Questions tagged [conflict]

Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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How do I promote better development practices when facing management opposition?

I've struggled to think of an appropriate way to phrase the question, so forgive the ambiguity of my title, but here's my problem: I work in a department run by people without varied experience. Some ...
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How to handle a conflict of interest with a supporting business colleague in the same office?

I am a residential designer providing home plans to builders and homeowners. I rent my office from an engineer who provides all the engineering for the plans I design. He recently hired an employee ...
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I made my manager angry. What do I do?

I've worked at a small, family owned/operated store for two years. I have co-workers who have been there 10-20 (20 years is as long as the place has existed), it is a close knit work environment. My ...
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What does HR do for me?

Location: England. Industry: IT, Software Development I recently contacted HR about my manager's way of communicating with me. My understanding is that if I have an issue at work, and it is not ...
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How to deal with a colleague who has been with the organization very long?

I started working with my present organization 3 months ago. It's a very rural, conservative company. I'm in my late 20s and a foreigner of color and the company doesn't exactly have diversity. My ...
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How to Deal with an Employee Who Feels Like I'm 'Forcing' Christmas on Them?

We have recently hired a woman at our company that I'll call Jane (not her real name). I have been satisfied with Jane's performance so far and she has been getting along well with her coworkers. ...
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How do you deal with collegues who think aloud?

For the last few weeks I've been sharing an office with new colleagues who think aloud all the time. I've asked them to break this habit and though they promise they'll try it starts up again after an ...
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How to respond to your boss's email about a coworker's accusation?

There was a very serious conflict this morning with a coworker which resulted in an angry email from by boss with an accusation that isn't true. How do I handle this without sounding juvenile? Here'...
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Coworker throwing cigarettes out of a car, I criticized it and now HR is involved

"On my way to work yesterday, one of my coworkers was driving in front of me on the interstate. This coworker is a smoker. When they finished their cigarette, they flicked it out of the window. I ...
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How to handle a kind of conflict with my employers that I don't figure out?

I'm currently in a trouble I never encountered before. I'm technical expert (freelance) for 5 months for a well-known French company. My goal is/was to: Create a mechanism interfering ...
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Employee was insubordinate [closed]

My staffer asked me why we do not offer a donor service on our web site. I explained that our web site was testing a similar service for another branch of the organization and that we were not ready ...
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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?

The situation: My colleague (let's call him Joe) and I are department heads at a small startup (different departments). I have a lot more experience in my area. We are friends, and we work closely ...
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How should I deal with a colleague who has stopped talking to me because of a disagreement? [closed]

I work in a startup Software company in India. I head the development team. Recently, "Miss Sue" made some mistake. When "Miss Kate," the Lead of some other team, asked Sue about it, she replied ...
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When asked in the future how should you represent a contract job that did not end on the best of terms

I'm coming to the end of a tech project I'm looking forward to being done with. Its been a challenging project riddled with conflict and I feel the project manager and I while amicable would not be ...
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How to convince a lead developer that a choice is bad? [closed]

Over here at the company we have a single lead developer. As we have a mixed working environment, working in 2 different languages. And our lead developer prefers one over the other, he tends to make ...
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An employee lying to Store manager

I've been having problems with this one new co-worker. The store manager hired her and she is her friend. This new worker texts or talks to the store manager and lies or twist things that is not all ...
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Boss wants me to lead a team of “more senior” teammates, but they're my friends

A small team is being created at my company and my boss wants me to lead that team. The 2 other guys that will be in it (we're hiring 2 more) are my colleagues and both in some ways are more senior ...
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Is it ever appropriate to tactfully speak your mind regarding your work supervisor without using inappropriate language?

I'm working in a temp development contract as a front-end developer. During the interview process, I expressed my background as more full-stack to back-end than pure front-end. Despite my honesty ...
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Manager insists on recruiting externally

We have a well liked and respected colleague who left the team and would like to come back. The rest of the team would welcome the return of their skillset but our manager has apparently told them ...
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Employee talks to everyone whenever she has a conflict with a coworker

I recently noticed one of my employees talks to multiple people to discuss the conflict/issues she is having with a coworker, instead of resolving the problem with this coworker. I think she allows ...
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Techniques to let a control freak boss think my ideas are his/hers?

I'm been struggling with my boss who is a total control freak: Any initiative I've had has been shut down; if they've ever been revived later on, it's only because someone else (a customer) asked for ...
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Need to shuttle 4+ hours but could do the job at home [duplicate]

I am not a native English speaker, so please excuse my grammar. I am 22 years old working in an other town as a full time web developer currently living in Germany. I am the only web developer in a ...
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Overly Competitive Coworker

I work in a small team of software developers and we all get along quite well. There is however one junior coworker who continues to intrude im my duties and tasks. He will work well over what ...
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Friend/Co-Worker isn’t a Fan of my Girlfriend

Recently I have encountered a problem. I am part of a group in my workplace almost from the time I started working at my firm. We have obviously become close friends and know about not only our ...
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My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? [closed]

I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation ...
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Potential Internship Conflict of Interest

Background: I'm a computer science student that goes to a well known US college. In September, I will be going into my senior year. Last summer, I interned at a well known tech company, let's call ...
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Is it ethical to contact board members of my employer to participate in my side business?

I am a manager for a winery, and I am looking to build a business based around wine tourism, including B&Bs and winery tours. Can I approach board members and investors of my current employer to ...
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Frustrating response by manager due to mutual misunderstanding. Should I just let it go? [closed]

Trying to keep this brief: I report to two managers, A and B. I meet infrequently with A (~1x/month) and my day to day work has no impact on her ability to do her job. I work very closely with B and ...
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As a new teamlead, how to bring a subordinate's misconducts to attention of your manager

This is related to my previous question. In short, I have recently become teamlead of a team, which I had just joined. Problem is that I have a bossy, arrogant subordinate. In order to address the ...
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Negotiating office location with business partner [closed]

My co-founder 'Bob', and myself have been working out of separate locations for about 2 years. Bob and I built the business together and we both own an equal share. We are looking to get an office ...
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Advice about having discussion with a bossy subordinate who undermines my authority

Background I have about 4 years of experience, all that time I have been working in the same company. I am a researcher, and over the years I have managed to establish credibility in front of my ...
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Worked 6 months for someone who refuses to pay [closed]

The last 6 months, I worked for a person (1 month at their office, 5 months remote, living not far). During the last month (March) another developer joined the project, the management became hard, ...
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“I'm the boss here” attitude from a peer [closed]

I've got a message from a peer programmer (over a conflict happened due to his changes in the code I'm responsible for, done over my head). He wrote that they (he and PM) already decided to do it this ...
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How does one deal with an excessively noisy colleague? [duplicate]

Here is the situation. I work in an open-plan office. Tables are put together in small groups. The group where I sit is composed of 5 people. One of them, unfortunately, has some rather noisy habits. ...
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How to handle a senior colleague who is overstepping their authority? [closed]

Background I work in a software development team within a large corporation whose primary business is not software. We are trying to develop in an "agile" manner but this is often at odds with the ...
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How can I deal with troublesome Professional Engineer?

I currently manage a team of quite a few engineers in Canada. Things normally run smoothly, but we've had a serious problem with a senior engineer as of late. This engineer is the sole engineer on ...
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How to ask co-worker to stop vaping?

I asked a question here about vaping. I realize that there is a lot of opinions about it. Rather than get my boss and others involved, I want to approach a co-worker directly about his vaping. At ...
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How to convince users to follow a new policy when they're used to work under a wrong one [closed]

My superior is leaving the team I have been a part of for 10 months. Over the span of those 10 months he addressed to us several problems with some users by making snarky comments like "We technically ...
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How to balance scientific integrity with marketing needs?

I'm an engineer and I mostly do R&D. Often I am asked to test our product (a sensor) for performance, for two kinds of audiences: Customers (where my employer's name goes on the document) ...
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Conflict between team members [closed]

I'm sure that most of you have experienced this type of situation. I'm wondering how did you come to a resolution. Scenario: I'm a software developer working in an agile team with 3 other ...
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Should you mention potential conflict of interest when you have a side company?

I have a side business with a website in a particular space (known to be a very competitive space as well). My company has taken on a client in that space. Should I disclose that I have a small ...
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Coworker who likes to take credit for work that is not theirs [duplicate]

I am someone who likes to believe that it is important for all members in a team to give and receive credit where credit is due, but recently these ideas have been put to challenge in my office. You ...
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Who owns a laptop that I got from Microsoft Build? [closed]

My workplace paid for my Microsoft Build ticket. At Build, they gave every person an HP laptop as a give away. Is this generally considered my laptop, or my employers laptop? Edit from the comments ...
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How can I convince my CFO to hire more staff? [duplicate]

Currently we're 3 workers in our Systems Department, the thing is the three of us do everything: support(for a bit over 75 users, and a bit over 90 computer systems[some computers are used by 2 or 3 ...
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How to complain to my boss about late payments

I have been working in a company for a year now and never had any problems with payments before. On the last day of each month we have received our payments (not even a day late). For the last few ...
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Conflict with a colleague: How to explain the situation when asked

As this is a common question amongst the upper tier tech companies, I thought I'd seek some advice. The question typically goes in one of two forms: "Tell me a time when you had a conflict with a ...
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How should I deal with these co-workers who benefit at my expense? [closed]

I hate two of my colleagues who I'm forced to share close proximity with in the office. If someone asks me a question one of them will jump in. If someone asks me for help with something easy, one of ...
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Manager furious because I uploaded my resume on a job site

I made a new account at a job-search website and uploaded my resume to it. I received a call the next day from my manager: he was very angry, disappointed etc... He made a lot of comments to make me ...
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Is it illegal to set up a hidden camera in your office being the general manager? [closed]

I'm a general manager in a pub. We have CCTV everywhere public, but there are no cameras in the cellar or stock room downstairs. Is it legal for me to set up my own camera hidden in my office the pub? ...
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Leaving internship for full time position [closed]

I am currently doing a 3-month paid internship program - it started 3 weeks ago and will be conclusive in 3 months. This company does not promise to provide me with a position afterwards. Now I've ...