Questions tagged [lgbtq]
Questions specific to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer employees. Consider adding a location tag, since local cultural or legal norms will most likely have an impact on the answer.
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How can I ask my boss to stop constantly "outing" me at work?
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I work for a global tech company as an engineer. I was working in the UK up until very recently until I moved (with the company) to the Netherlands. Both countries are very tolerant to the ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?
I am transgender. I legally changed my name a couple of years ago. I'm worried prospective employers might try to verify my older experience when I was using my old name, and conclude that I'm lying ...
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How do I stop my colleague trying to convince me that I'm trans?
I'm a female software engineer at a medium sized startup in the USA and I've always been a bit masculine[1]. It's never really bothered me.
I recently started working on a new project with another ...
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Is it reasonable to ask how the company is to trans folks?
I'm soon to be a college grad, and starting to get job offers. I'm transgender and will be transitioning when I start working. This transition will be obvious. My body and appearance will become ...
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What's the most appropriate time in the recruitment process to reveal that you're transgender (in the UK)?
I am a transgender person looking to switch jobs from the one I am currently in to one where I can work as a woman, completing the set of places I need to be accepted in order to live full time as my ...
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How to manage a person who identifies as bi-gender?
I am asking for a friend. The situation will take place in northern Europe should this matter.
My friend is a manager in a multinational company and manages team of ~15 people. He has hired a high-...
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Transgender in the UK, should I use my female name on my CV even when it refers to male accomplishments?
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I am a MtF transgender person starting transition in the UK.
Part of the process involves moving from living part of my life male and part female to living full time female, including ...
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How to come out gay without jeopardising relationships with colleagues?
I have a friend who is openly gay, but the team does not know. The team refers to his partner as his girlfriend. This has been going on for a while, and it is now too awkward to go back and disclose ...
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Addressing Sir or Ma'am to Transgender or Androgynous looking individuals
I am manning the front desk at a tech conference and I ran into a situation where I did not know if I should address an individual with Sir or Ma'am. My salutation is "Hello Sir/Ma'am Welcome to Tech ...
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How do I deal with Coworker that revealed He/She was trans and expected people to rejoice?
I am a TeamLeader/Manager, the company is medium, I manage about 12 people along with coding my own stuff.
This morning subordinate X, walked into the middle of our offices (Open space) and asked for ...
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What kind of support does a trans person need on the job?
So we hired her (hypothetically).
She just disclosed that she wants to transition her gender in the next few months.
We are a small company, no LGBT office or anything.
Nobody has any experience with ...
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Do I have to attend a "Queer Town" workshop?
My work wants me to attend a workshop focused on LGBQI and intersex based topics.
I know you cannot discriminate against people for their race, religion or sexual orientation but I feel like this is ...
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How and when is the best time to reveal to new hires you are trans? [closed]
For context I'm an MtF hiring manager at a very small startup. I'm pretty open about being trans to people who know me well but wouldn't feel comfortable stating on our company's website that I'm ...
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How / when should a person notify in their job that they're transitioning gender?
I'm asking for a friend. She is a trans female and has decided to start her transition. She currently lives and works in Spain at a call center.
She hasn't disclosed the current situation since ...
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How to address a transgender coworker and accomodate their toilet needs?
I work with a group of developers in a company having about 1000 employees.
A transgender person who identifies herself as a woman has joined our team.
She gets upset when we use masculine pronouns ...
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How to convince HR to display only the new name after a name change?
A friend of mine is transgender. She recently changed her legal name from, let's say, John to Jane.
In the company where she works, when somebody changes either their first or last name, the old name ...
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Is there any feasible way to avoid outing myself as transgender to prospective employers?
I'm planning to get back into actively job-searching in the somewhat-near future. I've thought of something that could potentially be a stumbling block, though; I'm a trans woman living in a not-too-...
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Making my company more appealing to a more diverse group of people (LGBTQIA+, BIPoC)
My company's workforce is mainly white, heterosexual and cis-male.
Partly this is due to a lack of available hires in my industry (software/robotics).
Still, I would wish we could also attract other ...
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Should I acknowledge Pride Month to my colleagues on team who are LGBTQ?
June in the United States is informally acknowledged as Pride Month as a sign of support for members of the LGBTQ community. I support civil equality for LGBTQ community.
Two members of my team are ...
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Workplace and coming out, bad idea? [closed]
I've had quite a heated argument with a friend of mine recently. This argument concerned the fact that my friend is gay, and is planning on coming out at his workplace.
From my POV doing so is both ...
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How to indicate, when applying for a job, that my legal name is my deadname?
I'm a trans woman looking to get back into actively job-searching. As of currently, I've fully socially transitioned and use my preferred (female) name for most purposes (and it's what all my ...
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Does specifying that you are LGBT increase your chances of an interview? [closed]
Since we're all (or atleast, some of us are) working with the benefit of anonymity, I would like to ask the hiring managers: if a candidate lists himself as gay and your workforce has a deficit in ...
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