Questions tagged [conflict]

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Commanding respect as the manager after an unfortunate, and embarrassing, incident at work

I manage about 10 people in my mid-level position at a large institution (happens to an non-academic administrative position at a public university in the US, if that's relevant). I think I am ...
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Employers discussing my work with parents

I currently work at a bar/pub that I don't intend staying in for the rest of my life. My parents are locals at this pub and now my employers are discussing my work with my parents and I never hear the ...
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What to say to co worker who ignores you? [duplicate]

I am a new employee and I have a co worker who recently started shunning me in the break room. I walk in and she acts very quiet. This is not a problem in itself. However when other employees who are ...
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How can I deal with a difficult client?

Currently working in a digital agency as a project manager. We currently have a client who is extremely challenging to work with for the following reasons: Error prone. Often sends us content for the ...
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How do I avoid sounding arrogant when sharing knowledge with a superior?

I'm fairly young in my career, and thus hold a bottom-of-the-totem position on my team. However, thanks to the rapid development of the industry, my recent education has introduced me to theories and "...
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How to quietly make sure a co-worker avoids a lunch topic, just once

I work in tech in an urban area where my close co-workers are outspokenly and vehemently liberal, and our lunch conversations generally include some sort of trump bash during some portion of the ...
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Factory installed automated production equipment to ease my fathers's manual labor, but it did the opposite [closed]

My father is working in a small(ish) factory, basically mixing large quantities of chemicals to produce artificial plant nutritions, and related gardening products. As an example in a standard ...
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How do I promote better development practices when facing management opposition?

I've struggled to think of an appropriate way to phrase the question, so forgive the ambiguity of my title, but here's my problem: I work in a department run by people without varied experience. Some ...
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Colleague reporting directly to the boss

I have been designated by my boss to deliver the technical part of a project. To achieve this I have the support of colleagues, which I need to lead. These colleagues are less senior than me, but ...
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How to handle a conflict of interest with a supporting business colleague in the same office?

I am a residential designer providing home plans to builders and homeowners. I rent my office from an engineer who provides all the engineering for the plans I design. He recently hired an employee ...
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I made my manager angry. What do I do?

I've worked at a small, family owned/operated store for two years. I have co-workers who have been there 10-20 (20 years is as long as the place has existed), it is a close knit work environment. My ...
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Distinguishing between abbrasive managment style and bullying - when is it bullying? [closed]

I've been working for a large company that I got the job through by my school's co-op office. Sometimes my manager can be nice, but often times I feel like he’s mistreats me and acts in a way that is ...
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How to deal with a colleague who has been with the organization very long?

I started working with my present organization 3 months ago. It's a very rural, conservative company. I'm in my late 20s and a foreigner of color and the company doesn't exactly have diversity. My ...
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Coworker throwing cigarettes out of a car, I criticized it and now HR is involved

"On my way to work yesterday, one of my coworkers was driving in front of me on the interstate. This coworker is a smoker. When they finished their cigarette, they flicked it out of the window. I ...
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How to handle a kind of conflict with my employers that I don't figure out?

I'm currently in a trouble I never encountered before. I'm technical expert (freelance) for 5 months for a well-known French company. My goal is/was to: Create a mechanism interfering ...
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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?

The situation: My colleague (let's call him Joe) and I are department heads at a small startup (different departments). I have a lot more experience in my area. We are friends, and we work closely ...
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Employee was insubordinate [closed]

My staffer asked me why we do not offer a donor service on our web site. I explained that our web site was testing a similar service for another branch of the organization and that we were not ready ...
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Is there a conflict of interest in offer letter forbidding side work? [closed]

I received a job offer from a company with following clauses Clause 1: We expect that you will not engage in or do any business or render any professional service outside the company either on ...
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When asked in the future how should you represent a contract job that did not end on the best of terms

I'm coming to the end of a tech project I'm looking forward to being done with. Its been a challenging project riddled with conflict and I feel the project manager and I while amicable would not be ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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How to convince a lead developer that a choice is bad? [closed]

Over here at the company we have a single lead developer. As we have a mixed working environment, working in 2 different languages. And our lead developer prefers one over the other, he tends to make ...
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An employee lying to Store manager

I've been having problems with this one new co-worker. The store manager hired her and she is her friend. This new worker texts or talks to the store manager and lies or twist things that is not all ...
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Is it ever appropriate to tactfully speak your mind regarding your work supervisor without using inappropriate language?

I'm working in a temp development contract as a front-end developer. During the interview process, I expressed my background as more full-stack to back-end than pure front-end. Despite my honesty ...
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Employee talks to everyone whenever she has a conflict with a coworker

I recently noticed one of my employees talks to multiple people to discuss the conflict/issues she is having with a coworker, instead of resolving the problem with this coworker. I think she allows ...
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Techniques to let a control freak boss think my ideas are his/hers?

I'm been struggling with my boss who is a total control freak: Any initiative I've had has been shut down; if they've ever been revived later on, it's only because someone else (a customer) asked for ...
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Need to shuttle 4+ hours but could do the job at home [duplicate]

I am not a native English speaker, so please excuse my grammar. I am 22 years old working in an other town as a full time web developer currently living in Germany. I am the only web developer in a ...
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“I'm the boss here” attitude from a peer [closed]

I've got a message from a peer programmer (over a conflict happened due to his changes in the code I'm responsible for, done over my head). He wrote that they (he and PM) already decided to do it this ...
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Overly Competitive Coworker

I work in a small team of software developers and we all get along quite well. There is however one junior coworker who continues to intrude im my duties and tasks. He will work well over what ...
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Friend/Co-Worker isn’t a Fan of my Girlfriend

Recently I have encountered a problem. I am part of a group in my workplace almost from the time I started working at my firm. We have obviously become close friends and know about not only our ...
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My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? [closed]

I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation ...
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Potential Internship Conflict of Interest

Background: I'm a computer science student that goes to a well known US college. In September, I will be going into my senior year. Last summer, I interned at a well known tech company, let's call ...
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Is it ethical to contact board members of my employer to participate in my side business?

I am a manager for a winery, and I am looking to build a business based around wine tourism, including B&Bs and winery tours. Can I approach board members and investors of my current employer to ...
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Frustrating response by manager due to mutual misunderstanding. Should I just let it go? [closed]

Trying to keep this brief: I report to two managers, A and B. I meet infrequently with A (~1x/month) and my day to day work has no impact on her ability to do her job. I work very closely with B and ...
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As a new teamlead, how to bring a subordinate's misconducts to attention of your manager

This is related to my previous question. In short, I have recently become teamlead of a team, which I had just joined. Problem is that I have a bossy, arrogant subordinate. In order to address the ...
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Negotiating office location with business partner [closed]

My co-founder 'Bob', and myself have been working out of separate locations for about 2 years. Bob and I built the business together and we both own an equal share. We are looking to get an office ...
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Advice about having discussion with a bossy subordinate who undermines my authority

Background I have about 4 years of experience, all that time I have been working in the same company. I am a researcher, and over the years I have managed to establish credibility in front of my ...
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Worked 6 months for someone who refuses to pay [closed]

The last 6 months, I worked for a person (1 month at their office, 5 months remote, living not far). During the last month (March) another developer joined the project, the management became hard, ...
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How to handle a manager constantly demotivating you [duplicate]

I have been with my current company for a bit over a year. I do good work and constantly get good feedback from other teams/managers that I work with outside of my typical team at different office ...
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How does one deal with an excessively noisy colleague? [duplicate]

Here is the situation. I work in an open-plan office. Tables are put together in small groups. The group where I sit is composed of 5 people. One of them, unfortunately, has some rather noisy habits. ...
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How to handle a senior colleague who is overstepping their authority? [closed]

Background I work in a software development team within a large corporation whose primary business is not software. We are trying to develop in an "agile" manner but this is often at odds with the ...
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How to convince users to follow a new policy when they're used to work under a wrong one [closed]

My superior is leaving the team I have been a part of for 10 months. Over the span of those 10 months he addressed to us several problems with some users by making snarky comments like "We technically ...
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How to handle user request when boss denies it based on missing knowledge?

A customer wanted me to solve a particular problem and boss said it is impossible to do because of a particular fact. However, I found a publication which shows that this particular fact is possible ...
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Conflict between team members [closed]

I'm sure that most of you have experienced this type of situation. I'm wondering how did you come to a resolution. Scenario: I'm a software developer working in an agile team with 3 other ...
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Should you mention potential conflict of interest when you have a side company?

I have a side business with a website in a particular space (known to be a very competitive space as well). My company has taken on a client in that space. Should I disclose that I have a small ...
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Coworker who likes to take credit for work that is not theirs [duplicate]

I am someone who likes to believe that it is important for all members in a team to give and receive credit where credit is due, but recently these ideas have been put to challenge in my office. You ...
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Who owns a laptop that I got from Microsoft Build? [closed]

My workplace paid for my Microsoft Build ticket. At Build, they gave every person an HP laptop as a give away. Is this generally considered my laptop, or my employers laptop? Edit from the comments ...
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How can I convince my CFO to hire more staff? [duplicate]

Currently we're 3 workers in our Systems Department, the thing is the three of us do everything: support(for a bit over 75 users, and a bit over 90 computer systems[some computers are used by 2 or 3 ...
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Conflict with a colleague: How to explain the situation when asked

As this is a common question amongst the upper tier tech companies, I thought I'd seek some advice. The question typically goes in one of two forms: "Tell me a time when you had a conflict with a ...
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How should I deal with these co-workers who benefit at my expense? [closed]

I hate two of my colleagues who I'm forced to share close proximity with in the office. If someone asks me a question one of them will jump in. If someone asks me for help with something easy, one of ...