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Questions about addressing difficult or complicated communication issues in the workplace. Communication in the workplace may take place in many forms (email, phone, face-to-face, IM) and between a variety of parties (coworkers, managers, reports, clients).

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If and how should I raise a warning flag as a non-management employee?

TL;DR As an employee, should I report to my n+2 (CTO) that we are far from our objectives, and if yes, how? I'm working in a software industry. Recently our company decided that our API was too old ...
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Employer has postponed my start date with very short notice, without pay. What action should I take? [on hold]

I got an offer to work as a contractor (W2) at a major social network company in the SF Bay Area. The person from the 3rd party agency (the one I will be officially getting my paychecks from) has been ...
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Need to settle an issue with my manager. How would you approach a discussion?

I had a chat recently with my manager and he clearly has some pain-points, i.e. he is frustrated with something about me. During the recent meeting, he told me that I delayed one of the NN mio. ...
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How should I deal with my team member who shows extreme jealousy?

How to deal with my colleague who is very good, polite and respectful with me personally but when we are together in a group or with whole team, he is the first one to criticize or embarrass me. We ...
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How do I show concern to my manager, who is coming back from an emergency leave? Want to ask him if everything was good back at home

Last week my manager suddenly departed for his home country due to a family emergency. Tomorrow he is supposed to resume work and our first interaction is a regular scrum call with everyone in the ...
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How do I complain about having sub-standard laptop compared to more junior employees?

United States, ~1000+ employees. I've been at my company for 5 years now. About 4 years ago we were given laptops but they were really low-end refurbished models. They're not much good except for VPN'...
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What is the right verbiage for quitting?

In two weeks, I will be leaving my employment, in what I hope to be good terms with management and coworkers. I have given appropriate notice and am trying to ease the transition for everyone ...
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Manager Prioritising Colleagues holidays

Background: So I work in a company where we have flexi time and our holidays are first come first serve. It's in the policy of the company. I work with 2 other developers but our manager (for obvious ...
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How to provide anonymous feedback about a problematic manager in order to be helpful?

I work for a large company that started a process called Agile Transformation in order to raise productivity and shorten delivery time. This happened about 3-4 years ago and recently one of the top ...
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How do I deal with an autistic employee who criticizes teammates publicly and doesn't understand the harm in doing so?

I have a very autistic person in my team who quite often criticizes his teammates in public emails, causing lots of complaints. We are in a Nordic country and it is not very common to fire people ...
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Dealing with a scrum master who undermines the development team

I'm hoping for some help in dealing with a scrum master who is directly going against the wishes of the development team. The scrum master in question has an approach which puts completion of sprint ...
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Coworker presenting my work

Duplicate: That Q is closed as "not constructive" Background: I did work/research to implement a tool among my team. Team and management liked the results, tool was implemented successfully and we ...
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What's an effective way to handle it with a boss who seems to feel you owe him something?

I have a boss who reminds me from time to time that he hired me and it sounds that I owe something to him. It was one time when he told me that I should I understand whom I'm pleasing in this ...
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How would you answer a person who says to you “I would encourage you”? [closed]

I have a teammate from another department who can tell me something like "I would encourage you to do this or this". Honestly, I don't need him to encourage me but I also don't want to be very direct ...
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How do you develop skill speaking clearly with confidence [closed]

Usually, I speak well. But sometimes either because of my introverted nature or distractions in my mind, I don't respond to people with a clear voice and confidence and they get confused. How can ...
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How do I convince developers not fight code style enforcement?

I'm developer infrastructure and tools engineer. My org structure is like so (fictional names for convenience)(job level in parenthesis) Bob(3)/ Me(1)/ Alice(2)/ Sam(1)/ John(...
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How to prepare for a leaving colleague without letting the company know about it

we are a small company with about 100 employees. Our department consists of three people. Our bus factor is as close to 1 as it can get. I know for certain, that a colleague will be leaving in october,...
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How to talk to client who refuses to pay for freelance work

I worked on a project which was advertised by a UK company as an internship after applying online. When I started this project, I quickly requested for a contract but I was given excuses as to why it ...
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How to deal with a person who constantly explains things you already know well?

One of my colleagues enjoys explaining things a lot, and he does it very well. This comes up handy when I am missing something on a subject: I come to him, and he teaches me everything I have to know ...
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How to develop a skill to keep watching what you are saying [closed]

My boss is an introvert and has a slightly unusual character. It looks like he can't disagree or say no to people when they bring an issue to him. I overheard him a couple of times agreeing with ...
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758 views

Why it is not good to make fun of yourself at work?

I enjoy jokes and laughing, and sometimes I make fun of myself with self-deprecating humour. I've begun to think that this might have a negative impact on my personal brand - that is, how I am ...
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Law firm Intern with lack of work to do [duplicate]

I'm currently an intern at a law firm. In the beginning, there was a moderate amount of work to do such as research and translation. However, these days there is no tasks assigned to me all day and ...
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How would you deal with a colleague who arranges meeting with your manager to discuss team processes?

I have a teammate who pings our boss quite often behind my back (I'm lead for my teammate) and it is okay for our boss to be pinged quite often (just a character). This time he arranged a meeting ...
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How do I respond to “Cheers” at the end of a conversation? [closed]

How do I answer 'Cheers' at the end of an conversation? I say goodbye or cheers back but wonder if there is a better way. I'm American, talking to an Englishman.
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Dealing with superiors that don't seem to know what I do in the project/company?

TLDR: I'm a Software Developer. A few months ago, I've been assigned to a new team, to work on a new company project. Whilst managing the team, it appears that my superiors often forget that I'm even ...
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How to stress the importance of communication to team members who complain about team spending time on meetings and useless discussion

In my team where I'm the team lead, sometimes a couple of members make comments that the team spends a lot of time in meetings and discussions. It's worth mentioning, that both these members from ...
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How to tell colleague nicely that it is not fine to make jokes about my team mates?

I'm a team leader for a group of people including trainees. Recently, I had a chat with a colleague from another department and he made some jokes about the trainee from my team. The joke is not that ...
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How to handle a political situation on a call with lots of management people who can get easily confused?

I recently was on a call where we deployed one of IT projects to production with about 30 people (many from top management) and our technical support team. There was one person from the support team ...
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How can I behave when I will be ignored as a team member after my resignation? [closed]

I'm a software engineer and I worked in a startup for 11 months.Two months later I got a job offer and I resigned from my actual post and I'm still making the award period. After the resignation of ...
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How to react when your colleague answers questions instead of you?

I have a situation: sometimes a people from different offices in our company send emails and include a lot of people including my colleague and ask some questions related to my project. Usually, I ...
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How to spend less time answering basic programming questions?

What is the best way to stop spending so much time teaching a co-worker basic things, without being hurtful? Background: I am a computer programmer, and my work is generally tested by a business ...
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How do I communicate to a problem employee that they are being moved to a field office?

As a recently promoted IT manager in a middle sized company, I've been asked to nominate a person who will have to change office and provide assistance to our teams working in the field. I consider ...
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How do I ask my employer for a contract after working here for nearly 3 years without one? [closed]

I work for a small company that has only 4 employees (2 directors and 2 workers). I am one of the 2 workers. I have been working for this company from its beginning. They did not give me a contract ...
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Telling about the job to friends?

I was told that, when talking about your work with friends, one should never say anything negative about job. Is that true? I think it might be really weird if one says everything is fine if they see ...
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How to deal with customers eating while talking on the phone

I work in an office where I have to pick up calls and help customers use a program. Many times when people call in, they feel that is the perfect time to start their lunch/snack. I am using a ...
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Toxic situation in big corp workplace [closed]

TL;DR What to do when your colleague get all the projects because he/she's careless of cumbersome task/change management, so therefore can deliver faster and you are left with less important non-...
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How do I convince my manager that learning from books is as relevant as learning “on the job”?

My supervisor believes that only common sense and experience matter when dealing with work issues. He is not one for theory or 'book learning', but has an intuitive knack for the craft and a great ...
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Confront the manager in a constructive safe manner about lack of work

I was hired 3 months ago as a web developer at a company to work on a project and 2 months ago that project was killed. Ever since then I'm given all sorts of tasks, like testing and cleaning ...
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How to handle a subordinate who asks the same question repeatedly?

I just joined a new company. My team of direct reports is new as well. We all started the same day. I have a direct report who tends to ask the same question multiple times but rephrased. For ...
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How can I be more “proactive” at my job?

Some background: I'm a programmer working in a group of electrical engineers in a very engineer-focused department. I have no education or training as an engineer, and have next to no overlap with my ...
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How can I respectfully disengage from a coworker that won't stop talking?

In the last couple of places I've worked, I've found there is at least one person in my department that just won't stop talking, once I get them started. What typically happens is that I'll go over to ...
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Should I try to push back on my boss' decision to remove a feature that it useful to myself and other employees? [closed]

Recently, my boss announced a decision to no longer allow me and my coworkers to swap or drop shifts using the When I Work app. Their alternative has been that all parties must physically be present ...
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I made a claim against my previous employer underpaying me. Now they threaten my career. [UK] [closed]

I handed in my resignation to my old employer on May the 8th. I started my new job on June the 11th. Later in June, I received a letter saying they won't be paying me. I argued it and it's not an ...
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How do I get an unrelated group to recognize major problems I see in their operations that would negatively impact me?

I work for a tech company that has major assets, A and B. My team develops and looks after A, my colleague Bob's team develops and looks after B. Both the teams work independent of each other. My ...
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Specifying very unpredictable timelines

I'm working on an R&D project that is quite complex and has a lot of interconnected parts. A lot of my work is changing or substituting hardware, software, libraries, etc. My boss likes me to ...
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How to handle disagreements in an email conversation?

Alex wrote an email to Bob which said Bob's incorrect information wasted Alex's time. Bob replied that his information was correct and provided some supporting reasons, thus putting the blame back on ...
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How to defend myself from someone trying to undermine me?

TL;DR Co-worker doesn't do his job and is trying to blame me for his low performance, what is the best way to get out of this situation? Is talking to his manager a good option? At my company, my ...
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How to mention that teammate accomplished nothing in team lead's absence [duplicate]

My team lead went on vacation for 2 weeks, mid-sprint. So my team, 3-ish developers, had a fair amount of work to finish the sprint off. Then we were told to work on the backlog and bugs in his ...
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How to provide feedback about an unprofessional manager during the exit interview? [duplicate]

Two of my colleagues working within another department are leaving the company and they will have an exit interview. They have informally shared with me and other colleagues that one of the reasons ...
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Dealing with interference from senior manager from another department

Backstory: Our group (IT) has been functioning well for several years with few incidents and none worth mentioning. The problem: Recently, we've had someone from a different group, who is a super-...