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Colleague wants to join my project

I started my new job on the same day with another colleague. We both are senior software developers. The workload is manageable, so we both were looking for some side projects the company can benefit ...
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Having failed to meet the timeline, my collaborator asks for my help and covers his mistakes

This is a project involving a lot of companies and teams. As a contractor working for company A, I finished my part, so I am not going to get more money from A. However, Bob from company B failed to ...
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Leaving an assistant professorship for industry in late thirties

I am currently a researcher ("postdoc") at a world-class university. I have an assistant professor job offer from a business school in the New York area where I would be doing research in ...
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Dilemma: How to answer an unsupportive supervisor when they ask, "How are things going?"

Some supervisors are more supportive and helpful than others. The ones who aren't supportive, are often expected by their own supervisors to at least make the attempt to be supportive by talking with ...
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Self-nominating for awards and recognition?

Perhaps this is unique to my organization (public sector, 10,000+ people), but if you want to receive recognition for your work, you need to nominate yourself for awards. Supervisors won't nominate, ...
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What is this phenomenon in a company when it's difficult to find important knowledge?

I was told by colleague A that a database table would be helpful to me, but a field name and its comment in it were not that self-explanatory and detailed and I cannot get to know how the values of ...
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Is there an universal argument for sharing valuable knowledge/skills? [closed]

There are many great Questions and Answers on this site that deal with the question of whether or not to share valuable knowledge/skills with others: What is wrong with sharing knowledge with ...
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Asking for help with work - manager/ supervisor doesn't seem interested

Some background I'm a junior/ graduate developer (trained in JS, C++ & Swift while at university) working in a SAP development role. This is my first graduate job, although I have worked for a ...
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How to suggest "helping" a coworker in chat without sounding condescending?

I started a new job recently. A coworker (let's call him Sam) is tasked with helping me do the initial project setup. At one point, he wanted to share a huge file (about 1 GB in size) with me. Now ...
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?

TL;DR A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do? The long version: I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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How can I ask for help with my handicap not being able to write?

I'm a software engineering student that will be starting an internship soon. But I got a big disability that can't be seen. I can read text perfectly but I can't write on paper (which is usually not a ...
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Confidentiality broken?? Major UK employer [closed]

I work a for a very well known unique boating company in the south of the UK. Our team leader recently had a grievance put in against him and we had to give statements on his attitude etc, then we ...
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How to make transition from academia to industry smoother?

I have been a researcher in academia for the past ten+ years. Unfortunately, despite my love for this career, I arrived to a point where I need to move country (again) to continue my job. While I ...
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Helping others (swarming) without becoming the owner of poorly scoped work

On a team where Agile is the goal (not reality) for project management, I often feel inclined to help others with their work when I have spare time. Unfortunately, this sometimes means I become the ...
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How do you respond to a colleague from another team when they're wrongly expecting that you'll help them?

Disclaimer: I've had this problem sometime back but want to find out whats a good way to handle it. Hence I'm posting this now because I feel that this might be a common situation. Here's the ...
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Junior colleague developing animosity when I couldn't offer professional help

There were a few incidents when I had helped my juniors. They had accepted my answers, were happy with the solution that I gave them and everything went on smoothly until one incident. There was a ...
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Helping a junior who creates a context before asking for help

My junior colleagues know that I have expertise in certain areas and can help them whenever needed. In fact, there were cases where I was proactive and helped them resolve issues in those areas. ...
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help understanding the HR manager email

I am a recent graduate in search of jobs and giving interviews. I gave my final onsite interview with a big Financial firm on Jan. 17, 2019 for a Software Developer role. On Jan. 25 I was told that ...
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Workmate displaying unpleasant behaviour after divorce [closed]

Coworker in my department has been through a divorce last year and unfortunately it changed his personality so much that he started acting like a complete a**hole (for the lack of a better word, sorry)...
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I’m 38 and still no career. Times, running out. Please give advice [closed]

As the title says, I’m 38 and still haven’t found an IT profession where I’ve excelled in. I’ve been battling with depression a majority of my life which has slowed my progress in life down to make ...
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Asking a coworker for help on a personal project

I want to start working on a personal project (outside of work hours), but I'm very new to the techniques and methods needed. I know my coworker uses a lot of the techniques in his current position, ...
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How to handle requests at work that are not my department's responsibility without antagonizing users?

In my workplace, there are two IT departments, and each handles a different thing. This is not always obvious to the non-IT staff and as a result they often send stuff to my department that should be ...
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What can I do to actually get hired as a developer? [closed]

I am a construction worker that has been learning how to code on my free time for years. I am pretty comfortable with OOP and can build a website from scratch. The problem is I don't have any ...
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A client wants me to provide assistance with using a service of a competitor company

I build websites for customers and I offer them hosting as well. Relatively expensive but they got all support from me. Now, I have a new client who wanted to build a website. The website is built ...
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How to admit I don't know something without making myself look incompetent?

Short version: I want to look professional even in the situations where I'm unable to help other teams in the office. I don't care about creating shallow impression of being more skilled than I ...
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Coworker demands immediate assistance when having computer trouble

I'm a developer at an agency and there is a photographer who works in office. She often has trouble with her computer: accounts, the internet, etc. She comes to me when she needs assistance with ...
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How to help senior developer who is beyond helping

I got recently promoted as a manager in a small company (less than 20 people), I have only been in the workforce ~2.5 years, and I'm a lead developer in our project. Senior developer has been working ...
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Forged Letters of Commitment

My employer has been known to be fairly unethical in the past. The owners do not seem to care much about compliance and everything is frantic. I am currently looking for a new position. However, ...
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Is there a 'programming buddy' type service that exists ? [closed]

I am not sure how to ask this but the situation is I have a job where I do everything myself but once in awhile I will get stuck on small pieces and spend hours trying to find the answer that I am ...
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How to genuinely help someone when you have no skill in his department / specialty [closed]

I've read here and there that you should be ready to give before you need something from others. In other words, help people before asking for their help. I just asked a favor from a department in my ...
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I was asked for financial advice and learned that an employee might be depressed

I work late most days and as a result I've had the opportunity to converse with the night-time custodian that is assigned to the floor where my office is located. Over time, we've struck up a rapport ...
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Should I avoid telling others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow? [closed]

I'm often afraid to tell others that I ask questions on Stack Overflow. A good programmer should be able to solve problems by searching for solutions independently, right? I feel like if someone ...
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Telling coworkers that I am not Stackoverflow [duplicate]

I work in a software company. I am one of the senior-most developers with good knowledge of DevOps practices. For example, not intended to show my pride, I was the one who twice convinced the boss to ...
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Is it acceptable to format a CV for someone else? [closed]

Assume that someone (friend, family) asks you to format his/her CV. They typically might want to apply to a job where text processing etc. is not one of the key requirements and they ask you to do it ...
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How to provide help without undermining others?

I see myself being able to help others on many key initiatives at work, however I am constantly at odds on if me jumping into help would undermine the person's capability. On the flip side however, am ...
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Am I obligated to help former team members with code I wrote, even though I've switched teams? [closed]

I recently moved from Team A to Team B at my company. These two teams are not remotely in the same lines of work, outside of the fact they both exist within the same company. Right before I left Team ...
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Resume - 1 employer job duties for multiple companies

I am updating my resume and currently am employed by company A. The owner of company A also owns company B, company C and company D. My job duties are the same for all of them companies but I also ...
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What can my boss do to help? [closed]

I've got a somewhat complicated situation at work. For the past three years I've been recovering from mental illness. Two years ago I was offered a job at my current employer and accepted. My recovery ...
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Giving a recommendation for someone I only know by association [duplicate]

Scenario My friend's significant other is moving to town, and is looking for employment in the same field as me. He's applied for a bunch of different jobs, including my place of employment, and I ...
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Helping colleague's annoying behavior [closed]

One of my colleagues is helping me on a project, as he has prior experience with such a project, and the product is pretty new for all involved. I asked him about small doubts I had during the ...
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I think one of my co-workers may be homeless

In the last few weeks I've noticed one of my co-workers sleeping in their vehicle in our parking lot when I come in in the morning. It looks like the vehicle hasn't moved in a long time (not positive ...
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Should I help others or keep my knowledge to myself? [duplicate]

I am the most senior developer in my team. I help others a lot by regularly sharing with them the things I learn. I like sharing stuff that I learn and am passionate about increasing team productivity....
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How to professionally say "I've got too much going on right now to help you with this" and keep a good reputation?

My employer is moving in a new direction for which I seem to have been picked to be the (de facto) consultant for everyone else in the building. I have no official title or position that indicates ...
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Dealing with a really nice, hardworking but not good at work colleague [duplicate]

There is this guy in my company who is very nice, always in a good mood, quite hardworking and has all the amiable qualities that you can think of but he is not really good at his job. I am inclined ...
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Convincing business owner to upgrade from paper based to Java Application [closed]

How do I convince/explain to a business manager to upgrade from their paper based log system, which causes over booking. Also, sometimes the customer's hand writing is not understandable, which causes ...
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How do I thank a co-worker for helping me

I'm an entry level employee at a defense company and on a project I was working on I was tasked with adding features to a kernel module given to us by a third party. Prior to working on this project I ...
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Big company unorganised, no training plan and no work [closed]

I'm currently in a situation where the job I was hired for has no full days worth of work for me to complete. I feel like I am expendable in my role. The following has arisen since I have started. ...
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Best way to communicate that there is too much work to do? [duplicate]

First of all let me preface by saying I enjoy my job, I enjoy being overwhelmed, and I love learning new things. However, i'm the only IT guy... and people don't seem to understand the amount of work ...
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How do I get technical answers out of a non-technical person? [closed]

Our group works with a fairly complicated application that routinely has bugs crop up, meaning we have amazing job security, but also have to constantly be helping our users resolve these bugs. One ...
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How to encourage or triggers others to help me when everyone seems busy with their task [duplicate]

I have joined as a team lead in a new company but yet no reportees are assigned to me . In this company timelines and accuracy of response to client are very important as compare to my previous ...
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