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Questions tagged [conflict]

Questions relating to disagreement or arguments between two parties

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Clothes left in work changing room unattended were thrown away [closed]

Background I cycle to work on a daily basis and will use the same clothes on the way to work and on the way back. I have overactive sweat glands and they can get quite damp, so I leave them on a ...
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No email communication after accepting a formal written offer. How should I phrase the call? [duplicate]

Background info: So I was offered an position in a very small company (<50) in UK. The letter was in an email with the letterhead and the signature from the guy who interviewed me and I think he ...
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Changed mind on accepting job at last minute

I had applied for a job and received an offer. Though I accepted the offer and agreed to come into the office at the start of next week, I changed my mind. There are several red flags that after ...
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Problematic coworker, manager was informed, but did not take real action

In our company, we have a coworker, and let's name him John. We work in the IT field, and his contribution to the team has always been problematic. He breaks more stuff than he fixes, and our team ...
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Reckless use of very toxic PC cleaner in closed workplace, how to tell them to stop using it? or am i overreacting? [closed]

EDIT:Thank you very much for all the answers, either by giving how to approach my coworkers which is something i really needed or with facts about canned air. Which is looks like i was overreacting. ...
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Coworker made an inappropriate joke, in a work email, about me being violent at work [closed]

It was in the context of a joking back-and-forth, and this person took it too far. Without getting bogged down in details, think of something along the lines of: Lol. Fine, well I'll just tell ...
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Is there a way to polite/idiomatic/proverbial way to convey that it not my responsibility

For my work I am dependent on a coworker to analyse all the information that's available and condense it down into specific input, which I can then use to start my process. Unfortunately, this ...
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New programmer want to change a lot of things on a solo project [closed]

In a nutshell There is a new developer to a company, bringing new ideas to a project. While said developer solely owns and works on the project, the changes being made have caused distress to other ...
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Can I be forced to be a flight RN? [closed]

I have been a labor and delivery nurse for 5 years at my hospital. The hospital has done a lot of expanding in the pediatric area including bring in specialty doctors to the area. The labor and ...
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Unhelpful colleagues, how to handle?

I am currently shadowing a colleague as part of my introduction in the company in a delivery role. Colleague behaves in a very insular way, does not share ways of working and ends up creating a ...
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How can I commit to a team decision that I disagree with?

In my current job, I need to work in a team who I disagree a lot with. It starts with basic things, like how to track our tasks and ends in big things like the design of our application. I know I ...
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Coworker upset because tasks he was reluctant to do are assigned to me

I work in a laboratory, which is poorly publicized. People comment that our brand is unclear, mission is vague, webpages are confusing, and business model is hard to discern. Some employees of the ...
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Am I starting to be micromanaged? [closed]

Came a bit out of the blue: Line manager is upset I am asking people for work and not going to directly to him. My work load has lightened considerably and have taken a pro-active approach when I am ...
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Off shift supervisor removed monitor from my cubicle [closed]

An off shift supervisor removed a monitor that I use daily with my laptop. I came into work one morning and it had just disappeared. Only the power cord and another cable remained. No note or email ...
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Concerned with my boss presenting my project/presentation

About 8 months ago, a coworker and I worked on a project which lasted about 4 months to complete. After completion, we as a team presented the findings to 3 different groups of increasing authority. ...
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Interviewing someone with personal conflict [closed]

The question is purely hypothetical, I am not in that situation just was wondering. So which of the following possibilities is the most professional way to handle the situation, where you have to ...
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Should I complain about my colleagues's bad work to their manager? [duplicate]

Since taking a job about year ago as a senior developer, I've seen my fair share of work that, let's just say, is less than stellar. The company is full of developers (for the sake of this question ...
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Coworkers slapped me for jokingly suggesting them to kiss. How should I proceed when they deny the incident? [closed]

We arrived back at the office from a work party. A guy hugged a young woman, who was drunk. I joked about how drunk she was and joked that he should kiss her. She slapped me for this remark. Then the ...
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How to answer “Who did this?”

I work as a software developer (remote) for a small company. They are not an IT-company. They just have a piece of software that needs to be maintained modified regularly with different changes. So, ...
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How to remedy a false accusation in small open office setting

I went on a work trip with my boss and we stayed at an AirBNB that was under my boss's name. She brought along her baby, and wanted a house to stay in so she could hire a babysitter to watch her baby ...
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How can I prevent my boss' boss from undermining my direct manager?

I'm having a problem, in which my CFO "undermines" my direct boss by changing things without her knowledge, on some of the financial reports that I run. He doesn't have knowledge of my current list of ...
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How to request help for document review?

I’m an auditor reporting to headquarters auditing their subsidiaries. Management of the subsidiaries is super duper fragile mentally and negative thinking. Anything sent out will be considered as ...
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Coworker insulted me through text after asked about a task he failed to complete for me [closed]

What should I do in this situation. I'm not sure what triggered him to do this, but it boils down to: He is responsible for maintaining the computer I work on among many other things. For 2 weeks he ...
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Do you ask your female developers questions? [closed]

I'm a software developer with about 10 years of experience. I am in a team of eight - myself, another female and the rest are male. The project we are working on are now at the 'handover to the BAU ...
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How should I deal with a colleague who has stopped talking to me because of a disagreement? [closed]

I work in a startup Software company in India. I head the development team. Recently, "Miss Sue" made some mistake. When "Miss Kate," the Lead of some other team, asked Sue about it, she replied ...
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What to do about Software Project Managers aggressively overloading the Tech Leads?

We get this statement from the PMs quite frequently during sprint planning: I know our capacity for points is X story points per sprint - but we're taking on extra as a stretch target. The PM ...
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How can I manage stubborn team mates?

I am part of a group of developers where I am the one person with the most "modern" web development experience. My team members are not totally clueless, the all come from a WPF/SilverLight background....
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Co-worker hit my parked car at work, won't respond to my emails [closed]

Almost two months ago a co-worker of mine was leaving work for the day and backed into the side of my parked car. She realized her error and left a note with her name and number (I work for a large ...
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Can your employer refuse a raise solely based on your age? [closed]

So I'm only 17, but I do a lot where I work. The hotel I'm at originally hired me to do bussing/hosting in the on-property restaurant. Well, about 2 months in, while I'm still 16, the Front Office ...
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How can I avoid heated arguments on controversial topics with colleagues at workplace? [duplicate]

At lunch time, tea break or whenever we take a small break from work at my office, my colleagues talk about everything under the sun. They usually start discussing about sensitive topics like one's ...
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Dealing with a line manager with anger issues

Started working in a large, well-respected organisation four months ago. It's not been working out, reasons include: The work / project is boring and uninspiring and seems to re-invent a lot of ...
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What does HR do for me?

Location: England. Industry: IT, Software Development I recently contacted HR about my manager's way of communicating with me. My understanding is that if I have an issue at work, and it is not ...
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Help me better understand and handle a co-workers behavior

I've started a job in a small company a few months ago, I really like the role but there's a colleague who's been here a few more months than I have that I work with whom I have been experiencing some ...
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How to handle disagreement with boss about what was agreed?

This is a fairly simple question, but I'll give some context: Thursday 1 week ago I was in a meeting with my boss, my manager and 1 other colleague (We try to have a somewhat flat structure, though). ...
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Is it a good idea to talk about consequences in meeting about dev processes [closed]

Here is what happened at work. Dev architect came up with new guidelines about coding practices, patterns etc. She presented it to the team. Its noteworthy that most of the team members are seasoned ...
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How to deal with an employee who ignores you

I am having an issue with an employee/former co-worker who is flat out ignoring me. I work in a department in a college and for many years I worked as a student assistant. When I graduated I became a ...
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My colleague has spread fake rumors about me. How can I deal with this professionally? [duplicate]

One of my colleague was insulting me, making fun of me for no reason. In anger, I snubbed him and told him to get lost. From that day we have not talked. Its been 3 years now. I do not desire to ...
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How to deal with supervisor giving wrong information?

I have a supervisor who keeps giving me incorrect information. This is a foreigner who has been hiring others from her home country whenever a job opens. Now, most of my co-workers are foreigners. I ...
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Manager seems to have threatened my job for wanting to taking days off? [closed]

In my current role I was hit with a string of illness that made it inadvisable to come into work for ~4 days, and then my significant other had broken her foot and required assistance for the first ...
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How do I gain the attention of a person of higher rank?

I’m currently involved in a group that is supposed to test bugs and give feedback about a game. We are called the Quality Assurers. We’ve been giving feedback about the current state of the game and ...
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How to address colleagues including me in video recordings in the office when I wish to not be recorded?

A couple of weeks ago two of my colleagues went around the office filming for another colleague's anniversary video. The filming took place on company premises during work hours, and I understand it ...
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How to handle my manager and a senior staff member giving me conflicting advice?

I'm interning at a company, and I have a new project. After my manager explained it to me, I went to my desk, researched it a bit and mulled it over, then returned to his office: Me: "So for this ...
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I'm the Tech Lead, my boss is the PM. In case of disagreement, how much should I push my point of view?

I'm the tech lead of a project and my boss is the Project Manager. He is formally in charge to decide what to put inside the project and I'm in charge of deciding how things will be implemented. In ...
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How can I work with a client who gives ambiguous directions but refuses to clarify--and is just more adamant that I follow his instructions?

I'm working on an assignment that my client thinks should have taken me twenty minutes... for one day and counting. He gave me ambiguous instructions, and when I said, "What do you mean by saying ...
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How to handle manager when handing in my notice after lying about not looking for a new job

I have worked at my current place for just shy of a year now - And in the past 4 months, it has been quite rocky. I have had informal counseling and a disciplinary against me. For some background, ...
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who to go to when the problem is HR?

About 3 months ago we got a new HR director, and since then there's been a few negative encounters with her. A month ago, I went to her office to sign some paperwork. When I asked a question, she ...
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Can I “rent” a Canadian Professional Engineer (P.Eng.)? [closed]

I'm working with a startup in Canada, and we're at about the 18 month mark where we get to do our final sales demo. Everything has gone great so far, and we've grown the company from 2 employees to 20,...
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Dealing with an indirect report who challenges me all the time and tries to push through with decisions?

I have a person who also reports to my direct report. She has been longer than me in the company. I have multiple issues with this person: Often openly questions my expertise Sends excessively long ...
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How to complain to my boss about late payments

I have been working in a company for a year now and never had any problems with payments before. On the last day of each month we have received our payments (not even a day late). For the last few ...
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Is using a co-worker's place when he is absent considered rude?

I work as software engineer in a small software company that has roughly 20 employees. Recently my co-worker was absent for some days so I had the idea to switch to his workplace. This is because he ...