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Questions tagged [conflict]

Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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Office manager repeatedly produces loud distracting noises (tics), what to do?

Working in a small co-work space, the current office manager constantly and repeatedly (every 10 seconds approximately) produces loud noises (mostly tics) when not engaging in a conversation. A few ...
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How can I get colleagues to makes decisions based off research as opposed to whim?

I'm a software developer and the codebase I work with is horrible. It is the result of no documentation and a high turn around of developers. The one constant is one of the leads, who seems to like ...
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Is it harassment to ask a person why they did what they did and whether they got paid for it? [closed]

I get a lot of useless emails in my work mailbox, so, a couple of days ago I received this email, talking about some bank's deposit interest rates. The email came from a person who works at the same ...
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How to address a coworker about their emotional behavior at work?

I have a coworker who produces good work, but is difficult to work with. When confronted with a problem, he can easily get frustrated and will frequently derail meetings and hinder progress once he ...
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What should I say to a client when my boss is almost explicitly telling me to lie?

I have recently moved into a project manager position and am getting used to timelines and deadline talk. My boss who actually meets with clients before a project is greenlit has promised a client ...
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Got deleted from spreadsheet for a company run. Should I act on it? [closed]

A lot of companies are participating in a 5 km run every year. I signed up I a google spreadsheet. The deadline to signing up was yesterday, the teams were announced and I am not in any of the teams. ...
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Colleague blocks change request in peer review because of perceived mistakes in code, but suggested improvements do not work

In the company I work for, change requests go through various steps, including a development step, a peer review step and a testing step. On this particular change request, I have been assigned as a ...
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Best way to approach manager with urgent issues when they are in a bad mood

I work in a quality control department for a manufacturing facility and report to the quality manager. Some days, my boss will be in a very bad mood due to having a lot of quality issues ...
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How to talk to client who refuses to pay for freelance work

I worked on a project which was advertised by a UK company as an internship after applying online. When I started this project, I quickly requested for a contract but I was given excuses as to why it ...
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How to politely, but definitely refuse to “take somebody's side”

A little background: I am the technical team lead of a group of consultants (all in one group). One of our junior consultants had a quite complicated technical contact person at the customer side. ...
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What to do with conflicting instructions?

We were between managers for a while recently and I was taking instructions directly from the owner of the business. This was the case for a couple of months so I became very familiar with my duties ...
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How to handle disagreements in an email conversation?

Alex wrote an email to Bob which said Bob's incorrect information wasted Alex's time. Bob replied that his information was correct and provided some supporting reasons, thus putting the blame back on ...
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How do I improve my relationship with difficult/pretentious colleagues?

I'm a programmer at a smaller company and I enjoy the responsibility and the freedom that this brings. It also mean that the professional relationships you have inside the company are more important. ...
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How to deal with passive aggressive behavior of coworkers after I complained about prolonged interruptions? [closed]

Background I'm a young female engineer from a racial minority group in the US. 90% of the staff is white male American. I started dating a coworker 6 months ago. We disclosed our relationship to our ...
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How to deal with a controversial boss? [closed]

I report to 2 bosses, one that is offshore and one on shore. I am comfortable working with my direct boss who is offshore but not the one at on shore. The day I joined she (on shore boss) told me ...
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How to deal with a conflict over responsibilities

There's a conflict over responsibilities in my company. It goes back to the time I didn't even work here. It's about one area of responsibility: both my and another department wants to be the unique ...
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Previous employee falsely claimed my work in resume

The secretary before me left the company before I started there. However, she claims on her resume an additional two years after she was gone - this would be when I was there, and the work done during ...
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How to manage a manager with unclear expectations?

The issue is the manager doesn’t provide clear expectations or direction, and often changes his mind, leading to conflicts and misunderstandings, as well as delays in projects. Example 1: A finished ...
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Clothes left in work changing room unattended were thrown away [closed]

Background I cycle to work on a daily basis and will use the same clothes on the way to work and on the way back. I have overactive sweat glands and they can get quite damp, so I leave them on a ...
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No email communication after accepting a formal written offer. How should I phrase the call? [duplicate]

Background info: So I was offered an position in a very small company (<50) in UK. The letter was in an email with the letterhead and the signature from the guy who interviewed me and I think he ...
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Changed mind on accepting job at last minute

I had applied for a job and received an offer. Though I accepted the offer and agreed to come into the office at the start of next week, I changed my mind. There are several red flags that after ...
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Reckless use of very toxic PC cleaner in closed workplace, how to tell them to stop using it? or am i overreacting? [closed]

EDIT:Thank you very much for all the answers, either by giving how to approach my coworkers which is something i really needed or with facts about canned air. Which is looks like i was overreacting. ...
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Coworker made an inappropriate joke, in a work email, about me being violent at work [closed]

It was in the context of a joking back-and-forth, and this person took it too far. Without getting bogged down in details, think of something along the lines of: Lol. Fine, well I'll just tell ...
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New programmer want to change a lot of things on a solo project [closed]

In a nutshell There is a new developer to a company, bringing new ideas to a project. While said developer solely owns and works on the project, the changes being made have caused distress to other ...
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Is there a way to polite/idiomatic/proverbial way to convey that it not my responsibility

For my work I am dependent on a coworker to analyse all the information that's available and condense it down into specific input, which I can then use to start my process. Unfortunately, this ...
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Can I be forced to be a flight RN? [closed]

I have been a labor and delivery nurse for 5 years at my hospital. The hospital has done a lot of expanding in the pediatric area including bring in specialty doctors to the area. The labor and ...
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How to deal with a coworker who blamed me for the bug that was his fault

I’m relatively new at a job, but have established myself as the “guy” when it comes to a certain web service we use. Our own website integrates with the service. I don’t really work on the site, just ...
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Unhelpful colleagues, how to handle?

I am currently shadowing a colleague as part of my introduction in the company in a delivery role. Colleague behaves in a very insular way, does not share ways of working and ends up creating a ...
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How can I commit to a team decision that I disagree with?

In my current job, I need to work in a team who I disagree a lot with. It starts with basic things, like how to track our tasks and ends in big things like the design of our application. I know I ...
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Am I starting to be micromanaged? [closed]

Came a bit out of the blue: Line manager is upset I am asking people for work and not going to directly to him. My work load has lightened considerably and have taken a pro-active approach when I am ...
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Off shift supervisor removed monitor from my cubicle [closed]

An off shift supervisor removed a monitor that I use daily with my laptop. I came into work one morning and it had just disappeared. Only the power cord and another cable remained. No note or email ...
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Coworker upset because tasks he was reluctant to do are assigned to me

I work in a laboratory, which is poorly publicized. People comment that our brand is unclear, mission is vague, webpages are confusing, and business model is hard to discern. Some employees of the ...
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Concerned with my boss presenting my project/presentation

About 8 months ago, a coworker and I worked on a project which lasted about 4 months to complete. After completion, we as a team presented the findings to 3 different groups of increasing authority. ...
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Colleague asks me to compare my performance with other person, should I provide this info?

Me and two other developers (A and B) work remotely for an IT company. Here's the situation: Coworker A has a hostile attitude towards others, sometimes mentions that they don't work well enough when ...
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Should I complain about my colleagues's bad work to their manager? [duplicate]

Since taking a job about year ago as a senior developer, I've seen my fair share of work that, let's just say, is less than stellar. The company is full of developers (for the sake of this question ...
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Coworker insulted me through text after asked about a task he failed to complete for me [closed]

What should I do in this situation. I'm not sure what triggered him to do this, but it boils down to: He is responsible for maintaining the computer I work on among many other things. For 2 weeks he ...
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How can I prevent my boss' boss from undermining my direct manager?

I'm having a problem, in which my CFO "undermines" my direct boss by changing things without her knowledge, on some of the financial reports that I run. He doesn't have knowledge of my current list of ...
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Do you ask your female developers questions? [closed]

I'm a software developer with about 10 years of experience. I am in a team of eight - myself, another female and the rest are male. The project we are working on are now at the 'handover to the BAU ...
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How to answer “Who did this?”

I work as a software developer (remote) for a small company. They are not an IT-company. They just have a piece of software that needs to be maintained modified regularly with different changes. So, ...
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How to remedy a false accusation in small open office setting

I went on a work trip with my boss and we stayed at an AirBNB that was under my boss's name. She brought along her baby, and wanted a house to stay in so she could hire a babysitter to watch her baby ...
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Problematic coworker, manager was informed, but did not take real action

In our company, we have a coworker, and let's name him John. We work in the IT field, and his contribution to the team has always been problematic. He breaks more stuff than he fixes, and our team ...
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What to do about Software Project Managers aggressively overloading the Tech Leads?

We get this statement from the PMs quite frequently during sprint planning: I know our capacity for points is X story points per sprint - but we're taking on extra as a stretch target. The PM ...
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Can your employer refuse a raise solely based on your age? [closed]

So I'm only 17, but I do a lot where I work. The hotel I'm at originally hired me to do bussing/hosting in the on-property restaurant. Well, about 2 months in, while I'm still 16, the Front Office ...
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How can I avoid heated arguments on controversial topics with colleagues at workplace? [duplicate]

At lunch time, tea break or whenever we take a small break from work at my office, my colleagues talk about everything under the sun. They usually start discussing about sensitive topics like one's ...
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Help me better understand and handle a co-workers behavior

I've started a job in a small company a few months ago, I really like the role but there's a colleague who's been here a few more months than I have that I work with whom I have been experiencing some ...
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How to handle disagreement with boss about what was agreed?

This is a fairly simple question, but I'll give some context: Thursday 1 week ago I was in a meeting with my boss, my manager and 1 other colleague (We try to have a somewhat flat structure, though). ...
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Is it a good idea to talk about consequences in meeting about dev processes [closed]

Here is what happened at work. Dev architect came up with new guidelines about coding practices, patterns etc. She presented it to the team. Its noteworthy that most of the team members are seasoned ...
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My colleague has spread fake rumors about me. How can I deal with this professionally? [duplicate]

One of my colleague was insulting me, making fun of me for no reason. In anger, I snubbed him and told him to get lost. From that day we have not talked. Its been 3 years now. I do not desire to ...
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How to deal with supervisor giving wrong information?

I have a supervisor who keeps giving me incorrect information. This is a foreigner who has been hiring others from her home country whenever a job opens. Now, most of my co-workers are foreigners. I ...
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Manager seems to have threatened my job for wanting to taking days off? [closed]

In my current role I was hit with a string of illness that made it inadvisable to come into work for ~4 days, and then my significant other had broken her foot and required assistance for the first ...