Questions tagged [conflict]

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Problem with coworker frequently cutting me off

I am having a problem with one of my coworkers that seems to be getting worse. We are both Senior Engineers of equal position on the same team, working for a large multinational Engineering company. ...
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After how many rows should one leave the current job/position? [closed]

In the last one and a half year, I had two rows with my boss. Both times I was thinkinq to quit but somehow I remained in my position. Just for an explanation, by rows I mean exchanging several emails ...
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Management copied in on mistakes made. How to proceed

I was previously at a job, that I am no longer at. The systems and processes were really poor. The work of even the most junior staff member was extremely complicated due to poor systems. One ...
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Why would I sign a confidentiality agreement after reporting an issue to HR?

There is a social media group and I noticed someone posted saying they had trouble getting paid from an employer. I work for the employer too and said I have found them to be dishonest. My manager saw ...
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Bugs are not deserving to paid-for

I'm contractor. Both I and company I work in same (not American jurisdiction). I get paid by amount of time entered on company's private gitlab x hourly rate. I do have formal written contract with ...
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Work ethic ,Simulating activity and being loud [closed]

I have the following situation and I'm not sure how to react. In my team there are three members: A Junior with 2 years of experience Myself and another Senior with 15+ years of experience (...
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Being blamed for other people’s mistakes

I had a situation in a previous workplace, where it became bullying, and I said nothing and I left the organisation, but, I wonder if this is something that I could have solved? The project was ...
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New job, getting pulled into co worker drama

I started an ER registration job about 3 months ago, and there are two coworkers responsible for my training who are going through some teenager level of drama. Apparently, since I am friendly with ...
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How to deal with non-stop callers in the service desk

For the last three months, I've been working in an IT department with first- and second-level IT support. This differs from a call center where someone picks up the phone and quickly creates a ticket ...
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Part of a team which made itself irreplaceable: new management wants a change, how to protect myself?

I’m a member of a team that has been developing a product for our company for years. The development started about 10 years ago and all the people of the original team are still here. I am one of the ...
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What do I do if I realize I'm incapable of doing my job and will get yelled at by my family for quitting? [closed]

I'm a recent college grad who never had any job experience other than my job right out of college at a startup in data analysis. I don't know how to manage a database or operate one which is necessary ...
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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?

I had a talk with the manager of a technical department at a big sized company I've been doing some work with as a consultant. She told me they are looking for technical people and asked if I'd like ...
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How to deal with a toxic coworker?

So, our main tech lead is a very knowledgeable guy who’s apparently been keeping the place afloat for years, but he’s quickly becoming my least favorite person. He just won’t stop speaking badly about ...
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How do you deal with collegues who think aloud?

For the last few weeks I've been sharing an office with new colleagues who think aloud all the time. I've asked them to break this habit and though they promise they'll try it starts up again after an ...
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How to politely ask my employer for reduced work time and less responsibilities?

Hello and thanks for your attention. TL;DR: Right now i am a full time software developer(among other things) in a small company, around 16 people, has been for now nearly 9 months, but due to ...
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How can I reply to coworkers who accuse me of automating people out of work?

I work in a small manufacturing company on special projects that automate some processes (primarily design/drafting). This automation is mainly targeted at reducing errors, establishing standards, ...
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How should I conduct a meeting with HR with the purpose of preempting a conflict with my manager?

I have a manager who is incredibly temperamental when it comes to criticism and what he views as unsatisfactory work. Oftentimes he will be very understanding and sympathetic when a problem arises, ...
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I think my coworker went through my notebook and took my project ideas

I have a notebook that I keep meeting notes, current work and future projects I'd like to do. Oddly, all these future project ideas I had listed out are now being completed by my coworker. The ...
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My two team members in a remote location don't get along with each other; how can I improve working relations?

I recently became the line manager for a team of engineers, which includes a two-people subteam based in a different location (very far away from here, I haven't had a chance to visit yet, but it's ...
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My boss wants me to say on my timesheet that I worked 8 hours a day, even if I didn't [duplicate]

My supervisor does not want questions asked about our timesheets, so he directs we fill them out exactly the same each week. Sometimes we vary the hours we work each day, but he wants it to say 8 ...
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Friends one day and not the next day [closed]

My coworker constantly jokes and the other day she said to me, “hey hoochie get your work done”, while I found this funny especially since I’m her superior, I threw a comment back “I would be done if ...
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Getting new boss with no experience in the field

I'm getting a new boss (for several unknown reasons I was not promoted to this position, although I have the skills and experience), who does not have any specific experience in the field which he ...
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Toxic colleague spreading lies [closed]

My colleague si master liar and also gathers evidence on others (screenshots of conversations etc.) the current situation is as follows: multiple managers tried firing her but they were always ...
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What to do if I have been accused of sexual misconduct?

I recently joined a company. Our training sessions are going on. During pair programming round, to try to make things go faster(as we are falling behind) when I tried to grab my pair's laptop(as we ...
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'Most expensive toy in town' - conflict between manager and his boss

An acquaintance of mine - a manager high up the food chain of an international company - recently approached me for advice in a delicate situation between him and his boss. As their business has done ...
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I'm the toxic person on the team. How do I approach my manager?

I work on a medium sized software engineering team. I have been generally not a good person to work with lately, there has been feedback from team members as feedback directed at the team, but its ...
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Doing part time work for a company that my full time employer has invested in

I presently am doing part time work for a company that is privately owned that Venture Capitalists have invested in. My full time employer has invested in the venture capital firm and I was wondering ...
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How to professionally change jobs from A to B, when you are currently doing a project for B?

I’m currently working for a large consulting firm (A) and my team is working on a project for a large oil firm (B). B doesn’t know who I am, as I have not been on the direct engagement team but knows ...
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Colleague asks me to compare my performance with other person, should I provide this info?

Me and two other developers (A and B) work remotely for an IT company. Here's the situation: Coworker A has a hostile attitude towards others, sometimes mentions that they don't work well enough when ...
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How to set boundaries and define my role with the people above me?

I am a senior developer working in this team for 4+ years and have deep technical & functional knowledge about 3-4 internal applications that this team is managing. Involved persons: Developer (...
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How to handle issue with other consultants as new team member?

Apologies in advance for the long post! I'm new in a project/communications consulting position, and as part of my role I'm unofficially taking over management of an ongoing web development project. ...
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Workplace wants me to leave my car at an airport for a week

I've worked in my current job for about two years and have only had to travel a couple times. Even so, it's never been by air. Typically, I would rent a car and drive a few hours away to the customer'...
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A team managed by my peer is close to melting down

Environment: My boss, John, has three managers (Heather, Rudy and Gary) reporting to him, and each one is in charge of a team. Difficult times within Rudy's team are the reason for that question. I ...
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I have a problematic assistant manager, but I can't fire him

I'm the general manager of a restaurant in a franchise and I've held this position for about 6 months. The company hired me from outside the corporation so I'm still learning about the business. As ...
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How can I encourage a colleague to use a more productive communication style?

I'm working with a remote colleague who is an expert in a technology we use in our current project. Often there are minor communication issues, some things get lost in translation etc. Nothing too ...
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What are some strategies for managing irritation with colleagues? [closed]

I have two colleagues whom I often get annoyed with. I don’t believe the details are too important — suffice to say that their lack of planning sometimes causes me to have to do extra work. I have ...
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How to navigate stalled discussion on development environment location?

TL;DR: Boss insists on an expensive cloud-hosted VM for a development environment for a cost-conscious client. He has misunderstandings and reservations about using physical devices for development ...
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Intra-team friction

I joined a new software company and was put in a team that suffers from a bit of friction, in particular with one developer and a Product Manager. Apparently at times the PM has been asking the devs ...
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Group manager threw me under the bus to save her friend

I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do. Back story: I was put on a project that was far behind and was very low developer quality adhering to no set of standards or practices. The project was not ...
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Should I agree or comply to record myself giving lectures?

To provide a bit of background, my company does both technical projects and "teaching projects" in which someone from my company goes to another to teach them how to use certain technology, framework, ...
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Ugly email exchanges, spreading Insecurity [closed]

Background: Over the course of the last few years, my manager has been bad mouthing me in nonofficial "around the water cooler" type conversations. I have overheard this many times and my colleagues ...
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Got moved to a different position from what I signed up for. Is it too late to raise the problem after a few months?

Got an interview and talked with some people, but not my current direct supervisor. Got hired and things were OK, but because of the training I wasn't really working on the stuff I got hired for, so I ...
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When do I bring up unwelcome news?

In the past I tended to break unwelcome news when I was expecting attendees to be least stressed & most likely to have time to discuss about immediate concerns - staying clear of any special ...
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Hostile co worker

My team was approached today by our manager. Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
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How to deal with the stress of being in the middle of the chain of command

I am a manager for a team of people. My boss sets my team very ambitious goals. To reach these goals my team needs to work a lot. He ignores and reacts badly to my arguments that it's too much. On ...
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How to work with a difficult PM [closed]

I was recently put into a new project. I've encountered my new project manager before and while there's a few things about this PM that concern me: They can be very friendly and open, but also very ...
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Manager insists on recruiting externally

We have a well liked and respected colleague who left the team and would like to come back. The rest of the team would welcome the return of their skillset but our manager has apparently told them ...
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Dealing with conflict between co-workers for non-work-related issue affecting their work

TL;DR version at the end. I am the unofficial head of a 10 person research team staffed mostly by medical professionals and I seem to have found myself in a bit of a pickle. After a grueling 6 month ...
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(How) should I report negative feedback from others to my boss?

If someone attacks me, for example, criticizes me strongly during a meeting or ignores my efforts to contact them for a prolonged period of time (although I know they are available and have political ...
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Engineer refusing to file/disclose patents

We have a senior engineer on our team that routinely excels at his work. In addition to his regular work, our company has a patent program where engineers can write up a patent for a novel idea, and ...