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Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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Bad coworker work reflecting on me

Similar to How to deal with a bad coworker but my case is not about behaviour but rather about incompetence. Context: Our team is charged of designing and developping reports for the finance ...
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Am I expected to share my referral bonus? [closed]

Some time ago I recommended my friend to company. I sent his CV to the Human Resources department. After couple of interviews he was accepted. Now I'm about to receive bonus, let's say 1000$, for that ...
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How to deal with a colleague who is showing off my work as his own?

The situation goes like this. A project in research lab involves programming, data analysis and writing reports. I have done most of the programming and data analysis on my own thus far. I shared ...
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How to adjust to work when you have narcissism

I have narcissism disorder for example I take criticism badly Like to one up coworker I get mad sometimes if coworker don't take my suggestion Sometimes can be a ass without realizing it How ...
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how to get noticed for the actual work I do at work

How do you get noticed more for what you actually do at work? (I work as a software engineer to give more context) Like, this whole summer I feel like I've been churning of work / tasks that were ...
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Is it acceptable to politely decline to speak about one's personal life?

I've seen this answer, where the person says that one might present oneself poorly if they hide their personal lives from their co-workers. In-spite of that, I believe that revealing information ...
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Helping anxious coworkers by becoming a better instructor

I have coworkers who are really eager to agree with what you say, but don't really listen. I can be explaining how something works, or instructing them on certain procedures, and they will quickly ...
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How can I get out of carpool, or ask money for it?

I would like to know how to get out of a carpool agreement I already made with a coworker, or, how to charge her some money. For the past two weeks or so, I have been picking her up at a highway and ...
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Problems in Concentration Due to Pregnancy

I am currently 5 months pregnant and work in a tech company. We have an open seating area for the engineering department and this is where I sit as well. I have just received my semi annual review a ...
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How to politely avoid or decline unexpected off-the-clock work?

In this specific company, work hours are very flexible. The only rules are: You must be at work between 9h30 and 11h30, and between 13h30 and 15h30. (1:30-3:30pm) You must work a certain number of ...
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Should I warn management that my replacement might be unfit for the job?

I've turned in my resignation and will be leaving the company soon. I was the last member of the original development team (and the lead) for our project, so new people are being moved to the project ...
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How to deal with an oversmart/bossy colleague?

I am part of a team: 2 senior developers (8+ Years, including myself and my colleague X), 4 junior developers. X is not my reporting manager, and my reporting manager doesn't involve herself in our ...
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Colleague taking credit after refactoring my work

Noticed that my colleague has refactored/normalized my work further into smaller chunks. What has surprised me is she has been adding a "Created by [her name]" on these files. It's clear this has been ...
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What is this phenomenon in a company when it's difficult to find important knowledge?

I was told by colleague A that a database table would be helpful to me, but a field name and its comment in it were not that self-explanatory and detailed and I cannot get to know how the values of ...
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Coworker consistently shows up drugged out

My coworker has been showing up to work dopey and drugged out most of the time I've been in my role. On a company trip, he has talked about how he takes Vicodin, Oxycontin, and Adderall (although I am ...
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Reporting to a friend

I am considering a position where I would be reporting to a close friend. Originally we were colleagues at different companies but in the same field, and now we have become close. (In this situation ...
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What should I do if my colleagues ignore my fear of cats?

I work for a European start-up with around 20 to 30 employees without an HR department. We have an office on the ground floor and there are a lot of cats around. I am afraid of cats and I don't feel ...
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How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?

I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
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How to do things right while trying to date a coworker?

I'm based in Western Europe. Relationships among coworkers aren't rare here and I know several couples who met in the office, including bosses who married and had kids with their (former) subordinates....
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My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? [closed]

I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation ...
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Is it appropriate to ask after a depressed coworker?

I've been working as a software developer at a fairly large company for about two years now. I noticed a while back one of my coworkers who I'll call X, suddenly started acting rather depressed; when ...
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How to react to a co-worker who tries to be funny, but isn't?

We have a new guy at our office who several times a day makes a funny remark or joke. Unfortunately his jokes are about as funny as small talk is interesting and I am not sure how I should react. I ...
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How do you set boundaries with a coworker who keeps walking into your office asking questions right away?

How do you set boundaries with a coworker who keeps walking in to your office with a question, when you are just busy working? Usually my other coworkers approach and make some noise and signal their ...
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Should I report a coworker that has inflated their timesheet?

I was recently in a position where I was able to see the timesheet of a co-worker(private information, and I should not have seen it). Our standard work day is 7.5 hours with flexible overtime. They ...
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How to work with some who has a dramatically different pace of work?

I have always worked on projects where each employee, for the most part, works on their own. I am accustomed to my own pace, which happens to be slightly slower than the average worker but nonetheless,...
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Should I correct my coworkers' language mistakes?

I'm not a native English speaker, but I still notice some basic mistakes in grammar, pronunciation and wordings when my colleagues are talking to customers. But when I try to correct them, they rudely ...
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Newly hired, Must mediate between two colleagues

I've recently accepted a position with a small, 25-person company as their technical director. I am to work closely with the creative director (CD) and the digital project manager (PM) in scoping, ...
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How to deal with a person who constantly explains things you already know well?

One of my colleagues enjoys explaining things a lot, and he does it very well. This comes up handy when I am missing something on a subject: I come to him, and he teaches me everything I have to know ...
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How should I answer to coworkers' repeated questions about salary?

I face a quite uncomfortable situation in my company. Several weeks ago, I was tasked to work with a new coworker. She has been in the same company for a longer time than I, but was assigned to ...
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How do I deal with a high manager that is pushy with deadlines?

I have a boss with extremely outdated software experience. He says it has been around 20+ years since he last did any development. When I give an estimate that he feels is taking too long, he ...
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Endless code reviews, how to cope with those? [closed]

Everytime I write some code, for as simple and "non-critical" as it can be, I must submit a code review with a senior member of the team. The problem is: these code reviews are endless. I have some ...
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Should I tell my colleague he might get fired? [closed]

I work in Germany, where a company can fire an employee at will in the first six months, but only for very good reasons afterwards. So the first six months are seen as a kind of probation period. In ...
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Is it common for a boss not to want an employee to tell his/her coworkers about his/her departure? [closed]

I am leaving my current employer and have informed him of the decision. In addition to some congratulatory pleasantry, he asked that I do not tell my coworkers about the decision. Is it common that a ...
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Are practical jokes common and acceptable at work if no one gets irreversibly annoyed? [closed]

Someone left a cup of water precariously balanced on the woman's bathroom door, and you can imagine what happened later. A coworker left a note on a manager's chair that said "Tack" after a ...
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What should I do about an employee eating at their desk? [closed]

I work at a conservative company where employees are not allowed to eat at their desk. The rule has always been in place, but has been more strictly enforced when we developed a pest infestation that ...
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How to handle a subordinate who asks the same question repeatedly?

I just joined a new company. My team of direct reports is new as well. We all started the same day. I have a direct report who tends to ask the same question multiple times but rephrased. For ...
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How to deal with an office environment where everyone speaks a different language?

I'm working overseas and almost all of my colleagues speak another language (their native language). They talk to me in English regarding work-related stuff and everyone speaks English during meetings....
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How to handle the situations where talkative colleague dominates [closed]

I have been working with my colleague for the past two years. Here is my problem: I do not talk much. When it comes to discussions, I make my point but most of the time it doesn't seem to be ...
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How to be constructive and solve problems in an unconstructive environment? [closed]

I'm working on a legacy software project right now. It consists of a lot of mostly undocumented classes. There are no unit tests and the project has enormous technical debt (copy-paste classes, missed ...
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Struggling with Team Dynamics: Dealing with a Critical and Ambitious Junior Developer

I'm currently facing a challenging situation within my development squad, and I'm seeking advice on how to navigate it effectively. Eight months ago, our team leader and I hired a junior developer for ...
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Death stares from a colleague

I am an Indian female working in the IT sector, India. Context: During one of my conversations with a male team member, let's call him Paul, he cracked a filthy joke. Though I pretended to not ...
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I told off a consultant and it affected my job

My company hired a consultant to work alongside me and help convert our apps to a new technology. For months, while he did the work, he insinuated that my coding style was terrible and that I'm in the ...
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How can I handle colleagues messaging several people about the same problem?

As a part (not the main part) of my work I help colleagues with technical issues and answer their questions. I work in a very big company (10k+ employees), so colleagues rarely approach me in person. ...
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Coworker who is also relatively new is very bossy towards me in a micromanaging sort of way [closed]

A couple months ago I started working in a store. The training portion is over. The store recently had a lot of turn over (even for retail). Aside from the manager, the longest employee has been there ...
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I feel like my coworker gives me all the work

My coworker has been with the company for perhaps 10 years longer than me, so obviously she’s higher up on the totem pole, but we’re still counterparts. She’s not my boss, we have the same job, she ...
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Excluded from extra work activities

Currently I am working in a small team of six developers. Colleagues are often having short talks and flashbacks related to extra work activity (work related decisions they made while not at work), ...
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How to deal with colleagues who explain things I already know?

I am a programmer and my colleague is a scientist, we are similar ages and at the same seniority. Neither of us have a background in economics, though I have studied some economics out of interest. ...
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Declining reoccurring informal team events

Possibly related to this thread about declining participation. However I don't feel like the answers fully suit my case, and as the details are different, so perhaps the answers will be. I am ...
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How to rebuild my reputation damaged by lies.?

My manager transferred me and a colleague to places where we cannot afford to work. This is to protect himself from getting blamed for low sales. Manager didn't showed any interest in lively ...
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How to approach an interview where I have professionally quarrelled with one of the interviewers?

In a few days I am due to attend an interview for a management position which is a step up in my responsibilities but considered well within my capabilities by my current leadership team. One half of ...
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