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Questions tagged [conflict]

Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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How to handle an increasingly-tense working environment

I am middle management. The environment at work is very tense. For example: People that were previously very friendly are increasingly becoming distant People are complaining and frustrated about ...
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Should I stay on a terrible job for one more month?

In June 2018 I had an offer for a job in Japan. The conditions were fine: 9:00-18:00, paid vacation, language support and an ok salary. Personally I moved there because I really enjoy culture and ...
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Conflict of interests doubt [closed]

For example if I work for x company . , and I want to run a training business / penetration testing - custom labs development , and I work as red teamer / penetration tester would it be translated as ...
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How can I communicate my desire to leave my relative's company, yesterday?

I work in a company, solely owned by my relative, on a part time basis, as a programmer. I wanted to leave the company a long time ago to concentrate on my own business, but was unable to do so until ...
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How do I deal with my insecurity about hiring an employee that outputs work faster than me? [closed]

I work in the Programming industry. I hired a guy to work with me. He was older although had a great resume and I couldn't understand why he was unemployed for so long. He explained later that he ...
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Should I quit the job because of misunderstanding with friend

Friend of mine was assigned a task to explore commercial possibilities in a completely new market for the company. There was no real in-house expertise in this market and he was the only guy who had ...
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How to combat appeals to authority that have no facts

I have an issue where my project leader is making ipse dixit statements (meaning [it's true because] he said it himself). It takes time to verify whether his statements are true or not (usually untrue)...
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How should I react when people have a loud fight in open space

There is a conflict growing between people in other team. I cooperate with one of the persons involved in that conflict. It was like a quiet conflict (kind of "there is an elephant in the" ... open ...
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How do I move forward after a misunderstanding at our year end function?

Last night we had our year end function at a local restaurant where a couple of tables were arranged to form one big square table. At one stage a colleague who was sitting next to me moved a few ...
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I suspect my coworker is trying to take revenge. How do my career and I survive an extra few weeks of working together?

A few months ago, I was temporarily (until the end of this year) put on another team. There is one other developer, and we've been struggling in our day-to-day interactions from day one. He's not used ...
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I'm getting personal insults as a response to set up collaboration with former system developer, what should I do?

So, we are an NGO and we develop the new IT system for it on a voluntary basis that our members will use. It is a must for us, as people are not satisfied at all with the old system. Nobody has any ...
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What to do about a colleague who asked me to help him start a business competing with our employer? [closed]

A colleague (who currently works at the company) told me that he is creating a new business that would be a direct competition of our current company. He also asked me to help him with a job for his ...
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How to deal with a senior coworker who sabotaged my work

I currently work on a team being led by a senior coworker with a title equivalent to tech lead in Agile, however I do not report to him. About 3-4 months ago he switched the process from exporting ...
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Demeaning co-worker - What can I do besides go to HR?

I've been at my job for 2 1/2 years now. We have a small team (5 people), that all works remotely. The co-worker in question started about a year before me. This co-worker is consistently rude and ...
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Should I say anything 'bad' about candidate(s) who'll be replacing me?

I'm currently serving notice period in my current company and will be joining a new company in some time (a little over a month). So naturally my current company is looking for a replacement, and I ...
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Boss and Sales Head frequently fighting verbally - normal for a small startup or a reason to leave?

My current employer is a small startup (only 1 year old) and with 10 employees and I have just joined this place after previously working in a very big company with 2500 employees and a decent culture....
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Isolation in a team

I am having the following situation and would appreciate some feedback how to revolve it: I have been working for 7 months in a Small software dev team. 2 backend devs, 1 front , 1 senior developer ...
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coworkers unwilling to do code reviews

At work I've been temporary lent to another team this quarter because they have too much work on their plate. I'm here to work on subject X for this team, that is kinda stand-alone but would benefit ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life

This is happening in central Europe. So basically I got this co-worker (let's call her Stacy) who regularly tries to undermine me. She disrupts my work, puts me in a bad light and doesn't cooperate ...
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How to politely ask “pretentious” engineers to simplify language

I spent a lot of time thinking on this question so that it can have an answer, so please inform me if it needs modification since I really need help with this problem. I am one of 10 team leads for ...
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How do I deal with a superior who seems more interested in respect than the issues? [closed]

I'm the technical lead on a software development project. We are wrapping up what should be the last release for this project. When I joined the team 14 months ago the project was already 14 months ...
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Bugs are not deserving to paid-for

I'm contractor. Both I and company I work in same (not American jurisdiction). I get paid by amount of time entered on company's private gitlab x hourly rate. I do have formal written contract with ...
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How do I get a coworker to do something that they don’t want to do, as they disrespect me?

I asked a colleague at work to do a 5-minute task, which is part of their role. I sent an email, but they didn't reply. I went up to the person’s desk and they totally dismissed the request saying ...
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Office manager repeatedly produces loud distracting noises (tics), what to do?

Working in a small co-work space, the current office manager constantly and repeatedly (every 10 seconds approximately) produces loud noises (mostly tics) when not engaging in a conversation. A few ...
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How can I get colleagues to makes decisions based off research as opposed to whim?

I'm a software developer and the codebase I work with is horrible. It is the result of no documentation and a high turn around of developers. The one constant is one of the leads, who seems to like ...
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Is it harassment to ask a person why they did what they did and whether they got paid for it? [closed]

I get a lot of useless emails in my work mailbox, so, a couple of days ago I received this email, talking about some bank's deposit interest rates. The email came from a person who works at the same ...
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How to address a coworker about their emotional behavior at work?

I have a coworker who produces good work, but is difficult to work with. When confronted with a problem, he can easily get frustrated and will frequently derail meetings and hinder progress once he ...
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What should I say to a client when my boss is almost explicitly telling me to lie?

I have recently moved into a project manager position and am getting used to timelines and deadline talk. My boss who actually meets with clients before a project is greenlit has promised a client ...
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Got deleted from spreadsheet for a company run. Should I act on it? [closed]

A lot of companies are participating in a 5 km run every year. I signed up I a google spreadsheet. The deadline to signing up was yesterday, the teams were announced and I am not in any of the teams. ...
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9answers
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Colleague blocks change request in peer review because of perceived mistakes in code, but suggested improvements do not work

In the company I work for, change requests go through various steps, including a development step, a peer review step and a testing step. On this particular change request, I have been assigned as a ...
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Best way to approach manager with urgent issues when they are in a bad mood

I work in a quality control department for a manufacturing facility and report to the quality manager. Some days, my boss will be in a very bad mood due to having a lot of quality issues ...
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How to talk to client who refuses to pay for freelance work

I worked on a project which was advertised by a UK company as an internship after applying online. When I started this project, I quickly requested for a contract but I was given excuses as to why it ...
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How to politely, but definitely refuse to “take somebody's side”

A little background: I am the technical team lead of a group of consultants (all in one group). One of our junior consultants had a quite complicated technical contact person at the customer side. ...
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What to do with conflicting instructions?

We were between managers for a while recently and I was taking instructions directly from the owner of the business. This was the case for a couple of months so I became very familiar with my duties ...
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How to handle disagreements in an email conversation?

Alex wrote an email to Bob which said Bob's incorrect information wasted Alex's time. Bob replied that his information was correct and provided some supporting reasons, thus putting the blame back on ...
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How do I improve my relationship with difficult/pretentious colleagues?

I'm a programmer at a smaller company and I enjoy the responsibility and the freedom that this brings. It also mean that the professional relationships you have inside the company are more important. ...
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How to deal with passive aggressive behavior of coworkers after I complained about prolonged interruptions? [closed]

Background I'm a young female engineer from a racial minority group in the US. 90% of the staff is white male American. I started dating a coworker 6 months ago. We disclosed our relationship to our ...
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How to deal with a controversial boss? [closed]

I report to 2 bosses, one that is offshore and one on shore. I am comfortable working with my direct boss who is offshore but not the one at on shore. The day I joined she (on shore boss) told me ...
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How to deal with a conflict over responsibilities

There's a conflict over responsibilities in my company. It goes back to the time I didn't even work here. It's about one area of responsibility: both my and another department wants to be the unique ...
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Previous employee falsely claimed my work in resume

The secretary before me left the company before I started there. However, she claims on her resume an additional two years after she was gone - this would be when I was there, and the work done during ...
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How to manage a manager with unclear expectations?

The issue is the manager doesn’t provide clear expectations or direction, and often changes his mind, leading to conflicts and misunderstandings, as well as delays in projects. Example 1: A finished ...
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Clothes left in work changing room unattended were thrown away [closed]

Background I cycle to work on a daily basis and will use the same clothes on the way to work and on the way back. I have overactive sweat glands and they can get quite damp, so I leave them on a ...
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No email communication after accepting a formal written offer. How should I phrase the call? [duplicate]

Background info: So I was offered an position in a very small company (<50) in UK. The letter was in an email with the letterhead and the signature from the guy who interviewed me and I think he ...
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Changed mind on accepting job at last minute

I had applied for a job and received an offer. Though I accepted the offer and agreed to come into the office at the start of next week, I changed my mind. There are several red flags that after ...
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Reckless use of very toxic PC cleaner in closed workplace, how to tell them to stop using it? or am i overreacting? [closed]

EDIT:Thank you very much for all the answers, either by giving how to approach my coworkers which is something i really needed or with facts about canned air. Which is looks like i was overreacting. ...
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Coworker made an inappropriate joke, in a work email, about me being violent at work [closed]

It was in the context of a joking back-and-forth, and this person took it too far. Without getting bogged down in details, think of something along the lines of: Lol. Fine, well I'll just tell ...
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New programmer want to change a lot of things on a solo project [closed]

In a nutshell There is a new developer to a company, bringing new ideas to a project. While said developer solely owns and works on the project, the changes being made have caused distress to other ...
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Is there a way to polite/idiomatic/proverbial way to convey that it not my responsibility

For my work I am dependent on a coworker to analyse all the information that's available and condense it down into specific input, which I can then use to start my process. Unfortunately, this ...
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Can I be forced to be a flight RN? [closed]

I have been a labor and delivery nurse for 5 years at my hospital. The hospital has done a lot of expanding in the pediatric area including bring in specialty doctors to the area. The labor and ...
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How to deal with a coworker who blamed me for the bug that was his fault

I’m relatively new at a job, but have established myself as the “guy” when it comes to a certain web service we use. Our own website integrates with the service. I don’t really work on the site, just ...