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Questions concerning mental health issues such as depression, anxiety and other disabilities.

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Should I disclose a mental disorder that's been impacting my job to HR/my boss?

There is an existing question about depression in a different situation (job seeking), and the answers are mostly about the obligation to disclose it and clearance issues, which is not really what I'm ...
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How to quit an unsatisfying job?

As mentioned in the title, I'm currently in a job that doesn't satisfy my expectations. I'm working as a systems engineer in a renowned private hospital group. I have a lot of experience in web ...
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Is it bad faith to quit after getting rejected for a leave of absence?

I asked my company for a leave of absence for a few months (> 4 months) to get some mental health issues (anxiety, ADHD) under control and they rejected my request citing that it makes it harder ...
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resignation under acute mental health episode [closed]

A close relative in the UK resigned from his job while going through an acute mental health episode. Employer accepted his resignation, and he was put on garden leave until this coming Sep 14. In the ...
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Manager asks questions in an investigative mode

I work as a Lead Engineer and Individual Contributor on a project. Our team consists of an Engineering Manager, a Program Manager, and other engineers. After being with the organization for 7 months, ...
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Background checks for UK/US government research jobs, and mental health difficulties

I'm currently doing a PhD in a STEM field, partly sponsored by a start-up company. I am potentially interested in continuing a research career either in the UK or the US, and have noticed that some of ...
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How to recover from exhausted patience?

In my previous organization, the team I was on had to work with several other teams that left a bad taste in my mouth. Over the course of several years, upper leadership eventually took notice and ...
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Its been hell , everyday i am stressed and anxious . Feel Like crying [closed]

I started my internship like 5 weeks back.Manager has no clue of what’s going on and is on PTO since the past 2 weeks (would be returning next week) . Mentor is some architecht level guy who has no ...
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How do I explain to my mentor that certain stuff is not possible without sounding negative at the same time?

It's been 4 weeks into my internship and I have stopped feeling lost, which I was feeling 2 weeks back. I had been asked to build a tool in react. Initially I was very nervous as to how would I build ...
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How does one develop the mentality to suck it up and work without developing negativity about their job?

I have been working as a software developer for over 1.5 years now. Over this time I have changed jobs twice and I am currently in my 3rd job. The problem is that, in all of my jobs, I quickly start ...
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Declining to provide request for references

So the long and short of it is that I fell out of the job market due to illness in my previous job. Unfortunately, there was certainly a component of mental illness to it (i.e. stress and health-...
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Having a bad mental week

Currently at work I am the only person able to do office work (between clinic and office) due to staffing and me being injured. I’ve been the only one there all week and I get all my work done and I ...
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What do I do if I can't seem to find interest for any job in my field (software development)? [closed]

I am having some major existential issues in regards to my career. I don't know if there is a true answer to this question, but I'd be grateful to receive any thoughts, experiences, or questions to ...
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"Ace" engineer deliberately broke his own toe to avoid training replacements during notice period [closed]

I work at a large company that, unfortunately, has a recurring habit of hiring small armies of under-trained and under-skilled junior engineers that don't get much done (mostly due to our lack of ...
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How to handle a poorly performing employee who's potentially suicidal

I have a subordinate who has in the past expressed suicidal thoughts. His performance over the past 6-8 months has been unacceptable. He has numerous documented coaching and performance improvement ...
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My co-founder & CEO stopped contributing and will never admit so. How to proceed? [closed]

This is a small start-up (~5 employees, including 3 founders) in software development, Europe. One of the founders was self-assigned the CEO role and got biggest equity chunk, and we accepted because ...
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Employee barely working due to Mental Health issues

Please bear with the long post, I want to provide context and background to clarify the question. Background I am working as the Principal Engineer in a fast-paced and high-stakes software company. ...
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How to ensure that management keeps its promises?

Status quo I work as a solution architect in a consulting company where i like it. But unfortunately the workload is very high. 80% of the week are unnecessary meetings where it's all about my ...
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How to professionally deal with a bad boss?

I am weary, kinda frustrated. I am unhappy. I am demotivated. My interaction with my boss leaves me cold. Sometimes he's kinda bully, intrusive, controlling, picky or petty. I am wondering how can I ...
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Resigning due to ill health UK

I have a progressive neurological disorder - I won't be going into the details of the illness as its private and personal and quite emotive. A year ago I spoke to my then line manager, that this day ...
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Motivation has dropped partly due to pessimistic views on work in general - burned out?

I've been in my current role for about three years, after graduating from University. I haven't really been impacted by COVID work-wise because I'm a software developer so I can WFH. Lately I've been ...
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Who should I talk to about my resignation outside of work?

Last year I started facing a whole raft of workplace issues. There isn't one in particular that I can frame a question around rather it's a holistic situation, there are many factors I can list, but ...
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Currently feeling useless at my job

A bit of background. While i work in a company that's not IT based in any way, i'm a web developer for the company's main system, patching bugs and adding new features whenever asked. This is my first ...
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too much pressure at work in the machine learning area

In short I'm a single data scienstist. I've joined recently a team of 4 python developers / machine learning engineers. The machine learning project we do is difficult as a machine learning problem. ...
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What are best practices for continued employee mental health at an IT Help Desk?

I worked at a POS help desk at at mall retailer, there were a myriad of diverse people who worked there with all different skill levels and skill sets. The hours were really long and bizarre; the ...
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Started a new job, but with the COVID situation I am simply too depressed to work. What should I do? [closed]

I lost my job a few weeks ago due to the virus. I was able to pick up a new one 3 weeks later, but I'm honestly just too depressed (with all the COVID stuff and isolation) to work. It's work-from-home ...
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Manager’s unreasonable behaviour causing mental health issues

I’m a home-based office worker. My line manager is causing me mental health issues, which has become a serious health concern. One of the main issues is that they give too much work. Another main ...
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I've realized my coworker is a narcissist. What next? [closed]

While watching various videos on mental health and anxiety, I began to come across videos on narcissism. This led me to this list. I'll just include the headers so I don't just copy the author's ...
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How far can co-workers be reasonably expected to carry people with mental problems? [closed]

A colleague of mine was recently hospitalized due to attempts of self harm. His marriage is collapsing, he has inlaw issues, etc. I am not going into details, but all his problems outside work have ...
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Why do I feel like I'm working very hard yet feel very unproductive? [closed]

I'm a software developer and think myself very fortunate as I really enjoy writing code and learning about it and feel confident in my abilities. When I finish what I wanted to do for the day I feel ...
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How do companies take into account public health in order to improve their organizations? [closed]

Quoting Wikipedia, Public health has been defined as "the science and art of preventing disease”, prolonging life and promoting human health through organized efforts and informed choices of ...
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How to deal with a compulsive talker during meetings?

I have a co-worker who is a compulsive talker. He constantly interrupts others and hijacks the conversation, proceeding to talk endlessly if not interrupted in turn. If left to talk by himself, he ...
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What to do when suffering from stress not related to work

I am currently under a lot of stress from different sources that are not interesting to mention on workplace but i am in a battle with myself. I feel that I am not performing well at work because of ...
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Employer asks for signs of mental health in reference checks

Six months into my employment in the UK, my current employer is now asking that I can provide a character reference from a former employer. They had received responses from a few other employers but ...
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How do you forgive/let go/move on from a bully ex employer

It’s been about 7 months since I was fired from a startup where the COO was bullying me into leaving. For instance: I was ambushed into meeting rooms a few times where he’d point a finger and tell ...
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Left a meeting without apparent reason. What to do?

What happened: I work in a big company. I left my daily standup meeting and returned to my desk before the meeting ended, without no apparent reason and with all the people wondering why. Why: I come ...
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How to approach boss about training delivered by Seniors who are knowledgeable but don't know how to train people - and impact on my mental health?

I've worked at an IT company as a consultant for a little more than a year and I currently work at a customer's office who's really happy with me. My boss put me forward for an in-house training, ...
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Dealing with possible mental health issues [closed]

I do some volunteer work for a Hacker Space, if you aren't familiar with what that is its just a place with shared tools where people can come to work on projects and occasionally collaborate with ...
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Take a lower paying job for less stress better culture, no brainer? [closed]

I got an offer to do the same work I do now for a private company, but for a public entity. The offer is lower pay, no bonus. But, the schedule will be consistent, no unreasonable deadlines, and all ...
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A manager is triggering past trauma. What are my options?

My general manager acts, speaks, and manages in a way similar to my abusive parent. This frequently triggers PTSD flashbacks. What are my options to get her to stop? Solutions I've thought of are ...
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Colleagues Ignoring me as I work Independently on my Schedule

Well, I have been to this new Job. It's been like around 5 months. The work atmosphere was the best which I ever experienced (I only worked in small companies for short periods of time due to some ...
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How to handle (one's own) old self-harm scars (on the arm), in a work environment?

My girlfriend is graduating from college right now and starting her professional career in a medium sized, rather traditional company in Germany (~12k employees worldwide). While being a teenager she ...
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How to deal with a difficult boss?

I am around 2 years experienced Software Developer in a small company. I have this boss in my company who is in this company since 2001 (that's also his first company). Now he thinks that the only ...
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How much about my mental health should I share?

I've been at my current position for less than a year, after having taken some time off to go back to school and get in a new career path. I've lived with various mental health issues (varying ...
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How to reach an IT job without experience and with mental limitations?

This is sort of cry for help, not the regular question: I've always wanted to become a game developer, have been coding for 7 years from now and modelling for 2 years, but for the whole period of 2 ...
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How to handle a coworker's morbid attention seeking?

I have a coworker in my department whose morbid "sense of humor" is inconsiderate to others in the office. I find it to be disrespectful and insensitive. I don't want to get too specific with events, ...
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Can I get in trouble for being an unhappy person?

I started a new job at the beginning of December, and in those first two weeks I've had a few traumatic events happen in my personal life. I haven't necessarily been the happiest person at the jobs I'...
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ADA reasonable accommodations vs mental disability

ADA requires the employer to provide reasonable accommodations for candidates with disabilities, including mental disabilities. https://www.eeoc.gov/facts/jobapplicant.html For instance, ADA requires ...
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Suspected (hypo)mania in a business meeting [closed]

I recently met 1:1 with a business mentor and potential investor whom I've met with twice previously at length and am increasingly friendly with. The previous times he's been mild-mannered, relaxed ...
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Opening blinds in the workspace

I love natural light, open blinds, and outside views while I'm working. Given the only questions I found here, I do realize I'm in the minority. In a building of 300 people, not a single blind is open....
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