Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How to deal with difficulties of understanding a colleague (in person conversation)

Over the years every now and then I end up working with people whom I have trouble understanding in English. I am not a native English speaker and usually they are not either. Here I want to indicate ...
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Coworker stated they're unable to work with me?

I'm not really sure where to go.. so maybe this place and help a bit. I've been at my current job for over two years now, we're a small jewelry company. The business changed hands to a individual (...
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How to suggest “helping” a coworker in chat without sounding condescending?

I started a new job recently. A coworker (let's call him Sam) is tasked with helping me do the initial project setup. At one point, he wanted to share a huge file (about 1 GB in size) with me. Now ...
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How to cope with a type of colleague puts his nose into your profession?

I'm the only electrical engineer in a company where I take care of all the electronics part of other projects. Among my colleagues there is one who is a civil engineer and getting on my nerves. Let me ...
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Helping a mean coworker

A colleague has been a jerk to me. We used to work on a same project but now are on different teams. I hold him in contempt. 1) He does not help even if you ask him the smallest of doubts or favors. ...
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Colleague fixes my bugs

I value my free time and try not to work from home on weekends as one of my colleagues. Recently I got into following situation: Friday evening (after working hours) QA hit me up on Slack about a ...
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Managment has no idea what the project is about

I am in a bit of a strange situation. I am part of software development team doing core transformation of existing COBOL based ordering system. There are also plans for future sales channel being ...
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Handling awkward coworker

I have a weird colleague who always wants to know what I am doing, like every single day. Having said that he is not my manager but he acts as if he is my boss. Since I am an R&D engineer, I am ...
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Sending department-wide non-work emails to colleagues. Is it rude?

I really would like to send an email to all the colleagues working in my department about tomorrow's strike and the recent UN report about climate change with some links in order to raise their ...
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Superiour colleague is way too intrusive

I work here for about 4 months and one of my colleagues keeps pestering me, on my opinion. Maybe I'm wrong and it's just him being kind and friendly, but I feel bad about it and thinking of leaving ...
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How can I handle colleagues messaging several people about the same problem?

As a part (not the main part) of my work I help colleagues with technical issues and answer their questions. I work in a very big company (10k+ employees), so colleagues rarely approach me in person. ...
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“You are not paid to think, but to do X” is always wrong in the workplace?

Background I work in an IT consultancy company of about 200 people. As in many other companies, we work on multiple projects, with short deadlines, with a lot of pressure, both from internal managers ...
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Dealing with nosy co-workers

We have cubicles at work with low walls to help with collaboration. However, this also invites other behavior from nosy people too. For some reason, someone likes to listen to me when I ask ...
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Self appraisal overall comments [closed]

I am filling self evaluation appraisal form and I need to write overall comments. I have done following during the year. I am a software developer. I act as the glue between various teams and I ...
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How should I deal with an overly annoying colleague?

I currently work in an office that houses two separate companies that are owned by the same person. I work for Company A. Annoying colleague works for Company B. Annoying colleague has pretty much ...
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Is it generally a bad idea to “rat” on co-workers? [closed]

Recently, I witnessed 3 out of our 4 managers joking about the company owner. These jokes weren't the normal "ah he's making me work weekends" stuff, they were pretty heinous in my opinion and it went ...
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How to stop being labeled in a certain way by one's boss?

Recently I noticed that my boss labels me in a particular way in conversations with me, and in meetings with other higher-ups and colleagues. The label appears to be intended as a compliment and is ...
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?

TL;DR A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do? The long version: I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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How to avoid funny initiatives?

I recently started a new job as software engineer in a company with 100 to 200 employees. The company is run like a startup (flexibility, flat management, etc) and there are plenty of interesting ...
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What should I tell a customer when my co-worker fails to show up to a meeting?

I'll typically have meetings with customers in which they set it up and invite me and other co-workers. Sometimes I will show up to this meeting and my co-worker(s) won't because they forgot, became ...
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Relationship with former colleagues

Recently I have been receiving private messages from two former colleagues whom I worked closely with while was working as an intern at my previous workplace. The first guy was my supervisor, he ...
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Problem with coworker frequently cutting me off

I am having a problem with one of my coworkers that seems to be getting worse. We are both Senior Engineers of equal position on the same team, working for a large multinational Engineering company. ...
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Colleague taking credit for my work [closed]

I work at an engineering company where we do circuit development. I was handed the task of laying out the circuit board, tracking everything up, placing components etc on a very small PCB. To fit ...
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How to decline invite to team dinner when I have a prior engagement?

I am being invited to a team dinner which I won't be able to attend as I have to go for swimming coaching classes every evening. I don't know how to decline the invitation and also politely tell ...
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Work ethic ,Simulating activity and being loud [closed]

I have the following situation and I'm not sure how to react. In my team there are three members: A Junior with 2 years of experience Myself and another Senior with 15+ years of experience (...
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Should I talk to a colleague who seems to be suddenly annoyed with me?

I'm in a four person team that is comprised by me, my sister and 2 other guys. One of the two other team members seems to be pissed off about something and I am not sure if I need to address it or ...
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How to deal with co-worker who is unwilling to communicate during meetings?

I have a co-worker who communicates very little during meetings. She is very talkative and outgoing in other situations outside the scheduled meetings. My supervisors keeps asking the two of us to ...
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How do I stop my colleague trying to convince me that I'm trans?

I'm a female software engineer at a medium sized startup in the USA and I've always been a bit masculine[1]. It's never really bothered me. I recently started working on a new project with another ...
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How do I get work done in an open office environment? [duplicate]

I work in an office with an open floor plan and I am distracted by noise around me. I am much less productive and less comfortable when people talk around me. I'll outline the problem and then what ...
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Is it ethical to single-out and fire someone for drinking at lunch when the manager and co-workers did the same?

After 28 very successful days outperforming others in the office, I was fired. From my first day the manager and 5-6 others would have lunch. Manager bought drinks. I thought this was unusual, but ...
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New job, getting pulled into co worker drama

I started an ER registration job about 3 months ago, and there are two coworkers responsible for my training who are going through some teenager level of drama. Apparently, since I am friendly with ...
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Handle criticism over early code at startup

A year ago I started working in a very agile startup. I was the first non-intern developer to join and I worked closely with the CTO to put together a beta version of a pipeline and a product. Due to ...
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My co-worker withholds information about his systems and blames me for “bugs” which aren't my fault

I've been working at a company for some years in a lead position where I have responsibility for a large array of systems. I work with another co-worker at the same level, on independent systems, ...
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Employer hired the wrong skills, what can I do?

I have just been hired by a start-up as a back-end engineer, along with 1 other front-end dev. They want us to developer a complex mobile application within a short deadline. The front-end is a ...
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What is the best way of dealing with a work colleague who triggers my anxiety?

I am in the unfortunate situation where a colleague who literally sits at my bank of desks constantly triggers my anxiety. This has progressed over time and can be anything from: commenting ...
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Colleague used admin access to view my private employee order

A colleague of mine in a different department is a developer for an internal, employee-only discounted retail site within our company. Today, I made a rather large purchase on that site before heading ...
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How can I make sure colleagues do not feel like I accuse them of doing something wrong?

I work in a small company in Thailand, SE Asia. I am originally from Europe. I live and work there since many years, we all speak English in the company, and normally communication works fine. I am ...
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Coworkers accusing me of “cheating” for working more efficiently

I'm a CAD drafter. We have quotas of drawings to get done each day, usually 5/day with the correct forms attached with them. Each one would regularly take around 1.5-2 hours at a normal pace, so to ...
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What can be done about a manager who has driven away several employees?

There is a manager who has been at my company for a long time. Let's call him Dick. He's not my manager, but I frequently work with him, and I get along with him for the most part. Many other people ...
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What's a good way to foster an environment where colleagues feel free to express their opinions, if I'm not in a management role?

I'm a developer working in a team of around 10-15 people, with almost two thirds of them working remotely. We use scrum, and have daily standups, sprint plannings and other meetings over conference ...
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What to do if you are unintentionaly subject of favoritism?

I have the following situation at work. I am part of a team with people having different background age-wise and business wise. Since the beginning of the project It happened so that I took the role ...
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Is it poor workplace etiquette to display signs of relative “wealth” at work when others are struggling financially?

I work in an office with about 40 other people in varying situations (junior up to director level). I'm a little older than my immediate peers (the people I work with and socialize with) and more ...
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How should I professionally not shake hands with women colleagues at the first working day?

At the first I should add that different cultures have different attitudes and believes, so with that in mind I would like to ask my question that may seem weird to almost all European, American, ...
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On notice period - coworker I need to train is giving me the silent treatment

I gave my two-week notice last week and I'm spending this week finishing projects, writing documentation, and passing off some stuff for after I'm gone. Part of my work is sysadmin and we have shitty ...
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How can I politely request that my colleague reduces the number of trivial help requests?

Background: A colleague of mine has recently been moved to my team for which I have been given a more senior role in. The colleague is a very friendly and enthusiastic individual that I get on quite ...
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Bothered by watching coworkers slacking off

Situation I am working in a small office of 4 people, where 2 of us work independently and the 2 others are in a team. It has started to bother me that those 2 in the team are not getting much work ...
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How can I deal with teammate who is not a team player, possibly searching for glory? [closed]

To clarify, this is actually my senior project for my university so no changes could be made personnel wise. However, I'd like to apply this situation to a workplace setting, as that's what it is, ...
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Advice on defusing a tense situation after disrespectful behaviour from a colleague [closed]

This happened to me today and I'm still trying to digest it. To give you some context, I'm working on IT at a company with several branches across Europe. I don't hold any position of responsibility ...
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How to address smirking of colleague [closed]

I work in a small team, this guy had recently joined, like a month ago and I love to teach/mentor and my manager sees me enjoying and good at it, the colleague is of my age but he smirks a lot e.g. If ...
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Handling prospective awkwardness with an internal team move

I have been at a mid-size company for a while (over a year) in team X in a software capacity. I am not growing as well as I anticipated within X and I have been more than patient with regards to the ...