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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?

The situation: My colleague (let's call him Joe) and I are department heads at a small startup (different departments). I have a lot more experience in my area. We are friends, and we work closely ...
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Employee was insubordinate [closed]

My staffer asked me why we do not offer a donor service on our web site. I explained that our web site was testing a similar service for another branch of the organization and that we were not ready ...
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Is there a conflict of interest in offer letter forbidding side work? [closed]

I received a job offer from a company with following clauses Clause 1: We expect that you will not engage in or do any business or render any professional service outside the company either on ...
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When asked in the future how should you represent a contract job that did not end on the best of terms

I'm coming to the end of a tech project I'm looking forward to being done with. Its been a challenging project riddled with conflict and I feel the project manager and I while amicable would not be ...
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How can I handle a situation where my manager is verbally abusing someone else?

We are a small team who performs software development and support services for other teams within the organization. My manager is the leader of this team. One of our "clients", another team lead in ...
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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote “Medical issues”

I'm trying to put this is the most non offensive way I can think of, but I realize some people may be offended by it. Just a heads up. Situation: I have a peer who is a woman and has recently been ...
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How to convince a lead developer that a choice is bad? [closed]

Over here at the company we have a single lead developer. As we have a mixed working environment, working in 2 different languages. And our lead developer prefers one over the other, he tends to make ...
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An employee lying to Store manager

I've been having problems with this one new co-worker. The store manager hired her and she is her friend. This new worker texts or talks to the store manager and lies or twist things that is not all ...
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Is it ever appropriate to tactfully speak your mind regarding your work supervisor without using inappropriate language?

I'm working in a temp development contract as a front-end developer. During the interview process, I expressed my background as more full-stack to back-end than pure front-end. Despite my honesty ...
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Employee talks to everyone whenever she has a conflict with a coworker

I recently noticed one of my employees talks to multiple people to discuss the conflict/issues she is having with a coworker, instead of resolving the problem with this coworker. I think she allows ...
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Techniques to let a control freak boss think my ideas are his/hers?

I'm been struggling with my boss who is a total control freak: Any initiative I've had has been shut down; if they've ever been revived later on, it's only because someone else (a customer) asked for ...
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Need to shuttle 4+ hours but could do the job at home [duplicate]

I am not a native English speaker, so please excuse my grammar. I am 22 years old working in an other town as a full time web developer currently living in Germany. I am the only web developer in a ...
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“I'm the boss here” attitude from a peer [closed]

I've got a message from a peer programmer (over a conflict happened due to his changes in the code I'm responsible for, done over my head). He wrote that they (he and PM) already decided to do it this ...
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Overly Competitive Coworker

I work in a small team of software developers and we all get along quite well. There is however one junior coworker who continues to intrude im my duties and tasks. He will work well over what ...
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Friend/Co-Worker isn’t a Fan of my Girlfriend

Recently I have encountered a problem. I am part of a group in my workplace almost from the time I started working at my firm. We have obviously become close friends and know about not only our ...
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My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? [closed]

I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation ...
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Potential Internship Conflict of Interest

Background: I'm a computer science student that goes to a well known US college. In September, I will be going into my senior year. Last summer, I interned at a well known tech company, let's call ...
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Is it ethical to contact board members of my employer to participate in my side business?

I am a manager for a winery, and I am looking to build a business based around wine tourism, including B&Bs and winery tours. Can I approach board members and investors of my current employer to ...
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Frustrating response by manager due to mutual misunderstanding. Should I just let it go? [closed]

Trying to keep this brief: I report to two managers, A and B. I meet infrequently with A (~1x/month) and my day to day work has no impact on her ability to do her job. I work very closely with B and ...
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As a new teamlead, how to bring a subordinate's misconducts to attention of your manager

This is related to my previous question. In short, I have recently become teamlead of a team, which I had just joined. Problem is that I have a bossy, arrogant subordinate. In order to address the ...
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Negotiating office location with business partner [closed]

My co-founder 'Bob', and myself have been working out of separate locations for about 2 years. Bob and I built the business together and we both own an equal share. We are looking to get an office ...
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Advice about having discussion with a bossy subordinate who undermines my authority

Background I have about 4 years of experience, all that time I have been working in the same company. I am a researcher, and over the years I have managed to establish credibility in front of my ...
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Worked 6 months for someone who refuses to pay [closed]

The last 6 months, I worked for a person (1 month at their office, 5 months remote, living not far). During the last month (March) another developer joined the project, the management became hard, ...
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How to handle a manager constantly demotivating you [duplicate]

I have been with my current company for a bit over a year. I do good work and constantly get good feedback from other teams/managers that I work with outside of my typical team at different office ...
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How does one deal with an excessively noisy colleague? [duplicate]

Here is the situation. I work in an open-plan office. Tables are put together in small groups. The group where I sit is composed of 5 people. One of them, unfortunately, has some rather noisy habits. ...
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How to handle a senior colleague who is overstepping their authority? [closed]

Background I work in a software development team within a large corporation whose primary business is not software. We are trying to develop in an "agile" manner but this is often at odds with the ...
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How to convince users to follow a new policy when they're used to work under a wrong one [closed]

My superior is leaving the team I have been a part of for 10 months. Over the span of those 10 months he addressed to us several problems with some users by making snarky comments like "We technically ...
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How to handle user request when boss denies it based on missing knowledge?

A customer wanted me to solve a particular problem and boss said it is impossible to do because of a particular fact. However, I found a publication which shows that this particular fact is possible ...
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Conflict between team members [closed]

I'm sure that most of you have experienced this type of situation. I'm wondering how did you come to a resolution. Scenario: I'm a software developer working in an agile team with 3 other ...
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Should you mention potential conflict of interest when you have a side company?

I have a side business with a website in a particular space (known to be a very competitive space as well). My company has taken on a client in that space. Should I disclose that I have a small ...
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Coworker who likes to take credit for work that is not theirs [duplicate]

I am someone who likes to believe that it is important for all members in a team to give and receive credit where credit is due, but recently these ideas have been put to challenge in my office. You ...
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Who owns a laptop that I got from Microsoft Build? [closed]

My workplace paid for my Microsoft Build ticket. At Build, they gave every person an HP laptop as a give away. Is this generally considered my laptop, or my employers laptop? Edit from the comments ...
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How can I convince my CFO to hire more staff? [duplicate]

Currently we're 3 workers in our Systems Department, the thing is the three of us do everything: support(for a bit over 75 users, and a bit over 90 computer systems[some computers are used by 2 or 3 ...
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Conflict with a colleague: How to explain the situation when asked

As this is a common question amongst the upper tier tech companies, I thought I'd seek some advice. The question typically goes in one of two forms: "Tell me a time when you had a conflict with a ...
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How should I deal with these co-workers who benefit at my expense? [closed]

I hate two of my colleagues who I'm forced to share close proximity with in the office. If someone asks me a question one of them will jump in. If someone asks me for help with something easy, one of ...
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Confronting my manager for his dishonesty

I'm a sys admin in a pretty respectable company that does everything from infrastructure to web site hosting to software development. I have been wanting to move into programming for some time, but ...
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Manager furious because I uploaded my resume on a job site

I made a new account at a job-search website and uploaded my resume to it. I received a call the next day from my manager: he was very angry, disappointed etc... He made a lot of comments to make me ...
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Is it illegal to set up a hidden camera in your office being the general manager? [closed]

I'm a general manager in a pub. We have CCTV everywhere public, but there are no cameras in the cellar or stock room downstairs. Is it legal for me to set up my own camera hidden in my office the pub? ...
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Leaving internship for full time position [closed]

I am currently doing a 3-month paid internship program - it started 3 weeks ago and will be conclusive in 3 months. This company does not promise to provide me with a position afterwards. Now I've ...
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Adjusting to a team with conflicting socialisation preferences for a group dinner

I started a new job half a year ago. I am very satisfied, there's just one thing. The team is pretty outgoing and they like to go out for a dinner together once or twice a month. I don't mind that, ...
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When should I disclose an ongoing relationship with someone who is in a legal battle with my employer?

My girlfriend and I worked together for 2 years under the same boss. Her and his professional relationship started to go "south". In the end, it became unbearable for both and together with HR they ...
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How should a superior react when a subordinate complains to senior management about him?

An employee I am managing sent an e-mail to senior management claiming that my expectations are too high, I am assigning too much work for his skill level, and that I am too strict about workplace ...
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Advice resolving conflicts with Colleague?

I need help figuring out the most responsible action I should proceed with for my current situation. We were done with work and just passing time because we weren't allowed to leave for another 30 ...
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Dealing with a coworker who is constantly hostile

I work in a medical facility alongside a number of other professionals in varying capacities. I currently work in an large office with 5 other individuals. These people were all here before me - but ...
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Colleague from my previous company gets interview for my current company and wants to contact me

Long story short: A good colleague of mine (henceforth OC) from my previous company applied for a job in my current company. Manager showed me OC's CV and I told the manager that OC is good news. So ...
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What to do when you've been thrown under the bus at the office? [closed]

Recently, I was the technical architect for a well-intentioned project at work. Though the project was not well conceived, it was making slow progress toward its goal. I walked into a meeting with ...
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How to explain business priorities to a programmer?

I have a recurring disagreement with a programmer about code quality. He insists that all of his code is written to the highest standard (i.e. that it looks just like the examples in the coding styles ...
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What is a good process to follow for resolving concerns with a bad manager?

Regarding situations like having a good job with a bad manager, I have read advice like "never complain at work", or "you can't get rid of your manager". So my question is, what is a process to ...
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I'm a freelancer and my boss fired me without real reason. How can I secure my work? [closed]

Yesterday my boss fired me (I'm still in for one or two days) because of a pretty heated discussion that involved management steps and ideas. We are very far into the beta development stages. I ...
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How to handle an insubordinate employee faction when I can't replace them?

At my workplace we have a small faction of insubordinate employees who think they can do whatever the like and do not allow new hires in the same department to integrate into the team. The tension has ...