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Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How can I handle an ambitious colleague, promoted ahead of me, that is self-serving and not that great at his job?

Background One of my colleagues joined my company a year after me, on the same level as I was. He and I initially had a good working relationship, though his code quality is sometimes substandard. ...
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How to deal with colleagues making fun of my personal life in office? [closed]

30M here from India. So, I have these 4 colleagues say A, B, C and D in my team. One mistake I did was to tell them about some stories of my personal life. I was seeing 2 girls (at different times) in ...
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How do I stay sane when not only do I have too much idle time at work and unwanted drop-by visits from fellow workers? [closed]

I am not busy enough at work , I have talked to boss and take on work whenever he can find it but still a lot of slow days - that’s bad enough. But I work in an open foyer area so employees are ...
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How to politely tell to a colleague to be more specific?

I got an email from a colleague from another branch asking for help. The email goes more or less like this: Hi everybody, I’m gonna loop the team who has a bit more experience with this XYZ thing. [...
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What to do when managment interrupts a meeting and puts you down infront of everyone

I have the following situation. I am techlead of a team developing and maintaining platform for data exchange in and out of the organization. I am also a consultant. I have a team lead and I also have ...
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An older female colleague wishes to change me

For the last 2 months, I have been working as an intern as the youngest member of the team. I would describe myself as gentle, kind, soft-spoken, introverted and helpful. However I tend to be a little ...
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Snapped at coworker, hurt on job then FIRED [closed]

I snapped at coworker,she called me out on it, I apologized then couple hours later I fell at work and had to go home. Next day I drag myself out of bed hurting but go to work only to get fired, for ...
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Awkward Situation at Work - Need Advice on handling my senior who has grudges against me

My workplace offered a program where they sold old laptops at a very low price through a lottery system. There weren't enough laptops for everyone, so it was a lucky draw. Initially, I wasn't ...
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If your coworkers do not tell you that your hair is messed up, could this be a sign that they do not like you?

Over the years, there were times when it was very windy out and when I walked into my workplace from the parking lot, my hair was very messed up, such that my hair was pointed in different directions ...
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Encouraged to ask certain employee for help

I got a new manager just beginning of this year and he replacing my old boss who got promoted to a different department in same company. So I still talk to my old boss but he is no longer my manager. ...
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How to deal with colleague after argument?

My colleague and I have been working closely on a project and always had a good working relationship. However, recently my colleague was affected by some personal problems and the personal issue ...
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Is pair programming a team lead or a tech lead decision?

I am a tech lead in a team. I was doing a lot of the team lead work because there was no team lead up to now. The team has mixed feelings about pair programming. The main reason for this is that some ...
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Workplace Colleague making Personal Comments

It’s been a while since i started working at a company where this one guy says personal comments about me and teases in front of other people. Here are some examples: In the past, in front of other ...
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Is team retrospective overriding team lead and tech lead

I have the following question. My team consists of tech lead that has been driving also the development process and a newly assigned team lead. The tech lead is reporting not to the team lead but to ...
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Started new role in company, coworker believes they are my boss but they are not

Background I've been with my company for five years and have the most seniority (seniority doesn't really mean much other than scheduling shifts and general knowledge). I offset my regular full-time ...
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Dismissive and uncommunicative coworker when there are clear signs of tension

I have worked with a more junior coworker for some time and recently there has been both degradation in the quality of communication between he and me (curt answers, rude interruptions) and uptick in ...
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Should I come out as a neurodivergent? [closed]

after two of my children came with a combination of neurodivergent traits and were diagnosed with a range of stuff like ADHD, autism, and Tourette. I decided on my own to undergo a psychiatric ...
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How to deal with a possibly autistic colleague that seems to be fixated on me

At the moment I (F) have a colleague (M) that works now for 5 months at my workplace. At the beginning naturally like everyone else you don't know someone yet and need time to get to know one another. ...
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A colleague is answering question my colleagues are asking me

I am tech lead of a project and I have one senior member, a smart guy. He does not sit immediately next to my desk, but it is an open office, so he is a couple of meters away. I am not very fast in ...
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Dealing with a coworker who asks me to stay late

A coworker routinely asks me to stay late and help him close. He does this when I’m a mid shifter and sometimes when I open. He already got in trouble for staying late while he is closing; we have to ...
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Am I in my rights to ask a colleague to not take notes on everything I say outside a meeting? [closed]

I'm a software engineer with 20+ years of experience. I am used to people taking notes in meetings and outside meetings and I have been more or less fine with that. I have a new colleague who ...
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How to handle a colleague who spends hours every day chatting about personal/home projects with me and other teammates

A colleague from a different team often spends hours discussing his personal projects with us during work hours. These projects, which are somewhat related to our field, become a frequent topic of ...
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terrible recruitment should/how I complain [closed]

I am a techlead to a rather complex technical(not many functional requirements, predominantly non functional) backend application. The project is very complex with regards of the people working on it: ...
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Coworker repeating what I say but with different words

I am communicating in non-english language, one not native to me. I have this super analytical guy in the team as a coworker and I keep noticing that when I say something, analyze a problem, or ...
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Saying no to doing my coworker's task on his day off

A coworker and I have a task that we take turns running. If we have a day off we can ask someone else to do the task. He wants me to do it next weekend since he usually works but he has a day off. Can ...
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Mumbling coworker [closed]

I have a coworker who constantly mumbles under his breath impolite things about me or other coworkers. I find it very rude, because others can clearly hear him, although it's possible he is unaware ...
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How to address a coworker's undermining behavior that affects my performance?

I work as an engineer for a large company in the US and am facing challenges with a co-worker who exhibits offensive behavior towards me. We are part of a three-person core team within a larger group, ...
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My Product Manager Traveling To My City, Should I Meet Her In Person?

I've been working remotely for a year now for this company. On our daily meeting, my PM said she will travel to my country tomorrow. Is it okay if I reach out to her and ask if I can treat her meal ...
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How to set boundaries regarding hours of work with colleagues who like to work late

I happen to be a software engineer with a family, luckily the company owner is a fair and just person who also has a family, but everyone else seems to not have family responsibilities. We recently ...
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Dealing with an incompetent colleague on a project

I'll try to keep the introduction very brief and elaborate further down. I work as a senior cloud engineer and our boss manages 4-5 teams of 3-6 people. My colleague - also a senior cloud engineer - ...
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How to deal with an oversmart/bossy colleague?

I am part of a team: 2 senior developers (8+ Years, including myself and my colleague X), 4 junior developers. X is not my reporting manager, and my reporting manager doesn't involve herself in our ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Long story short, I work as a data scientist in a small team. The working environment is quite unusual. Key facts: The lead data scientist's technical expertise wasn't checked during the interview (...
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What would be good gift card amount to give to a departing senior coworker? [closed]

A very helpful coworker is leaving our company and our manager shared a link for us to leave a farewell message with the option to contribute to an Amazon gift card. I'm leaning towards contributing ...
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Struggling with Team Dynamics: Dealing with a Critical and Ambitious Junior Developer

I'm currently facing a challenging situation within my development squad, and I'm seeking advice on how to navigate it effectively. Eight months ago, our team leader and I hired a junior developer for ...
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How to deal with colleague making fun of my decisions [duplicate]

Context: I work as a developer and support specialist in a medium-sized business with a lot of offices around the country. We often get calls from different offices that require technical assistance ...
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How to handle an employee that responds to an email he is copied in on, but is not his responsibility to take that action?

I work in an industry where external emails come in where the senders will typically just throw a bunch of recipients' emails into the TO: and hope they get a response from any one of the parties (so ...
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How do I handle an unclear Work from Home Policy and setting expectations? [closed]

Background details: I am new to leadership on my team. I lead a group of 5 producing data analysis products for various customers. Multiple members of the team are new to this career field and ...
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seeking for guidance from my boss who is on leave

I have just been recruited as an assistant internal auditor without much experience in auditing. Currently, my boss, who is the head internal auditor, is on leave and I am required by the organization ...
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Is it worth making amends with a toxic ex-manager?

I had a very toxic and narcissistic "manager" in my past role. He joined as a senior although other people including me had more experience than him; and soon after, due to lack of enough ...
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Party for a leaving coworker, but I'm off that day

A coworker is leaving the company and they are having a small party in the office. I will be off that day. Is it rude to not show up, since I'm off?
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How to deal with workplace bully? [closed]

I only started my new job a week ago and already feel like Im being bullied by someone there. It's hard to confront her directly as it seems to be different things she does each time. I would rather ...
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How to get coworkers to stop giving me ChatGPT-generated suggestions

I work in computer graphics for a small company on our own game engine. We also have an in house team of artists creating content for this engine. I am often tasked with taking suggestions from the ...
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When (if ever) is it good to speak up if a coworker just sits watching videos all day?

At my job some days I would work out of a room with only one other person in it. 95% of the time he would just sit at his desk watching YouTube videos of World of Warcraft. He wasn't management but he ...
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Teammate keeps clearing throat during video calls

My teammate clears their throat multiple times during meetings, and it's usually pretty loud and right into their microphone. No one's said anything about it, but I've noticed some people pausing ...
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How to handle a coworker who is constantly suggesting improvements in pieces of work I'm primarily responsible for?

In my job, my coworker and I handle a certain aspect of development which has 2 parts, my focus is on one part while my coworkers focus is on the other part. Over the last few months, I have noticed ...
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How can I tell if I'm being singled out by a colleague for being a woman?

I'm a software developer with a respectable work history. I'm confident in the quality of my work, though I know I'm not perfect and not above criticism or correction. I have been discriminated by a ...
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How to deal with technical discussions that get "lost in the detail"?

I am a tech lead in a software development team (but our team is not very hierarchical - I just help with organisational tasks more than other team members do). I recently had a technical discussion ...
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Can someone be fired for giving a coworker a birthday card inside the workplace that is funny, but is also a bit sexist?

I work in an automobile factory in the United States and the vast majority (approximately 90%) of the employees in my department there are male. There is a coworker's birthday coming up next week in ...
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Seeking Guidance on Collaborative Targets with a Colleague Unaccustomed to Teamwork

I'm currently facing a bit of a challenge at work. I've been teamed up with a colleague who usually prefers working on their own projects. It's proving to be a bit tricky as they tend to avoid or ...
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Colleague making up excuses for lack of knowledge

Context: We are a small team of developers working on a single multiplatform project (Web, Mobile and PC). One colleague in particular is in "charge" of the mobile application. I quoted that ...
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