Questions tagged [conflict-resolution]
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As a proxy Line Manager, how do I manage performance? Have I overreached and how should I recover? [closed]
I am the Scrum Master of a development team of about 4 people. The role is not a pure Scrum Mater role but rather it encompasses Scrum Master, Leader of the Team and being a proxy for their line ...
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Challenge: As a programmer, I face the dilemma of being asked by my boss to provide market direction without specific guidance
First, let me introduce the situation of the company as background information that will help understand the difficulties I am facing. Our company is an internet technology company with two projects: ...
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My boss has unfair attitude to my colleague
I work in R&D company. I have a colleague (name him B) who was given a relatively hard and tedious task with somewhat unclear requirements. He was doing his best to accomplish it, even working on ...
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How should you deal with a project manager who tries to have it his way even when it's against the company best interest?
How should you deal with a project manager who tries to have it his way even when it's against the company best interests? I am not sure if I am crazy, but I had this project manager argue against me ...
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My successor and her future primary contact do not get along
For several years, I have been working as the technical lead of a team of 7 engineers responsible for one part of a large project in a company based in Germany. As a team lead, my tasks included ...
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What should I do about pseudo-friendly behaviour from a colleague?
I moved to Norway for work just under 2 months ago. The work is in the IT sector. My immediate supervisor is in the main IT department of the company where I work, and I was dispatched to another ...
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Constant, juvenile conflicts with colleague after promotion turmoil
I am Software Architect at my current company. I was offered the role of team manager when my manager (who I’ll call Bill) was promoted 6 months ago. I told Bill that I would probably provide greater ...
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How can I talk with my manager about a team member who talks trash about the others in the project?
I have a colleague, developer, not a lead, with whom we work closely on the project. Generally he is reliable and people can expect help from him. I say "generally" because this help always ...
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I was hired to create a department but I do not get more people
I have been working in my current company for over a year, I am the only one doing activity X and the only expert at it.
I was told I would lead a department regarding activity X after a year or so ...
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How to react after all your work being thrown away due to a merger?
I was hired by a company to develop a product a year ago, I have worked on this product exclusively during the last year and the intention was to move up to a managerial role with two more people as ...
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How do you deal with disrespectful/angry coworker?
I wanted to get your opinion on something that happened today at work.
I'm a manager in a tech company. Since friday, we have this "defcon 3" situation at work, meaning that we have some ...
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How to handle situation where my work is being delayed due to a co-worker
I work as a developer in a scrum environment. For 2 sprints, my work has been rolled over due to a co-worker (the codebase's owner) not testing it quickly enough. The first sprint, I finished 3 days ...
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Retaining ambitious employee with rare skill set
We hired a talented engineer "Alice" some time back, and she has excelled at everything we throw at her. If she needs to use a new programming language or tool, she buys a book and learns it ...
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How do I get my colleague to send me the requested data?
I need certain test data in order to make improvements to our product. My colleague reported the issue but over the last month has ignored my repeated requests for data, while continuously reiterating ...
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Does the Manager's manager need to know disputes in teams?
I was reading about conflict resolution and I read a good approach, if a situation is considered as a conflict that wont resolve by itself, is to start with the manager calling an informal and private ...
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Negative feedback but the other person is unaware of issue [closed]
This is a question for managers.
When someone in your team approaches you to complain/give negative feedback about a team member does it matter to you, and how you handle things, if they have not ...
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Manager wants to me to change methodoloy for no good reason and I don't accept it, so we will have a meeting about it. How should I proceed? [closed]
I work in a small/medium startup (20 to 30 people) as a software developer. In this company there are 3 teams that kinda overlap with each other in the sense they all work with the same tech stack, ...
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What do you do if you are not sure how to complete a task that you were not properly trained on?
So in my job, they let go one of my co-workers, and now I have to take over some of her tasks.
However, that person they let go only showed me once how to do one of her task that I am assigned to, and ...
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Accused by the team of "stealing" my role from a colleague: all team members are against me
Two months ago, I was hired as a project and team manager in a multinational consultancy company. I have about 8 years of work experience, but only 6 months as a project manager (I worked before in ...
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Got a little snippy with Boss should I apologize
I got a little snippy with my Boss because we agreed to hire someone and then he starts asking questions or pushing back on it after we agreed to it. Anyways I snapped back and told him if he wanted ...
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Dealing with Creative differences
What’s the best way to deal with creative differences between Brand Managers and Marketing Performance Team?
We have a performance marketing team that wants to create content a certain way in order to ...
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As a PM how to get proper communication from team members?
I started work in a new company three months ago as a Jr PM and after a month of shadowing/training I got my first project assigned. I'm leading a team of six people. Overall everything is fine except ...
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As a manager - how to handle a conflict between team members that reached a boiling point
Two of my employees were given a big task. They were responsible for splitting the work between them and coordinating the efforts and sub-tasks. The task seemed to be running smoothly for two weeks ...
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How to deal with a dev who is working his way
I am a senior developer, working in a big tech company.
My team is a new team, got created recently.
We don't have a manager, because the manager left the company.
The manager of the department, asked ...
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How to deal with senior developer who sets bad coding and work practices?
We have one of the special kind of senior developers with his own style of programming and work-life balance that is part of the project leadership setting the direction of the project.
Our colleague ...
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How to respond to a performance review you disagree with?
I found some of the many negatives of my performance review to be very one-sided. I tried to explain but received more criticism. It feels like they don’t see the good and only the bad. Some comments ...
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CEO is pressing me regarding decisions made by my former manager whom he fired
I work for a small privately-owned company located in Nevada. Recently, my manager was abruptly fired. In the aftermath, the company CEO began questioning me and demanding that I explain why my ...
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Metaphorically banished at work
I am currently employed in the US as a felon with a fairly specialized technical skillset who was lucky to have found employment after many years of search. I was hired with the help of an executive ...
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When should you go to HR vs. your manager with regards to an issue with another employee?
I had a previous role where I was having a problem with a disruptive, socially unaware colleague, and ended up asking HR about how best to handle it.
We had a solid talk and it was discussed that I ...
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At new job manager told me he got feedback that I question people when they tell me to do something
About 3 months ago I started a new job. Today the main manager asked to speak with me in private. He said he had been getting the feedback that I've been questioning people when I'm told to do ...
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How to avoid alienating a team I'm working with in a consultation capacity
I am the development tools and infra guy for a small company
When I joined the company was about 10 people and since then we have grown to about 400 people.
I share friendly relationship with the ...
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Is it normal for people to take things personally when rebuked/disagreed upon in a startup environment?
I've had experience with two co-founders (from two different startups) name John and Adam. Both of them 'rage quit' the company when I did not agree with them.
John got so upset with me (the founder) ...
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Is there a way to get coworker to cut back on his annoying macho stories?
The company I work for also owns nightclubs. Due to COVID the nightclubs shutdown. A bunch of their staff got transferred to where I'm now working. There is one former doorman (call him Tim) who is ...
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How to deal with a coworker who is tasked to support you but is dragging you down?
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I have an assignment, 3 weeks in, and due to schedule concerns and the team has a nascent understanding of the assignment at hand. However, I feel like the co-worker tasked to help me who has 20+...
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How do I handle roadblocks at work better? Should I complain to the boss, soldier through or wait for the problems to be resolved?
For example, I am a frontend developer. I build the client-facing web application in my company.
However for a lot of things I build, I need the data from the backend to come to me correctly. If it ...
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Workplace conflict
I recently started a new job.
It’s a 6 month probation period, and I have only been there 2 months.
I have 15 years experience in the industry of admin support.
The one thing that I have always ...
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How to deal with a HR rep that is making me feel super uncomfortable?
I am currently working as an intern software developer at a startup, which consists of the three founders, a HR rep that just joined the company three months ago, another intern, and me who has been ...
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How should I answer "Tell me about a time you had a conflict at work" if I've never had conflicts?
In the past year I had interviews with a couple of US-based IT companies for a technical role at their European offices. The interviews were eerily similar: phone from HR, coding interviews over video ...
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What is the best way to deal with incapable reporting manager?
You have developed a product that could directly save $700 per month for the organisation. You have told about this to your reporting manager (a part-time consultant) and, he without seeing the ...
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Forward an Issue to the concern person
The business people sent a mail to us that "The application is failing frequently with same error". They want to us to look into the issue,but we are not the right person. How do we forward this issue ...
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How can I deal with irascible, unprofessional manager?
I work for a large-size engineering firm, in the R&D department. I am working there from 6 months by now, and it is my first work after my MSc degree. I like (unsure now) both the company and the ...
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Am I being ethical or annoying in refusing to 1:1 copy another company's UI for our own?
My boss has asked me to implement the UI for a financial calculator from another company's website, specifically one financial conversion tool (as we have a competing product). The other company is a ...
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Convert a technical conflict into HR case
I have one conflict that is dressed as a technical issue which I believe is an actual HR issue. Involved in the technical conflict resolution are the project manager and the department lead.
But the ...
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Conflict with older employee
An older colleague, a woman with 30+ years of experience as a cobol developer has been escalating me every week for the last nearly 2 months. She finds different pretexts for the same issue again and ...
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Invoices (owed to me) always late; also late on deliverables (me to them); past monies disputes; being strongarmed
Let me expand on the title as it is directly relevant:
I am 26 and this is my first contracting experience, being contracted by this company. The only stipulation is $70 an hour. This is in Australia,...
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Accidentally defaced an internal production website during vulnerability scanning - How do I protect myself
I work in the information security department at my employer. Today while using automated tool of Burp Suite on one of our internal web applications in production to search for vulnerabilities, I ...
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How do I get my boss to understand that I won't be able to attend a required session to visit a tranquility retreat?
I'm a 41-year-old single mom of one, with a 15-year-old daughter, Becky (not her real name). Becky has Asperger's Syndrome, diagnosed aged 8. She can't fully live independently and has some issues ...
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He's insecure by my skills
Joined a new org, made an impact and an influential person who is not doing the same role as me is insecure about my skillset. He feels threatened because he wants to climb the corporate ladder.
I ...
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How to demonstrate technical leadership skills in a situation where my inputs may not be welcome?
I work at a large software enterprise. Multiple orgs, multiple teams, huge hierarchy of managers and managers of managers.
I am a fairly senior individual contributor with more than a decade of ...
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Confronting a colleague about a sexist comment
I am a (female) IT student working in an IT company. So far I enjoy work, I get along well with my colleagues and the office atmosphere is friendly.
Last week although, I overheard a conversation in ...
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