Questions tagged [conflict]
Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties
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Coworker says disgusting things so I stopped talking to him. Now he's demanding to know why I'm being quiet and not talking?
A bit of a follow up to Decided to report coworker for his consistent offensive "jokes". What to expect?
I have a coworker who says really disgusting and obscene things at work. I was going ...
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What is a good way to complain on a retrospective meeting?
Hi I had a following case - a JIra issue with broken flow with regards of To Do / Selected for development / In Progress / Done. The result was that all the tooling around the JIra - boards reports ...
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Should I confront coworker over behavior [closed]
There is a group of people at work I call the Pack. Every few months or so the Pack targets a victim and starts a whisper campaign. Sometimes the victim is forced out of the company sometimes they ...
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Dealing with hostility from ex-teammate newly promoted to lead
I have been working in a team with 3 other developers, reporting to a tech lead who departed as of very recently. Afterwards, we started reporting to the most senior teammate who was promoted to fill ...
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Dealing with the fallout of a work related lie
TL;DR: I lied to a co-worker in an email by removing content from emails that I forwarded. Looking to find a path to regaining their trust. How do I continue to work in close proximity, whilst there ...
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After company restructuring. how could I assert the type of role I want without risking redundancy?
Question: I have already made it clear verbally what I want in my career and asked to speak
in a few weeks' time to discuss this. Apart from job hunting elsewhere, is there anything else I can do?
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Is it normal for people to take things personally when rebuked/disagreed upon in a startup environment?
I've had experience with two co-founders (from two different startups) name John and Adam. Both of them 'rage quit' the company when I did not agree with them.
John got so upset with me (the founder) ...
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On exit interview was told not to say name of company/client I worked for
I was contacted by someone offering me paid work. Call him Bob. Bob has a sole proprietorship, call it X. His only client who he works full time for as a contractor is Y. Y gave him a budget to hire ...
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Writing a negative annual review (with negative comments about the reviewer)
I love the company that I work at; however, since the integration of colleagues from a business that we bought (around a year ago) the working conditions have really taken a turn for the worse.
I have ...
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How do I tell my boss that his contributions to projects are terrible?
I make lesson plans for a small education business. It's small enough that my boss is the owner of the company and tends to directly contribute and make changes to these lessons. My problem is that a ...
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How do I deal with a team member who regularly makes breaking changes?
I'm a senior developer in a mid-sized business. We are split into multiple sub-teams with specific roles for each. My allocated team's responsibility is for the day to day running of services and bug ...
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How to react to a colleague that subtly puts you down in meeting?
A few important bits of context:
I am a team leader for a team of 4 + 1 temp.
We have a few projects (reports, analyses for our department) in our pipeline and our director mostly lets me prioritize ...
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Colleague is negative and does not acknowledge me
I have the following situation. I am new to a team but not new to the project have worked in it for couple of years but I was away on different assignment again for 3 years. Now I am back in new team ...
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How to deal with underperforming Product Manager
I am a developer in a big tech company. It is been 1.5 year since our Product Manager (PM) joined my team. Since then, he's been performing bad, and since then, my manager and myself have been giving ...
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Dealing with condescending arguments from colleagues [duplicate]
How do you deal with condescending arguments when arguing with colleagues?
I mean with arguments like:
"In my N years experience ... you will learn when you get that
experience ..."
"...
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How can I minimize the damage of my PhD advisor's bad recommendation when applying for industry jobs?
This question is about the power of PhD advisors on industry job (non-research) applications. I did not get along well with my former PhD advisor. I was able to defend and graduate; however, I have ...
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My senior colleague ignores me
I am a junior software developer. I joined one of the big tech companies a year ago, immediately after graduating.
I joined a team that has one developer, he is a senior dev.
In the first half of ...
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Should I bring in CEO where a junior software engineer was hired in position of senior, and I am risking termination due to lack of collaboration?
I was hired at the beginning of April by a Swiss company as Senior WPF engineer, and because of COVID-19 lockdown was unable to be registered as permanent, so they hired me as a contractor for two ...
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How to deal with a HR rep that is making me feel super uncomfortable?
I am currently working as an intern software developer at a startup, which consists of the three founders, a HR rep that just joined the company three months ago, another intern, and me who has been ...
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Was I wrong asking my boss whether my co-worker needed to get checked at Employee Health?
My co-worker just flew back from vacations in Ft. Lauderdale and had previously said she needed to get checked at Employee Health before returning to work, but she just showed up.
I asked her ...
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How can I deal with irascible, unprofessional manager?
I work for a large-size engineering firm, in the R&D department. I am working there from 6 months by now, and it is my first work after my MSc degree. I like (unsure now) both the company and the ...
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How Should I Handle a Coworker/Friend who is Upset with Me?
I found out about two days ago, that a coworker/friend has been upset with me for months.
A few of us were planning to go out after work with our team so we asked [Joe] if he wanted to join us, but ...
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What to do (if anything) about a desk neighbor on my project who verbally and physically expresses anger and frustration? And I feel intimidated
I'm part of my own team but the nature of it is that I sometimes get "hired out" to work with another team in the same company as a sort of subject matter expert. Today and for the last 3 months or so ...
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Important ex-volunteer demanding the humiliation of former colleague
I am the "head volunteer" for a "patch" of Churches in a group of 3 neighboring cities. My job is to encourage members of our churches and parents/teens of families attending our schools to take part ...
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Furniture layout, disagreement with officemate
I am in problem. A month before I got job, I was allocated an office. It is a shared office for 3 persons. Everyone is assigned with a table and cupbourd. After a month I changed some setting in ...
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Convert a technical conflict into HR case
I have one conflict that is dressed as a technical issue which I believe is an actual HR issue. Involved in the technical conflict resolution are the project manager and the department lead.
But the ...
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Conflict with older employee
An older colleague, a woman with 30+ years of experience as a cobol developer has been escalating me every week for the last nearly 2 months. She finds different pretexts for the same issue again and ...
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Hired as a manager to effect change; existing co-worker capable but lacks 'drive' to learn and build. How to build the relationship we need?
I have recently started a new job, where I am now in essence the Supply Chain Manager for a small company that has several locations across my province (Canada). Two of the people that work for this ...
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Super PMO taking credit for the System Design that I worked on from scratch for weeks [duplicate]
I work in a software outsourcing company.
Recently, my manager pulled me out of my project to work on a system design document for a new application from scratch. The client is from a very well-known ...
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Team lead unhappy to lead team [closed]
I am the team lead of a team with quite a diverse background in both age and knowledge. 2 COBOL developers around 60 years old, 1 business person, one project manager, and 3 Java developers. I am the ...
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How do I get my boss to understand that I won't be able to attend a required session to visit a tranquility retreat?
I'm a 41-year-old single mom of one, with a 15-year-old daughter, Becky (not her real name). Becky has Asperger's Syndrome, diagnosed aged 8. She can't fully live independently and has some issues ...
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How to handle abrupt change to development criteria?
I am a full stack developer having around 6 years of experience with web technologies mostly in LAMP and MEAN stack. I recently switched to a product based company. During the interview process and ...
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How to address organizational problems when I have a soft-spoken manager?
There are a few organizational-level problems at my company that I have tried to constructively highlight so that the appropriate parties can address them, but to no avail. I, myself, am in a standard ...
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Dealing with conflict in matrix management
I'm a technical lead who also line manages developers. One of the devs (lets call her Alice) I manage works in a separate scrum team to the ones I'm the tech lead for. The teams do all work on the ...
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Difficult peers are resisting Agile transition
I have been hired by an org to improve how they do agile as a Scrum Master
Majority of the team respect my opinion but there is two individuals who are negative and long serving employees.
I have ...
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Problem with coworker frequently cutting me off
I am having a problem with one of my coworkers that seems to be getting worse. We are both Senior Engineers of equal position on the same team, working for a large multinational Engineering company.
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After how many rows should one leave the current job/position? [closed]
In the last one and a half year, I had two rows with my boss. Both times I was thinkinq to quit but somehow I remained in my position. Just for an explanation, by rows I mean exchanging several emails ...
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Management copied in on mistakes made. How to proceed
I was previously at a job, that I am no longer at.
The systems and processes were really poor.
The work of even the most junior staff member was extremely complicated due to poor systems.
One ...
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Why would I sign a confidentiality agreement after reporting an issue to HR?
There is a social media group and I noticed someone posted saying they had trouble getting paid from an employer. I work for the employer too and said I have found them to be dishonest. My manager saw ...
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Work ethic ,Simulating activity and being loud [closed]
I have the following situation and I'm not sure how to react.
In my team there are three members:
A Junior with 2 years of experience
Myself and another Senior with 15+ years of experience (...
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Being blamed for other people’s mistakes
I had a situation in a previous workplace, where it became bullying, and I said nothing and I left the organisation, but, I wonder if this is something that I could have solved?
The project was ...
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New job, getting pulled into co worker drama
I started an ER registration job about 3 months ago, and there are two coworkers responsible for my training who are going through some teenager level of drama.
Apparently, since I am friendly with ...
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How to deal with non-stop callers in the service desk
For the last three months, I've been working in an IT department with first- and second-level IT support. This differs from a call center where someone picks up the phone and quickly creates a ticket ...
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1answer
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Part of a team which made itself irreplaceable: new management wants a change, how to protect myself?
I’m a member of a team that has been developing a product for our company for years. The development started about 10 years ago and all the people of the original team are still here. I am one of the ...
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What do I do if I realize I'm incapable of doing my job and will get yelled at by my family for quitting? [closed]
I'm a recent college grad who never had any job experience other than my job right out of college at a startup in data analysis. I don't know how to manage a database or operate one which is necessary ...
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How to deal with a toxic coworker?
So, our main tech lead is a very knowledgeable guy who’s apparently been keeping the place afloat for years, but he’s quickly becoming my least favorite person. He just won’t stop speaking badly about ...
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How to politely ask my employer for reduced work time and less responsibilities?
Hello and thanks for your attention.
TL;DR:
Right now i am a full time software developer(among other things) in a small company, around 16 people, has been for now nearly 9 months, but due to ...
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How can I reply to coworkers who accuse me of automating people out of work?
I work in a small manufacturing company on special projects that automate some processes (primarily design/drafting). This automation is mainly targeted at reducing errors, establishing standards, ...
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How should I conduct a meeting with HR with the purpose of preempting a conflict with my manager?
I have a manager who is incredibly temperamental when it comes to criticism and what he views as unsatisfactory work. Oftentimes he will be very understanding and sympathetic when a problem arises, ...
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I think my coworker went through my notebook and took my project ideas
I have a notebook that I keep meeting notes, current work and future projects I'd like to do. Oddly, all these future project ideas I had listed out are now being completed by my coworker. The ...
