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'Most expensive toy in town' - conflict between manager and his boss

An acquaintance of mine - a manager high up the food chain of an international company - recently approached me for advice in a delicate situation between him and his boss. As their business has done ...
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Awkward circumstances between me, my (soon to be) ex company and my (soon to be) new company (customer of my current company): possible actions?

I’m serving my 2 months notice in my current company. I’ve worked here for about 3 years as team leader for 2 teams and (not officially) project manager for teams’ projects. All projects are for a ...
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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?

I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
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Group manager threw me under the bus to save her friend

I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do. Back story: I was put on a project that was far behind and was very low developer quality adhering to no set of standards or practices. The project was not ...
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My new job gave me a Macbook for work, but I have no idea how to use one [duplicate]

I recently landed a great job in software development. The only problem is they gave me a Macbook. However, I have zero experience using Mac. At home I use Linux and at my current job, I use a ...
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Humiliated in front of employees

I work at a small company of about 20 people. We have the owner/president, 2-3 managers (depending on how you look at it), and the rest of the people are employees. I'm one of the managers. Each day ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?

John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
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How to be taken seriously when complaining about popular colleague

A colleague of mine is extremely popular, and is growing in influence. He can be very direct and undermining when there are disagreements between us from wanting to be right. He has displayed ...
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Lack of respect from team

A new Scrum Master has come on board to support transformation activities of my workflow and is running day-to-day. Team has warmed up to him, but this has all coincided with a very quiet period at ...
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I'm getting personal insults as a response to set up collaboration with former system developer, what should I do?

So, we are an NGO and we develop the new IT system for it on a voluntary basis that our members will use. It is a must for us, as people are not satisfied at all with the old system. Nobody has any ...
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Can you safely go to HR about issues with management?

I work in Maryland, USA and have been working with a company for almost 10 years. For about the last 3 of them, I've been warned about, a newly hired regional manager that had eyes on me by my direct ...
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I'm being “forced” to put a company magnet on my personal car

I'm not sure how to handle this situation without being fired, even though I think that would be an extreme measure. A little background: I work for a company that frequently requires employees to ...
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How should I approach a boss that keeps hiring temporary workers, only to have me finish something?

Long story short, we've recently had a lot of work to do at my job and in order to fill that vacuum my boss has been hiring temporary workers. At first he hired three which stayed for about two months,...
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Helping someone who has antagonized her colleagues [closed]

I work as a developer in the web/mobile department of a big org. We have developers divided in teams, we have team leads, and we have project leaders. There’s a “new” project leader who is having ...
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Boss threatens employee with losing their job if they don't cooperate in forcing an ex-employee to drop charges

A friend's manager recently fired a coworker for no apparent reason, even though most people in the office considered the ex-coworker to be hard-working and efficient. After some time the ex-coworker ...
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Made a mistake that really annoyed a coworker. Should I attempt to explain myself or just leave it be?

I had an issue that I needed a DBA's help with. I went to my go-to DBA (DBA#1), since he's usually been friendly and receptive to my questions. He gave me his recommendation, and I logged a ticket for ...
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How to ask a non-programmer not to advise me on programming tasks

I have this problem with an otherwise very respectable colleague, who holds the position of consultant/tester in my team. Due to them being in the company twice the years I've been working here, they ...
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How to deal with a conflict over responsibilities

There's a conflict over responsibilities in my company. It goes back to the time I didn't even work here. It's about one area of responsibility: both my and another department wants to be the unique ...
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Brother-in-law earns same salary for a much simpler job in family business

I work for a small family business which consists of four employees. My father co-owns the business with another developer who is not related to us. I am a developer who reports to the co-owner. My ...
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Can I be forced to be a flight RN? [closed]

I have been a labor and delivery nurse for 5 years at my hospital. The hospital has done a lot of expanding in the pediatric area including bring in specialty doctors to the area. The labor and ...
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How can I stop harassment about my medical condition by the boss's friend? [closed]

A few years back, I was diagnosed with Celiac disease. Though I hate it, I know eating anything containing gluten can land me in the hospital. I take it seriously. However, a few weeks back a coworker ...
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How to handle incompetent/aggressive customers incapable of describing a problem?

The situation described takes place in Germany, but is not neccessarily linked to German culture. I work in IT support at a library with public workstations, and often encounter (mostly elderly) ...
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How do you deal with coworkers who don't like you on a personal level? [closed]

What is a good way to professionally work with people who give the vibe of disliking you on a personal level? Is it a good idea to ask what bug got up someone's behind and died, or should you just ...
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How to remedy a false accusation in small open office setting

I went on a work trip with my boss and we stayed at an AirBNB that was under my boss's name. She brought along her baby, and wanted a house to stay in so she could hire a babysitter to watch her baby ...
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Someone from my office gave negative review of company and posted wrong things about my character

A guy from my company posted a bad review of our company on Mouthshut where he wrote bad things about the company and named some female employees including me saying they do prostitution. I was ...
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How to deal with sabotaging, possibly passive-aggressive, boss?

I work at an institution of higher education. One of our employee benefits is a generous tuition reimbursement if we take classes here. I decided to take advantage of this and go back to school here. ...
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Managing difficult employees

I just joined a new company four weeks ago. I am currently in the process of delivering a project, I am the project manager managing a tech lead, developer and dev ops. Out of the 3, one of the ...
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Can I “rent” a Canadian Professional Engineer (P.Eng.)? [closed]

I'm working with a startup in Canada, and we're at about the 18 month mark where we get to do our final sales demo. Everything has gone great so far, and we've grown the company from 2 employees to 20,...
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Can An Employer Refuse Mediation?

This question relates to UK employment. In addition, it does not concern me, I am asking on behalf of someone else. The person in question has had an up and down relationship with their manager for a ...
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My co-worker is not happy when I do well [closed]

I work as a qualified dental technician. I started about a year ago at my current lab and a few months after, a trainee joined. I work part time (30 hours a week) and she works full time. She is hard-...
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How to handle a coworker who feels rejected [closed]

The situation goes as follows: The company you work for has a "Leadership Program" that is by invitation only. You were selected for it by the president of the company, but meanwhile your coworker, ...
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Employees working around team member due to his personality

I recently transferred to a different location within my company, which caused changes to my title and duties. The role in question is a programmer role that involves communicating with the end ...
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How to handle an incompetent coworker (on a different team)?

I don't work with this person directly, and I have never met him face to face as he is at a different location. However, when an issue comes up, he emails me with questions and typically copies his ...
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overwhelmed by the reaction from a colleague [closed]

I've been a lurker for a while on this website, but today i had my first "real" problem. Here's a bit of context : I've been working with this colleague of mine (lets call him bob) for over 3 years ...
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How can I deal with a conflict between my two senior techs that is affecting the entire team?

I manage a small webcast production team of volunteers. On a purely technical level, I would rank them in the top 10% of teams in our niche. Because we are small and volunteer, everyone has been ...
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HR and work emails forwarded to private email - can they be used in a court of law? [closed]

I am in a middle of a "misunderstanding" with my current employer - I have called for internal bullying resolution twice. In effect, I have got relocated, and am denied access to my work mailbox, ...
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Co-worker hit my parked car at work, won't respond to my emails [closed]

Almost two months ago a co-worker of mine was leaving work for the day and backed into the side of my parked car. She realized her error and left a note with her name and number (I work for a large ...
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How to handle a coworker pretending to be my boss? [duplicate]

I have an odd situation: I have a coworker who acts like he's my boss. I've already confirmed with higher-ups that it's just not true. He'll say all kinds of things like: This is my department. ...
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mitigate office conflict

Here's my situation: I share an office with colleague A. We both report to the same manager M. Colleague B comes in our room and starts complaining about other persons (C,D...) in the team and about ...
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Meeting with boss regarding team member who reports to me

I have an issue with someone who reports to me and is constantly going over me to my boss (this does not happen with any other of my subordinates). Recently, my boss answered this person and me saying ...
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Uncomfortable and feeling rejected at work [closed]

The company I work for hired a new employee , Steve. Steve is supposed to be smart, intelligent and graduated from a great school. Prior to joining this company Steve worked with a reputable ...
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I snapped at a co-worker, apologized, but now HR wants me to meet with her

I lost my cool after a co-worker sent an email calling out IT for not doing their job (totally unfounded, btw). When I went to investigate the issue, she confronted me and I snapped at her briefly. ...
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Colleagues who ignore the advice of experts

What is an effective strategy for working with individuals who have very little experience in a specific domain (they may be experts in their own domain), but still reject input from a subject matter ...
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How should we navigate workplace conflict due to political differences? [duplicate]

How should we navigate workplace conflict due to political differences? I would appreciate any help on this topic.
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Colleague is starting to become awkward to work with

I am in charge of delivery and operations, any issues the team have when helping me deliver work have to go through me, I then bring it to the attention to my boss. My colleague, a developer lately ...
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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?

The situation: My colleague (let's call him Joe) and I are department heads at a small startup (different departments). I have a lot more experience in my area. We are friends, and we work closely ...
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How to deal with coworkers having loud conversations [duplicate]

The workspace at this job is divided with small cubicles just high enough that you don't see the person next to you when you're both sitting. Recently the worker next to me has been engaging in a lot ...
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I was accused of having said bad things about someone. How to explain to them that I think I did nothing wrong? [closed]

I went to an event not related to work and met a writer, who is friends with a freelance writer working for us. I told him that the freelance writer submitted an article that is "late". That's what ...
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How do I resolve a conflict between two staff members without being offensive?

I am the director of a small senior center with 5 staff and some volunteers. If someone has an issue with another staff member/volunteer, I try to mediate with the two and work out a resolution with ...