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Questions tagged [helping]

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How do you respond to a colleague from another team when they're wrongly expecting that you'll help them?

Here's the situation. There is a person on Team X. They share some hardware that I also work on. They're trying to create a setup for something and struggling big time with it. It's none of my ...
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Junior colleague developing animosity when I couldn't offer professional help

There were a few incidents when I had helped my juniors. They had accepted my answers, were happy with the solution that I gave them and everything went on smoothly until one incident. There was a ...
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4answers
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Helping a junior who creates a context before asking for help

My junior colleagues know that I have expertise in certain areas and can help them whenever needed. In fact, there were cases where I was proactive and helped them resolve issues in those areas. ...
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help understanding the HR manager email

I am a recent graduate in search of jobs and giving interviews. I gave my final onsite interview with a big Financial firm on Jan. 17, 2019 for a Software Developer role. On Jan. 25 I was told that ...
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Workmate displaying unpleasant behaviour after divorce [closed]

Coworker in my department has been through a divorce last year and unfortunately it changed his personality so much that he started acting like a complete a**hole (for the lack of a better word, sorry)...
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I’m 38 and still no career. Times, running out. Please give advice [closed]

As the title says, I’m 38 and still haven’t found an IT profession where I’ve excelled in. I’ve been battling with depression a majority of my life which has slowed my progress in life down to make ...
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Asking a coworker for help on a personal project

I want to start working on a personal project (outside of work hours), but I'm very new to the techniques and methods needed. I know my coworker uses a lot of the techniques in his current position, ...
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How to handle requests at work that are not my department's responsibility without antagonizing users?

In my workplace, there are two IT departments, and each handles a different thing. This is not always obvious to the non-IT staff and as a result they often send stuff to my department that should be ...
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What can I do to actually get hired as a developer? [closed]

I am a construction worker that has been learning how to code on my free time for years. I am pretty comfortable with OOP and can build a website from scratch. The problem is I don't have any ...
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14answers
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A client wants me to provide assistance with using a service of a competitor company

I build websites for customers and I offer them hosting as well. Relatively expensive but they got all support from me. Now, I have a new client who wanted to build a website. The website is built ...
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15answers
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How to admit I don't know something without making myself look incompetent?

Short version: I want to look professional even in the situations where I'm unable to help other teams in the office. I don't care about creating shallow impression of being more skilled than I ...
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Coworker demands immediate assistance when having computer trouble

I'm a developer at an agency and there is a photographer who works in office. She often has trouble with her computer: accounts, the internet, etc. She comes to me when she needs assistance with ...
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How to help senior developer who is beyond helping

I got recently promoted as a manager in a small company (less than 20 people), I have only been in the workforce ~2.5 years, and I'm a lead developer in our project. Senior developer has been working ...
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7answers
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Forged Letters of Commitment

My employer has been known to be fairly unethical in the past. The owners do not seem to care much about compliance and everything is frantic. I am currently looking for a new position. However, ...
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Is there a 'programming buddy' type service that exists ? [closed]

I am not sure how to ask this but the situation is I have a job where I do everything myself but once in awhile I will get stuck on small pieces and spend hours trying to find the answer that I am ...
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1answer
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How to genuinely help someone when you have no skill in his department / specialty [closed]

I've read here and there that you should be ready to give before you need something from others. In other words, help people before asking for their help. I just asked a favor from a department in my ...
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I was asked for financial advice and learned that an employee might be depressed

I work late most days and as a result I've had the opportunity to converse with the night-time custodian that is assigned to the floor where my office is located. Over time, we've struck up a rapport ...
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19answers
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Should I avoid telling others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow? [closed]

I'm often afraid to tell others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow. A good programmer should be able to solve problems by searching for solutions independently, right? I feel like if someone ...
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3answers
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Telling coworkers that I am not Stackoverflow [duplicate]

I work in a software company. I am one of the senior-most developers with good knowledge of DevOps practices. For example, not intended to show my pride, I was the one who twice convinced the boss to ...
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6answers
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Is it acceptable to format a CV for someone else? [closed]

Assume that someone (friend, family) asks you to format his/her CV. They typically might want to apply to a job where text processing etc. is not one of the key requirements and they ask you to do it ...
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2answers
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How to provide help without undermining others?

I see myself being able to help others on many key initiatives at work, however I am constantly at odds on if me jumping into help would undermine the person's capability. On the flip side however, am ...
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6answers
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Am I obligated to help former team members with code I wrote, even though I've switched teams? [closed]

I recently moved from Team A to Team B at my company. These two teams are not remotely in the same lines of work, outside of the fact they both exist within the same company. Right before I left Team ...
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1answer
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Resume - 1 employer job duties for multiple companies

I am updating my resume and currently am employed by company A. The owner of company A also owns company B, company C and company D. My job duties are the same for all of them companies but I also ...
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4answers
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What can my boss do to help? [closed]

I've got a somewhat complicated situation at work. For the past three years I've been recovering from mental illness. Two years ago I was offered a job at my current employer and accepted. My recovery ...
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4answers
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Giving a recommendation for someone I only know by association [duplicate]

Scenario My friend's significant other is moving to town, and is looking for employment in the same field as me. He's applied for a bunch of different jobs, including my place of employment, and I ...
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3answers
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Helping colleague's annoying behavior [closed]

One of my colleagues is helping me on a project, as he has prior experience with such a project, and the product is pretty new for all involved. I asked him about small doubts I had during the ...
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2answers
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I think one of my co-workers may be homeless

In the last few weeks I've noticed one of my co-workers sleeping in their vehicle in our parking lot when I come in in the morning. It looks like the vehicle hasn't moved in a long time (not positive ...
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12answers
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Should I help others or keep my knowledge to myself? [duplicate]

I am the most senior developer in my team. I help others a lot by regularly sharing with them the things I learn. I like sharing stuff that I learn and am passionate about increasing team productivity....
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3answers
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How to professionally say “I've got too much going on right now to help you with this” and keep a good reputation?

My employer is moving in a new direction for which I seem to have been picked to be the (de facto) consultant for everyone else in the building. I have no official title or position that indicates ...
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4answers
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Dealing with a really nice, hardworking but not good at work colleague [duplicate]

There is this guy in my company who is very nice, always in a good mood, quite hardworking and has all the amiable qualities that you can think of but he is not really good at his job. I am inclined ...
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1answer
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Convincing business owner to upgrade from paper based to Java Application [closed]

How do I convince/explain to a business manager to upgrade from their paper based log system, which causes over booking. Also, sometimes the customer's hand writing is not understandable, which causes ...
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2answers
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How do I thank a co-worker for helping me

I'm an entry level employee at a defense company and on a project I was working on I was tasked with adding features to a kernel module given to us by a third party. Prior to working on this project I ...
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1answer
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Big company unorganised, no training plan and no work [closed]

I'm currently in a situation where the job I was hired for has no full days worth of work for me to complete. I feel like I am expendable in my role. The following has arisen since I have started. ...
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Best way to communicate that there is too much work to do? [duplicate]

First of all let me preface by saying I enjoy my job, I enjoy being overwhelmed, and I love learning new things. However, i'm the only IT guy... and people don't seem to understand the amount of work ...
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How do I get technical answers out of a non-technical person? [closed]

Our group works with a fairly complicated application that routinely has bugs crop up, meaning we have amazing job security, but also have to constantly be helping our users resolve these bugs. One ...
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1answer
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How to encourage or triggers others to help me when everyone seems busy with their task [duplicate]

I have joined as a team lead in a new company but yet no reportees are assigned to me . In this company timelines and accuracy of response to client are very important as compare to my previous ...
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How should I decide whether to take over someone else's work tasks?

My coworker is struggling with a task. I know that if I do it, it will take about 40 hours. I estimate that at the current rate, it will take my coworker at least three times that. So the first ...