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After suffering personal loss manager has become inappropriate

This is a follow up of a post I made a few weeks ago because unfortunately things have escalated. So the summary of what has occured; I was in a job for a week when my manager suffered a close ...
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How to deal with a manager who frequently makes subtle, racist remarks about my religion and ethnic origin?

I'm muslim, brown, middle eastern, and no my name isn't actually Joe as my username suggests. My manager makes interesting comments. He normally intends these comments as something humourous but ...
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Senior Developer Feeling stuck by toxic coworker and annoyingly jokey manager

I'm a front-end engineer and have been in the field for a little over 4 years. I feel like I am stuck at my current position, with no room for growth. Currently, I am a senior front end developer on ...
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Toxic, harassing lab environment [migrated]

I have just started a research position (around 2.5 months ago) at a top-10 university. I am having my own funding and was initially quite excited about the opportunity, and did and do love my project....
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CEO ridiculed me with gay jokes and grabbed me and wouldn't let go - now getting pushed out of company [closed]

Background: I am a straight Asian male in my mid-twenties. In May, I would be celebrating my third year anniversary at my current company as a finance manager. In 2016 and 2017, I was the employee of ...
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How can I deal with my coworker having zero social awareness?

My coworker is ruining what's otherwise a great job. I love all my other coworkers and the benefits are great, but this guy is incredibly offensive and rude. Here's some highlights: He'll make ...
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Coworker is trying to get me to sign his petition to run for office. How to decline politely?

My coworker knows that I live in "his district" and he's been coming up to my desk for the past few days asking me to sign his petition to run for local office. Personally we don't share the same ...
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Is there a legal limit to the number of people in a room during an interview?

This may be better asked in the legal area, but i was curious if anyone knew if there was a legal limit to the number of people interviewing a candidate at a time? I’m talking about panel style ...
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Inappropriate comment made by colleague outside of work

At an informal farewell for one of my colleagues, another colleague made a racist remark, perhaps under the influence of alcohol. This social function is not arranged by the company, hence its ...
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Male makes several female coworkers uncomfortable. What course of action to take?

A friend of mine works in the social sector in Germany. She works at a school for mentally disabled children. The school is loosely related to "Waldorf"-Philosophy, which apparently makes sexuality a ...
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Disrespectful Colleague, Management not Doing a Thing

I have been in my current job for almost 7 months (it's my first job out of college), the first month was awesome! I really loved my job and enjoyed every minute of it! then there were some changes in ...
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Sexual harassment in the workplace and boss not doing anything

I'm 36, married with two kids aged 7 and 8, been with my wife since I was 21. For the past few weeks, I've been sexually harassed by a co-worker; he's been asking me about things like oral sex, ...
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Coworker is creating an uncomfortable, sexualized work environment for others. What are my responsibilities, and what should I do?

Short version I work in an academic lab in North America. One of the senior members of the lab has a pattern of inappropriate sexualized behavior and sexualized bullying with young women at work (...
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Responding to a claim

My friend Bob and his co-worker Alice where walking down the hallway of the building at work. Their workplace is very professional and so is their work relationship. Unfortunately, there was nobody ...
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How to handle confusing communicator?

For context: I work in a retail environment as a merchandiser with someone who is not so much a supervisor as a counterpart who works in buying. She purchases, I merchandise. We both have different ...
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Can your employer tell you you cannot go to HR after multiple harassment grievances and nothing being done? [closed]

Ann is being bullied and harassed at work. She has reported it to her managers multiple times and nothing has been done. This time, HR was contacted and involved. This has been an ongoing problem. ...
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Does being told you're not liked and asked to quit meet the legal definition of harassment under the UK Equality Act of 2010?

I've been looking at the UK Equality Act 2010 act and it says harassment is unwanted or unwelcome behaviour which is meant to or has the effect of violating your dignity. If people literally come up ...
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My girlfriend who works in a call center, got asked to get her boss breakfast on her second day

My girlfriend is an attractive 18 year old who has just started a new job at a call center. It is her second day and her boss told her to go grab him a biscuit for breakfast. It seems like he was ...
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How to deal with a colleague who harasses me for seemingly no reason?

I started working on this big company last February as an external consultant. I'm in an office with 3 other external consultants and we all offer a similar service for our client. From the start, ...
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Dealing with HR harassing

My daughter works in Georgia, USA at a small company and is having some problems with the only HR person at her workplace. Apparently, this is how things have went down: daughter applied for a job ...
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How should I deal with my team member who shows extreme jealousy?

How to deal with my colleague who is very good, polite and respectful with me personally but when we are together in a group or with whole team, he is the first one to criticize or embarrass me. We ...
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How should I handle negative interactions with my direct manager?

I am having a hard time with my direct manager, and I would appreciate it if you let me know your opinion about the email I have received from him today. I want to make sure that my understanding is ...
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How to handle unwanted attention from “fans” in the workplace?

(Disclaimer: I am by no means a famous person, but I do have a medium sized YouTube channel with around 100k subscribers.) So it just happenend that the company I worked for a couple years now hired ...
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How can I stop my colleagues from making fun of me?

My colleagues make dirty jokes about me, gossip about my personal life, laugh at me and try to make a fool of me. For example, they make fun of and make dirty jokes about my family. They laugh at me ...
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How to handle a workplace bully who often degrades others work?

I work in a small software team. we have this one brilliant programmer who has an opinion about everything. He often comes around looks at the peers' code and make rude comments like "what kind of ...
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Are videogames like Street Fighter workplace appropriate? [closed]

I really want to organize quick video matches during the workday for fun, just 5 minutes vs an opponent and you go back to your seat. But I'm hesitant because of the slight violence and certain ...
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Is it acceptable to have an offensive password? [closed]

Generally, best practices in corporate IT security encourage employees to come up with unique and difficult-to-guess but easy-to-remember passwords. In a general sense, is it acceptable in the ...
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Physical assault in the workplace

I work as a computer programmer in a medium-sized, Russian IT company. I had a conflict with a colleague, Bob, where he physically attacked me. A few months ago, the colleague returned from ...
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Abusive professional acquaintance with influence

I recently moved to a new town and am in job search. A lot of my time is going into attending professional meetups and networking. In one of these, I come across someone who describes himself as ...
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Dealing with senior bullying [closed]

I have recently joined a renowned firm as a consultant. I had high expectations and the salary was also good. But from the first day itself I was treated differently. After few days I became friend of ...
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After an unintended harassement, should the recruiter contact the candidate again if they think they've found the right offers?

This question is inspired by How to deal with persistent recruiter still contacting me after declining offer?. It's also related with How to react when employee is not interested in career development?...
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Discouraging a coworker's sabotage

History I've been working at my job for around seven and a half months now, and while it was extremely helpful in becoming independent and getting myself out of a terrible domestic situation, I can't ...
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My boss' new hire, a friend of his, is making advances on me

I am a woman who has been working on a team of men for a number of years now. Up until recently I have been treated very well and with respect. I love my job and get on well with my boss and ...
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How can I prove mental harassment due to mind games and too much manipulation? [closed]

I am working in a Startup Company of 10 members. While working for the last 2 years, I observed that my manager and some of teammates are doing lots of manipulation and mind games get a lot of ...
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I messed up at the company party, got too drunk, flirted inappropriately. How do I make this better?

This Friday we had a company party. Drinks were free, we were at a night club, and people were dancing in a circle. I saw a lady there who actually ranks reasonably high in the company who had been ...
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Colleague commenting negatively on my look

I'm a man in his 20s working in a research center in one European university and I'm wearing a longer beard and completely shaved hair (my uni doesn't have any dress-code or something like that). ...
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Is HR protecting a bully and what should I do about it? [closed]

I am working in a small company. I met a man there and we started a relationship. We worked in the same position but in different teams. The relationship started smoothly but after three months he ...
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Mobbing (bullying) between production operators [closed]

Firstly, this is a special, not a general question about mobbing (bullying). My mother was without a workplace for a long time, now after two years doing nothing she finally found a place to work at a ...
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Dealing with boss and his request to (male) employees including myself, how to handle this right? [closed]

I work for a small firm here in Minnesota; only 30 people work there. Well, 27 men, 3 women. I[m a 37 year old guy, married, to my wife, 34, with a 14 year old daughter in highschool. Our boss (a ...
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Former employer could not give certificate of employment

I've got a new job coming right up. Only thing is, my former employer could not give me my COE. I've emailed them, texted them, Skyped them that I need it soon. I've also been very clear, that I can ...
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Should I call out former boss for his unreasonable demands to return the equipment in solely his terms even if I am in no position to do so? [closed]

UPDATE: I had a cousin who invited me to his car ride. We are now bringing over the equipment to the office. We will not leave until we see my former employer. I also have a turnover document with me, ...
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How can I determine if my manager is harassing me? [closed]

My manager often walks up to my desk when I'm quietly working and says insulting things to me such as: How is your baby? Do you even know? Do you care? Why did you have a baby anyways? In my country ...
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How do you approach potential harassment witnesses? [closed]

I was harassed by my direct supervisor at my old company. The harassement was all verbal and there were potential witnesses but few direct. For example, there were people within hearing distance/...
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How to document ongoing harassment in a professional way? [closed]

While writing detailed documentation about harassment I'm experiencing, what's the best way to keep it professional without losing its emphasis? For example, my manager called me on Skype and said "I ...
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How to report manager for misconduct?

I've never done this before and could use some advice. I am preparing to report my manager to HR for the way he acts around people. I don't know where to start. The way he acts does impede ...
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What can I do about my boss mocking my accent?

I am a US citizen working in Australia. I am not white. My boss routinely mocks me with a fake American accent implying that I am not a "real" American. I'm pretty sure that his intent is ...
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Is this response from management to a casual harassment claim appropriate? [closed]

A number of my colleagues asked me some very rude questions after I came back from maternity leave. I was feeling sad because of the way my manager was treating me, and he was giving me horrible ...
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Handling a former colleague trying to sabotage my reputation at work [closed]

I worked at this one place 15 years ago and it was so bad I ended up eventually leaving. I started taking anti-depressants. Since then, and currently, I have someone that knows I take this medication ...
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PTO - sick time vs personal time [closed]

I am a nurse in a large hospital. We are given non-specific PTO (paid time off). My boss has been calling people after they have called in sick questioning if they are truly sick. She is make ...
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Being slapped more than once at work [duplicate]

My coworker who is a black female, and I am a white male, constantly slaps me. The last incident took place as my boss an I walked in the door said she was startled and slapped me hard. She has done ...