Questions tagged [conflict]

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Coworker throwing cigarettes out of a car, I criticized it and now HR is involved

"On my way to work yesterday, one of my coworkers was driving in front of me on the interstate. This coworker is a smoker. When they finished their cigarette, they flicked it out of the window. I ...
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How to deal with a coworker who blamed me for the bug that was his fault

I’m relatively new at a job, but have established myself as the “guy” when it comes to a certain web service we use. Our own website integrates with the service. I don’t really work on the site, just ...
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Given an ultimatum, threatened with dismissal

I work for a Mobile GIS company in South Africa with roughly 40 or so employees. This is my first job after finishing university. On Wednesday, after working here for about 8 months (and to my immense ...
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How to explain business priorities to a programmer?

I have a recurring disagreement with a programmer about code quality. He insists that all of his code is written to the highest standard (i.e. that it looks just like the examples in the coding styles ...
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How to handle manager when handing in my notice after lying about not looking for a new job

I have worked at my current place for just shy of a year now - And in the past 4 months, it has been quite rocky. I have had informal counseling and a disciplinary against me. For some background, ...
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What to do when during a meeting client's people start to (physically) fight with each other?

I work on a project that requires many on-site meetings at the client's location, with client people from different departments. These departments can be considered as closed silos, where everyone ...
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Employer doesn't want to pay me because I took longer than estimated to finish the work

I work as a junior programmer in Slovakia. This is my first job and I have been with the company for less than a year. This month I was working on a feature that was estimated to take about 1 week ...
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Engineer refusing to file/disclose patents

We have a senior engineer on our team that routinely excels at his work. In addition to his regular work, our company has a patent program where engineers can write up a patent for a novel idea, and ...
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How can I deal with troublesome Professional Engineer?

I currently manage a team of quite a few engineers in Canada. Things normally run smoothly, but we've had a serious problem with a senior engineer as of late. This engineer is the sole engineer on ...
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How do I tell my colleagues that the codebase they've built is a total mess and their practices are ancient?

The situation For a few months, I've been working with a new team in a new company. The company offers some web services and the team's role is to develop and maintain those services. Problem #1: ...
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Colleague blocks change request in peer review because of perceived mistakes in code, but suggested improvements do not work

In the company I work for, change requests go through various steps, including a development step, a peer review step and a testing step. On this particular change request, I have been assigned as a ...
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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?

I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
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Got into a (technical) argument with my interviewer - should I apologize?

I had a technical phone interview today where the interviewer and I had a disagreement on a (small, very unimportant) technical detail in my code where he was suggesting one thing and I disagreed and ...
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How to respond to your boss's email about a coworker's accusation?

There was a very serious conflict this morning with a coworker which resulted in an angry email from by boss with an accusation that isn't true. How do I handle this without sounding juvenile? Here'...
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I have a problematic assistant manager, but I can't fire him

I'm the general manager of a restaurant in a franchise and I've held this position for about 6 months. The company hired me from outside the corporation so I'm still learning about the business. As ...
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What does HR do for me?

Location: England. Industry: IT, Software Development I recently contacted HR about my manager's way of communicating with me. My understanding is that if I have an issue at work, and it is not ...
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I'm the Tech Lead, my boss is the PM. In case of disagreement, how much should I push my point of view?

I'm the tech lead of a project and my boss is the Project Manager. He is formally in charge to decide what to put inside the project and I'm in charge of deciding how things will be implemented. In ...
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I suspect my coworker is trying to take revenge. How do my career and I survive an extra few weeks of working together?

A few months ago, I was temporarily (until the end of this year) put on another team. There is one other developer, and we've been struggling in our day-to-day interactions from day one. He's not used ...
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How to handle an insubordinate employee faction when I can't replace them?

At my workplace we have a small faction of insubordinate employees who think they can do whatever the like and do not allow new hires in the same department to integrate into the team. The tension has ...
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Managing difficult employees

I just joined a new company four weeks ago. I am currently in the process of delivering a project, I am the project manager managing a tech lead, developer and dev ops. Out of the 3, one of the ...
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How to deal with an employee who ignores you

I am having an issue with an employee/former co-worker who is flat out ignoring me. I work in a department in a college and for many years I worked as a student assistant. When I graduated I became a ...
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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?

The situation: My colleague (let's call him Joe) and I are department heads at a small startup (different departments). I have a lot more experience in my area. We are friends, and we work closely ...
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How to address colleagues including me in video recordings in the office when I wish to not be recorded?

A couple of weeks ago two of my colleagues went around the office filming for another colleague's anniversary video. The filming took place on company premises during work hours, and I understand it ...
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How do I get a coworker to do something that they don’t want to do, as they disrespect me?

I asked a colleague at work to do a 5-minute task, which is part of their role. I sent an email, but they didn't reply. I went up to the person’s desk and they totally dismissed the request saying ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life

This is happening in central Europe. So basically I got this co-worker (let's call her Stacy) who regularly tries to undermine me. She disrupts my work, puts me in a bad light and doesn't cooperate ...
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I'm the toxic person on the team. How do I approach my manager?

I work on a medium sized software engineering team. I have been generally not a good person to work with lately, there has been feedback from team members as feedback directed at the team, but its ...
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How to handle an aggressive outsourced manager trying to induce employee turnover to get their own staff in?

Short version: A hospital's outsourcing services. Outsourced managers are abusing hospital employees to induce employee turnover and replace those employees with their own firm's workers. Hospital ...
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How to remedy a false accusation in small open office setting

I went on a work trip with my boss and we stayed at an AirBNB that was under my boss's name. She brought along her baby, and wanted a house to stay in so she could hire a babysitter to watch her baby ...
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How to talk to client who refuses to pay for freelance work

I worked on a project which was advertised by a UK company as an internship after applying online. When I started this project, I quickly requested for a contract but I was given excuses as to why it ...
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What to do about Software Project Managers aggressively overloading the Tech Leads?

We get this statement from the PMs quite frequently during sprint planning: I know our capacity for points is X story points per sprint - but we're taking on extra as a stretch target. The PM ...
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My boss slapped me over a calculation error [closed]

My boss slapped me because My Excel file had a calculational error. I fixed the error and saved the file to the network. If I complain, I guess I will just get fired. But I don't want to work for ...
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What's the most professional and constructive response to false accusations?

My boss says that I have done something wrong but I didn't and I have no doubt about it. Regardless of context, what's the most professional response or behavior to adapt when one is falsely accused ...
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Can a boss tell an employee not to go to human resources?

If Alice is having conflicts with Bob and the issue is brought to the boss and the boss doesn't rectify the issue, and also warns Alice that it is advised not to go to HR, what do you do? The ...
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Should I say anything 'bad' about candidate(s) who'll be replacing me?

I'm currently serving notice period in my current company and will be joining a new company in some time (a little over a month). So naturally my current company is looking for a replacement, and I ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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Management asks to promote a product that users strongly dislike. How should I approach them with my concerns?

My company has recently launched a new product that is being distributed to millions of users around the world. I have been tasked with providing user support for this product. Some of the power ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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How to complain to my boss about late payments

I have been working in a company for a year now and never had any problems with payments before. On the last day of each month we have received our payments (not even a day late). For the last few ...
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Uncomfortable race comments in workplace

I work in a small office. We've had the same cleaning lady for a number of years now, and when she comes once a week to dust/clean my office I'll chat with her. Recently she's made a few comments ...
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How do I avoid sounding arrogant when sharing knowledge with a superior?

I'm fairly young in my career, and thus hold a bottom-of-the-totem position on my team. However, thanks to the rapid development of the industry, my recent education has introduced me to theories and "...
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How to balance scientific integrity with marketing needs?

I'm an engineer and I mostly do R&D. Often I am asked to test our product (a sensor) for performance, for two kinds of audiences: Customers (where my employer's name goes on the document) ...
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How do companies handle 'he-said she-said' situations with no objective evidence either way?

Recently, a co-worker of mine claimed to my supervisor that while I was on a forklift and relocating pallets, I pushed a pallet and hit her with it twice throughout the day. I told my supervisor that ...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down

Environment: My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question. I ...
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What is the best way to present to a boss an idea of group of us leaving for a startup

One of my coworkers and I have decided that we'd like to go part ways with our current employer and start up our own business. Currently we are in a small IT company with their software development ...
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How can I avoid divisive political issues at work?

I am currently a member of a 4-member team. There is a current national political issue that is very divisive in our region (we are in India). The team lead and both other members of the team are on ...
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Can I refuse to do an external project when my company is not a consultancy? [closed]

I work as a developer in a very small startup. We have an online platform, and my job obviously consists of developing and maintaining this platform. Last week my boss asked me about estimates for a ...
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What to do when you've been thrown under the bus at the office? [closed]

Recently, I was the technical architect for a well-intentioned project at work. Though the project was not well conceived, it was making slow progress toward its goal. I walked into a meeting with ...
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Adjusting to a team with conflicting socialisation preferences for a group dinner

I started a new job half a year ago. I am very satisfied, there's just one thing. The team is pretty outgoing and they like to go out for a dinner together once or twice a month. I don't mind that, ...
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How do I promote better development practices when facing management opposition?

I've struggled to think of an appropriate way to phrase the question, so forgive the ambiguity of my title, but here's my problem: I work in a department run by people without varied experience. Some ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...