Questions tagged [conflict]

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My two team members in a remote location don't get along with each other; how can I improve working relations?

I recently became the line manager for a team of engineers, which includes a two-people subteam based in a different location (very far away from here, I haven't had a chance to visit yet, but it's ...
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I think my coworker went through my notebook and took my project ideas

I have a notebook that I keep meeting notes, current work and future projects I'd like to do. Oddly, all these future project ideas I had listed out are now being completed by my coworker. The ...
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My boss wants me to say on my timesheet that I worked 8 hours a day, even if I didn't [duplicate]

My supervisor does not want questions asked about our timesheets, so he directs we fill them out exactly the same each week. Sometimes we vary the hours we work each day, but he wants it to say 8 ...
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Friends one day and not the next day [closed]

My coworker constantly jokes and the other day she said to me, “hey hoochie get your work done”, while I found this funny especially since I’m her superior, I threw a comment back “I would be done if ...
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Getting new boss with no experience in the field

I'm getting a new boss (for several unknown reasons I was not promoted to this position, although I have the skills and experience), who does not have any specific experience in the field which he ...
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Toxic colleague spreading lies [closed]

My colleague si master liar and also gathers evidence on others (screenshots of conversations etc.) the current situation is as follows: multiple managers tried firing her but they were always ...
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What to do if I have been accused of sexual misconduct?

I recently joined a company. Our training sessions are going on. During pair programming round, to try to make things go faster(as we are falling behind) when I tried to grab my pair's laptop(as we ...
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'Most expensive toy in town' - conflict between manager and his boss

An acquaintance of mine - a manager high up the food chain of an international company - recently approached me for advice in a delicate situation between him and his boss. As their business has done ...
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I'm the toxic person on the team. How do I approach my manager?

I work on a medium sized software engineering team. I have been generally not a good person to work with lately, there has been feedback from team members as feedback directed at the team, but its ...
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Doing part time work for a company that my full time employer has invested in

I presently am doing part time work for a company that is privately owned that Venture Capitalists have invested in. My full time employer has invested in the venture capital firm and I was wondering ...
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How to professionally change jobs from A to B, when you are currently doing a project for B?

I’m currently working for a large consulting firm (A) and my team is working on a project for a large oil firm (B). B doesn’t know who I am, as I have not been on the direct engagement team but knows ...
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Colleague asks me to compare my performance with other person, should I provide this info?

Me and two other developers (A and B) work remotely for an IT company. Here's the situation: Coworker A has a hostile attitude towards others, sometimes mentions that they don't work well enough when ...
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How to set boundaries and define my role with the people above me?

I am a senior developer working in this team for 4+ years and have deep technical & functional knowledge about 3-4 internal applications that this team is managing. Involved persons: Developer (...
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How to handle issue with other consultants as new team member?

Apologies in advance for the long post! I'm new in a project/communications consulting position, and as part of my role I'm unofficially taking over management of an ongoing web development project. ...
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Workplace wants me to leave my car at an airport for a week

I've worked in my current job for about two years and have only had to travel a couple times. Even so, it's never been by air. Typically, I would rent a car and drive a few hours away to the customer'...
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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?

I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down

Environment: My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question. I ...
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I have a problematic assistant manager, but I can't fire him

I'm the general manager of a restaurant in a franchise and I've held this position for about 6 months. The company hired me from outside the corporation so I'm still learning about the business. As ...
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How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?

I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
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What are some strategies for managing irritation with colleagues? [closed]

I have two colleagues whom I often get annoyed with. I don’t believe the details are too important — suffice to say that their lack of planning sometimes causes me to have to do extra work. I have ...
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How to navigate stalled discussion on development environment location?

TL;DR: Boss insists on an expensive cloud-hosted VM for a development environment for a cost-conscious client. He has misunderstandings and reservations about using physical devices for development ...
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Intra-team friction

I joined a new software company and was put in a team that suffers from a bit of friction, in particular with one developer and a Product Manager. Apparently at times the PM has been asking the devs ...
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Group manager threw me under the bus to save her friend

I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do. Back story: I was put on a project that was far behind and was very low developer quality adhering to no set of standards or practices. The project was not ...
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Should I agree or comply to record myself giving lectures?

To provide a bit of background, my company does both technical projects and "teaching projects" in which someone from my company goes to another to teach them how to use certain technology, framework, ...
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Ugly email exchanges, spreading Insecurity [closed]

Background: Over the course of the last few years, my manager has been bad mouthing me in nonofficial "around the water cooler" type conversations. I have overheard this many times and my colleagues ...
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Got moved to a different position from what I signed up for. Is it too late to raise the problem after a few months?

Got an interview and talked with some people, but not my current direct supervisor. Got hired and things were OK, but because of the training I wasn't really working on the stuff I got hired for, so I ...
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When do I bring up unwelcome news?

In the past I tended to break unwelcome news when I was expecting attendees to be least stressed & most likely to have time to discuss about immediate concerns - staying clear of any special ...
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Hostile co worker

My team was approached today by our manager. Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
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How to deal with the stress of being in the middle of the chain of command

I am a manager for a team of people. My boss sets my team very ambitious goals. To reach these goals my team needs to work a lot. He ignores and reacts badly to my arguments that it's too much. On ...
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How to work with a difficult PM [closed]

I was recently put into a new project. I've encountered my new project manager before and while there's a few things about this PM that concern me: They can be very friendly and open, but also very ...
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Manager insists on recruiting externally

We have a well liked and respected colleague who left the team and would like to come back. The rest of the team would welcome the return of their skillset but our manager has apparently told them ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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(How) should I report negative feedback from others to my boss?

If someone attacks me, for example, criticizes me strongly during a meeting or ignores my efforts to contact them for a prolonged period of time (although I know they are available and have political ...
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Engineer refusing to file/disclose patents

We have a senior engineer on our team that routinely excels at his work. In addition to his regular work, our company has a patent program where engineers can write up a patent for a novel idea, and ...
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How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?

John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
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How to deal with a new manager who was promoted rather than me?

At my work, I'm working in a department (of four people) in which the floor manager resigned. I would become the new floor manager, but my boss chose someone a week ago who isn't familiar in this ...
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What to do when during a meeting client's people start to (physically) fight with each other?

I work on a project that requires many on-site meetings at the client's location, with client people from different departments. These departments can be considered as closed silos, where everyone ...
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How to convince somebody that he is fit for something else, but not this job?

I interviewed one candidate. He was a petroleum engineer in the desert site. After 3 minutes of interviewing and checking his code quality, without concern of his background at all, he failed. One ...
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Physically attacked by a resident of a group home [closed]

I work in a group home in Virginia, USA. Yesterday, my coworker and I were both physically attacked by a resident, who is a minor. The attack lasted around 45 minutes until the police arrived, and it ...
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Advocating for a freer “Remote Work” policy in the office

I'm currently working in a small software firm (~15 employees) as a leader of a two-person (including myself) algorithms team. I'm a big advocate of the "Deep Work" mindset in a workplace, especially ...
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Should I inform a business partner who has blocked me about my decision to no longer perform my responsibilities?

QUESTION: My business partner has blocked me from contacting him personally and no longer contributes to our business. Is it necessary to inform him that I no longer will be performing my ...
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Manager blaming team for failure, how to counter

I'm part of an internal software development team at a retail business. We're currently working on a major project and in all likelihood it's going to fail. It's pretty much over at this point. Over ...
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coworkers unwilling to do code reviews

At work I've been temporary lent to another team this quarter because they have too much work on their plate. I'm here to work on subject X for this team, that is kinda stand-alone but would benefit ...
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How to deal with a coworker who blamed me for the bug that was his fault

I’m relatively new at a job, but have established myself as the “guy” when it comes to a certain web service we use. Our own website integrates with the service. I don’t really work on the site, just ...
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Boss and Sales Head frequently fighting verbally - normal for a small startup or a reason to leave?

My current employer is a small startup (only 1 year old) and with 10 employees and I have just joined this place after previously working in a very big company with 2500 employees and a decent culture....
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How to handle an increasingly-tense working environment

I am middle management. The environment at work is very tense. For example: People that were previously very friendly are increasingly becoming distant People are complaining and frustrated about ...
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Should I stay on a terrible job for one more month?

In June 2018 I had an offer for a job in Japan. The conditions were fine: 9:00-18:00, paid vacation, language support and an ok salary. Personally I moved there because I really enjoy culture and ...
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How can I communicate my desire to leave my relative's company, yesterday?

I work in a company, solely owned by my relative, on a part time basis, as a programmer. I wanted to leave the company a long time ago to concentrate on my own business, but was unable to do so until ...
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Should I quit the job because of misunderstanding with friend

Friend of mine was assigned a task to explore commercial possibilities in a completely new market for the company. There was no real in-house expertise in this market and he was the only guy who had ...
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How do I deal with my insecurity about hiring an employee that outputs work faster than me? [closed]

I work in the Programming industry. I hired a guy to work with me. He was older although had a great resume and I couldn't understand why he was unemployed for so long. He explained later that he ...