Questions tagged [conflict]

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How can I deal with a conflict between my two senior techs that is affecting the entire team?

I manage a small webcast production team of volunteers. On a purely technical level, I would rank them in the top 10% of teams in our niche. Because we are small and volunteer, everyone has been ...
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Given an ultimatum, threatened with dismissal

I work for a Mobile GIS company in South Africa with roughly 40 or so employees. This is my first job after finishing university. On Wednesday, after working here for about 8 months (and to my immense ...
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Can I refuse to do an external project when my company is not a consultancy? [closed]

I work as a developer in a very small startup. We have an online platform, and my job obviously consists of developing and maintaining this platform. Last week my boss asked me about estimates for a ...
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How to respond to the groundless claims about copy-pasted code in the most professional way?

Another developer claims that certain fragment of my code has been "copy-pasted from the web". This is simply not correct, I wrote the code myself and understand it well. The code also works as ...
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How can I manage stubborn team mates?

I am part of a group of developers where I am the one person with the most "modern" web development experience. My team members are not totally clueless, the all come from a WPF/SilverLight background....
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Co-worker hit my parked car at work, won't respond to my emails [closed]

Almost two months ago a co-worker of mine was leaving work for the day and backed into the side of my parked car. She realized her error and left a note with her name and number (I work for a large ...
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Is using a co-worker's place when he is absent considered rude?

I work as software engineer in a small software company that has roughly 20 employees. Recently my co-worker was absent for some days so I had the idea to switch to his workplace. This is because he ...
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How to deal with a coworker who wants to be the expert even though he has no expertise?

I am a junior developer and there is a more senior dev on our team (but certainly not the most senior) who, while being a valuable and productive member, occasionally goes on a power trip and decides ...
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mitigate office conflict

Here's my situation: I share an office with colleague A. We both report to the same manager M. Colleague B comes in our room and starts complaining about other persons (C,D...) in the team and about ...
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Commanding respect as the manager after an unfortunate, and embarrassing, incident at work

I manage about 10 people in my mid-level position at a large institution (happens to an non-academic administrative position at a public university in the US, if that's relevant). I think I am ...
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Employers discussing my work with parents

I currently work at a bar/pub that I don't intend staying in for the rest of my life. My parents are locals at this pub and now my employers are discussing my work with my parents and I never hear the ...
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What to say to co worker who ignores you? [duplicate]

I am a new employee and I have a co worker who recently started shunning me in the break room. I walk in and she acts very quiet. This is not a problem in itself. However when other employees who are ...
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How can I deal with a difficult client?

Currently working in a digital agency as a project manager. We currently have a client who is extremely challenging to work with for the following reasons: Error prone. Often sends us content for the ...
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How to quietly make sure a co-worker avoids a lunch topic, just once

I work in tech in an urban area where my close co-workers are outspokenly and vehemently liberal, and our lunch conversations generally include some sort of trump bash during some portion of the ...
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Factory installed automated production equipment to ease my fathers's manual labor, but it did the opposite [closed]

My father is working in a small(ish) factory, basically mixing large quantities of chemicals to produce artificial plant nutritions, and related gardening products. As an example in a standard ...
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Colleague reporting directly to the boss

I have been designated by my boss to deliver the technical part of a project. To achieve this I have the support of colleagues, which I need to lead. These colleagues are less senior than me, but ...
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How do I promote better development practices when facing management opposition?

I've struggled to think of an appropriate way to phrase the question, so forgive the ambiguity of my title, but here's my problem: I work in a department run by people without varied experience. Some ...
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How to handle a conflict of interest with a supporting business colleague in the same office?

I am a residential designer providing home plans to builders and homeowners. I rent my office from an engineer who provides all the engineering for the plans I design. He recently hired an employee ...
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I made my manager angry. What do I do?

I've worked at a small, family owned/operated store for two years. I have co-workers who have been there 10-20 (20 years is as long as the place has existed), it is a close knit work environment. My ...
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What does HR do for me?

Location: England. Industry: IT, Software Development I recently contacted HR about my manager's way of communicating with me. My understanding is that if I have an issue at work, and it is not ...
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How to deal with a colleague who has been with the organization very long?

I started working with my present organization 3 months ago. It's a very rural, conservative company. I'm in my late 20s and a foreigner of color and the company doesn't exactly have diversity. My ...
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How to Deal with an Employee Who Feels Like I'm 'Forcing' Christmas on Them?

We have recently hired a woman at our company that I'll call Jane (not her real name). I have been satisfied with Jane's performance so far and she has been getting along well with her coworkers. ...
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How do you deal with collegues who think aloud?

For the last few weeks I've been sharing an office with new colleagues who think aloud all the time. I've asked them to break this habit and though they promise they'll try it starts up again after an ...
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How to respond to your boss's email about a coworker's accusation?

There was a very serious conflict this morning with a coworker which resulted in an angry email from by boss with an accusation that isn't true. How do I handle this without sounding juvenile? Here'...
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Coworker throwing cigarettes out of a car, I criticized it and now HR is involved

"On my way to work yesterday, one of my coworkers was driving in front of me on the interstate. This coworker is a smoker. When they finished their cigarette, they flicked it out of the window. I ...
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How to handle a kind of conflict with my employers that I don't figure out?

I'm currently in a trouble I never encountered before. I'm technical expert (freelance) for 5 months for a well-known French company. My goal is/was to: Create a mechanism interfering ...
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Employee was insubordinate [closed]

My staffer asked me why we do not offer a donor service on our web site. I explained that our web site was testing a similar service for another branch of the organization and that we were not ready ...
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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?

The situation: My colleague (let's call him Joe) and I are department heads at a small startup (different departments). I have a lot more experience in my area. We are friends, and we work closely ...
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How should I deal with a colleague who has stopped talking to me because of a disagreement? [closed]

I work in a startup Software company in India. I head the development team. Recently, "Miss Sue" made some mistake. When "Miss Kate," the Lead of some other team, asked Sue about it, she replied ...
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When asked in the future how should you represent a contract job that did not end on the best of terms

I'm coming to the end of a tech project I'm looking forward to being done with. Its been a challenging project riddled with conflict and I feel the project manager and I while amicable would not be ...
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How to convince a lead developer that a choice is bad? [closed]

Over here at the company we have a single lead developer. As we have a mixed working environment, working in 2 different languages. And our lead developer prefers one over the other, he tends to make ...
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An employee lying to Store manager

I've been having problems with this one new co-worker. The store manager hired her and she is her friend. This new worker texts or talks to the store manager and lies or twist things that is not all ...
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Boss wants me to lead a team of “more senior” teammates, but they're my friends

A small team is being created at my company and my boss wants me to lead that team. The 2 other guys that will be in it (we're hiring 2 more) are my colleagues and both in some ways are more senior ...
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Is it ever appropriate to tactfully speak your mind regarding your work supervisor without using inappropriate language?

I'm working in a temp development contract as a front-end developer. During the interview process, I expressed my background as more full-stack to back-end than pure front-end. Despite my honesty ...
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Manager insists on recruiting externally

We have a well liked and respected colleague who left the team and would like to come back. The rest of the team would welcome the return of their skillset but our manager has apparently told them ...
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Employee talks to everyone whenever she has a conflict with a coworker

I recently noticed one of my employees talks to multiple people to discuss the conflict/issues she is having with a coworker, instead of resolving the problem with this coworker. I think she allows ...
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Techniques to let a control freak boss think my ideas are his/hers?

I'm been struggling with my boss who is a total control freak: Any initiative I've had has been shut down; if they've ever been revived later on, it's only because someone else (a customer) asked for ...
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Need to shuttle 4+ hours but could do the job at home [duplicate]

I am not a native English speaker, so please excuse my grammar. I am 22 years old working in an other town as a full time web developer currently living in Germany. I am the only web developer in a ...
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Overly Competitive Coworker

I work in a small team of software developers and we all get along quite well. There is however one junior coworker who continues to intrude im my duties and tasks. He will work well over what ...
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Friend/Co-Worker isn’t a Fan of my Girlfriend

Recently I have encountered a problem. I am part of a group in my workplace almost from the time I started working at my firm. We have obviously become close friends and know about not only our ...
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My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? [closed]

I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation ...
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Potential Internship Conflict of Interest

Background: I'm a computer science student that goes to a well known US college. In September, I will be going into my senior year. Last summer, I interned at a well known tech company, let's call ...
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Is it ethical to contact board members of my employer to participate in my side business?

I am a manager for a winery, and I am looking to build a business based around wine tourism, including B&Bs and winery tours. Can I approach board members and investors of my current employer to ...
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Frustrating response by manager due to mutual misunderstanding. Should I just let it go? [closed]

Trying to keep this brief: I report to two managers, A and B. I meet infrequently with A (~1x/month) and my day to day work has no impact on her ability to do her job. I work very closely with B and ...
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As a new teamlead, how to bring a subordinate's misconducts to attention of your manager

This is related to my previous question. In short, I have recently become teamlead of a team, which I had just joined. Problem is that I have a bossy, arrogant subordinate. In order to address the ...
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Negotiating office location with business partner [closed]

My co-founder 'Bob', and myself have been working out of separate locations for about 2 years. Bob and I built the business together and we both own an equal share. We are looking to get an office ...
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Advice about having discussion with a bossy subordinate who undermines my authority

Background I have about 4 years of experience, all that time I have been working in the same company. I am a researcher, and over the years I have managed to establish credibility in front of my ...
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Worked 6 months for someone who refuses to pay [closed]

The last 6 months, I worked for a person (1 month at their office, 5 months remote, living not far). During the last month (March) another developer joined the project, the management became hard, ...
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“I'm the boss here” attitude from a peer [closed]

I've got a message from a peer programmer (over a conflict happened due to his changes in the code I'm responsible for, done over my head). He wrote that they (he and PM) already decided to do it this ...
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How does one deal with an excessively noisy colleague? [duplicate]

Here is the situation. I work in an open-plan office. Tables are put together in small groups. The group where I sit is composed of 5 people. One of them, unfortunately, has some rather noisy habits. ...