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How do I cope with boss giving conflicting instructions and unclear expectations?

How do I cope with my new boss giving conflicting instructions and unclear expectations, and how do I deal with the fact that I don't respond to criticism the way they expect me to? I get told to ...
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Is pair programming a team lead or a tech lead decision?

I am a tech lead in a team. I was doing a lot of the team lead work because there was no team lead up to now. The team has mixed feelings about pair programming. The main reason for this is that some ...
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Seeking Guidance on Managing Workplace Dynamics - Narcisitic employee [closed]

I hired a team member two years ago in offshore, who, unfortunately, exhibits traits associated with covert narcissism. In my team we are only TWO people , me and narcistic. The workplace has become ...
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Mumbling coworker [closed]

I have a coworker who constantly mumbles under his breath impolite things about me or other coworkers. I find it very rude, because others can clearly hear him, although it's possible he is unaware ...
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How to address a coworker's undermining behavior that affects my performance?

I work as an engineer for a large company in the US and am facing challenges with a co-worker who exhibits offensive behavior towards me. We are part of a three-person core team within a larger group, ...
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How do I stand up for myself against my manager while still taking accountability for my mistake?

As with a lot of workplaces, the work we do at my company is very much a team effort. I was assigned to semi-lead a cross-team project with one other team. I say semi-lead because while I was the one ...
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Arrogant , lazy worker considered for promotion

I recruited a person called AG in Asia office. In the initial year of AG's employment, I encountered significant challenges due to issues related to arrogance, laziness, and a lack of ordinary task ...
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No separation of roles and responsibilities in current department leading to conflict

In my current department, it seems as though every role is openly stepping on each others toes. This is leading to friction, when you have the same people trying to do the same task. We have defined ...
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I am part of a team while not officially reporting to its manager, and I think this is causing tension between us. How should I address this?

I am a mid-level software engineer at a large-ish tech company, having slightly above 5YOE. My team is comprised of 8 developers. The previous manager for this team left the company a few months back. ...
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Bosses are simultaneously demanding I document my work, and also trying to prevent me from doing any work

My bosses are simultaneously demanding I document my work while preventing me from doing any work. I assume they are trying to somehow get around my 3 month notice period. They demand I enter details ...
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Crypto mining by employee for 5+ years [closed]

An employee has been mining cryptocurrency for 5+ years. They installed mining software on most of our company PC's (approximately 40), and purchased items stating they were required by the company ...
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How to assist the improvement of company quality by stopping some very low qualities practiced by coworker

This is regarding a problem occured in a work place where a majority of workers are doing gossiping, backbiting and undermining, kind of they have adapted it like a cultural thing. So, for short, they ...
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Manager banned tests and Linux [closed]

My manager demanded I stop writing tests and instead start using manual testing like before I joined the company. After I mentioned I couldn't find something using the package manager, they also ...
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Can an employer exclude you from all meetings during the notice period? [closed]

After I refused to resign, I got put on my notice period which is 3 months. I have been excluded from all online and onsite meetings in the company, but I'm expected to report to my boss via chat, ...
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How to prevent and safeguard yourself from getting negatively affected by the behaviour of someone at the office

I was recruited to a workplace to do things in subject A. At the interview also they discussed in that way. But now all of a sudden, my Manager asked me whether I can do things in subject B. I'm not ...
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Is it unprofessional to get a second job after my boss invested money in me?

I finally got my first job in my chosen (and hyper-competitive) field. For this job, I moved to a small country town and I am one of very few people that do this job in this town. My new boss invested ...
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I was asked to train new hire on my job - is this eventual replacement?

Boss hired a senior IT team member (senior to me and others) with same but better skill set and I am to train them on my job (other devs are not asked to even though they have the skills to) but I do ...
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Doing the heavy lifting, no gratitude

I have been in a very strange situation recently. 20 years of experience have had some disagreements conflicts in the past, but I have never managed to alienate a whole team towards me so far :) So it ...
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What is the best course of action if the Head of HR is making unsubstantiated and false accusations?

Strange situation where in an email thread which included top management and CEO a non management person (a highly skilled employee) made a statement. The Head of HR basically accused that person of ...
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Would it be acceptable to request an HR representative to sit in on an all manager meeting?

I work at a quickly growing company that started as a mom and pop and is now being taken over by a corporation. They have made some changes (which I really like to see!), the latest and greatest one ...
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My successor and her future primary contact do not get along

For several years, I have been working as the technical lead of a team of 7 engineers responsible for one part of a large project in a company based in Germany. As a team lead, my tasks included ...
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How do I handle a situation where my manager wants me to promote a member of my team who isn't ready?

I manage a team of product managers. We have a promotion period once a year. The process is like this: the manager nominates some of their team members, then a group of seniors and directors would ...
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How can I explain to my manager that a project he wishes to undertake cannot be performed by the team?

My manager has recently been made aware of a potential business opportunity, which would yield him a significant commission if successful. This is because said business opportunity requires a very ...
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What do I say to a co-worker who is always putting herself down?

I sit very close to a co-worker who, while doing her work, keeps saying things like "I am so dumb, I am so stupid, what a dummy I am." I'm at my own desk doing my own work, but I still ...
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What to do if coworkers are holding grudges

I started to work at a new department at a university. There are only 2 very senior members, the head Lady and another Lady only. The others are kind of new like me. There are 3 members who don't work ...
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What should I do about pseudo-friendly behaviour from a colleague?

I moved to Norway for work just under 2 months ago. The work is in the IT sector. My immediate supervisor is in the main IT department of the company where I work, and I was dispatched to another ...
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How do I respond to an impossible task given to me by my boss?

Preface: I understand how to calculate this for past changes or generic data. This is in regards to future changes before they happen in order to justify the project. I am leading a website redesign ...
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How to convince my overseas manager that my new hire is incompetent?

I am a manager in two person office in Asia Pacific (APAC), which is part of a global company that has offices all around the world. I recruited another person so that in my absence support could be ...
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How do we deal with a colleague that falls short of expectations?

We are a small three-person team dealing with data analysis working in a software company. Until a few months ago, it was just me and another colleague, both of which have a technical background (...
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How do I explain to my boss that his preferred software tool has serious bugs?

I am using a 3rd party software tool at work that has some bugs that are not yet fixed. There is no work around for some of them. My boss insists that since the website of the tools says that it got ...
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Contractor closed out from new contracts with big department in organisation

This question relates to Norway, the business culture is northern. I have the following problem. I have been working as contractor for Organization X 7 years. Not one stretch but let's say 3 periods. ...
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Systematic routine to deal with a coworker relationship becoming strained?

I feel like with coworkers and also with human relationships there’s a “honeymoon phase” where you’re just happy to have landed the job, or found a great person to join a team or project, or made some ...
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Should I report an unethical behavior from a teammate to our leader?

I am working in a research team that consists of researchers and a team lead. The team lead asked me with another teammate to experiment with several methodologies to get good results on a data. When ...
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Is it a good idea to refer a good friend who is looking for cofounders for his project to another good friend of mine if I care about our friendship? [closed]

A friend of mine has started a startup where he wants to develop a very technical product that requires quite a bit of expertise in cloud solutions. He asked me if I knew anyone who might be ...
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How do I deal with a colleague who wants to talk to me? [closed]

I have a colleague at work. He is autistic. He likes to talk but have trouble expressing his emotions. He doesn’t sit next to me. He works with me sometimes. He leaves his cubicle to talk to me even ...
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A colleague "hoards" communal resources and our bosses are unaware, how do we solve the issue?

I work at a research institute. We have offices that are supposed to be just that - an office. And we have labs, lots of them. The labs are shared among the several hundred people that work at the ...
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How to best deal with a devious work colleague that is constantly undermining my role?

In my current role, I am responsible for managing several teams, for where I am accountable for their performance and how they work together to deliver work. I am the scrum master. In one team I have ...
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Fighting back being thrown under the bus

I work for a small company, and I've recently discovered that while talking to the big boss my manager has wrongly blamed me for some issues that delayed our product. Although I can understand that ...
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How can I talk with my manager about a team member who talks trash about the others in the project?

I have a colleague, developer, not a lead, with whom we work closely on the project. Generally he is reliable and people can expect help from him. I say "generally" because this help always ...
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How to deal with an incompetent department in a new firm

Me and my team were hired to a new software organisation, "X". Top management is good and wants us to succeed. We agreed fairly tight timelines on my team's onboarding, in part because there ...
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Office Politics and Centralized Control

Here is the situation, I am (by my own admission) a bit of a Trouble Maker. Not in the 'The Police have been called' sense, but in the 'Hey, this system has a problem and we should fix it and make it ...
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How can I tell my boss that my productivity is low due to a conflict with a coworker, without blaming the coworker?

Four months ago, I started a new job and joined a project with a co-worker who has been employed here for many years. We were both brought on as experts, but he has subdomain expertise that I do not ...
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How do I politely coexist with a help vampire?

I'm a senior developer at my workplace. A coworker in my sister team… isn't. They're also a textbook help vampire: they face an issue, they don't understand it, they miss the error message, they ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

We went to a team dinner where alcoholic beverages were served. However, I am someone who doesn't drink alcohol due to my personal beliefs. Since people around were constantly making fun of me, I ...
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How do I talk about a "failed" internship during interviews for a SWE role?

As a recent grad I accepted an internship opportunity with a household name major tech company. The program had little to no training or ramp up period, instead I was placed on an active team and ...
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How can I advocate for a change that a very admired colleague opposes?

I'm a senior developer at a new job. One rock star programmer on my team is considered senior. He has worked on the project for years. His code has unhelpful or misleading names. It has methods and ...
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How do you deal with disrespectful/angry coworker?

I wanted to get your opinion on something that happened today at work. I'm a manager in a tech company. Since friday, we have this "defcon 3" situation at work, meaning that we have some ...
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Colleague just won't let things go. It wastes time and affects my morale

My colleague and I work together on a project. We generally get along well on a personal level, and he makes good contributions to the team. His opinions are often valuable and highlight things we ...
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Should I report it to my manager that the client's security didn't help (eg show me around) like my instructions said they would?

I have a side job where the office I report to is in another city. I used to work for them close to full time, but now I have a different job. Since it was such a great company to work with I still do ...
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Would it be fair to ask my new employer to increase sign-on bonus because of delayed start date?

The employer I accepted an offer from on March 3rd, with a start date of April 4th, offers new out-of-state employees one of two options for relocation assistance due to mandatory on-site policies: $...
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