Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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As a Brit working in America, how can I get my American colleagues to stop mocking my accent/spelling?

I am not a person of colour and I do not pretend to understand the struggle of those who endure racial discrimination, prejudice and persecution based on their race or ethnic background. However, ...
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How to deal with a nit-picky coworker

I'm a self-taught software developer here. I am wondering if anyone has advice about how to handle a coworker (with about 1 month of experience at my workplace compared to my 18 months) who takes ...
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How to respond to caste-based discrimination in the workplace?

India is a place where people from different communities, religions live together. More than 80% (around 1 Billion) of country's total population (1.2 Billion) is of Hinduism religion. Our country has ...
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Colleagues speaking another language and it impacts work

I am aware of the following questions, but feel like they don't apply completely here because of the meeting issue (point 2 below): Everyone at work except me speaks another language How to deal ...
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Coworker doesn't actually work - how to deal with the situation? [duplicate]

We have a colleague who prefers to waste time at work instead of well... working. He's either watching movies, playing online games, or he's always on social sites. This is all on company time, with ...
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How to help a colleague after termination warning

I am a software developer. I have a colleague of mine, who is a tester. The colleague was given a termination warning last week. In the warning, he was given a huge amount of work to finish during ...
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What should I tell a customer when my co-worker fails to show up to a meeting?

I'll typically have meetings with customers in which they set it up and invite me and other co-workers. Sometimes I will show up to this meeting and my co-worker(s) won't because they forgot, became ...
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Should I always give way to my colleague just because of their age?

My colleague and I were hired at the same time, for the same position some months ago. Now we're getting a new office room, with the possibility of setting up our desks and furniture. I did ask her ...
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Should I warn a friend about a former employer?

I have a friend who for the purposes of this question we'll refer to as Paul. Paul is a University professor who hasn't been actively involved in business outside of academia. He's shown me some ...
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Is it unethical/unprofessional to keep a record of quotes from my colleague's outbursts?

My colleague is a 64 year old guy who is very verbal when working. He often shouts out slander towards his computer and also an ex-employee. Even though these outbursts are incredibly unprofessional I ...
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How to talk to others when they're busy?

Whenever I need to talk to one of my coworkers or my manager, I often have trouble initiating conversation because they look busy and I don't want to interrupt. I work in a software environment where ...
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Dealing with people after a mishap spread by department head

Recently I broke our office kettle, and one of the department heads has spread the news turning me into a laughing stock. From time to time I encounter her in a meeting or update on my visa. I knew ...
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Colleague used admin access to view my private employee order

A colleague of mine in a different department is a developer for an internal, employee-only discounted retail site within our company. Today, I made a rather large purchase on that site before heading ...
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Should I work while on vacation?

I am the only web guy in our firm and get asked to work on client issues even while on vacation (PTO). It's understandable if it's an emergency production issue, but even for non-production/test ...
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What to do about a colleague playing pranks on a manager?

I have the following situation at work. A colleague I work with sometimes plays pranks on a young manager. They've known each other for 3-4 years and the manager has the habit of forgetting to lock ...
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In a family business, do I refer to people by their name or by how they're related to the person I'm speaking to?

When speaking with a boss/manager's son, should I say: Your father requested so and so. or rather: Mr. Doe requested so and so I only have a professional relationship with the son. We don't ...
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What do I say to my manager if he asked me about a colleague's raise?

So my boss asked me to come to his office to take my opinion about a raise that my colleague asked for earlier. This colleague started only months ago but he proved that he is very good at it. Took ...
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How to deal with a new, inexperienced and hostile colleague

In my company we have recently received a new hire that is specializing in automating testing, which is a part of what we do but it is not our core business. I specialized at university in the field ...
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Employee wants to bring in his dog for a kids event

I was surprised that our company didn't do anything for national Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day, so I volunteered to organize our own version of it (just calling it Bring Your Child to Work ...
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How should I deal with colleagues asking me to hide problems with their work?

My specific situation is that I am working as tester for a web application project, and after some low level security tests I realized the application has lots of vulnerabilities. I would normally ...
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Should I give honest (but bad) feedback about a colleague when asked by another team looking to hire him?

A colleague of mine has potential job offer from another team, which I have worked for in the past. Somebody from my old team has asked me what I think about him. To be perfectly honest, I think he ...
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My colleagues feel that I go into discussions too aggressively - how do I fix this?

One of the main feedback points I got from my performance review was that my colleagues complained/commented that they feel that I go into discussions too aggressively, that I try to push through on ...
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Is it right to expect my co-workers to have the same dedication to work as me?

I've just started working and I have found that many people I work along with do not share the same commitment to work as I do. I've an instance to share. Once I had stayed back late since I had work ...
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How can I constructively address the fact that a coworker with the same (senior) title doesn't have the basic skills for the role

I am an in a QA automation position, with the title "Senior" which is nice. I have a coworker, let's call him Sam, who also has a "Senior" in his title. I was happy with my title until Sam came along ...
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Taking advantage when HR forgets to communicate the rules

I currently work as a software engineer at a company in Europe. One detail that's going to be important below is that everybody here has a contract for 40h/week. If you work more, you can use the ...
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My co-worker withholds information about his systems and blames me for “bugs” which aren't my fault

I've been working at a company for some years in a lead position where I have responsibility for a large array of systems. I work with another co-worker at the same level, on independent systems, ...
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How can I politely ask potential colleagues about the negative aspects of their company?

After a series of interviews with a software company, I have been invited to work with the team for one day. During the day I will attend the daily scrum meeting be assigned a low priority bug ticket ...
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How do I get a coworker to do something that they don’t want to do, as they disrespect me?

I asked a colleague at work to do a 5-minute task, which is part of their role. I sent an email, but they didn't reply. I went up to the person’s desk and they totally dismissed the request saying ...
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How can I deal with the blame-game played by my colleague in office?

My colleague (call him Bob) and I are Software Developers with experience of 1 year. Our CTO considers me to be more intelligent than him. For the last few months both of us have been working on the ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life

This is happening in central Europe. So basically I got this co-worker (let's call her Stacy) who regularly tries to undermine me. She disrupts my work, puts me in a bad light and doesn't cooperate ...
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My intended position means a colleague's job disappears, should I give him a heads-up?

I'm wondering if I'm being loyal enough and how much of a heads up I should give a colleague whose job will disappear. My place of work has been reorganising, and one of the consequences is the ...
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My ex-coworker wants to know my Bitlocker password

I worked for X company as an applications developer and one of my former coworkers (not my supervisor or an IT person) asked me for my BitLocker password. I left the company 2 weeks ago for a new job....
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Coworker is lying about having kids to get extra time off. What should I do?

A peer of mine (same organization but different scrum team) is a very involved father. He is often taking time off of work to watch his kids and leaving early to take his kids to soccer practice. I ...
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How to win over jealous subordinate who is mocking me after my promotion?

I was promoted to manage my team a couple of months ago. While it was a stressful learning experience in itself, I enjoyed it and most of my team accepted me and appreciated my leadership - except for ...
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Complaints from (junior) developers against solution architects: how can we show the benefits of our work and improve relationships?

I’ve been working in an IT company for 7 years (and I have a 14+ total work experience). About 2 years ago I was promoted to the solution architect's office. In my company a solution architect is a ...
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Coworker keeps opening blind which makes it difficult to see my screen

I'm positioned with a window next to me my coworker sits in front but have a wall to their side, then in front of them there is another window: | <---window | || <-- wall || O <--- coworker |...
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How to deal with a colleague who's taking all the nice/important tasks

I'm a DevOps. In my team, we do many "boring" tasks such as replying to client emails that are related to technical issues, and maintaining the system, cleaning DB. But we also do some development. I ...
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How do I find common ground with a coworker who thinks very differently from myself?

I design electrical circuits for a living. Over the past few years, I've established a logical design method which works for me and helps me to keep track of how everything is connected together. ...
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How to approach coworker who has cancer, if I'm not supposed to know?

One of my coworkers in the department whom I know of but don't interact with much has been diagnosed with cancer. I only knew about this because of a confidant who made me promise not to tell. ...
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HR advised colleague not to notify department he is leaving

An engineering colleague of mine has been planning on leaving for the last several months and is leaving in about a months time. Over this period, the engineering department has not been aware of this ...
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How do you respond to a colleague from another team when they're wrongly expecting that you'll help them?

Here's the situation. There is a person on Team X. They share some hardware that I also work on. They're trying to create a setup for something and struggling big time with it. It's none of my ...
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Bothered by watching coworkers slacking off

Situation I am working in a small office of 4 people, where 2 of us work independently and the 2 others are in a team. It has started to bother me that those 2 in the team are not getting much work ...
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How do I, an introvert, communicate to my friend and only colleague, an extrovert, that I want to spend my scheduled breaks without them?

I'm an introvert and as an introvert I like to take a break by spending some time alone. My only other team member is an extrovert and wants me to spend time with her. Initially our personal ...
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How do I tell a colleague that I don't want to add him to Facebook?

I consider Facebook to have information that is personal and that I only share with close friends and family. However, in my new workplace I’ve been asked several times for my Facebook username and/or ...
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How to deal with a colleague who is being aggressive?

I’ve found that a relatively new addition to our team is being needlessly aggressive and I’m not sure if I should speak to them or our mutual manager about this face to face, or try some other ...
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Motivate coworkers to use strong passwords

I work for an expanding company, and we are currently establishing a new IT-infrastructure and several company-policies (privacy/safety rules). One of my biggest concerns is the acceptance of ...
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Is it unprofessional to bring your spouse/kids to work to visit? [closed]

When I was younger in my career (20's), and worked at smaller companies, I often brought my spouse and kids into work. I had good relationships with my co-workers, and even saw some of them outside of ...
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How to shoo away people who make informal requests at the desk or canteen? [duplicate]

My role involves working with teams across the company, but there is a strong tendency for people to come and chat us up informally in order to get their things done, put pressure and even "blackmail" ...
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How to handle constant jokes from senior coworkers and manager dissing your competence and gender

I am a young woman fresh out of college in a department filled with older men. I'm afraid if my situation isn't corrected soon I'll be dealing with it long term. My coworkers make the sort of jokes ...
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Told boss about racist remarks coworker made, but they don't want HR involved. What do I do?

I have a coworker who seems to make it a point to discuss religion/politics/everything most would deem unacceptable during work hours. The other day, he interrupted a conversation between myself and ...

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