Questions tagged [conflict]

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How do I gain the attention of a person of higher rank?

I’m currently involved in a group that is supposed to test bugs and give feedback about a game. We are called the Quality Assurers. We’ve been giving feedback about the current state of the game and ...
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How to address colleagues including me in video recordings in the office when I wish to not be recorded?

A couple of weeks ago two of my colleagues went around the office filming for another colleague's anniversary video. The filming took place on company premises during work hours, and I understand it ...
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How to handle my manager and a senior staff member giving me conflicting advice?

I'm interning at a company, and I have a new project. After my manager explained it to me, I went to my desk, researched it a bit and mulled it over, then returned to his office: Me: "So for this ...
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I'm the Tech Lead, my boss is the PM. In case of disagreement, how much should I push my point of view?

I'm the tech lead of a project and my boss is the Project Manager. He is formally in charge to decide what to put inside the project and I'm in charge of deciding how things will be implemented. In ...
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How can I work with a client who gives ambiguous directions but refuses to clarify--and is just more adamant that I follow his instructions?

I'm working on an assignment that my client thinks should have taken me twenty minutes... for one day and counting. He gave me ambiguous instructions, and when I said, "What do you mean by saying ...
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How to handle manager when handing in my notice after lying about not looking for a new job

I have worked at my current place for just shy of a year now - And in the past 4 months, it has been quite rocky. I have had informal counseling and a disciplinary against me. For some background, ...
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who to go to when the problem is HR?

About 3 months ago we got a new HR director, and since then there's been a few negative encounters with her. A month ago, I went to her office to sign some paperwork. When I asked a question, she ...
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Can I “rent” a Canadian Professional Engineer (P.Eng.)? [closed]

I'm working with a startup in Canada, and we're at about the 18 month mark where we get to do our final sales demo. Everything has gone great so far, and we've grown the company from 2 employees to 20,...
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Dealing with an indirect report who challenges me all the time and tries to push through with decisions?

I have a person who also reports to my direct report. She has been longer than me in the company. I have multiple issues with this person: Often openly questions my expertise Sends excessively long ...
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How to complain to my boss about late payments

I have been working in a company for a year now and never had any problems with payments before. On the last day of each month we have received our payments (not even a day late). For the last few ...
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Is using a co-worker's place when he is absent considered rude?

I work as software engineer in a small software company that has roughly 20 employees. Recently my co-worker was absent for some days so I had the idea to switch to his workplace. This is because he ...
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How to properly tell a colleague to spend less time on non work related things

Today I've had a situation where in a private department chat some colleagues complained that some emails are not being delivered and a colleague, whose team is responsible for them, said that he does ...
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How to allocate my time when entire management structure is absent

I work for a small company, and unexpected circumstances have left us with no contactable management, possibly for up to a week. Currently, I work on two separate projects, A and B, under two project ...
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Could company network admin be blocking certain sites for me? [closed]

I am a developer working for a small company. For my own purposes, I have developed a small VS desktop program that allows me to cycle through some favorite web sites through the company's network. ...
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Management asks to promote a product that users strongly dislike. How should I approach them with my concerns?

My company has recently launched a new product that is being distributed to millions of users around the world. I have been tasked with providing user support for this product. Some of the power ...
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No longer an employee, liable for changed locks? [closed]

I was recently let go from work via text message under the guise of "reallocation of labor hours." I had never been written up or anything of that sort. That being said, I was entrusted with a key to ...
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Got into a (technical) argument with my interviewer - should I apologize?

I had a technical phone interview today where the interviewer and I had a disagreement on a (small, very unimportant) technical detail in my code where he was suggesting one thing and I disagreed and ...
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A shareholder wrote bad software, I started from scratch. How to bring the news?

I'm a software developer and interaction designer. In late 2015 I was approached by a startup for some UX work. Long story short, in late 2016 I became a co-owner/shareholder. The product has a lot ...
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Boss wants me to lead a team of “more senior” teammates, but they're my friends

A small team is being created at my company and my boss wants me to lead that team. The 2 other guys that will be in it (we're hiring 2 more) are my colleagues and both in some ways are more senior ...
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For complaints do I address the individual causing the issue directly or talk to my manager? [closed]

When you encounter the case of someone continually causing problems in your making progress in your work, in which cases do you address this with that person talking to them directly and when discuss ...
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Proposed a promotion - facing a fierce reaction from a peer colleague

I am the head of a technical department in a small company. I have been offered the position of the Development Director (our boss is due to be retired, and the new director should lead it through ...
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what recommendations can I give to a colleague who is not preforming as well as expected [closed]

I work on a small team( 3 of us) Our senior dev is getting frustrated with my other colleague (we are both junior devs) because: a) She is taking longer than he thinks she should to get her portion ...
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Reporting low worker utilization

A little background: I work for a large corporation and was tasked to perform a process improvement study on an often overlooked department. This department gets little attention and performs mostly ...
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How should I handle me and my car being mistaken for someone else with the same car who behaves inappropriately?

A colleague working in a different apartment has the exact same car as I have (same model and color and the only two of the brand at my office). The only difference is the chairs, but I understand ...
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How to handle an aggressive outsourced manager trying to induce employee turnover to get their own staff in?

Short version: A hospital's outsourcing services. Outsourced managers are abusing hospital employees to induce employee turnover and replace those employees with their own firm's workers. Hospital ...
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Conflict between two at-will contracts

I am currently in a predicament with two companies, A and B. Both are in the US. When I was originally offered a position with A, it was originally for a summer institute. I was under the impression ...
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What is the best course of action when a fellow Developer 'torpedoes' you?

The situation is that I inherited a large peice of code in the form an SQL Procedure which had complicated business logic and rules. Mind you this code is very dense and with exactly 0 comments. My ...
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Self improvement for a student transitioning to the real world: How can I learn from my previous student jobs?

I am a master's student in Germany and till date I have had two positions as a working student at different companies. In company 1, I was hired initially for 6 months with an unspoken understanding ...
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Boss is overloading me with work because I want to resign [closed]

I started as an intern at a family-owned company. After a year working for them, my supervisor's brother and I started dating. My boyfriend, his brother and their parents all live in the same house. ...
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Who should handle the team and receive status updates?

I am an automation engineer with 10 years experience, recently promoted to Automation lead in my company. My colleague who used to handle both automation and manual before, has responsibility to look ...
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How to balance scientific integrity with marketing needs?

I'm an engineer and I mostly do R&D. Often I am asked to test our product (a sensor) for performance, for two kinds of audiences: Customers (where my employer's name goes on the document) ...
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Getting my boss to retract the termination of a team member [closed]

I'm the team lead for my company's content writing team, and my boss just terminated one of my team members. The protocol states that the erring employee gets an official warning first, and is ...
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Employer doesn't want to pay me because I took longer than estimated to finish the work

I work as a junior programmer in Slovakia. This is my first job and I have been with the company for less than a year. This month I was working on a feature that was estimated to take about 1 week ...
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Conflict with a colleague who just became my boss [closed]

I am having quite a bit of trouble here, especially with my morale. My colleague and I had joined the organization at a similar time, on the same designation. The colleague got promoted to the next ...
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Reporting to two supervisors when there are workplace factions

I recently joined a company and so far so good but not great. The pay is good, possibly the upper 1% in the country. There are many perks in the new job and bottom-line the job is everything I was ...
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How can I deal with a conflict between my two senior techs that is affecting the entire team?

I manage a small webcast production team of volunteers. On a purely technical level, I would rank them in the top 10% of teams in our niche. Because we are small and volunteer, everyone has been ...
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Given an ultimatum, threatened with dismissal

I work for a Mobile GIS company in South Africa with roughly 40 or so employees. This is my first job after finishing university. On Wednesday, after working here for about 8 months (and to my immense ...
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Can I refuse to do an external project when my company is not a consultancy? [closed]

I work as a developer in a very small startup. We have an online platform, and my job obviously consists of developing and maintaining this platform. Last week my boss asked me about estimates for a ...
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What's the most professional and constructive response to false accusations?

My boss says that I have done something wrong but I didn't and I have no doubt about it. Regardless of context, what's the most professional response or behavior to adapt when one is falsely accused ...
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How to respond to the groundless claims about copy-pasted code in the most professional way?

Another developer claims that certain fragment of my code has been "copy-pasted from the web". This is simply not correct, I wrote the code myself and understand it well. The code also works as ...
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Manager wants to hire an employee he's sleeping with, against the advice of his team leaders

Note: Although this is written in the first person, I am relaying it from a person who wants to remain anonymous. I can ask for clarification if needed but no identifying details will be provided. ...
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How to handle a condescending co-worker?

It's my first time posting here so just bear with me. I work at a software development company that primarily focuses on C#-based web development, but they also work on desktop applications on ...
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How to ask co-worker to stop vaping?

I asked a question here about vaping. I realize that there is a lot of opinions about it. Rather than get my boss and others involved, I want to approach a co-worker directly about his vaping. At ...
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How to deal with a coworker who wants to be the expert even though he has no expertise?

I am a junior developer and there is a more senior dev on our team (but certainly not the most senior) who, while being a valuable and productive member, occasionally goes on a power trip and decides ...
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mitigate office conflict

Here's my situation: I share an office with colleague A. We both report to the same manager M. Colleague B comes in our room and starts complaining about other persons (C,D...) in the team and about ...
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Boss in relationship with a direct report who is a good friend of mine as well

I could use some feedback on this one. My boss (began about 6 months ago, and I have been in my position for 3 years) is a charismatic guy, and we got along well. A position opened up that my former ...
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Commanding respect as the manager after an unfortunate, and embarrassing, incident at work

I manage about 10 people in my mid-level position at a large institution (happens to an non-academic administrative position at a public university in the US, if that's relevant). I think I am ...
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Employers discussing my work with parents

I currently work at a bar/pub that I don't intend staying in for the rest of my life. My parents are locals at this pub and now my employers are discussing my work with my parents and I never hear the ...
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What to say to co worker who ignores you? [duplicate]

I am a new employee and I have a co worker who recently started shunning me in the break room. I walk in and she acts very quiet. This is not a problem in itself. However when other employees who are ...
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How can I deal with a difficult client?

Currently working in a digital agency as a project manager. We currently have a client who is extremely challenging to work with for the following reasons: Error prone. Often sends us content for the ...