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Invoices (owed to me) always late; also late on deliverables (me to them); past monies disputes; being strongarmed

Let me expand on the title as it is directly relevant: I am 26 and this is my first contracting experience, being contracted by this company. The only stipulation is $70 an hour. This is in Australia,...
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Accidentally defaced an internal production website during vulnerability scanning - How do I protect myself

I work in the information security department at my employer. Today while using automated tool of Burp Suite on one of our internal web applications in production to search for vulnerabilities, I ...
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How to demonstrate technical leadership skills in a situation where my inputs may not be welcome?

I work at a large software enterprise. Multiple orgs, multiple teams, huge hierarchy of managers and managers of managers. I am a fairly senior individual contributor with more than a decade of ...
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How do I get my boss to understand that I won't be able to attend a required session to visit a tranquility retreat?

I'm a 41-year-old single mom of one, with a 15-year-old daughter, Becky (not her real name). Becky has Asperger's Syndrome, diagnosed aged 8. She can't fully live independently and has some issues ...
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He's insecure by my skills

Joined a new org, made an impact and an influential person who is not doing the same role as me is insecure about my skillset. He feels threatened because he wants to climb the corporate ladder. I ...
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Confronting a colleague about a sexist comment

I am a (female) IT student working in an IT company. So far I enjoy work, I get along well with my colleagues and the office atmosphere is friendly. Last week although, I overheard a conversation in ...
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Colleagues are bullying me - how to manage?

I worked at a workplace that I was eventually fired from after 3 1/2 years. My issues there most of the times were colleagues bullying me and then claiming that I had done a bad job when that was ...
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Part of a team which made itself irreplaceable: new management wants a change, how to protect myself?

I’m a member of a team that has been developing a product for our company for years. The development started about 10 years ago and all the people of the original team are still here. I am one of the ...
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Stop engineer from planning “bully projects”

I work for a enginering company where a few senior engineers got into a large fight that caused a lot of concern. The more senior engineer "stone walled" the not as senior engineer apparently, and the ...
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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?

I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
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My boss wants me to use a certain program on my computer [closed]

So my boss wants me to use Outlook as my email client. His main reason is because he wants to standardize, which I can understand. Another reason he pointed out that he wants me to use Outlook is ...
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How to respectfully refuse to assist co-workers with IT issues?

I work in a small company and I've helped out my colleagues with small IT issues in the past. However, we just hired a dedicated IT company that is meant to take over all IT issues. My manager has ...
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How to deal with not getting updates on a task from colleagues?

I often deal with colleagues (who are not in working in the same place), who promise to deal with some task (they have to fix something, install something, etc), but the promised deadline comes and ...
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Complaints from (junior) developers against solution architects: how can we show the benefits of our work and improve relationships?

I’ve been working in an IT company for 7 years (and I have a 14+ total work experience). About 2 years ago I was promoted to the solution architect's office. In my company a solution architect is a ...
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How to delegate work and still keep relationships with colleagues

I had recently started a job, some time back. At first, I took on everything that was given to me, in terms of workload. I took on other people’s work, as I was afraid of getting fired, or, not ...
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Getting new boss with no experience in the field

I'm getting a new boss (for several unknown reasons I was not promoted to this position, although I have the skills and experience), who does not have any specific experience in the field which he ...
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Awkward circumstances between me, my (soon to be) ex company and my (soon to be) new company (customer of my current company): possible actions?

I’m serving my 2 months notice in my current company. I’ve worked here for about 3 years as team leader for 2 teams and (not officially) project manager for teams’ projects. All projects are for a ...
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'Most expensive toy in town' - conflict between manager and his boss

An acquaintance of mine - a manager high up the food chain of an international company - recently approached me for advice in a delicate situation between him and his boss. As their business has done ...
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Group manager threw me under the bus to save her friend

I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do. Back story: I was put on a project that was far behind and was very low developer quality adhering to no set of standards or practices. The project was not ...
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My new job gave me a Macbook for work, but I have no idea how to use one [duplicate]

I recently landed a great job in software development. The only problem is they gave me a Macbook. However, I have zero experience using Mac. At home I use Linux and at my current job, I use a ...
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Humiliated in front of employees

I work at a small company of about 20 people. We have the owner/president, 2-3 managers (depending on how you look at it), and the rest of the people are employees. I'm one of the managers. Each day ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?

John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
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How to be taken seriously when complaining about popular colleague

A colleague of mine is extremely popular, and is growing in influence. He can be very direct and undermining when there are disagreements between us from wanting to be right. He has displayed ...
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Lack of respect from team

A new Scrum Master has come on board to support transformation activities of my workflow and is running day-to-day. Team has warmed up to him, but this has all coincided with a very quiet period at ...
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How to handle a coworker's breath odor? [duplicate]

I work in an office of 6 or 7 people a day. I absolutely like everyone and it is a really nice place (seriously). I want to stay here a long time and continue working with the same people. I have a ...
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I'm getting personal insults as a response to set up collaboration with former system developer, what should I do?

So, we are an NGO and we develop the new IT system for it on a voluntary basis that our members will use. It is a must for us, as people are not satisfied at all with the old system. Nobody has any ...
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I was accused of having said bad things about someone. How to explain to them that I think I did nothing wrong? [closed]

I went to an event not related to work and met a writer, who is friends with a freelance writer working for us. I told him that the freelance writer submitted an article that is "late". That's what ...
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How can I deal with troublesome Professional Engineer?

I currently manage a team of quite a few engineers in Canada. Things normally run smoothly, but we've had a serious problem with a senior engineer as of late. This engineer is the sole engineer on ...
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Can you safely go to HR about issues with management?

I work in Maryland, USA and have been working with a company for almost 10 years. For about the last 3 of them, I've been warned about, a newly hired regional manager that had eyes on me by my direct ...
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I'm being “forced” to put a company magnet on my personal car

I'm not sure how to handle this situation without being fired, even though I think that would be an extreme measure. A little background: I work for a company that frequently requires employees to ...
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How should I approach a boss that keeps hiring temporary workers, only to have me finish something?

Long story short, we've recently had a lot of work to do at my job and in order to fill that vacuum my boss has been hiring temporary workers. At first he hired three which stayed for about two months,...
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Helping someone who has antagonized her colleagues [closed]

I work as a developer in the web/mobile department of a big org. We have developers divided in teams, we have team leads, and we have project leaders. There’s a “new” project leader who is having ...
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Boss threatens employee with losing their job if they don't cooperate in forcing an ex-employee to drop charges

A friend's manager recently fired a coworker for no apparent reason, even though most people in the office considered the ex-coworker to be hard-working and efficient. After some time the ex-coworker ...
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Can a boss tell an employee not to go to human resources?

If Alice is having conflicts with Bob and the issue is brought to the boss and the boss doesn't rectify the issue, and also warns Alice that it is advised not to go to HR, what do you do? The ...
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Made a mistake that really annoyed a coworker. Should I attempt to explain myself or just leave it be?

I had an issue that I needed a DBA's help with. I went to my go-to DBA (DBA#1), since he's usually been friendly and receptive to my questions. He gave me his recommendation, and I logged a ticket for ...
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How to handle incompetent/aggressive customers incapable of describing a problem?

The situation described takes place in Germany, but is not neccessarily linked to German culture. I work in IT support at a library with public workstations, and often encounter (mostly elderly) ...
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How to ask a non-programmer not to advise me on programming tasks

I have this problem with an otherwise very respectable colleague, who holds the position of consultant/tester in my team. Due to them being in the company twice the years I've been working here, they ...
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How to deal with a conflict over responsibilities

There's a conflict over responsibilities in my company. It goes back to the time I didn't even work here. It's about one area of responsibility: both my and another department wants to be the unique ...
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Brother-in-law earns same salary for a much simpler job in family business

I work for a small family business which consists of four employees. My father co-owns the business with another developer who is not related to us. I am a developer who reports to the co-owner. My ...
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Managing difficult employees

I just joined a new company four weeks ago. I am currently in the process of delivering a project, I am the project manager managing a tech lead, developer and dev ops. Out of the 3, one of the ...
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How can I stop harassment about my medical condition by the boss's friend? [closed]

A few years back, I was diagnosed with Celiac disease. Though I hate it, I know eating anything containing gluten can land me in the hospital. I take it seriously. However, a few weeks back a coworker ...
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Can I be forced to be a flight RN? [closed]

I have been a labor and delivery nurse for 5 years at my hospital. The hospital has done a lot of expanding in the pediatric area including bring in specialty doctors to the area. The labor and ...
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How to remedy a false accusation in small open office setting

I went on a work trip with my boss and we stayed at an AirBNB that was under my boss's name. She brought along her baby, and wanted a house to stay in so she could hire a babysitter to watch her baby ...
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How do you deal with coworkers who don't like you on a personal level? [closed]

What is a good way to professionally work with people who give the vibe of disliking you on a personal level? Is it a good idea to ask what bug got up someone's behind and died, or should you just ...
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Meeting with boss regarding team member who reports to me

I have an issue with someone who reports to me and is constantly going over me to my boss (this does not happen with any other of my subordinates). Recently, my boss answered this person and me saying ...
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Co-worker hit my parked car at work, won't respond to my emails [closed]

Almost two months ago a co-worker of mine was leaving work for the day and backed into the side of my parked car. She realized her error and left a note with her name and number (I work for a large ...
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Someone from my office gave negative review of company and posted wrong things about my character

A guy from my company posted a bad review of our company on Mouthshut where he wrote bad things about the company and named some female employees including me saying they do prostitution. I was ...
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How to deal with sabotaging, possibly passive-aggressive, boss?

I work at an institution of higher education. One of our employee benefits is a generous tuition reimbursement if we take classes here. I decided to take advantage of this and go back to school here. ...
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Can I “rent” a Canadian Professional Engineer (P.Eng.)? [closed]

I'm working with a startup in Canada, and we're at about the 18 month mark where we get to do our final sales demo. Everything has gone great so far, and we've grown the company from 2 employees to 20,...