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Team member is constantly distracted - how to approach?

There is a one of my team members who is constantly distracted by personal communication (phone calls, messages). That started a couple of weeks ago and obviously affects his productivity. I tried ...
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Is it okay to work on personal projects outside of work?

Okay, I have looked for a solution to my specific problem but have only found solutions for working on personal projects at work or on sick days - which is not lining up with my problem. I'm a junior ...
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Family emergency and I can't attend work tomorrow morning

My fiancée is pregnant. She lives 1500 km away from me, in another country, in a low-developed region where public transport is slow. I did not talk with her for 3 days. It was my mistake. She became ...
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How do I handle a potential work/personal life conflict as the manager of one of my friends professionally? [closed]

I have a rather peculiar situation. My wife and I have a couple who we are friends with, and recently the woman (let’s call her Jane) was hired in my company and works in my team (I’m her manager!). ...
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Can I warn my manager of both professional and personal issues with a potential job applicant?

The background About three years ago, I worked for a small retail company managing two staff in my team - let's call them Jim and Jane. Jane had been working for the company on a temporary contract ...
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Workmate displaying unpleasant behaviour after divorce [closed]

Coworker in my department has been through a divorce last year and unfortunately it changed his personality so much that he started acting like a complete a**hole (for the lack of a better word, sorry)...
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Should I tell my personal feelings to the director of a research lab where I participated in a study

Should I tell the director of a lab in a business school how I was personally affected about thier actions while participating in a study? I post this in "workplace" because even though I am a student ...
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Can your employer tell you you cannot go to HR after multiple harassment grievances and nothing being done? [closed]

Ann is being bullied and harassed at work. She has reported it to her managers multiple times and nothing has been done. This time, HR was contacted and involved. This has been an ongoing problem. ...
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Office manager repeatedly produces loud distracting noises (tics), what to do?

Working in a small co-work space, the current office manager constantly and repeatedly (every 10 seconds approximately) produces loud noises (mostly tics) when not engaging in a conversation. A few ...
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Apologizing for an accident that occurred outside the workplace

I have a colleague, let's call him Gary, who sits a few rows down from me and had an emotional support dog. A lot of people in the office question whether this is truly a real "emotional support dog" ...
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How should I deal with my team member who shows extreme jealousy?

How to deal with my colleague who is very good, polite and respectful with me personally but when we are together in a group or with whole team, he is the first one to criticize or embarrass me. We ...
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How to politely, but definitely refuse to “take somebody's side”

A little background: I am the technical team lead of a group of consultants (all in one group). One of our junior consultants had a quite complicated technical contact person at the customer side. ...
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Would employees get a raise just for the fact that soon they will have a baby? [closed]

Is there a "hidden-standard" where an employer is going to give an employee a raise just for the fact that this employee is expecting a new family member soon (will give birth) and will have more ...
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I'm a software engineer with no marketable skills [closed]

I graduated in ECE (Electric-computer engineering) with an emphasis in logic design and digital design. Straight out of undergrad I took an EDA (Electronic design automation) software job for a ...
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Saw a dead person on the way to work [closed]

On the way to work today, I saw a dead person at a train station where my train stopped. This has affected me more than I expected. I am shaking and trying to hold my tears while trying to write code ...
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Do I have to update my boss on the personal reasons that led to a past leave of absence? [closed]

I had taken a leave of absence from work last year due to a bad break up with my partner. I had caught him cheating on me for a quite long period of time. My mind was really out of focus and my heart ...
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How do I manage the feeling of being incompetent? [closed]

I know this will come off really immature, given that I am 30 years old. I joined a university as a PostDoc after completing my PhD 6 months ago. I am yet to publish anything after joining here. I was ...
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Project Manager always disturbs me when I'm busy doing something

I'm a web developer and recently I get upset and my head hurts every time our project manager PM's me through our slack channel and will ask me to prioritize a task first. I can do urgent revisions. ...
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How to tell my boss about a personal mourning? (Should I?) [duplicate]

Death of a relative, break up... Sometimes personal things such as these occurs. I think that personal life should be kept away from work. But sometimes, since we are human beings such events do ...
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Is information about caring for my family TMI in a website bio?

The bio on my website currently has the sentence I currently stay home to provide and coordinate care for my son, an awesome and spirited 10yo, as well as keep busy with personal and community ...
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How to deal with a huge workplace mistake? [closed]

So, I asked for time off a little over a month ago for the Friday after Thanksgiving and I was under the impression that my boss said he would cover my shift. Yesterday, I texted him to remind him ...
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Do employers share do-not-hire/background-check blacklists? [closed]

I applied for a technical job at a small satellite office in Canada for a very large US company. The overall interview process went great, I felt, but I did not get the job, leaving my frustated, ...
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My superiors (directors of company) are actually targeting me twice into a dilemma that I will need to resign [closed]

I am actually in a very bad situation, I will try to explain as clearly as possible. I started my internship at this startup company and then following up as a permanent staff last year. I am ...
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Being interviewed by someone who you previously interviewed and rejected [closed]

I had an interview today for a job at a different company. It's the first round of interviewing, I have yet to actually meet the hiring manager, but I will have 5 interviews with individuals that ...
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Ramifications of not inviting a teammate I don't like to my personal function

I'm a female employee, and I have a baby shower coming up next week. I wish to invite my colleagues to the party. But there is one guy in my team I don't like, because he used to keep staring at me. ...
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Extending holidays after bad news [closed]

I need an advice. I've received the bad news that my father has lost his job while I was in Italy for holidays. He hasn't told me yet, I know as my step-mother told me so, knowing that he wouldn't ...
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How can I deal with a team member who I personally cannot stand [closed]

I'm currently a project manager. I've been promoted this year, however I've been working as one for the last year. Usually I try to keep a close relation with the team members. We go for lunch ...
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Pressure and uncomfortability as an intern [closed]

I have been working for 8 months as an software developer intern in a small startup, my first job after graduating from Uni. I would say I had a rough start since I didn't find a good motivation the ...
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An HR Manager has proposed a private ‘interview practice session’ with me

I’ve had a few job interviews with a company, and the last one is coming soon. During the interviews, I was interviewed by an HR manager, among others. Yesterday, via her private e-mail address, she ...
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Looking for a position in specific countries for private reasons - how far should I go in explaining?

I am currently a foreign student (master degree) in Japan. I’ve already had 3-4 meetings and interviews with a major company. They need someone for a job related to international relations that would ...
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Request to send personal information to Google

Well, my company is asking for very personal information to be filled in Google forms, to update the collaborators personal data. Things like Social Security number, Address, Citizen's number, and so ...
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How to address why my job search is narrow geographically

My resume will clearly show that I have had jobs in four U.S. states and one other country. In other words, at least prior to now, when it comes to finding a nice job, I have not been concerned with ...
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What degree of specificity should recruiters receive when dealing with an exigent family matter?

I'm currently looking for a job, but due to extensive and exigent family matters, I've not really had the time or focus on requests by hiring managers, or really follow up on leads. Worse, I don't ...
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Should I tell my boss that I'm stopping a medication that affects my mood? [duplicate]

I've been taking sertraline for about 3 years, and this year I, with the supervision of my psychiatrist, decided to stop taking it by reducing the dosage slowly. Some of the common symptoms of ...
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Left the previous job because of family issue

I am Taiwanese, I've stayed and worked about 10 years in the US, and decided to comeback my country this summer. Frankly, the reason I decided to come back to Taiwan is that I wasn't happy with my ...
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How to handle a highly productive employee but who reacts extremely emotionally to code reviews?

I currently work with a smaller environment as a manager of a team. Everyone on the team is very talented and gets things done, but we have someone who is far above anyone I have ever met in my 40 ...
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Supervisor slow to give me new responsibilities after my father passed away

A year and a half ago I graduated college with a degree in EE and started working at a big company in my home town. At the time, my father was terminally ill with cancer (which was a large factor in ...
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Is it appropriate to invite my ex boss for dinner

Before I left work, my ex boss invited me eat dinner with him. I will be leaving the country soon, and I am planning to invite him to dinner as a gesture of thanks and to say goodbye. However, he is ...
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Taking on additional responsibility during difficult times

Tonight my boss wants me to go to a networking event, he is aware that I have recently broken up with my GF and I have told him today that I don't feel as though I am in the frame of mind to network ...
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Should I mention personal problems, that could affect my work, to my boss? [duplicate]

In the middle of a relationship crisis, GF is thinking about ending our relationship, and all signs are pointing to it happening. I am still performing at work, but generally I am becoming very ...
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Staying longer for a business trip [closed]

I work in Europe for a startup, but my company has also an office in the US. So last Friday the director asked me if I wanted to go to the US for one week in order to finalize project X (with an ...
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Should I be concerned about my boss' personal problems?

My boss' wife is complaining about his start up. She has been telling him that it is not working. Today, my co worker stumbled on an email where his wife was writing an email to somebody letting ...
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Do I send relative's resume to recruiters when I don't exactly support the candidate's track record?

My sister's husband is looking for a job. He has a good track record while he's holding a job, but he cannot hold a job for too long. I will avoid going too deep into issues, probably because I ...
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Colleague refusing to justify decisions for reasons unknown [closed]

My company hired a remote freelancer to do some work (let's call him Joe). Joe's great at doing so, really quick and at a fair price. He's given us documentation about the process he followed, and is ...