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Questions tagged [conflict]

Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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Advice resolving conflicts with Colleague?

I need help figuring out the most responsible action I should proceed with for my current situation. We were done with work and just passing time because we weren't allowed to leave for another 30 ...
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Dealing with a coworker who is constantly hostile

I work in a medical facility alongside a number of other professionals in varying capacities. I currently work in an large office with 5 other individuals. These people were all here before me - but ...
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Boss is overloading me with work because I want to resign [closed]

I started as an intern at a family-owned company. After a year working for them, my supervisor's brother and I started dating. My boyfriend, his brother and their parents all live in the same house. ...
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Colleague from my previous company gets interview for my current company and wants to contact me

Long story short: A good colleague of mine (henceforth OC) from my previous company applied for a job in my current company. Manager showed me OC's CV and I told the manager that OC is good news. So ...
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How to handle a manager constantly demotivating you [duplicate]

I have been with my current company for a bit over a year. I do good work and constantly get good feedback from other teams/managers that I work with outside of my typical team at different office ...
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When should I disclose an ongoing relationship with someone who is in a legal battle with my employer?

My girlfriend and I worked together for 2 years under the same boss. Her and his professional relationship started to go "south". In the end, it became unbearable for both and together with HR they ...
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What to do when you've been thrown under the bus at the office? [closed]

Recently, I was the technical architect for a well-intentioned project at work. Though the project was not well conceived, it was making slow progress toward its goal. I walked into a meeting with ...
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Can a boss tell an employee not to go to human resources?

If Alice is having conflicts with Bob and the issue is brought to the boss and the boss doesn't rectify the issue, and also warns Alice that it is advised not to go to HR, what do you do? The ...
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What is a good process to follow for resolving concerns with a bad manager?

Regarding situations like having a good job with a bad manager, I have read advice like "never complain at work", or "you can't get rid of your manager". So my question is, what is a process to ...
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I'm a freelancer and my boss fired me without real reason. How can I secure my work? [closed]

Yesterday my boss fired me (I'm still in for one or two days) because of a pretty heated discussion that involved management steps and ideas. We are very far into the beta development stages. I ...
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How to handle an insubordinate employee faction when I can't replace them?

At my workplace we have a small faction of insubordinate employees who think they can do whatever the like and do not allow new hires in the same department to integrate into the team. The tension has ...
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I'm a director. One team member has complained to me about his manager (whom I manage). How do I address it? [closed]

I am a department director. I have an assistant director who does the direct management of my department's team members, but I occasionally meet with the team members directly as well, usually as a ...
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Manager wants to hire an employee he's sleeping with, against the advice of his team leaders

Note: Although this is written in the first person, I am relaying it from a person who wants to remain anonymous. I can ask for clarification if needed but no identifying details will be provided. ...
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Distinguishing between abbrasive managment style and bullying - when is it bullying? [closed]

I've been working for a large company that I got the job through by my school's co-op office. Sometimes my manager can be nice, but often times I feel like he’s mistreats me and acts in a way that is ...
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Does it really take long to sign a contract after saying yes to verbal offer?

I was interviewed for this big company for an entry-level position back in Feb. Got to the interview with the manager and got an email telling me congratulations and the HR will help me with the ...
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Manager with confusing character: Speakup or not? [closed]

First a few well established facts about my manager based on team's feedback about him: Very professional upright attitude. Great communication skills but tend to be over-argumentative bordering to ...
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Unresolved conflict [closed]

I have a problem which I'm not sure how to handle. I work in a "creative" industry that combines usage of very specific software with individual approach to the specific project. So, technically ...
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How to request help for document review?

I’m an auditor reporting to headquarters auditing their subsidiaries. Management of the subsidiaries is super duper fragile mentally and negative thinking. Anything sent out will be considered as ...
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How to explain business priorities to a programmer?

I have a recurring disagreement with a programmer about code quality. He insists that all of his code is written to the highest standard (i.e. that it looks just like the examples in the coding styles ...
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Interview by co-workers all known to me - conflicts of interest?

I just interviewed for a small promotion to replace a supervisor. I was surprised to find on the interview committee, 6 co-workers, including: the incumbent (awkward, I felt I had to congenially ...
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Is there a conflict of interest in offer letter forbidding side work? [closed]

I received a job offer from a company with following clauses Clause 1: We expect that you will not engage in or do any business or render any professional service outside the company either on ...
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Uncomfortable race comments in workplace

I work in a small office. We've had the same cleaning lady for a number of years now, and when she comes once a week to dust/clean my office I'll chat with her. Recently she's made a few comments ...
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Can a team lead force an employee to change careers? [closed]

A colleague of mine held a position which was in her career path. But the higher-ups deemed that the position had "no visibility" (i.e. no visible positive effect) to the team. So they slowly ...
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How to deal with a bossy, micro-managing co-worker [duplicate]

I'm a web dev (mostly front-end/UX designer), at a small shop of less than 10. I was hired quite quickly as they had projects piling up and the previous person in my position had kind of left them ...
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what recourse would milton from office space have had?

So I was watching Office Space the other day and in it there's a character named Milton who's constantly being abused by his employer. Basically, he's never told he's been laid off and although he is ...
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Managing conflict with coworkers to relieve a hostile work environment [closed]

I work for a small software development team, and recently things have started getting extremely uncomfortable for me at work. We have a couple of girls who seem overly dramatic for no reason at ...
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can I get fired for telling a coworker I heard she would be let go? [closed]

I told my coworker that our boss said she might be let go until she is of age to serve alcohol in the restaurant where I work. I'm not a supervisor or a manager of any sort; my boss told me that she ...
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How to deal with an employee who ignores you

I am having an issue with an employee/former co-worker who is flat out ignoring me. I work in a department in a college and for many years I worked as a student assistant. When I graduated I became a ...
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How to deal with a manager who stonewalls me? [closed]

Let me first say that I have read How to proceed when remote boss doesn't answer emails . This has some great information, but my problem has gone a step further. Let me first clarify that I have two ...
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How to react to your boss when there is a misunderstanding [closed]

I was working as a waiter for 7 months when I decided to tell my manager and boss that I will be quitting the next month. I explained that the job hours were not helping with my school and the salary ...
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Colleague angry at me and I have no idea why [closed]

Yesterday I had an awkward encounter with a colleague. I just greeted him as I passed by him in the hallway and in return he accused me of not wanting to fix my algorithm for a report I have developed ...
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My boss saw me doing personal thing in desk

Yesterday, my usually cool and supportive boss came to my desk for asking something and he saw me doing unofficial non-work activities at my desk. He did not react much but he asked what I was doing. ...
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How to go “above and beyond” when I don't have time, resources or processes to do so every single day?

I previously asked A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior? and really appreciated the answer by maple_shaft to act as professional ...
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What's the most professional and constructive response to false accusations?

My boss says that I have done something wrong but I didn't and I have no doubt about it. Regardless of context, what's the most professional response or behavior to adapt when one is falsely accused ...
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A superior is complaining about me for things that are not my responsibility - should I tell their superior?

I work in a matrix-management based company where multiple superiors decide my performance appraisal, salary increases, etc. I have no single manager. I have evidence that one of my superiors is ...
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How do I tell my colleagues that the codebase they've built is a total mess and their practices are ancient?

The situation For a few months, I've been working with a new team in a new company. The company offers some web services and the team's role is to develop and maintain those services. Problem #1: ...
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Co-leader quit in anger, now says “it doesn't count”: how to enforce [closed]

I am a co-leader with another person on a group project. Today she said "I quit. I'll tell our supervisor." I went ahead and talked to our supervisor informing them of this. Also I sent an email to ...
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Minimizing damage to reputation after an unfortunate sequence of events

In the past two years, I quit two jobs and was fired from one without cause. I'm a senior-level web developer, if it matters. The first, after a year working there I was significantly late being paid ...
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Being asked to do work “on your own time”

Is it ethical for a manager/supervisor to ask you to do some task that they consider menial or trivial on your own time? For example, when a software developer starts a new position, they need to set ...
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Was let go from my job and client wants to know what happened. What do I say?

I was hired as an Account Supervisor at a small communications firm. The owner was my boss and the rest of the staff about 3 other people were contractors. I worked there roughly for 3 months, doing ...
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Subordinate had conversations with my boss- should I have been told? [closed]

I am a C level manager whose direct report, a senior manager, went to my boss to complain I was over managing him. Through several meetings it was determined my report was at fault for not taking ...
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Recruiting company misrepresented position. Recourse? [closed]

Recruiting firm A submitted me for a position with a company. I was offered and accepted a position with that company, turning down an offer with a separate company that was given the same day. The ...
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How to handle a manager that seems to react out of personal grudge?

I used to have a good relationship with my direct team manager (I am a software engineer). But turned out that all is fine as long as you agree with him and be submissive. I had noticed that he takes ...
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Is there a conflict of interest if a close relative works at a competing company to the one I am applying for?

I am applying for an internship in a tech-related field. I am applying to Company X, and hopefully will get an internship. One of my parents though works for Company Y, a direct rival to Company X. ...
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Somebody hit my car at the client's carpark

A couple of days ago, I noticed someone had clipped my car in the underground carpark at work. I work as a consultant in the building of a client. The carpark is available only for the client's ...
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Complex Interpersonal Situation Post-Resignment [closed]

I was volunteering for a non-profit for three years until I was asked to join the board a few months ago. The Exec. Director and I work very well together. The board comprises of his parents and a ...
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How to tell my company that I am having issues with my boss?

I am in a services company where my employer has the responsibility to arrange or facilitate other consulting positions; usually the immediate boss takes care of this as his primary responsibility of ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...
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How to encourage decision-makers to communicate their viewpoints more openly?

I am a newly hired C-level worker at a very small company (less than 30 staff) and am part of the decision-making body. It is my first time at this level of responsibility and here is my first ...
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How to respond better to criticism or challenge?

My line managers are in agreement that I present a natural flair for sales, marketing and personal relationships. I can present engagingly to an audience of 400 persons or more and I can build strong ...