Questions tagged [conflict]
Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties
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Doing the heavy lifting, no gratitude
I have been in a very strange situation recently. 20 years of experience have had some disagreements conflicts in the past, but I have never managed to alienate a whole team towards me so far :) So it ...
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Ask for Help and Guidance for My Career Dilemma [closed]
I am a 28-year-old man studying MSc computer science with a focus on artificial intelligence. I have a big issue. I like doing things that involve studying or working with people, and theoretical ...
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What is the best course of action if the Head of HR is making unsubstantiated and false accusations?
Strange situation where in an email thread which included top management and CEO a non management person (a highly skilled employee) made a statement. The Head of HR basically accused that person of ...
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Would it be acceptable to request an HR representative to sit in on an all manager meeting?
I work at a quickly growing company that started as a mom and pop and is now being taken over by a corporation. They have made some changes (which I really like to see!), the latest and greatest one ...
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My successor and her future primary contact do not get along
For several years, I have been working as the technical lead of a team of 7 engineers responsible for one part of a large project in a company based in Germany. As a team lead, my tasks included ...
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How do I handle a situation where my manager wants me to promote a member of my team who isn't ready?
I manage a team of product managers. We have a promotion period once a year. The process is like this: the manager nominates some of their team members, then a group of seniors and directors would ...
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How can I explain to my manager that a project he wishes to undertake cannot be performed by the team?
My manager has recently been made aware of a potential business opportunity, which would yield him a significant commission if successful. This is because said business opportunity requires a very ...
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What do I say to a co-worker who is always putting herself down?
I sit very close to a co-worker who, while doing her work, keeps saying things like "I am so dumb, I am so stupid, what a dummy I am." I'm at my own desk doing my own work, but I still ...
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What to do if coworkers are holding grudges
I started to work at a new department at a university. There are only 2 very senior members, the head Lady and another Lady only.
The others are kind of new like me. There are 3 members who don't work ...
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What should I do about pseudo-friendly behaviour from a colleague?
I moved to Norway for work just under 2 months ago. The work is in the IT sector. My immediate supervisor is in the main IT department of the company where I work, and I was dispatched to another ...
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How do I respond to an impossible task given to me by my boss?
Preface: I understand how to calculate this for past changes or generic data. This is in regards to future changes before they happen in order to justify the project.
I am leading a website redesign ...
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How to convince my overseas manager that my new hire is incompetent?
I am a manager in two person office in Asia Pacific (APAC), which is part of a global company that has offices all around the world. I recruited another person so that in my absence support could be ...
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How do we deal with a colleague that falls short of expectations?
We are a small three-person team dealing with data analysis working in a software company. Until a few months ago, it was just me and another colleague, both of which have a technical background (...
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How do I explain to my boss that his preferred software tool has serious bugs?
I am using a 3rd party software tool at work that has some bugs that are not yet fixed. There is no work around for some of them. My boss insists that since the website of the tools says that it got ...
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Contractor closed out from new contracts with big department in organisation
This question relates to Norway, the business culture is northern. I have the following problem. I have been working as contractor for Organization X 7 years. Not one stretch but let's say 3 periods. ...
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Systematic routine to deal with a coworker relationship becoming strained?
I feel like with coworkers and also with human relationships there’s a “honeymoon phase” where you’re just happy to have landed the job, or found a great person to join a team or project, or made some ...
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Should I report an unethical behavior from a teammate to our leader?
I am working in a research team that consists of researchers and a team lead. The team lead asked me with another teammate to experiment with several methodologies to get good results on a data. When ...
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Is it a good idea to refer a good friend who is looking for cofounders for his project to another good friend of mine if I care about our friendship? [closed]
A friend of mine has started a startup where he wants to develop a very technical product that requires quite a bit of expertise in cloud solutions. He asked me if I knew anyone who might be ...
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How do I deal with a colleague who wants to talk to me? [closed]
I have a colleague at work. He is autistic. He likes to talk but have trouble expressing his emotions. He doesn’t sit next to me. He works with me sometimes. He leaves his cubicle to talk to me even ...
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A colleague "hoards" communal resources and our bosses are unaware, how do we solve the issue?
I work at a research institute. We have offices that are supposed to be just that - an office. And we have labs, lots of them. The labs are shared among the several hundred people that work at the ...
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How to best deal with a devious work colleague that is constantly undermining my role?
In my current role, I am responsible for managing several teams, for where I am accountable for their performance and how they work together to deliver work. I am the scrum master.
In one team I have ...
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Fighting back being thrown under the bus
I work for a small company, and I've recently discovered that while talking to the big boss my manager has wrongly blamed me for some issues that delayed our product.
Although I can understand that ...
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How can I talk with my manager about a team member who talks trash about the others in the project?
I have a colleague, developer, not a lead, with whom we work closely on the project. Generally he is reliable and people can expect help from him. I say "generally" because this help always ...
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How to deal with an incompetent department in a new firm
Me and my team were hired to a new software organisation, "X". Top management is good and wants us to succeed. We agreed fairly tight timelines on my team's onboarding, in part because there ...
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Office Politics and Centralized Control
Here is the situation, I am (by my own admission) a bit of a Trouble Maker. Not in the 'The Police have been called' sense, but in the 'Hey, this system has a problem and we should fix it and make it ...
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How can I tell my boss that my productivity is low due to a conflict with a coworker, without blaming the coworker?
Four months ago, I started a new job and joined a project with a co-worker who has been employed here for many years. We were both brought on as experts, but he has subdomain expertise that I do not ...
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How do I politely coexist with a help vampire?
I'm a senior developer at my workplace. A coworker in my sister team… isn't. They're also a textbook help vampire: they face an issue, they don't understand it, they miss the error message, they ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?
We went to a team dinner where alcoholic beverages were served. However, I am someone who doesn't drink alcohol due to my personal beliefs. Since people around were constantly making fun of me, I ...
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How do I talk about a "failed" internship during interviews for a SWE role?
As a recent grad I accepted an internship opportunity with a household name major tech company. The program had little to no training or ramp up period, instead I was placed on an active team and ...
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How can I advocate for a change that a very admired colleague opposes?
I'm a senior developer at a new job. One rock star programmer on my team is considered senior. He has worked on the project for years. His code has unhelpful or misleading names. It has methods and ...
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How do you deal with disrespectful/angry coworker?
I wanted to get your opinion on something that happened today at work.
I'm a manager in a tech company. Since friday, we have this "defcon 3" situation at work, meaning that we have some ...
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Colleague just won't let things go. It wastes time and affects my morale
My colleague and I work together on a project. We generally get along well on a personal level, and he makes good contributions to the team. His opinions are often valuable and highlight things we ...
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Should I report it to my manager that the client's security didn't help (eg show me around) like my instructions said they would?
I have a side job where the office I report to is in another city. I used to work for them close to full time, but now I have a different job. Since it was such a great company to work with I still do ...
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Would it be fair to ask my new employer to increase sign-on bonus because of delayed start date?
The employer I accepted an offer from on March 3rd, with a start date of April 4th, offers new out-of-state employees one of two options for relocation assistance due to mandatory on-site policies:
$...
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Retaining ambitious employee with rare skill set
We hired a talented engineer "Alice" some time back, and she has excelled at everything we throw at her. If she needs to use a new programming language or tool, she buys a book and learns it ...
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Internship starts before school ends
I have an offer for an internship a while ago but I haven't accept it yet. My internship starts on June 6 but my school's quarter ends on June 10 and I also have final exams on June 10 also. What do I ...
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Should I tell my manager about a passive-aggressive employee?
I recently started a new job. I was interviewed by the manager and three people that would be my peers. Everyone knew that I wasn't familiar with a specific piece of technology, but they decided to ...
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What possible consequences can including the course on violations in organizations in university programs have? [closed]
University gives knowledge on a variety of professional skills. One important skill is missing in the list, it is the skill to detect wrong behavior in the organization. The topic is not easy, it is ...
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Conflict of interests when interviewing
I work for a big company in a research department and am currently interviewing with a 10 people start-up in (roughly) the same industry branch.
They're very relaxed and want me to give a scientific ...
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Can't stand managers not reading emails and replies
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We work remotely. Our managers are in a different country
I know the best solution is to reduce emails and instead use either Slack or instant messages, but these managers are from ...
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Employee Complaining About Sister IT Group
I have an employee who is fed up with another business area that we rely upon to provide a sort of IT service to us. We should be able to do some things that this administration group does however our ...
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Conflict with unqualified senior colleague from first day of work
I started as a data scientist 3 weeks ago at a small company (<100 employees) and have been assigned the one and only data scientist at the company as my lead/mentor. This person, let's call him &...
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Brought on as a senior dev /tech lead, project manager sees differently. How do I make this job work?
I was rehired in a senior dev role to lead a small team for a company I use to work for. I worked for them for 6 years as a senior dev, a few years ago.
However, the new project manager doesn't see me ...
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How do I get my colleague to send me the requested data?
I need certain test data in order to make improvements to our product. My colleague reported the issue but over the last month has ignored my repeated requests for data, while continuously reiterating ...
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Does the Manager's manager need to know disputes in teams?
I was reading about conflict resolution and I read a good approach, if a situation is considered as a conflict that wont resolve by itself, is to start with the manager calling an informal and private ...
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How to Handle Bigotry in Annual Report to Shareholders?
I recently discovered a series of bigoted jokes while browsing previous years' annual reports to shareholders. A report from several years ago contained multiple paragraphs making fun of Muslims and ...
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How do I deal with a manager oversimplifying tasks to encourage me to take them?
Our company has a new manager, who is eager to prove himself. During our regular meetings everyone is encouraged to take on more tasks and to grow. That's not unusual in any way but I don't have any ...
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How to solve mindset and value conflict?
I have an agile mindset / conflict mediation question.
There is a conflict between the PO (Product Owner) and me, the Scrum Master.
The PO is on some kind of crusade to appear to be the loudest, most ...
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Repairing relationship with former boss
A few introductory concepts about the organization I work for: First, it is a huge, old, very rigid and quite hierarchical organization, so, any expectation of me effecting any change in it is totally ...
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How do I handle a situation where I'm "stuck" between the CEO and Production Manager?
Summary: Our factory is suffering major issues, our CEO and my manager are in
disagreement about the reasons for it and how to fix it. The CEO wants
me to take his side in this and help the manager to ...
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