Questions tagged [colleagues]

Questions regarding the people one works with. This includes questions about communication, teamwork, or other issues caused by ones co-workers.

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How to deal with a colleague who consistently schedules meetings that should be emails? [duplicate]

I've got a great team to work in and I absolutely love my job, but one of my colleagues will continually insist on meetings, even/especially after a 'long' email discussion. They're often <= 30 ...
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I will soon become the manager of a close friend. How do I be an effective manager and friend?

A close friend of mine will soon be moving into my department. We see each other outside of work and our significant others both work together at a different institution. I want to be an effective ...
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How to behave with women in my company when it's International Women's Day?

Today I woke up and remembered that today is International Women's Day. I am not exactly the person who likes to greet and give wishes to everyone, and I am often kinda embarrassed when I have to do ...
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How do I tell a coworker not to keep asking me to pass on illness/absence messages to our manager?

Maybe I'm being petty, but my friend and co-worker has, on a few occasions now, asked me to tell our manager that e.g. he's not working today or that he'll be working from home because he's sick or ...
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Problems with loud, bossy colleague

I just graduated from college and started in this new company 6 months ago. I have a problem with a colleague at work. He is not well liked by other colleagues in the office. He's loud, bossy and ...
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When in a conflict with someone, should I tell them that I intend to speak to their superior?

In a workplace, if there is a conflict with a coworker, the best approach is to talk to the coworker about the problem directly. If a resolution cannot be reached, one can then try talking to the ...
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How to deal with apathetic co-worker?

I work in gastronomy in a rather small restaurant. The co-worker I spend most of my work-day around has become more and more apathetic over the past few months. It was a very gradual change, so I am ...
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Workplace gossip makes me uncomfortable - how do I deal with it?

At some of my jobs people love to gossip about each other. I don't like to participate in gossip. I've found that if I speak up to tell these people that I believe gossipping is bad, I become a ...
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Confront boss when he divulges a private discussion about another employee?

Our small team which consists of 3 staff and our boss recently have added a fourth person to the mix. It became immediately clear that he was not a fit personality-wise or skill-wise. He was a rush-...
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Is it professional to write unrelated content in an almost-empty email?

I am employed in a consultancy company and I work at the client workplace. Monthly, I have a client employee sign a timesheet to certify the number of hours I have actually worked. I then scan the ...
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Friend got overpaid but doesn’t report it - is it my obligation to report it?

A friend/coworker of mine recently left the company after his internship ended. He later told me that got overpaid with his last salary but also said that I shouldn’t tell anyone so he didn’t have to ...
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How to approach senior colleague who overwrote my work files?

I've been working on a SQL dashboard project whereby I modified a template script. I became stuck on part of the project and asked for help from a senior colleague (on the same level as my manager ...
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How can I deal with a coworker who keeps trying to put blame on my shoulders?

I have this coworker that I help out very often. One reason he would approach me is that he doesn't have much experience in web applications. However, he is good in his domain. This person has a ...
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How to handle unreachable colleagues not performing / your work being blocked

I'm responsible for the setup of a whole range of new servers, to replace older platforms. This is in a multi-national, with offices across the world. As such I've had to order servers through each ...
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When should you go to HR vs. your manager with regards to an issue with another employee?

I had a previous role where I was having a problem with a disruptive, socially unaware colleague, and ended up asking HR about how best to handle it. We had a solid talk and it was discussed that I ...
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Coworker has a borderline-NSFW ringtone that is disturbing. How can I get him to change it?

A coworker has a song as their phone's ringtone, and the song lyrics could be flagged NSFW. It does not contain actual cursing, but has tons of obvious sexual innuendo. I think it is disturbing. I ...
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Is it rude to email a coworker that I expect him to do something?

I recently told a coworker on a different team in an email (with 10 people on CC as part of the conversation): I expect you to talk to me regarding [issue], and not wait for things to happen. ...
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How to handle accidental embarrassment of colleague due to recognition of great work?

I am a team / technical lead in the cybersecurity team where I work. Our current company has a peer recognition system where anyone can nominate anyone else for contributions above and beyond ...
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How can I deal with favoritism?

I work in a small team where our lead likes one person more than others. Here are some examples which made me conclude this - Whatever code others write is always looked upon with suspicion. They ...
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How handle a situation in which a domain-expert has fabricated his history of expertise?

I work in a large multinational which is experimenting in new forms of project management. We have invested a great deal of trust to an individual who is training members of staff. He was hired ...
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Is it generally a bad idea to “rat” on co-workers? [closed]

Recently, I witnessed 3 out of our 4 managers joking about the company owner. These jokes weren't the normal "ah he's making me work weekends" stuff, they were pretty heinous in my opinion and it went ...
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What is an appropriate response to the death of a coworker's loved one?

My coworker's father passed away. The following day, an employee from HR sent out an office-wide email with the obituary and viewing details with the coworker's permission, and started a fund for a ...
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How do I conduct myself when dealing with a coworker who provided me with bad data and yet keeps pushing responsibility for bad results onto me?

Some background will help me explain myself better - I maintain a software system that is used by the sales team. A sales person enters some data, then some complicated computations are done, and a ...
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Should I tell a fellow intern that he won't be hired?

I am presently interning at a company as a part of my B.Tech curriculum. This is my final semester, and once this internship ends that is the end of my B.Tech degree. One of my B Tech colleagues ...
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Send wedding invitations to some co-workers but not all

I am getting married next year and want to invite some co-workers to my wedding because I have a friendly connection with them. I work at an open floor plan and we lunch with about 15 people every ...
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Should I help co-workers with their projects?

A new employee joined our company 2 months ago. He was a newbie (well, I am not a pro either, but I definitely know more than he does) so he often asked me for help. And today when I arrived at work I ...
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How to prevent managers from unequally distributing work?

I work at a relatively new startup. I work with a particular language known for its high level abstraction, and my coworkers work with other programming languages. Now, I am relatively skilled at a ...
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I think my coworker went through my notebook and took my project ideas

I have a notebook that I keep meeting notes, current work and future projects I'd like to do. Oddly, all these future project ideas I had listed out are now being completed by my coworker. The ...
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How to deal with an arrogant superior?

I'm currently working in a software company as a junior developer. Due to having been able to demonstrate a good understanding of the technology we use, I have been assigned some rather abstract/...
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How to handle unintentional innuendos [duplicate]

Working in international groups where different participants communicate through a common language, often English, can lead to unintentional innuendo. In this case the innuendo is due to slang terms ...
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Coworker CCs boss on trivial email correspondence

I have a coworker who has a habit of CCing our common boss on nearly all email correspondence. The boss is hands-on enough to know what we are talking about but he is also cool and practical enough ...
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How to deal with an incompetent colleague?

The setup... A little more than a year ago, we started a search for a "rock star" developer. We had lost our legitimately brilliant lead developer to a start up. I was able to step in and fill his ...
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Should I Just Deal With Interruptions?

I'm a lead developer of a 6 person software team. Among the applications we develop are some that are used for in-house operations. As lead, I'm a resource to the other developers and a liaison to ...
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How can I highlight how much better I've made our code and deal with a coworker that disagrees?

I joined a company to help add some functionality to their code. The code is legacy and has been terribly maintained. The technology is ~15 years old. It takes days to track down bugs and problems ...
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How to manage a co-worker you dislike

I have recently been promoted to manage a small team I worked in before. My problem is, one of my coworkers. The co-worker (Jane) is a person I really do not like. We’ve had several loud clashes. ...
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How to deal with a coworker that told you about the position and now feels he/she owns you?

I am currently working on a company I found through a compatriot who is currently my coworker, and I get the feeling that he is acting as if he owned me because he told me about the position the ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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HR treating new hires like kids [closed]

Recently graduated and started working for a large organization. The company provides training for new hires. Throughout the training, we are mentored by more senior employees. As a part of the ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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Should I mention a coworker working on personal projects to my manager?

In short, a coworker is working on short stories / novels during his down time at work. While I have looked at this question, I think it's different in that his writing is definitely for profit, not ...
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How can I communicate better with a co-worker who is not a good listener?

I've been working as an engineer in a company. I have been working alone on a large scale maintaining project and there is a project manager beside me. Recently, the company hired an employee who ...
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How can I ask a coworker about their salary package?

I may get a promotion in the upcoming month, and I want to know what sort of pay to expect or negotiate for. My senior colleague is in the same position I would be promoted to, and I would like to ...
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Improving social interaction at work [closed]

I'm working in a small team of developers and often it's very quiet. While that's a plus, it is sometimes a bit awkward if nobody talks for almost the whole day. It feels like you go to work, program ...
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Working with another intern who does nothing? [duplicate]

I'm working as a software engineering intern at a corporate company. I'm ecstatic for this opportunity and trying my hardest to read code, ask questions, make mistakes and learn. However, I'm paired ...
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Teammates are actively ignoring my work, what should I do?

Foreword: some specifics are related to software development, but this is a workplace problem, so I believe it belongs here. I'm the only junior developer in a team of senior mobile developers, ...
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How do I avoid company outings without being an outcast?

I currently work for a small (15-25 employees) startup that likes to have company outings. Things like going bowling, going to a bar, etc. Work is never discussed. There is a lot of social pressure to ...
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How to decline invite to team dinner when I have a prior engagement?

I am being invited to a team dinner which I won't be able to attend as I have to go for swimming coaching classes every evening. I don't know how to decline the invitation and also politely tell ...
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Asked to use CCTV to check fellow employee's hours

I am the only employee with access to the CCTV system but I have never been certified in CCTV operation and we do not have a CCTV policy. I inherited it as I am the IT Systems Administrator. HR have ...
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Someone from HR suggesting that I should not hang out with a coworker [closed]

I am pretty new at my work, having only been there for a few months (compared to people who have worked there for up to 10 years) and I felt a little pushed aside during lunch breaks or company ...
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Is it ok to record my colleagues around my workplace?

I work in one of these open office plans (which now I dread) and there is a bunch of guys around who make really offensive jokes. I'm not all PC but these guys really cross the line. I want to bring ...

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