Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my wife?

I'm the owner of a business with about 30-40 employees. Recently, I found out that one of my employees has been having an affair with my wife. The employee has worked for me for 4 years. I felt like I ...
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Coworker keeps threatening to tattle on me for “time theft”

One of my coworkers is especially nosy and keeps tabs on when I come to work and leave, and how long my lunch break is, how many times I go to the restroom and how long each break takes, and so on. ...
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I've killed my colleagues' characters during RPG session, now they won't talk to me

Introduction I am a software developer and I've been with my current company for about 4 months now. Initially I've generally stuck to myself but after a while (a month?) of getting to know everybody ...
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Coworkers accusing me of “cheating” for working more efficiently

I'm a CAD drafter. We have quotas of drawings to get done each day, usually 5/day with the correct forms attached with them. Each one would regularly take around 1.5-2 hours at a normal pace, so to ...
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Is it unprofessional to car share?

To save some money, my colleague and I decided to start car sharing to and from work. Our workplace operates a flexible working policy between 7 and 7 and we often come in early and leave early to ...
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How to deal with a coworker that writes software to give him job security instead of solving problems?

I have a coworker that primarily develops programs for internal use in the company. They design their programs in such a way that they progressively consolidate their position within the company so ...
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How do I prevent colleagues from making fun of the length of my password?

At work, we were required to choose login passwords on our first day. I choose a long and complex (mixed with numbers and symbols) password, it's easy for me to remember, but hard for anyone standing ...
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How to deal with an “I'm not paid enough to do this task” argument?

I'm the current tech lead and team lead of our development team. We usually function like clockwork (with the intern somewhat behind), but today I encountered a problem that I wasn't able to solve. ...
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Coworker throwing cigarettes out of a car, I criticized it and now HR is involved

"On my way to work yesterday, one of my coworkers was driving in front of me on the interstate. This coworker is a smoker. When they finished their cigarette, they flicked it out of the window. I ...
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How to politely tell someone to stop explaining?

It happens occasionally, that I come across something I don't know how to do, and I need someone to show me. So I ask Bob for help, because Bob knows this stuff, and he comes over and starts ...
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Supporting developers who insist on using their pet language

I've joined a team of around five developers building a microservice-based website, in a shop that emphasises autonomy and learning. However, it turns out one of the developers is writing "his" parts ...
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How to deal with a coworker who blamed me for the bug that was his fault

I’m relatively new at a job, but have established myself as the “guy” when it comes to a certain web service we use. Our own website integrates with the service. I don’t really work on the site, just ...
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Dealing with reactions from colleague about being self-taught

I'm working as a software developer for a big company in Western Europe. I have 2 years of industry experience and 2 more years as a freelancer doing web apps on the side. All in all, I've been from ...
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Co-worker works way more than he should

I work in a research facility in Germany. I have lots of co-workers that are from other countries, mostly part of some international collaborative research projects. There's one guy from China who's ...
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How can I dissuade a coworker who is disturbing my work from giving me help I don't feel I need?

When I am focused on a task that is assigned to me, my coworker will frequently shout out "Liz, come here." I go to his desk and find he has been working on my task and he explains to me how to solve ...
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My manager told me to stop helping a (supposedly) underperforming coworker. What are my options?

A bit of background I'm a junior female developer working for a telecommunications company. Shortly after I started, another young woman joined the team. Our manager sat us together with the ...
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Should I avoid telling others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow? [closed]

I'm often afraid to tell others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow. A good programmer should be able to solve problems by searching for solutions independently, right? I feel like if someone ...
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How to gently enforce “nohello” to a coworker?

I am a huge proponent of nohello in the workplace - I get way too many Slack messages and other interrupts to waste time on pleasantries. I keep my Slack status set to "nohello.com" as a way to remind ...
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Why would HR think it's inappropriate that I visited a coworker in the hospital?

I just got out of a meeting with my supervisor and a member of our HR department, giving me a "formal warning" for engaging in inappropriate conduct by visiting a coworker in the hospital. HR told me ...
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Coworker asking me to not bring cakes due to self control issue. What should I do?

Sometimes I bring cakes to work, e.g. leftovers from birthday party to one of the family members. Most coworkers are happy about it and eat them without a problem, however one employee doesn't want ...
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Having lunch at home

I live near my employer's office. All I need to do to reach home is walk for five minutes. To go straight to the point, I prefer having lunch at home. It costs me way less money than going to ...
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Is it inappropriate to invite all my coworkers except for one person to a private event?

I work in a fairly small department, I have 8 coworkers. 7 of them are great, we're good friends, and I love spending time with them - we hang out outside of work often, but usually in groups of 3-4. ...
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How to handle colleagues who are unwilling to write a bug report?

I'm working as a software developer at a small-ish company (~50 employees). My main project is a mobile app. I have most of my colleagues on the alpha test channel and customers do not have access to ...
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How to handle unwanted attention from “fans” in the workplace?

(Disclaimer: I am by no means a famous person, but I do have a medium sized YouTube channel with around 100k subscribers.) So it just happenend that the company I worked for a couple years now hired ...
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Trouble understanding the speech of overseas colleagues

All of my development colleagues (software development company) are based overseas in India (I'm in the UK). I'm in a junior position and a lot of my development relies on being taught how to do ...
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Coworker watches content on his phone all day

I work at a software company. I have a coworker who props up his phone most of the day, watching stuff while he works such as video game streamers, or cooking shows, or whatever. He's trying to give ...
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How to politely ask a coworker to “Google it”

I'm working in a team of 8 consultants just like me. I'm the youngest member of the team and also the one with the least experience (on resume at least). But 4 of the 8 members of the team will often ...
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I have reason to believe that my very competent coworker is being severely underpaid - any tactful way to tell a boss?

I am located in United States. I have a coworker who is senior to me (in that, if my title is "Blah", his title is literally "Senior Blah"). This morning he made a comment about job postings for a ...
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How can I reply to coworkers who accuse me of automating people out of work?

I work in a small manufacturing company on special projects that automate some processes (primarily design/drafting). This automation is mainly targeted at reducing errors, establishing standards, ...
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Manager has noticed coworker's excessive breaks. Should I warn him?

A junior coworker of mine takes very long breaks every day. I've timed them; he makes hour-long visits to the restroom every day. He is paid by the hour, leaves after 8 hours, and is not allowed to ...
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How to disclose negative information about a candidate when I'd rather not reveal its source?

We are a small start-up and I'm one of the senior members. After a hard work day, I went to a bar, where I met an attractive young nonlocal man. We had a one-night stand. We conducted job interviews ...
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What can I do about a very loud coworker?

Our office space is pretty tight and there are no cubicles. There is a guy sitting next to me and he is the loudest person I ever met. He is groaning, crackling, puffing, giving loud sighs and ...
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How to handle a coworker pretending to be my boss? [duplicate]

I have an odd situation: I have a coworker who acts like he's my boss. I've already confirmed with higher-ups that it's just not true. He'll say all kinds of things like: This is my department. ...
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My adult son embarrassed me in front of my coworkers - how to react to provocations?

I am located in the north of Germany. We had an event where the whole company got together, about 200 people. We had dinner, a live band, all in all it was a great evening. My small department (about ...
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Asked to secretly obtain coworker's knowledge before he gets fired

I was recently told by my manager that one of my coworkers (call him Steve) will be fired in a few weeks, as his last reviews were found unsatisfactory. My manager also told me to "inquire and ...
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How to react to hostile behavior from a senior developer?

I started working at Dec 2018, currently, there is only me and the senior developer and we sit next to each other. He comes to work really early and leaves early. When I started working I noticed ...
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How can I deal with a coworker who doesn't particularly care about code quality?

I'm a software dev in a small team. I am the most junior member with a couple of years professional experience, but was brought to the (newly formed) team because I had the most hands-on experience ...
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How do I ask a friendly coworker to remind me what their name is?

I have a coworker at my place of work that I am somewhat friendly with. Often times when I pass his desk, we'll both say hi and talk for a couple minutes about this or that. We're not exactly close ...
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Coworker curses under his breath as he works - should I ignore?

I work in an office where there are 4 of us in the corners of a cube. One of the guys who sits in an adjacent corner acts a little strange. A few times a day (or more), he curses under his breath as ...
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New colleague is a smoker; I can hardly breathe near him

To be explicit: this is my problem. I'm not "blaming" the new guy (actually he's rather nice). That said ... I'm allergic to smoke. When I was younger, I went "out on the town" only once or twice a ...
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Team member is vehemently against code formatting

I am the manager of a small team of developers (5 engineers, including me). A few months ago, on the suggestion of another colleague we introduced mandatory code formatting in the code base, for our ...
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Colleague blocks change request in peer review because of perceived mistakes in code, but suggested improvements do not work

In the company I work for, change requests go through various steps, including a development step, a peer review step and a testing step. On this particular change request, I have been assigned as a ...
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My colleague is constantly blaming me for his errors

I'm a junior software developer in a small company. I'm working on a project since I finished my internship contract 4 months ago. It's a small project, so there's only another programmer (junior too ...
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Coworker is trying to get me to sign his petition to run for office. How to decline politely?

My coworker knows that I live in "his district" and he's been coming up to my desk for the past few days asking me to sign his petition to run for local office. Personally we don't share the same ...
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New coworker has strange workplace requirements - how should I deal with them?

A new coworker just started in our office, and on her first day she told us: No one can speak to her. Communication needs to be done over email only. No one can speak in the room we work in. There's ...
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What can I do to make a coworker's lack of effort more visible?

There have been a number of questions where people have been dealing with coworkers who were not pulling their weight. The common perception seems to be that this is due to lack of effort or ability. ...
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How to handle a developer getting defensive when faced with breaking code?

I started working at a company as a junior developer, after finishing a great programming bootcamp with a deep and broad programming knowledge. Since then (1.5 years) I learned a lot, gained ...
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?

TL;DR A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do? The long version: I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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My coworker emailed me a root password that I'm not supposed to have. Should I tell my boss, and if so how do I tell without sounding petty? [closed]

I'm a junior-ish employee at a company (I'm not technically junior experience-wise, but I'm junior compared to the massive amounts of experience everyone else has and I've been here the shortest). ...
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How to stop co-workers from teasing me because I know Russian?

I work on a team of 8 people for a U.S financial company, and a few weeks ago, a business meeting with some clients overseas was taking place. My manager asked us in an e-mail if anyone can speak and ...