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Questions relating to gender, gender identity, and being part of a workplace dominated by a different gender than one's own

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20 years ago, a colleague said I should have treated a female employee differently due to the difficulties of working in a male-dominated industry

(TL;DR: I scolded a female employee who caused a serious problem and was told I should have treated her differently because she's a woman having a hard time in a male industry) This happened in the ...
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Should I have to wear oversized clothing because of my shape? [closed]

During a meeting I was informed no form fitting clothing is to be wore. I’m quite curvy and proportioned very well. However; my shape attracts a lot of attention. However; have to live with my body. ...
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Hired on the same level as university graduates with no work experience even though I have 3 years relevant work experience, how to approach manager?

I'm a solution architect working on for an international tech company. I was hired on one level lower compared to my male colleague (both of us were hired at the same time for the same position in the ...
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Mansplaining: Is the word itself acceptable in the workplace? [closed]

I can only find information from Google about the act of mansplaining within the workplace. I'm curious about usage of the word itself within the workplace. Is the word itself frowned upon in any ...
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How to avoid accusations of “overwork” when employees who work extra hours are promoted faster?

I am a manager at a mid-sized (~100 employee) software company. We are fortunate to attract many employees for whom coding is their one true passion, and our products are cool enough to them that they ...
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What options exist for helping women employees proactively deal with inappropriate behavior in a primarily-male company?

Current Situation & Work Environment I am a male engineering manager at a mid-size, mixed-discipline company in the U.S.. We have fewer than a handful of women in our engineering department and ...
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In a drive towards higher diversity teams, is it possible to be truly inclusive and prevent applicants from lying about their background?

Many organisiations are now striving to form teams they consider diverse, and to ensure this, they check the demographics of candidates already in application forms. Consider e.g. an application form ...
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Should I apologize for using the wrong pronoun?

There is a person A, with whom I have to exchange an email or two each month. Today, because of the time constraints, I had to phone them and I realized the person on the phone was female. Up until ...
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Terminated by boss at the demand of his jealous wife

A friend of mine is losing her job because her boss's wife found flirtatious emails between my friend and her boss. Nothing ever happened between them, but the wife is giving my friend's boss an ...
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How to approach an all male remote team where efforts of building connections from a woman aren't appreciated?

Prerequisites: Joined a month ago in the technology team (15 guys) and currently I am the only female in the team. Instances - Ignored in a meeting when asked a question. Ignored on chat(s) except if ...
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Should I bring up family expansion plans in interviews as a man? [closed]

Would it be beneficial or detrimental for a young man to reveal his family/relationship status during job interviews? Would it be better to maintain an attitude of strict non-disclosure regarding your ...
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Clarifying Gender in Email Signature [closed]

I am from the United States and I live in the Midwest. I would like to add my pronouns to my email signature. Some people in my company have been doing this, although there is no official policy on ...
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How to provide feedback about subtle gender policing

Background: I'm a senior engineer on team A who, back in February, jumped onto team B to take over a project I had zero familiarity with due to the existing lead engineer's departure. The project ...
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Are we wrong in feeling alienated by gender-specific clubs organizing company-wide events? [closed]

The company I work for recently sent out a company-wide invitation for an annual, upcoming STEM Day which includes workshops, prizes, speakers, and more - all around the theme of STEM (science, ...
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Are there studies about gender distribution in IT, per country/culture [closed]

I am working in a country where there is a very high male predominance in the IT field. I am wondering whether this is by culture, by region or globally true. Are there studies on the topic of gender ...
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How to respond to a passive aggressive implication of gender bias

I work as a research assistant for a woman who has a Ph.D., when we first met for my interview she introduced herself as (First Name) and since then I have always referred to her as (First Name) in ...
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How to make interviewee comfortable interviewing in lounge chairs

In the next couple of months, I am planning to have to conduct several interviews with candidates for full-time and intern/co-op positions. I work at a very large company that is well known in the ...
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How to deal with being distracted by opposite sex [closed]

This is a question about how to deal with distraction. (edit: Saying "You're not normal, seek a mental health pro" won't be considered a high-quality answer. You are not qualified to make a ...
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Alleged sexist comments charges presented toward me [closed]

Today I got a letter from my office's conduct and conflict resolution department stating I allegedly made "sexist comments on two occasions to an anonymous female student". At my current ...
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CEO ridiculed me with gay jokes and grabbed me and wouldn't let go - now getting pushed out of company [closed]

Background: I am a straight Asian male in my mid-twenties. In May, I would be celebrating my third year anniversary at my current company as a finance manager. In 2016 and 2017, I was the employee of ...
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Different opinion led to a co-worker not working with me anymore [closed]

To state some background: I recently moved internally in the company I work for. I've been in this team for two weeks now and everything was fine until yesterday. A female co-worker, let's call her ...
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Gender equality in new hires [duplicate]

I am managing a team of 15 individuals. The gender ratio in the team is not very good, 8:2 to be exact! All of them have almost the same skill sets. Apparently, there are some vacancies on the team. ...
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Should I tell my personal feelings to the director of a research lab where I participated in a study

Should I tell the director of a lab in a business school how I was personally affected about thier actions while participating in a study? I post this in "workplace" because even though I am a student ...
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Being denied bathroom at work because I'm the only male

I am on light duty at my employer's office. Light duty is when you have a worker who is recovering from something and they are not physically able/allowed to do their normal work, so they are ...
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Postgrad workshops/conferences; sharing rooms as a passing trans person

TL;DR: What's the best way to deal with sharing rooms at conferences if you are worried that your roommate may discover you are trans? I am a PhD candidate in the UK. When attending conferences and ...
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How can I address being paid less than my male colleagues with similar or lesser roles in my company?

I am a female developer that has been working at a company for two years. Last November I asked for a £3500 pay rise which I believe will put me inline for what I should be paid for my role. I was ...
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How to address a transgender coworker and accomodate their toilet needs?

I work with a group of developers in a company having about 1000 employees. A transgender person who identifies herself as a woman has joined our team. She gets upset when we use masculine pronouns ...
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How can I work in a chauvinistic male dominated environment where the women are no better?

I work in a small, competitive male dominated firm London, England. Of the around 35 staff members, there are only 4 women of which I am one. There is no 'sisterhood'.... in fact these women play ...
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Do you ask your female developers questions? [closed]

I'm a software developer with about 10 years of experience. I am in a team of eight - myself, another female and the rest are male. The project we are working on are now at the 'handover to the BAU ...
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Should men attend a conference that suggests that it is only for women? [closed]

While I was an intern there was a Women's Leadership Conference hosted by the corporate offices in California. As an intern I wanted as many opportunities to network and gain insight as to how the ...
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How should I address having used the wrong gender title for a recruiter?

I was applying for a job and the HR person replied to me. I replied back regarding some questions asked. From the name, I inferred that the person was a man and replied with Dear Mr. ABC, Later ...
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Is it legal to have a female only staff? [closed]

A report shows that WeWork is funding a female-only work environment for $32m. Doesn't this go against the Civil Rights Act of 1964 where a hiring manager can not discriminate in sex when hiring?
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

I am transgender. I legally changed my name a couple of years ago. I'm worried prospective employers might try to verify my older experience when I was using my old name, and conclude that I'm lying ...
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How do I tell an executive that I am an engineer not an admin

I am a young female engineer fresh out of school. I am a few months into a new job at a company that is less than 100 employees. My company has very few women, most of which are on the admin team. ...
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Is it a modern day practice to include preferred gender pronouns in email signature? [closed]

I work at a major university. I have noticed that several employees have started including their preferred gender pronouns in the email signature, even if their physically observed gender is the same ...
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Addressing Sir or Ma'am to Transgender or Androgynous looking individuals

I am manning the front desk at a tech conference and I ran into a situation where I did not know if I should address an individual with Sir or Ma'am. My salutation is "Hello Sir/Ma'am Welcome to Tech ...
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Affirmative action is being applied too broadly [closed]

I am a tech recruiter working for an American Bank in India. I deal with campus placements (as is the norm in India). My company, especially the Indian branch, has recently come under fire (and ...
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Women's toilet when there is no woman around [closed]

I work at a company which recently hired a female developer for the first time. We currently have two bathrooms available: One with two male standing toilet and a regular toilet (with a door), and ...
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How do you shake hands with women at work in France without being rude?

I'm a French programmer, I was born in France and have lived here my entire life, kissing friends and family on the cheek on a daily basis without any trouble. In most French companies, there is an ...
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Is the term "man hours" appropriate for the workplace, and if not, how do I get my coworkers to use a more neutral term?

I am the only female engineer in a nearly all-male company. The term "man hours" is used a lot when discussing projects, and I find it a bit jarring. As a woman, I don't feel that I work "man hours",...
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When to announce that I'm transgender once the recruiting process has begun? [duplicate]

Background I'm a French transgender female who started her transition a few months ago. For now, only my friends and family know about my status. I'm not legally a female and I still look and sound ...
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How to correct being mis-gendered through email correspondence?

I occasionally deal with being mis-gendered as female by clients at work with whom I only ever correspond with through email. Since their only interaction with me is seeing my name, Alister, and the ...
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Is it ethical to offer female candidates a higher wage to achieve a more diverse work environment? [closed]

In a weird twist on the usual "wage gap" issue, I found out recently that I'm making significantly more than male colleagues near my experience level because I'm not a man. For reference, I am an ...
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Appropriate values to group user information by gender?

We have an application that stores data regarding a user's gender. The end user does not see this data, only back-end developers. Possible values for this grouping are as follows: Female Male Other ...
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How to prevent anxiety in professional meetings with women [duplicate]

I often participate in international academic conferences where I have professional and research conversations with men and women. Some of the women are very pretty and scantily dressed. This makes me ...
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Employer doesn't 'usually' hire women

I started applying for jobs recently after working as freelancer for a couple of years and one of the interviews I went to I was told that the company doesn't 'usually' hire women, because we have '...
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Perceptions and networking implications of spending time with the opposite gender for lunch?

I work at a relatively small startup with, not more than, 10 developers. The guys either eat out for lunch or eat lunch two hours later than me, because they have a late breakfast, and I get my own ...
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How to manage a person who identifies as bi-gender?

I am asking for a friend. The situation will take place in northern Europe should this matter. My friend is a manager in a multinational company and manages team of ~15 people. He has hired a high-...
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Should I talk to my team lead about unintentional sexism within the team?

I am a woman working with other three male developers on a client project. All of them are nice and open minded and we get along well. It's all good in informal conversations but when it gets to ...
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How can I appear more professional/serious at meetings? [closed]

I do some sales meetings with usually IT people and facility directors in local schools, etc. I usually go with just my boss, who is a older man. The people we meet with tend to address him, though I ...
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