Questions tagged [manager]

For questions related to the person responsible who evaluates your performance or oversees your work on a daily basis.

Filter by
Sorted by
Tagged with
575 votes
20 answers
78k views

Criticized for doing my job too well

Our company had a big problem with people not taking our mandatory online training seriously. Even though the higher-ups try to stress how important it is, people will usually flip through a 4-hour ...
wfh_king's user avatar
  • 2,981
248 votes
21 answers
70k views

Did I overreact to my boss asking me to get him coffee?

In the middle of a meeting with my managers, me (a supervisor) and field staff, the manager stopped the meeting suddenly to request that I refill their cup of coffee. I was stunned and tried to joke ...
ayrkah's user avatar
  • 1,347
243 votes
9 answers
59k views

How can I inform my boss that I may have been hired by mistake?

I was hired at my current workplace just over a month ago. During the interview process, I found out that someone I knew from university was also interviewing for the position. I'll call him Jim. Jim ...
user78670's user avatar
  • 1,449
233 votes
7 answers
33k views

New manager unapproved PTO my old manager approved, because of a conference at the same time that's now a "condition of my employment here"

I'm taking a vacation in mid-April of next year with some friends, we've all already gotten the time off approved from our various jobs and bought plane tickets. My previous manager said it was fine ...
PTO guy's user avatar
  • 851
199 votes
15 answers
40k views

How can I convince my manager to let me work permanently with a vertical monitor?

We all have monitors that can tilt vertically already. On my second day I rotated one of my monitors since I like keeping a text editor or terminal window there. I work a lot better and more ...
some guy's user avatar
  • 1,291
173 votes
14 answers
40k views

My boss gave me an end date for my job- but he wants a very complex project done before then

I've been working as a software engineer contractor for the last year and a half, at a company that has been promising to onboard me as a full employee for over seven months. However, I was recently ...
Gman's user avatar
  • 1,237
157 votes
8 answers
22k views

Should I share my opinion of my former manager (from a different company) who's interviewing to be my new manager?

I previously worked under "Mr Jones", who was a terrible team leader/manager - no shielding from stakeholders, no support with issues, promised the world to stakeholders and the team but never ...
NotADog's user avatar
  • 1,203
153 votes
5 answers
25k views

How to manage an "over worker"?

I have a direct report who is chronically stressed out and always seems on edge. I've tried to lighten his load as much as possible. I highly encourage time off, including just cutting out early or ...
Eric's user avatar
  • 2,442
149 votes
12 answers
38k views

Someone I manage keeps cc'ing my boss

I manage a team of about 20 at my company. One the people I manage will occasionally send emails to me to tell me things he thinks I should do differently. If I disagree with him, he'll reply and cc ...
StuckInTheMiddle's user avatar
138 votes
11 answers
33k views

I fear I am being set up to be fired by my direct manager. How to save my job?

I've received nothing but praise for months since I started working as a developer at this company. I've introduced a few changes (scrum, Slack, peer review) that upper management loves. Suddenly, ...
Anonymous's user avatar
  • 773
137 votes
12 answers
34k views

What can I do about doing badly on an impromptu coding test?

I have been at my organization for around 18 months. I took a technical programming test (basically a C# kata of sorts) in the interview and flunked it. However, they said they liked my attitude and ...
Cloud's user avatar
  • 4,581
136 votes
13 answers
26k views

Somebody damaged my car in a parking lot and it might be my boss. What do I do? [closed]

Last week, somebody hit my parked car while I was at work and drove away without leaving a note. This did not happen on company property. (I work downtown, so parking is a public lot.) My insurance ...
Hm.....'s user avatar
  • 420
135 votes
10 answers
28k views

How should I approach a boss that keeps hiring temporary workers, only to have me finish something?

Long story short, we've recently had a lot of work to do at my job and in order to fill that vacuum my boss has been hiring temporary workers. At first he hired three which stayed for about two months,...
KAT's user avatar
  • 1,311
133 votes
13 answers
35k views

What's the most polite way to tell a manager "shut up and let me work"?

I'm the youngest/most junior in my office and often one of my managers will come and give me something to do or change some requirement for a project, then just stand behind my desk repeating the same ...
y59175's user avatar
  • 703
126 votes
10 answers
32k views

Requesting time off on behalf of spouse for surprise vacation

I am considering plane tickets as an anniversary gift for my husband for a specific date/destination. Before I buy I'd like to be sure it won't be a problem at his office. Has anyone asked for ...
Anon's user avatar
  • 1,121
121 votes
6 answers
22k views

Written warning for allegedly "slacking off" (in Germany)

Disclaimer: I am asking this question for a friend, since he does not want to make an account here for one reason or another. My friend works as an IT expert in quite a large company, in Germany. He ...
Yuropoor's user avatar
  • 4,633
119 votes
8 answers
25k views

Need to withdraw an application unless their HR changes their rules - how to do so?

I'm 3 months into the interview process for a pretty prestigious research lab. It'd be a great gig. The hiring manager has told me that my peer references were great and I'm by far the most qualified ...
OpenOfficesAreGreat's user avatar
118 votes
9 answers
23k views

Official warning by a manager for how I spend my vacations: escalate or ignore?

I have about 20 years of job experience and I’ve been working for my current company for 3 and half years. Throughout my career I've used this pattern for my vacations: the last working day before a ...
Vacationer's user avatar
117 votes
6 answers
29k views

I encountered my boss during an on-site interview at another company. Should I bring it up when seeing him next time?

I have been casually looking around for a new job for a few months now and had some Skype interviews so far. One of the companies I interviewed with flew me in for an on-site interview last week. We ...
user100865's user avatar
113 votes
7 answers
26k views

How do I tell management that I can't work with my spouse anymore?

I work for a large company that is very short-staffed right now. About 6 months ago the team my spouse had been working on was in desperate need of another employee. My project was ending and my ...
adb's user avatar
  • 849
112 votes
12 answers
42k views

How can I deal with managers that refuse to accept use of common software engineering design patterns?

Background I am a software engineer and a TDD practitioner in my company. My manager is also responsible for coding (if needed), and managing his engineer subordinates. I got into a few heated ...
rexcfnghk's user avatar
  • 1,101
112 votes
10 answers
17k views

(Would be) teammate called me privately to tell me he does not wish to work with me

I've never faced anything of this sort before. I interviewed at this firm for a position, for which I was rejected, but after the interview the manager requested if he could hold on to my resume for ...
cromulon007's user avatar
110 votes
9 answers
17k views

Should I apologize for being indifferent?

A few days ago I was called for a spontaneous one on one meeting with my highest tier boss. I had only spoken to him once during my time working there. I perceive him as a very friendly person. As he ...
user avatar
102 votes
8 answers
14k views

"I'm not telling you to work nights and weekends, but I am expecting that to happen" - what does this mean?

So my manager told me this morning "I'm not telling you to work nights and weekends, but I am expecting that that will happen". I asked her what she meant by that and she said "I won't ...
atomizer's user avatar
  • 409
102 votes
5 answers
22k views

Member of the board asks for admin access and wants non-compliant device on the network

I'm one of the many network operators at a corporation. One of the board members asks every time — when in her opinion changes are too slow — for admin access (credentials) so she can do it herself. ...
MKZ's user avatar
  • 773
102 votes
12 answers
22k views

Company threw a surprise party for the CEO, 3 weeks later management says we have to pay for it, do I have to? [closed]

Title says it all. We were not informed beforehand, not even about the party itself and now, 3 weeks later our manager says we have to pitch in with a little more than 5$. I am not upset because it's ...
CloudedLeopard's user avatar
101 votes
20 answers
24k views

Employer demanding to see degree after poor code review

Today I had a code review at a new position I started almost 3 weeks ago. I was assigned a task working with my company's own CMS and a senior dev was supposed to do the code review. My employer ...
Singra's user avatar
  • 889
101 votes
12 answers
21k views

How to ask boss for written authorization to violate a strict company policy?

My manager has asked me to violate a company policy that they disagree with. The policy is very strict and violating it normally is considered gross misconduct. The policy is for security and ...
Tim J's user avatar
  • 705
99 votes
12 answers
25k views

How do I ensure my employees don't abuse my flexible work hours policy?

At my small sized company (~10-15 people) I have always had a very liberal policy on work hours. My employees can choose their own hours as long as. They are in the office from 11am-2pm They average ...
Sam's user avatar
  • 1,705
98 votes
20 answers
20k views

Bad performance review despite objective successes and praises

I started a job 8 months ago. The person who did it before was let go for performance issues. Before they chose me they spent 6 months looking for someone (while the previous guy was still there). I ...
overall 's user avatar
97 votes
14 answers
22k views

Ex-manager wants to stay in touch, I don't want to

I just left my first job out of college after working there 3 years. The reason I left is because I did not believe that my manager was treating me well. I now have a new job and am happy with it. ...
rwg05's user avatar
  • 741
92 votes
12 answers
18k views

Is there anything too menial to be done by an intern?

I am a student, currently interning at a fairly new startup. (I am amongst the first 10 employees). I have a role of a software developer there and the work for the most of it is very good. The pay is ...
Nervous Student's user avatar
90 votes
8 answers
12k views

How to work with a micro-manager?

I'm trying to learn how to work with my current manager. In my opinion he is too much of a micro-manager who is rude and wants an update of every single minute of my billable hours. As an example of ...
happybuddha's user avatar
  • 7,541
90 votes
15 answers
24k views

How to answer the question "What do you dislike the most at the workplace?" from an interviewee?

Today, five minutes before the interview, my manager grabbed me and asked me to participate in an interview with a potential candidate for a software developer position. I did the technical part of ...
kukis's user avatar
  • 5,302
89 votes
7 answers
26k views

How to say No to idea given by team member, when I know from my experience that it is going to fail?

I have a very hardworking team, and I like when they try to think about a project with broader perspective. I want to respect their contribution and don't like to refuse their ideas, but sometimes I ...
Vinod Sawant's user avatar
89 votes
14 answers
23k views

Deal with toxic manager when you can't quit

At my first job, I had the bad luck to get a manager that was very toxic. This reached the point of him driving most of the team to quit. In the three months I was there, he drove 5 people to quit (...
user3399's user avatar
  • 2,297
86 votes
17 answers
32k views

Company indirectly discriminating against introverts, specifically INTJ

Background On pretty much all tests out there, I heavily score as INTJ in the Myer-Briggs system. Some tests even suggest slight Asperger, combined with what I suspect is a healthy dose of OCD. I don'...
user avatar
85 votes
6 answers
27k views

Should I tell my boss the work he did was worthless?

I have been handed a project that has been kicked around for 4 or 5 months with ~zero progress made. The project is to implement a new tool that was chosen before I got here. It seems like a good ...
agentroadkill's user avatar
84 votes
7 answers
21k views

Manager offers to let us work less without a decrease in salary. Are there any concerns with accepting this offer?

I work in a team of 6 for a large multinational IT company. The company is not in a good shape from a business perspective. The manager has asked us to consider the idea of working 4 days a week ...
comxyz's user avatar
  • 3,141
83 votes
14 answers
30k views

How to deal with a manager who doesn't read emails and calls you out as incompetent as a result?

So my manager called me out in an email to quite a few stakeholders on a software development project, asking me why I hadn't gotten something done she earlier told me to get done. The thing is, if ...
Jay's user avatar
  • 7,975
83 votes
12 answers
19k views

What is professional language to say I don't want to work under someone for personal reasons?

I am a contractor, and I have just been offered full time employment at my current workplace. My day-to-day would change very little, but I would be put under another a manager who is a peer of my ...
Ethical Quandry's user avatar
80 votes
12 answers
17k views

How can I convince my manager that we need to reduce technical debt? [closed]

I work as a developer on a 15-year-old software product, which has been continuously under development for all that time. The code base is enormous. We have over 500mb of code, which I suspect is ...
Belle's user avatar
  • 3,702
79 votes
10 answers
31k views

Should I tell management that I intend to leave due to bad software development practices?

update: after reading the answers and comments below, I realized I started off with the wrong question, and actually just needed a change in perspective. The answers in this question are now much more ...
gorgabal's user avatar
  • 843
77 votes
4 answers
22k views

Unavailable manager says ‘I’m always available’

Due to working in a small business, my manager is also HR. Pretty much every memo we get from him says ‘see me anytime’, ‘let me know if any problems’ ‘I’m always available’ etc. However, he is ...
Obie's user avatar
  • 523
76 votes
13 answers
30k views

How can I react professionally to sarcasm by my manager?

My manager sometimes uses sarcasm. I do not know how to react to that. An example from today: Him: Did you implement this all alone? Me: No, I used code found on the internet as a model. Him: What a ...
Astariul's user avatar
  • 728
74 votes
9 answers
27k views

Manager says I take too many sick leaves and that creates a bad perception

I work at a large company in the UK, but not a client facing role. It usually has projects to be delivered over a couple of months. I am entitled to some sick days a year, and I usually take them if I ...
user121416's user avatar
  • 2,009
74 votes
15 answers
24k views

How to deal with your co worker telling you "not to do stuff so fast"?

I like to do stuff right when people ask me. When they need help, if I'm doing nothing, I love to go there and help, or to call them and fix the problem, because I like to be pro active. But my co ...
Green Baloon's user avatar
  • 2,042
73 votes
9 answers
36k views

Is it okay for my family to intervene when my boss treats me unfairly in the first few days of work?

I'm an 18 year old student who just started a part time job a few days ago. This was what happened: I went for the interview for the part time job and was told that the boss's wife would give me a ...
user avatar
73 votes
5 answers
20k views

I returned from vacation to find my desk in a mess. How should I deal with this?

I work in USA as a Software Developer. I took a week off as a vacation, and came back today to see my desk in a mess: my 3 screens were unplugged and stacked, and there were cigarette ashes everywhere....
Sandra K's user avatar
  • 8,763
72 votes
8 answers
20k views

Told it's "my responsibility" to find coverage for shifts scheduled during previously-approved vacation time

I have been working at a YMCA pool as a lifeguard for about 6 months now. I am a good employee who has shown up to every shift, follows the rules and has even come in on late notice due to lifeguard ...
Breya Burgess's user avatar

1
2 3 4 5
21