Questions tagged [conflict]

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What's the most professional and constructive response to false accusations?

My boss says that I have done something wrong but I didn't and I have no doubt about it. Regardless of context, what's the most professional response or behavior to adapt when one is falsely accused ...
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My boss slapped me over a calculation error [closed]

My boss slapped me because My Excel file had a calculational error. I fixed the error and saved the file to the network. If I complain, I guess I will just get fired. But I don't want to work for ...
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What does HR do for me?

Location: England. Industry: IT, Software Development I recently contacted HR about my manager's way of communicating with me. My understanding is that if I have an issue at work, and it is not ...
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Coworkers slapped me for jokingly suggesting them to kiss. How should I proceed when they deny the incident? [closed]

We arrived back at the office from a work party. A guy hugged a young woman, who was drunk. I joked about how drunk she was and joked that he should kiss her. She slapped me for this remark. Then the ...
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How can I avoid divisive political issues at work?

I am currently a member of a 4-member team. There is a current national political issue that is very divisive in our region (we are in India). The team lead and both other members of the team are on ...
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Coworker who likes to take credit for work that is not theirs [duplicate]

I am someone who likes to believe that it is important for all members in a team to give and receive credit where credit is due, but recently these ideas have been put to challenge in my office. You ...
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How to deal with an employee who ignores you

I am having an issue with an employee/former co-worker who is flat out ignoring me. I work in a department in a college and for many years I worked as a student assistant. When I graduated I became a ...
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Colleague keeps trying to set me up to fail and discredit me

I have been working at my company for around 9 months. It is small place and I am having problems with a woman I work with. I was brought in with a couple of other people to drastically expand the ...
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How to deal with a bossy, micro-managing co-worker [duplicate]

I'm a web dev (mostly front-end/UX designer), at a small shop of less than 10. I was hired quite quickly as they had projects piling up and the previous person in my position had kind of left them ...
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Getting a reference from a hostile work environment

The most recent job I worked at things didn't go so well. I always tried my best but for a number of reasons my productivity and relationship with other coworkers were strained. I believe it was a ...
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Advice about having discussion with a bossy subordinate who undermines my authority

Background I have about 4 years of experience, all that time I have been working in the same company. I am a researcher, and over the years I have managed to establish credibility in front of my ...
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How to explain business priorities to a programmer?

I have a recurring disagreement with a programmer about code quality. He insists that all of his code is written to the highest standard (i.e. that it looks just like the examples in the coding styles ...
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Coworker throwing cigarettes out of a car, I criticized it and now HR is involved

"On my way to work yesterday, one of my coworkers was driving in front of me on the interstate. This coworker is a smoker. When they finished their cigarette, they flicked it out of the window. I ...
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How to handle an insubordinate employee faction when I can't replace them?

At my workplace we have a small faction of insubordinate employees who think they can do whatever the like and do not allow new hires in the same department to integrate into the team. The tension has ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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Uncomfortable race comments in workplace

I work in a small office. We've had the same cleaning lady for a number of years now, and when she comes once a week to dust/clean my office I'll chat with her. Recently she's made a few comments ...
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How should we handle 'Jak' who takes credit for others' work and ideas? [closed]

PM rejects ideas then brings them back later as his own The situation is me and my colleague, say 'Jak', report to the same manager, 'Dom', but 'Jak' has the title of project manager. I am more into ...
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How to deal with a manager who stonewalls me? [closed]

Let me first say that I have read How to proceed when remote boss doesn't answer emails . This has some great information, but my problem has gone a step further. Let me first clarify that I have two ...
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Changed mind on accepting job at last minute

I had applied for a job and received an offer. Though I accepted the offer and agreed to come into the office at the start of next week, I changed my mind. There are several red flags that after ...
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How do I tell my colleagues that the codebase they've built is a total mess and their practices are ancient?

The situation For a few months, I've been working with a new team in a new company. The company offers some web services and the team's role is to develop and maintain those services. Problem #1: ...
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How can I deal with troublesome Professional Engineer?

I currently manage a team of quite a few engineers in Canada. Things normally run smoothly, but we've had a serious problem with a senior engineer as of late. This engineer is the sole engineer on ...
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Got into a (technical) argument with my interviewer - should I apologize?

I had a technical phone interview today where the interviewer and I had a disagreement on a (small, very unimportant) technical detail in my code where he was suggesting one thing and I disagreed and ...
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How to remedy a false accusation in small open office setting

I went on a work trip with my boss and we stayed at an AirBNB that was under my boss's name. She brought along her baby, and wanted a house to stay in so she could hire a babysitter to watch her baby ...
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How to communicate disagreement or concern about management's decision to promote someone?

I have heard and read that promotions, especially after the first level of management, are not based on merit, performance or expertise, but rather on being aligned with senior management, being more ...
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What to do when you've been thrown under the bus at the office? [closed]

Recently, I was the technical architect for a well-intentioned project at work. Though the project was not well conceived, it was making slow progress toward its goal. I walked into a meeting with ...
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How can I work with a client who gives ambiguous directions but refuses to clarify--and is just more adamant that I follow his instructions?

I'm working on an assignment that my client thinks should have taken me twenty minutes... for one day and counting. He gave me ambiguous instructions, and when I said, "What do you mean by saying ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...
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who to go to when the problem is HR?

About 3 months ago we got a new HR director, and since then there's been a few negative encounters with her. A month ago, I went to her office to sign some paperwork. When I asked a question, she ...
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Interviewing someone with personal conflict [closed]

The question is purely hypothetical, I am not in that situation just was wondering. So which of the following possibilities is the most professional way to handle the situation, where you have to ...
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How to balance scientific integrity with marketing needs?

I'm an engineer and I mostly do R&D. Often I am asked to test our product (a sensor) for performance, for two kinds of audiences: Customers (where my employer's name goes on the document) ...
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How do companies handle 'he-said she-said' situations with no objective evidence either way?

Recently, a co-worker of mine claimed to my supervisor that while I was on a forklift and relocating pallets, I pushed a pallet and hit her with it twice throughout the day. I told my supervisor that ...
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How can I deal with a difficult client?

Currently working in a digital agency as a project manager. We currently have a client who is extremely challenging to work with for the following reasons: Error prone. Often sends us content for the ...
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Best way to deal with dishonest colleagues [closed]

As a technical project lead, I received a problem report from a Colleague marked as "Critical". Though I could have delegated that to another colleague on a Monday, I put some effort on a Friday late ...
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Being asked to do work “on your own time”

Is it ethical for a manager/supervisor to ask you to do some task that they consider menial or trivial on your own time? For example, when a software developer starts a new position, they need to set ...
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How to ask co-worker to stop vaping?

I asked a question here about vaping. I realize that there is a lot of opinions about it. Rather than get my boss and others involved, I want to approach a co-worker directly about his vaping. At ...
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Minimizing damage to reputation after an unfortunate sequence of events

In the past two years, I quit two jobs and was fired from one without cause. I'm a senior-level web developer, if it matters. The first, after a year working there I was significantly late being paid ...
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My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? [closed]

I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation ...
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Is it ever appropriate to tactfully speak your mind regarding your work supervisor without using inappropriate language?

I'm working in a temp development contract as a front-end developer. During the interview process, I expressed my background as more full-stack to back-end than pure front-end. Despite my honesty ...
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Does it really take long to sign a contract after saying yes to verbal offer?

I was interviewed for this big company for an entry-level position back in Feb. Got to the interview with the manager and got an email telling me congratulations and the HR will help me with the ...
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A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior?

I work in a matrix-management based company where multiple superiors decide my performance appraisal, salary increases, etc. I have no single manager. I have evidence that one of my superiors is ...
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How to convince users to follow a new policy when they're used to work under a wrong one [closed]

My superior is leaving the team I have been a part of for 10 months. Over the span of those 10 months he addressed to us several problems with some users by making snarky comments like "We technically ...