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Questions tagged [conflict]

Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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How to handle last minute work deadlines that I cannot meet due to personal schedules? [closed]

Scenario/Background: I have two bosses, with one of whom I manage variable daily processes (priority 1), while the other one gives me longer term projects (priority 2). Due to the extreme variability ...
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What is a constructive response to employees who get angry with you after you proved them wrong?

At a recent business meeting, I was trying to speak sense into someone who just kept counter-arguing against me. I always have a peaceful and relaxed tone when sharing different views, yet the other ...
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How does one tactfully express concern over a team member's capabilities?

I'm a developer and the person I'm describing has been with us for over a year as part of the Quality Assurance team. They've been trained up by a true veteran of QA and while they aren't exactly the ...
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Being at a higher position than colleagues who have been with company longer than you

I am soon going to be starting a job in where I will be significantly younger and less experienced than my colleages, who have been with the company for much longer, yet I will be in a higher position ...
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I recently won a workplace dispute with a co-worker and now he/she is sulking [duplicate]

A person that works below me recently initiated a workplace dispute with me regarding a technical matter and my advice was ultimately acted upon by the boss. Since this time, the co-worker has been ...
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What is the best way to present to a boss an idea of group of us leaving for a startup

One of my coworkers and I have decided that we'd like to go part ways with our current employer and start up our own business. Currently we are in a small IT company with their software development ...
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How to handle a condescending co-worker?

It's my first time posting here so just bear with me. I work at a software development company that primarily focuses on C#-based web development, but they also work on desktop applications on ...
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I think I may have been terminated, how can I find out my status?

Today I resigned. My boss did not take it well. He locked me out of my company email and informed me that he wanted me to work strict office hours during my notice period of 1 week. (9-5 is unheard-of ...
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How to handle user request when boss denies it based on missing knowledge?

A customer wanted me to solve a particular problem and boss said it is impossible to do because of a particular fact. However, I found a publication which shows that this particular fact is possible ...
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How to deal with lying co-worker who misrepresents issues or makes up scenarios

I've come in contact with a situation recently at work where a co-worker I formerly worked with in an old position has been misrepresenting or creating tension by lying about situations of contact ...
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How to decline after signing when I get a new good offer [duplicate]

I have applied to company A on 1st June and give them a joining date of 23 June (today). company A called me on Saturday Morning 22 June (yesterday) for a confirmation that I am gonna come on Monday ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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How to handle conflicts gracefully in the team? and come up amicable decision?

I am working as consultant to US based Organization. I am development team lead and we are starting development of new project soon. The architect of the team proposed new approach and new direction ...
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How to communicate disagreement or concern about management's decision to promote someone?

I have heard and read that promotions, especially after the first level of management, are not based on merit, performance or expertise, but rather on being aligned with senior management, being more ...
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Idle at work. Could but are not allowed to help

Andrew is a friend of mine. Andrew's direct boss is Brian who is the head of the department. Unfortunately Andrew doesn't get enough work from Brian and he often bored and idle there. It also causes ...
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Should I replace an AV accessory that was lost by someone else?

I work for an education oriented non-profit and recently we started letting people take A/V and photography equipment in exchange for a copy of the final product, so basically for free. I'm in charge ...
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Employees I manage in conflict and face to face leads to further conflicts where one of the two sulks and goes into a shell

I have been managing teams where many a times I receive complaints from one team member about the other. The most common complaint being - rude / arrogant behavior or not helping out when any help is ...
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Best way to deal with dishonest colleagues [closed]

As a technical project lead, I received a problem report from a Colleague marked as "Critical". Though I could have delegated that to another colleague on a Monday, I put some effort on a Friday late ...
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As assistant manager, supporting a team member the boss is down on

I'm the assistant manager of a small team, and the manager, "Mary", and I have a large difference of opinion about one of our members, "Ethan". He's the least experienced person we have. Overall, I ...
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How do I professionally take over a project or role that was being handled poorly by an under qualified but well-liked person? [closed]

Over the course of my career, I have been hired twice by different companies to take over a project or role that was being handled poorly. In both cases, the person that I was 'replacing' was under ...
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Interviewing someone with personal conflict [closed]

The question is purely hypothetical, I am not in that situation just was wondering. So which of the following possibilities is the most professional way to handle the situation, where you have to ...
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Two subcontractors want to send me to the same client. How to handle the situation?

I'm currently looking for a job and have been contacted by various companies and agencies. I interviewed with a subcontractor (call them A) and was expecting feedback from them after they reviewed ...
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Consulting for a competitor under a different role: possible conflict of interest?

I work as a circuit design engineer at my full-time (W2) company where I got recently promoted from circuit test engineer. My previous role of circuit test engineer at this company involved circuit ...
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What if someone I manage shows different attitude to me vs my superiors when given tasks?

I am the new manager, promoted recently; he is team lead (most senior in terms of technical experience). Basic situation: I give some tasks. He looks for every single opportunity to complain against ...
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If I lose my job as a first time manager, what steps can I take to bring my career back on track? [duplicate]

I enjoy working with large teams, across teams and coordinating people. I was promoted from team lead to manager because senior boses across the compay recognized that I am good at getting other ...
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How should I handle a conflict of interest of a coworker?

I am a senior software engineer in a small private company of about 55 employees. There is a manager here of the EE (Electrical Engineering) group who at every possible chance asks the CEO for me and ...
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If I get blamed for a delay I didn't contribute to, how can I defend myself? [duplicate]

I am a new manager and performance appraisals are coming up. Although in general I am regarded as above standards (I was promoted for being the top employee of the year) I am aware that some of my ...
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How should a superior react when a subordinate complains to senior management about him?

An employee I am managing sent an e-mail to senior management claiming that my expectations are too high, I am assigning too much work for his skill level, and that I am too strict about workplace ...
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Getting a reference from a hostile work environment

The most recent job I worked at things didn't go so well. I always tried my best but for a number of reasons my productivity and relationship with other coworkers were strained. I believe it was a ...
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Dealing with jealous and overcontrolling ex-boss [closed]

I started working at this company more than 5 years ago as an assistant. One of my superiors never trusted my capabilities and never supported my growth, however I got promoted quickly, and after some ...
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Colleague keeps trying to set me up to fail and discredit me

I have been working at my company for around 9 months. It is small place and I am having problems with a woman I work with. I was brought in with a couple of other people to drastically expand the ...
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How can I avoid divisive political issues at work?

I am currently a member of a 4-member team. There is a current national political issue that is very divisive in our region (we are in India). The team lead and both other members of the team are on ...
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How should you handle a superior blaming you for a mistake that was actually theirs?

I've worked with a CEO of a small company who never admit its mistakes, but usually choose a scapegoat which will be blamed publicly. How to deal with this kind of situation in general? Edit: I would ...
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When asking someone to stop doing something annoying how should I do it? [duplicate]

Some people I work close to but not actually with, do things on a regular basis that irritate me. I'm sure they don't know it irritates me and I'm going to talk to them about it. What I'm not sure is ...
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How do companies handle 'he-said she-said' situations with no objective evidence either way?

Recently, a co-worker of mine claimed to my supervisor that while I was on a forklift and relocating pallets, I pushed a pallet and hit her with it twice throughout the day. I told my supervisor that ...
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How to ask boss to not use profane expressions

I find some of the things my boss and coworkers say slightly offensive. For example my boss was talking about facebook apps asking for permission and he said "they ask 'do you want us to take your ...
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Conflict of Interest in the Hiring Process [closed]

I work at Big 5 Sporting Goods. I want to work at Foot Locker. I went in for the interview at Foot Locker and told them that I work at Big 5 but am willing to quit if I was hired at Foot Locker. The ...
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How do I prepare for a meeting with a senior manager about a conflict with my manager?

I have spent all my professional life working as developer (not very long, like 5 years) and during that time I have been a hard working person (or at least I consider myself). My previous boss and I ...
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What should I disclose about second jobs or additional sources of income when my employer asks?

My employer is requiring me to fill out a "Disclosure Form" which provides them with information such as additional sources of income (such as investments) and other employment. I feel this is a ...
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How should we handle 'Jak' who takes credit for others' work and ideas? [closed]

PM rejects ideas then brings them back later as his own The situation is me and my colleague, say 'Jak', report to the same manager, 'Dom', but 'Jak' has the title of project manager. I am more into ...
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How can I work with a client who gives ambiguous directions but refuses to clarify--and is just more adamant that I follow his instructions?

I'm working on an assignment that my client thinks should have taken me twenty minutes... for one day and counting. He gave me ambiguous instructions, and when I said, "What do you mean by saying ...
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How can I professionally resolve a work conflict with my teammate?

I overheard my coworker (entry-level but very intelligent and articulate), "Jane", tell a group of my peers that she thought I was unqualified to be a senior developer in our team. I strongly believe ...
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Confronting my manager for his dishonesty

I'm a sys admin in a pretty respectable company that does everything from infrastructure to web site hosting to software development. I have been wanting to move into programming for some time, but ...
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Having conflict with my own manager

So here is the scene: My manager got hired in my company 2 months ago (full time). Before that he came here as a consultant. The company he came from, I used to work over there until I got laid off. ...
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How do I avoid sounding arrogant when sharing knowledge with a superior?

I'm fairly young in my career, and thus hold a bottom-of-the-totem position on my team. However, thanks to the rapid development of the industry, my recent education has introduced me to theories and "...
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How to deal with insensitive humor in the office?

Maybe I should just let this go, but I'm finding that difficult. A co-worker made what he considered to be a joking statement about people with a certain disease. I contradicted the statement, but ...
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My boss slapped me over a calculation error [closed]

My boss slapped me because My Excel file had a calculational error. I fixed the error and saved the file to the network. If I complain, I guess I will just get fired. But I don't want to work for ...
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Coworkers slapped me for jokingly suggesting them to kiss. How should I proceed when they deny the incident? [closed]

We arrived back at the office from a work party. A guy hugged a young woman, who was drunk. I joked about how drunk she was and joked that he should kiss her. She slapped me for this remark. Then the ...