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Questions relating to gender, gender identity, and being part of a workplace dominated by a different gender than one's own

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How to make interviewee comfortable interviewing in lounge chairs

In the next couple of months, I am planning to have to conduct several interviews with candidates for full-time and intern/co-op positions. I work at a very large company that is well known in the ...
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How to deal with being distracted by opposite sex [closed]

This is a question about how to deal with distraction. (edit: Saying "You're not normal, seek a mental health pro" won't be considered a high-quality answer. You are not qualified to make a ...
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Alleged sexist comments charges presented toward me [closed]

Today I got a letter from my office's conduct and conflict resolution department stating I allegedly made "sexist comments on two occasions to an anonymous female student". At my current working ...
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CEO ridiculed me with gay jokes and grabbed me and wouldn't let go - now getting pushed out of company [closed]

Background: I am a straight Asian male in my mid-twenties. In May, I would be celebrating my third year anniversary at my current company as a finance manager. In 2016 and 2017, I was the employee of ...
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Different opinion led to a co-worker not working with me anymore [closed]

To state some background: I recently moved internally in the company I work for. I've been in this team for two weeks now and everything was fine until yesterday. A female co-worker, let's call her ...
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Gender equality in new hires [duplicate]

I am managing a team of 15 individuals. The gender ratio in the team is not very good, 8:2 to be exact! All of them have almost the same skill sets. Apparently, there are some vacancies on the team. ...
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Should I tell my personal feelings to the director of a research lab where I participated in a study

Should I tell the director of a lab in a business school how I was personally affected about thier actions while participating in a study? I post this in "workplace" because even though I am a student ...
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Being denied bathroom at work because I'm the only male

I am on light duty at my employer's office. Light duty is when you have a worker who is recovering from something and they are not physically able/allowed to do their normal work, so they are ...
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Postgrad workshops/conferences; sharing rooms as a passing trans person

TL;DR: What's the best way to deal with sharing rooms at conferences if you are worried that your roommate may discover you are trans? I am a PhD candidate in the UK. When attending conferences and ...
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Should I let my employer know if I plan to go through Hormone Replacement Therapy/Sexual Realignment Surgery? [closed]

For the past few years I've been weighing up the decisions on whether to transition from male to female by seeing doctors, therapists and doing research into the procedures/medication I may have to ...
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How can I address being paid less than my male colleagues with similar or lesser roles in my company?

I am a female developer that has been working at a company for two years. Last November I asked for a £3500 pay rise which I believe will put me inline for what I should be paid for my role. I was ...
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How to address a transgender coworker and accomodate their toilet needs?

I work with a group of developers in a company having about 1000 employees. A transgender person who identifies herself as a woman has joined our team. She gets upset when we use masculine pronouns ...
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Do you ask your female developers questions? [closed]

I'm a software developer with about 10 years of experience. I am in a team of eight - myself, another female and the rest are male. The project we are working on are now at the 'handover to the BAU ...
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Should men attend a conference that suggests that it is only for women? [closed]

While I was an intern there was a Women's Leadership Conference hosted by the corporate offices in California. As an intern I wanted as many opportunities to network and gain insight as to how the ...
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How should I address having used the wrong gender title for a recruiter?

I was applying for a job and the HR person replied to me. I replied back regarding some questions asked. From the name, I inferred that the person was a man and replied with Dear Mr. ABC, Later ...
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Is it legal to have a female only staff? [closed]

A report shows that WeWork is funding a female-only work environment for $32m. Doesn't this go against the Civil Rights Act of 1964 where a hiring manager can not discriminate in sex when hiring?
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

I am transgender. I legally changed my name a couple of years ago. I'm worried prospective employers might try to verify my older experience when I was using my old name, and conclude that I'm lying ...
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How do I tell an executive that I am an engineer not an admin

I am a young female engineer fresh out of school. I am a few months into a new job at a company that is less than 100 employees. My company has very few women, most of which are on the admin team. ...
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Is it a modern day practice to include preferred gender pronouns in email signature? [closed]

I work at a major university. I have noticed that several employees have started including their preferred gender pronouns in the email signature, even if their physically observed gender is the same ...
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Addressing Sir or Ma'am to Transgender or Androgynous looking individuals

I am manning the front desk at a tech conference and I ran into a situation where I did not know if I should address an individual with Sir or Ma'am. My salutation is "Hello Sir/Ma'am Welcome to Tech ...
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Women's toilet when there is no woman around [closed]

I work at a company which recently hired a female developer for the first time. We currently have two bathrooms available: One with two male standing toilet and a regular toilet (with a door), and ...
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Is the term “man hours” appropriate for the workplace, and if not, how do I get my coworkers to use a more neutral term?

I am the only female engineer in a nearly all-male company. The term "man hours" is used a lot when discussing projects, and I find it a bit jarring. As a woman, I don't feel that I work "man hours",...
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When to announce that I'm transgender once the recruiting process has begun? [duplicate]

Background I'm a French transgender female who started her transition a few months ago. For now, only my friends and family know about my status. I'm not legally a female and I still look and sound ...
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How to correct being mis-gendered through email correspondence?

I occasionally deal with being mis-gendered as female by clients at work with whom I only ever correspond with through email. Since their only interaction with me is seeing my name, Alister, and the ...
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Is it ethical to offer female candidates a higher wage to achieve a more diverse work environment? [closed]

In a weird twist on the usual "wage gap" issue, I found out recently that I'm making significantly more than male colleagues near my experience level because I'm not a man. For reference, I am an ...
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Appropriate values to group user information by gender?

We have an application that stores data regarding a user's gender. The end user does not see this data, only back-end developers. Possible values for this grouping are as follows: Female Male Other ...
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How to prevent anxiety in professional meetings with women [duplicate]

I often participate in international academic conferences where I have professional and research conversations with men and women. Some of the women are very pretty and scantily dressed. This makes me ...
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Perceptions and networking implications of spending time with the opposite gender for lunch?

I work at a relatively small startup with, not more than, 10 developers. The guys either eat out for lunch or eat lunch two hours later than me, because they have a late breakfast, and I get my own ...
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How to manage a person who identifies as bi-gender?

I am asking for a friend. The situation will take place in northern Europe should this matter. My friend is a manager in a multinational company and manages team of ~15 people. He has hired a high-...
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Should I talk to my team lead about unintentional sexism within the team?

I am a woman working with other three male developers on a client project. All of them are nice and open minded and we get along well. It's all good in informal conversations but when it gets to ...
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How can I appear more professional/serious at meetings? [closed]

I do some sales meetings with usually IT people and facility directors in local schools, etc. I usually go with just my boss, who is a older man. The people we meet with tend to address him, though I ...
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Industries where sexism is actually against men rather than women? [closed]

Back when I was studying IT there were not many women who were enrolled in course (for whatever reason), and as I progressed through the course and in my career I have seen the gradual change in ...
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How should I maintain a professional relationship with female coworkers?

I am a recently graduated engineer and have just joined a small software company in India. Our company is divided into project teams that are further divided into groups of three people. My first ...
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How / when should a person notify in their job that they're transitioning gender?

I'm asking for a friend. She is a trans female and has decided to start her transition. She currently lives and works in Spain at a call center. She hasn't disclosed the current situation since ...
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Is this response from management to a casual harassment claim appropriate? [closed]

A number of my colleagues asked me some very rude questions after I came back from maternity leave. I was feeling sad because of the way my manager was treating me, and he was giving me horrible ...
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Is my manager's attitude discriminatory? [closed]

My manager was persistently rude me to me and I asked him why and he said 'that having me back was a huge adjustment for him because women don't come back from maternity leave.' He said 'Come back? ...
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How can I explain a religious conflict regarding working with women?

I started with my US employer over a year ago, and explained that because of my religious beliefs, I do not want to work with women. We are a small office with 20 male employees. My old boss quit ...
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Feeling uncomfortable about travelling with a female colleague

I feel uncomfortable about an upcoming business trip with a female colleague. I would be more comfortable if we flew on different flights and stayed in different hotels but I am not sure on how to ...
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Removing gender identifications from resume

What is the general opinion on removing gender identification from a resume? What I mean is instead of Emily Smith (not my real name) using E Smith; instead of emilysmith@domain.com using esmith@...
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Uniform policy only for male employees

In my company there is a uniform policy only for male employees, whereas female employees are there and not wearing uniforms. How can I convince my boss to implement a uniform policy for all employees,...
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Sexy desktop wallpapers in the office

A colleague uses a wallpaper manager which cycles through his collection of desktop wallpapers, a seemingly unending collection of tattooed women in lingerie. There is no nudity but the images are ...
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Boys only club after work

I don't mean to be hurt, but I am. I'm a female who works in IT so aside from myself, it is almost entirely men all the time. I have never worked directly next to another female in any of my roles. ...
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How to help women feel welcome on a male dominated team?

The flip side of this question. I work as a software engineer, often as a team leader. Software development is a male dominated field, and has been for my entire career. When I have had women (and ...
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How to feel welcome in an all-male software developer environment

I am a female programmer and started a job in a software development company about 8 months ago. I also moved to a new country so I am a foreigner as well. I am the only female developer in the ...
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Inappropriate Comments After Returning From Maternity leave [duplicate]

I was only able to take a 3 month mat leave with my first child ( in my country you get a year off but it's only 50% of your pay ) because of my financial situation: I married a man from another ...
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How to adjust CV that should not contain any information that allows inferences on the genderof the applicant?

The application for a position that I am interested in requires a CV that does not contain any information that allows inferences on the gender of the applicant ("no picture, no first name, no e-mail ...
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Sexist and homophobic jokes from teammates. Should I approach my Scrum Master or Manager?

I belong to a team of engineers and I have been often hearing sexist, racist, homophobic and transmisogynist jokes from some of them. At first they have been telling it to themselves, which I don't ...
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New seating arrangement - male got a cube, female got the bench [closed]

I am female. I was hired at exactly the same time another employee who is a man (and we started on the same day). I have significantly more experience than he does. We are the newest hires. We are ...
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Which name should I use on an application form when applying for a job during gender transition?

I am a person who starting gender transition which includes looking for a job where I will be able to interview and work as my correct gender. I have not yet legally changed my name; I won't be able ...
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What's the most appropriate time in the recruitment process to reveal that you're transgender (in the UK)?

I am a transgender person looking to switch jobs from the one I am currently in to one where I can work as a woman, completing the set of places I need to be accepted in order to live full time as my ...