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How to respond to a performance review you disagree with?

I found some of the many negatives of my performance review to be very one-sided. I tried to explain but received more criticism. It feels like they don’t see the good and only the bad. Some comments ...
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CEO is pressing me regarding decisions made by my former manager whom he fired

I work for a small privately-owned company located in Nevada. Recently, my manager was abruptly fired. In the aftermath, the company CEO began questioning me and demanding that I explain why my ...
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Metaphorically banished at work

I am currently employed in the US as a felon with a fairly specialized technical skillset who was lucky to have found employment after many years of search. I was hired with the help of an executive ...
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When should you go to HR vs. your manager with regards to an issue with another employee?

I had a previous role where I was having a problem with a disruptive, socially unaware colleague, and ended up asking HR about how best to handle it. We had a solid talk and it was discussed that I ...
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At new job manager told me he got feedback that I question people when they tell me to do something

About 3 months ago I started a new job. Today the main manager asked to speak with me in private. He said he had been getting the feedback that I've been questioning people when I'm told to do ...
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How to avoid alienating a team I'm working with in a consultation capacity

I am the development tools and infra guy for a small company When I joined the company was about 10 people and since then we have grown to about 400 people. I share friendly relationship with the ...
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Is it normal for people to take things personally when rebuked/disagreed upon in a startup environment?

I've had experience with two co-founders (from two different startups) name John and Adam. Both of them 'rage quit' the company when I did not agree with them. John got so upset with me (the founder) ...
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Is there a way to get coworker to cut back on his annoying macho stories?

The company I work for also owns nightclubs. Due to COVID the nightclubs shutdown. A bunch of their staff got transferred to where I'm now working. There is one former doorman (call him Tim) who is ...
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How to deal with a coworker who is tasked to support you but is dragging you down?

TL;DR I have an assignment, 3 weeks in, and due to schedule concerns and the team has a nascent understanding of the assignment at hand. However, I feel like the co-worker tasked to help me who has 20+...
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How do I handle roadblocks at work better? Should I complain to the boss, soldier through or wait for the problems to be resolved?

For example, I am a frontend developer. I build the client-facing web application in my company. However for a lot of things I build, I need the data from the backend to come to me correctly. If it ...
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Workplace conflict

I recently started a new job. It’s a 6 month probation period, and I have only been there 2 months. I have 15 years experience in the industry of admin support. The one thing that I have always ...
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How to deal with a HR rep that is making me feel super uncomfortable?

I am currently working as an intern software developer at a startup, which consists of the three founders, a HR rep that just joined the company three months ago, another intern, and me who has been ...
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How should I answer “Tell me about a time you had a conflict at work” if I've never had conflicts?

In the past year I had interviews with a couple of US-based IT companies for a technical role at their European offices. The interviews were eerily similar: phone from HR, coding interviews over video ...
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What is the best way to deal with incapable reporting manager?

You have developed a product that could directly save $700 per month for the organisation. You have told about this to your reporting manager (a part-time consultant) and, he without seeing the ...
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Forward an Issue to the concern person

The business people sent a mail to us that "The application is failing frequently with same error". They want to us to look into the issue,but we are not the right person. How do we forward this issue ...
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How can I deal with irascible, unprofessional manager?

I work for a large-size engineering firm, in the R&D department. I am working there from 6 months by now, and it is my first work after my MSc degree. I like (unsure now) both the company and the ...
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Am I being ethical or annoying in refusing to 1:1 copy another company's UI for our own?

My boss has asked me to implement the UI for a financial calculator from another company's website, specifically one financial conversion tool (as we have a competing product). The other company is a ...
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Convert a technical conflict into HR case

I have one conflict that is dressed as a technical issue which I believe is an actual HR issue. Involved in the technical conflict resolution are the project manager and the department lead. But the ...
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Conflict with older employee

An older colleague, a woman with 30+ years of experience as a cobol developer has been escalating me every week for the last nearly 2 months. She finds different pretexts for the same issue again and ...
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Invoices (owed to me) always late; also late on deliverables (me to them); past monies disputes; being strongarmed

Let me expand on the title as it is directly relevant: I am 26 and this is my first contracting experience, being contracted by this company. The only stipulation is $70 an hour. This is in Australia,...
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Accidentally defaced an internal production website during vulnerability scanning - How do I protect myself

I work in the information security department at my employer. Today while using automated tool of Burp Suite on one of our internal web applications in production to search for vulnerabilities, I ...
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How do I get my boss to understand that I won't be able to attend a required session to visit a tranquility retreat?

I'm a 41-year-old single mom of one, with a 15-year-old daughter, Becky (not her real name). Becky has Asperger's Syndrome, diagnosed aged 8. She can't fully live independently and has some issues ...
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He's insecure by my skills

Joined a new org, made an impact and an influential person who is not doing the same role as me is insecure about my skillset. He feels threatened because he wants to climb the corporate ladder. I ...
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How to demonstrate technical leadership skills in a situation where my inputs may not be welcome?

I work at a large software enterprise. Multiple orgs, multiple teams, huge hierarchy of managers and managers of managers. I am a fairly senior individual contributor with more than a decade of ...
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Confronting a colleague about a sexist comment

I am a (female) IT student working in an IT company. So far I enjoy work, I get along well with my colleagues and the office atmosphere is friendly. Last week although, I overheard a conversation in ...
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Colleagues are bullying me - how to manage?

I worked at a workplace that I was eventually fired from after 3 1/2 years. My issues there most of the times were colleagues bullying me and then claiming that I had done a bad job when that was ...
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Part of a team which made itself irreplaceable: new management wants a change, how to protect myself?

I’m a member of a team that has been developing a product for our company for years. The development started about 10 years ago and all the people of the original team are still here. I am one of the ...
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Stop engineer from planning “bully projects”

I work for a enginering company where a few senior engineers got into a large fight that caused a lot of concern. The more senior engineer "stone walled" the not as senior engineer apparently, and the ...
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My boss wants me to use a certain program on my computer [closed]

So my boss wants me to use Outlook as my email client. His main reason is because he wants to standardize, which I can understand. Another reason he pointed out that he wants me to use Outlook is ...
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How to respectfully refuse to assist co-workers with IT issues?

I work in a small company and I've helped out my colleagues with small IT issues in the past. However, we just hired a dedicated IT company that is meant to take over all IT issues. My manager has ...
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How to deal with not getting updates on a task from colleagues?

I often deal with colleagues (who are not in working in the same place), who promise to deal with some task (they have to fix something, install something, etc), but the promised deadline comes and ...
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How to delegate work and still keep relationships with colleagues

I had recently started a job, some time back. At first, I took on everything that was given to me, in terms of workload. I took on other people’s work, as I was afraid of getting fired, or, not ...
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Getting new boss with no experience in the field

I'm getting a new boss (for several unknown reasons I was not promoted to this position, although I have the skills and experience), who does not have any specific experience in the field which he ...
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Complaints from (junior) developers against solution architects: how can we show the benefits of our work and improve relationships?

I’ve been working in an IT company for 7 years (and I have a 14+ total work experience). About 2 years ago I was promoted to the solution architect's office. In my company a solution architect is a ...
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'Most expensive toy in town' - conflict between manager and his boss

An acquaintance of mine - a manager high up the food chain of an international company - recently approached me for advice in a delicate situation between him and his boss. As their business has done ...
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Awkward circumstances between me, my (soon to be) ex company and my (soon to be) new company (customer of my current company): possible actions?

I’m serving my 2 months notice in my current company. I’ve worked here for about 3 years as team leader for 2 teams and (not officially) project manager for teams’ projects. All projects are for a ...
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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?

I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
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Group manager threw me under the bus to save her friend

I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do. Back story: I was put on a project that was far behind and was very low developer quality adhering to no set of standards or practices. The project was not ...
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My new job gave me a Macbook for work, but I have no idea how to use one [duplicate]

I recently landed a great job in software development. The only problem is they gave me a Macbook. However, I have zero experience using Mac. At home I use Linux and at my current job, I use a ...
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Humiliated in front of employees

I work at a small company of about 20 people. We have the owner/president, 2-3 managers (depending on how you look at it), and the rest of the people are employees. I'm one of the managers. Each day ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?

John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
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How to be taken seriously when complaining about popular colleague

A colleague of mine is extremely popular, and is growing in influence. He can be very direct and undermining when there are disagreements between us from wanting to be right. He has displayed ...
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Lack of respect from team

A new Scrum Master has come on board to support transformation activities of my workflow and is running day-to-day. Team has warmed up to him, but this has all coincided with a very quiet period at ...
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I'm getting personal insults as a response to set up collaboration with former system developer, what should I do?

So, we are an NGO and we develop the new IT system for it on a voluntary basis that our members will use. It is a must for us, as people are not satisfied at all with the old system. Nobody has any ...
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Can you safely go to HR about issues with management?

I work in Maryland, USA and have been working with a company for almost 10 years. For about the last 3 of them, I've been warned about, a newly hired regional manager that had eyes on me by my direct ...
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I'm being “forced” to put a company magnet on my personal car

I'm not sure how to handle this situation without being fired, even though I think that would be an extreme measure. A little background: I work for a company that frequently requires employees to go ...
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How should I approach a boss that keeps hiring temporary workers, only to have me finish something?

Long story short, we've recently had a lot of work to do at my job and in order to fill that vacuum my boss has been hiring temporary workers. At first he hired three which stayed for about two months,...
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Helping someone who has antagonized her colleagues [closed]

I work as a developer in the web/mobile department of a big org. We have developers divided in teams, we have team leads, and we have project leaders. There’s a “new” project leader who is having ...
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Boss threatens employee with losing their job if they don't cooperate in forcing an ex-employee to drop charges

A friend's manager recently fired a coworker for no apparent reason, even though most people in the office considered the ex-coworker to be hard-working and efficient. After some time the ex-coworker ...