for non-production/test ...
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How to handle a co-worker using Microsoft Teams incorrectly
I work in a small company (10-15 employees). Approximately a year and a half ago we took on employees who work remotely and, as such, we started using Microsoft Teams.
Internally we are two teams, ...
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Coworkers acting like I have coronavirus [closed]
I am a resident of Omaha, Nebraska. I have never traveled internationally, and have only thrice in my life even traveled outside of Nebraska. I am fairly introverted, and usually spend my free time ...
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How to be appreciated for working alone and delivering results over “being a team-player”? Please see the description for more details
I have been working in IT as an employee for about 5 years.
I have had many bad experiences working in teams. I like working alone. I am good at recognizing patterns, doing investigative and analysis ...
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How can I deal with a disruptive team member?
I'm currently acting as a Project Manager and Tech Lead within a really small team, as we are just starting out. I manage about 6 people so far, and the integration and communication between the team ...
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Was offloaded a colleague's direct reports and duties as she was ineffective. She's leaving and boss won't assign duties back to replacement
I was the first choice for a Supervisor position at my company in a different department but my boss would not release me as I was needed on an essential business project. The project ended ...
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How Should I Handle a Coworker/Friend who is Upset with Me?
I found out about two days ago, that a coworker/friend has been upset with me for months.
A few of us were planning to go out after work with our team so we asked [Joe] if he wanted to join us, but ...
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What to do (if anything) about a desk neighbor on my project who verbally and physically expresses anger and frustration? And I feel intimidated
I'm part of my own team but the nature of it is that I sometimes get "hired out" to work with another team in the same company as a sort of subject matter expert. Today and for the last 3 months or so ...
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Should I shake hands with everyone at the start of the day?
I have just joined a company. What I have seen there is that our seniors regularly come to my seat and shake hands with me and all. Do I also need to do the same and shake hands with all employees on ...
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How can I let a coworker know I'm not interested in socializing with him?
There's a coworker at my job who asked me out on my first day and I said no. Since then he keeps trying to socialize with me by sitting next to me while I eat my lunch. I'm really not interested in ...
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Can a supervisor forbid me from being friends or talking with a co-worker?
Summary: friend at work is a poor performer, my manager tells me they are bad influence and I should stop hanging out with them.
I work as a teacher and am a union member. I have one co-worker who I ...
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Someone on my team is sending bigoted emails to another member on my team
I manage a dev and project team with about 15 people. Every morning we have a stand up. Fairly standard stuff for an agile team.
However, about once a month, someone who clearly participated in the ...
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Is not having friends at work normal?
I am an international student and I have got my first job as an intern at a company in Canada. I sometimes think that I am not good at communication and making friends. I have very little friends at ...
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Is it appropriate to ask a coworker about “what happened” after they suddenly told me that tomorrow will be their last day?
A senior coworker who's been with the company for over 6 years, suddenly approached my desk, handed me their card with info and said, "It has been nice working with you, I told [top boss] that ...
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I've realized my coworker is a narcissist. What next? [closed]
While watching various videos on mental health and anxiety, I began to come across videos on narcissism. This led me to this list. I'll just include the headers so I don't just copy the author's ...
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Is being anti social a serious hinderance in my career? How to cope with it?
OK So I am looking for a job right now, was out of the country for some time and now back in trying to settle. I am a software engineer with 10+ years of experience, I am having a bit of hard time ...
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I am someone who is an excellent individual or hand picked team performer, but generally a bad team player. How can I be less irritating?
This similar recent question popped up, but I am more interested in mitigating frustrations (without compromising my productivity) rather than getting away with them.
I am someone who is immensely ...
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What does it risk if… I get caught looking at the pay sheet in my coworker's bag by my manager? [closed]
What does it risk if... I get caught looking at the pay sheet in my coworker's bag by my manager ?
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How do I deal with a co-worker that keeps making the same jokes, and same remarks?
Basically, I work in a small company that usually will have 4-5 fulltime workers at a time in the office. There are separate rooms in the office, and I share a room with a co-worker who I will call '...
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Ex Manager shares Homophobic posts [closed]
It's quite a lot that I wonder if I should do something or just be quiet.
So, one of me ex colleague from a previous job, that I have on facebook, shares all the time homophobic posts (honestly he ...
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How to deal with developer with “special role” in a scrum team?
I took over the job of a product owner in a scrum team (size: about 10 people) a few months ago (where I was a part of the development team for a few years before). The team is one of about 20-30 ...
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How much can I get away with making management happy but irritating co-workers?
I'm a software developer on a Scrum team and my actions make me a favorite of upper management but seemingly frustrate my co-workers. Now, I don't really care if they are unhappy, but rather I am ...
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How do you politely say no to taking on work from a coworker that’s politically connected?
How do you politely say no to taking on work from a coworker that’s politically connected without jeopardizing your job? Sometimes the coworker that’s politically connected, ie to the boss, passes ...
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How to work with a senior colleague that you have bad chemistry with?
I work as a junior-ish software developer in a small team inside a fairly large company. We've recently hired a new senior software developer. He is very good at what he does, with lots more ...
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How can / should I deal with my manager, who has already lost staff due to his behaviour, without leaving?
I joined my current company not even a year ago, I knew the manager (Paul) previously an old work colleague from many years ago. A guy who I've had on facebook but not seen during this time. But we ...
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A good colleague but a bad outcome - how do I politely say that I'll need to do it again myself?
I reached out to the team for some help on a task the other day. They offered to help (not specifically in my team but in another department) and they earnestly got on with the task.
I'm new to this ...
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What can I do to make a coworker's lack of effort more visible?
There have been a number of questions where people have been dealing with coworkers who were not pulling their weight. The common perception seems to be that this is due to lack of effort or ability.
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How can I constructively address the fact that a coworker with the same (senior) title doesn't have the basic skills for the role
I am an in a QA automation position, with the title "Senior" which is nice. I have a coworker, let's call him Sam, who also has a "Senior" in his title.
I was happy with my title until Sam came along ...
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How do I approach a difficult conversation with a colleague?
I have been tasked to work very closely with a slightly more senior colleague at work, he is pretty much overseeing everything I do at the moment.
I find it very difficult to work with him because he ...
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How can I highlight how much better I've made our code and deal with a coworker that disagrees?
I joined a company to help add some functionality to their code. The code is legacy and has been terribly maintained. The technology is ~15 years old.
It takes days to track down bugs and problems ...
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What's an effective way to speak slower and more clearly, after being told that I speak too fast?
Recently my employer (staff and supervisors) has given me feedback that I speak really fast -- and they gave their best impressions of what I'm doing and how it sounds to them.
I know I can speak ...
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Should I tell a colleague that he probably won't be taken on?
I work in a software company and a new colleague who has been working for us for three months is getting some criticism in his absence. Our senior developers say he is performing poorly (his ...
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How to deal with co-worker that asks what i'm doing and talks idly?
I have a co-worker that comes to me everyday and asks what I an doing and what have I completed. He comes in about once every hour and distracts me for 5 minutes. He isn't in my department and also ...
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Am I obligated to work with my sexist coworker?
I have been working in company Z for a year now. I get along very well with most of my coworkers except for one who is sexist. This coworker is older than me and has been working for the company for ...
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Coworker makes same money as me
I work for a company where a coworker that is at a lower position than me makes the same money as me. I have 4x more responsibilites than him but yet he makes the same amount. I understand that I may ...
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Ex boss doesn't want me to work on a project---rest of the dev team wants to go behind their back
An odd situation has been arising at work, specifically within the team I'm on, and I wanted to ask about it here to see if anyone's been in a similar situation.
People:
BigBoss - Team head
ExBoss - ...
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How do I unfriend a co-worker? [duplicate]
TL;DR; I want to unfriend a coworker for her overly attached behavior, but she is also a QA of some of the projects that I develop.
I was dragged into a group of 4 girls at work without me trying to ...
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Being a single thread resource, should I still spend time/ hang around with my competency team?
I am working on 3 separate projects that are linked under my competency's team but are completely separate/independent from that team's major project. I have been a part of the team for almost a year ...
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Sexist and homophobic jokes from teammates. Should I approach my Scrum Master or Manager?
I belong to a team of engineers and I have been often hearing sexist, racist, homophobic and transmisogynist jokes from some of them.
At first they have been telling it to themselves, which I don't ...
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How to deal with Coworker Leering at another
I work in a small company (one big office), and I am the employee that everyone goes to to solve their issue (I have been working in this company the longest). The manager of the company is overseas, ...
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How do I stop obeying my junior team member all the time?
I work in a small software company. A junior developer joined my team few months back. The problem is that I am constantly obeying whatever he asks me to do.
I am just a senior person on team and don'...
