Questions tagged [conflict]
Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties
6
votes
10answers
2k views
Workplace wants me to leave my car at an airport for a week
I've worked in my current job for about two years and have only had to travel a couple times. Even so, it's never been by air. Typically, I would rent a car and drive a few hours away to the customer'...
92
votes
7answers
28k views
Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?
I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
28
votes
5answers
9k views
A team managed by my peer is close to melting down
Environment:
My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question.
I ...
4
votes
2answers
373 views
What are some strategies for managing irritation with colleagues? [closed]
I have two colleagues whom I often get annoyed with. I don’t believe the details are too important — suffice to say that their lack of planning sometimes causes me to have to do extra work. I have ...
78
votes
11answers
19k views
I have a problematic assistant manager, but I can't fire him
I'm the general manager of a restaurant in a franchise and I've held this position for about 6 months. The company hired me from outside the corporation so I'm still learning about the business.
As ...
7
votes
4answers
700 views
How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?
I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
0
votes
2answers
252 views
How to navigate stalled discussion on development environment location?
TL;DR: Boss insists on an expensive cloud-hosted VM for a development environment for a cost-conscious client. He has misunderstandings and reservations about using physical devices for development ...
2
votes
2answers
485 views
Intra-team friction
I joined a new software company and was put in a team that suffers from a bit of friction, in particular with one developer and a Product Manager.
Apparently at times the PM has been asking the devs ...
18
votes
5answers
3k views
Group manager threw me under the bus to save her friend
I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do.
Back story: I was put on a project that was far behind and was very low developer quality adhering to no set of standards or practices. The project was not ...
6
votes
4answers
765 views
Should I agree or comply to record myself giving lectures?
To provide a bit of background, my company does both technical projects and "teaching projects" in which someone from my company goes to another to teach them how to use certain technology, framework, ...
2
votes
1answer
577 views
Ugly email exchanges, spreading Insecurity [closed]
Background:
Over the course of the last few years, my manager has been bad mouthing me in nonofficial "around the water cooler" type conversations. I have overheard this many times and my colleagues ...
0
votes
1answer
414 views
Got moved to a different position from what I signed up for. Is it too late to raise the problem after a few months?
Got an interview and talked with some people, but not my current direct supervisor. Got hired and things were OK, but because of the training I wasn't really working on the stuff I got hired for, so I ...
8
votes
3answers
2k views
When do I bring up unwelcome news?
In the past I tended to break unwelcome news when I was expecting attendees to be least stressed & most likely to have time to discuss about immediate concerns - staying clear of any special ...
15
votes
6answers
2k views
Hostile co worker
My team was approached today by our manager.
Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
6
votes
2answers
440 views
How to deal with the stress of being in the middle of the chain of command
I am a manager for a team of people.
My boss sets my team very ambitious goals. To reach these goals my team needs to work a lot. He ignores and reacts badly to my arguments that it's too much.
On ...
1
vote
2answers
590 views
How to work with a difficult PM [closed]
I was recently put into a new project. I've encountered my new project manager before and while there's a few things about this PM that concern me:
They can be very friendly and open, but also very ...
32
votes
5answers
6k views
Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work
TL;DR version at the end.
I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle.
After a grueling 6 month ...
2
votes
3answers
464 views
(How) should I report negative feedback from others to my boss?
If someone attacks me, for example, criticizes me strongly during a meeting or ignores my efforts to contact them for a prolonged period of time (although I know they are available and have political ...
2
votes
2answers
554 views
How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?
John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
136
votes
12answers
46k views
Engineer refusing to file/disclose patents
We have a senior engineer on our team that routinely excels at his work. In addition to his regular work, our company has a patent program where engineers can write up a patent for a novel idea, and ...
16
votes
2answers
10k views
How to convince somebody that he is fit for something else, but not this job?
I interviewed one candidate. He was a petroleum engineer in the desert site. After 3 minutes of interviewing and checking his code quality, without concern of his background at all, he failed.
One ...
1
vote
1answer
524 views
Physically attacked by a resident of a group home [closed]
I work in a group home in Virginia, USA. Yesterday, my coworker and I were both physically attacked by a resident, who is a minor. The attack lasted around 45 minutes until the police arrived, and it ...
4
votes
2answers
445 views
Advocating for a freer “Remote Work” policy in the office
I'm currently working in a small software firm (~15 employees) as a leader of a two-person (including myself) algorithms team.
I'm a big advocate of the "Deep Work" mindset in a workplace, especially ...
8
votes
4answers
936 views
How to deal with a new manager who was promoted rather than me?
At my work, I'm working in a department (of four people) in which the floor manager resigned. I would become the new floor manager, but my boss chose someone a week ago who isn't familiar in this ...
54
votes
5answers
4k views
I'm the toxic person on the team. How do I approach my manager?
I work on a medium sized software engineering team. I have been generally not a good person to work with lately, there has been feedback from team members as feedback directed at the team, but its ...
3
votes
3answers
747 views
Should I inform a business partner who has blocked me about my decision to no longer perform my responsibilities?
QUESTION: My business partner has blocked me from contacting him personally and no longer contributes to our business. Is it necessary to inform him that I no longer will be performing my ...
2
votes
3answers
716 views
Manager blaming team for failure, how to counter
I'm part of an internal software development team at a retail business. We're currently working on a major project and in all likelihood it's going to fail. It's pretty much over at this point.
Over ...
141
votes
10answers
28k views
What to do when during a meeting client's people start to (physically) fight with each other?
I work on a project that requires many on-site meetings at the client's location, with client people from different departments. These departments can be considered as closed silos, where everyone ...
7
votes
2answers
733 views
How to handle an increasingly-tense working environment
I am middle management. The environment at work is very tense. For example:
People that were previously very friendly are increasingly becoming distant
People are complaining and frustrated about ...
1
vote
3answers
788 views
Should I stay on a terrible job for one more month?
In June 2018 I had an offer for a job in Japan. The conditions were fine: 9:00-18:00, paid vacation, language support and an ok salary. Personally I moved there because I really enjoy culture and ...
5
votes
6answers
890 views
How can I communicate my desire to leave my relative's company, yesterday?
I work in a company, solely owned by my relative, on a part time basis, as a programmer.
I wanted to leave the company a long time ago to concentrate on my own business, but was unable to do so until ...
9
votes
2answers
974 views
How do I deal with my insecurity about hiring an employee that outputs work faster than me? [closed]
I work in the Programming industry. I hired a guy to work with me. He was older although had a great resume and I couldn't understand why he was unemployed for so long. He explained later that he ...
2
votes
3answers
961 views
Should I quit the job because of misunderstanding with friend
Friend of mine was assigned a task to explore commercial possibilities in a completely new market for the company. There was no real in-house expertise in this market and he was the only guy who had ...
6
votes
2answers
519 views
How to combat appeals to authority that have no facts
I have an issue where my project leader is making ipse dixit statements (meaning [it's true because] he said it himself). It takes time to verify whether his statements are true or not (usually untrue)...
5
votes
4answers
1k views
How should I react when people have a loud fight in open space
There is a conflict growing between people in other team. I cooperate with one of the persons involved in that conflict.
It was like a quiet conflict (kind of "there is an elephant in the" ... open ...
3
votes
1answer
605 views
How do I move forward after a misunderstanding at our year end function?
Last night we had our year end function at a local restaurant where a couple of tables were arranged to form one big square table. At one stage a colleague who was sitting next to me moved a few ...
72
votes
7answers
22k views
I suspect my coworker is trying to take revenge. How do my career and I survive an extra few weeks of working together?
A few months ago, I was temporarily (until the end of this year) put on another team. There is one other developer, and we've been struggling in our day-to-day interactions from day one. He's not used ...
6
votes
3answers
812 views
I'm getting personal insults as a response to set up collaboration with former system developer, what should I do?
So, we are an NGO and we develop the new IT system for it on a voluntary basis that our members will use. It is a must for us, as people are not satisfied at all with the old system. Nobody has any ...
8
votes
3answers
675 views
What to do about a colleague who asked me to help him start a business competing with our employer? [closed]
A colleague (who currently works at the company) told me that he is creating a new business that would be a direct competition of our current company.
He also asked me to help him with a job for his ...
4
votes
1answer
1k views
How to deal with a senior coworker who sabotaged my work
I currently work on a team being led by a senior coworker with a title equivalent to tech lead in Agile, however I do not report to him. About 3-4 months ago he switched the process from exporting ...
7
votes
4answers
802 views
Demeaning co-worker - What can I do besides go to HR?
I've been at my job for 2 1/2 years now. We have a small team (5 people), that all works remotely. The co-worker in question started about a year before me.
This co-worker is consistently rude and ...
41
votes
8answers
8k views
Should I say anything 'bad' about candidate(s) who'll be replacing me?
I'm currently serving notice period in my current company and will be joining a new company in some time (a little over a month). So naturally my current company is looking for a replacement, and I ...
1
vote
2answers
965 views
Boss and Sales Head frequently fighting verbally - normal for a small startup or a reason to leave?
My current employer is a small startup (only 1 year old) and with 10 employees and I have just joined this place after previously working in a very big company with 2500 employees and a decent culture....
-1
votes
2answers
482 views
Isolation in a team
I am having the following situation and would appreciate some feedback how to revolve it:
I have been working for 7 months in a Small software dev team. 2 backend devs, 1 front , 1 senior developer ...
14
votes
4answers
1k views
coworkers unwilling to do code reviews
At work I've been temporary lent to another team this quarter because they have too much work on their plate. I'm here to work on subject X for this team, that is kinda stand-alone but would benefit ...
63
votes
10answers
27k views
Co-Worker sabotages my work life
This is happening in central Europe.
So basically I got this co-worker (let's call her Stacy) who regularly tries to undermine me. She disrupts my work, puts me in a bad light and doesn't cooperate ...
16
votes
5answers
5k views
How to politely ask “pretentious” engineers to simplify language
I spent a lot of time thinking on this question so that it can have an answer, so please inform me if it needs modification since I really need help with this problem.
I am one of 10 team leads for ...
0
votes
3answers
1k views
How do I deal with a superior who seems more interested in respect than the issues? [closed]
I'm the technical lead on a software development project. We are wrapping up what should be the last release for this project. When I joined the team 14 months ago the project was already 14 months ...
9
votes
5answers
2k views
Bugs are not deserving to paid-for
I'm contractor.
Both I and company I work in same (not American jurisdiction).
I get paid by amount of time entered on company's private gitlab x hourly rate. I do have formal written contract with ...
63
votes
11answers
24k views
How do I get a coworker to do something that they don’t want to do, as they disrespect me?
I asked a colleague at work to do a 5-minute task, which is part of their role.
I sent an email, but they didn't reply. I went up to the person’s desk and they totally dismissed the request saying ...
