Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.
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How do I deal with an unreliable employer?
I am currently in the process of getting a job at a small company. I have known the owners of the company for a while, and they have expressed interest in hiring me.
My problem is that they are ...
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Is it ok to ask your employer for English lessons?
I have recently moved to an English speaking country and started working at a software company some months ago.
We are at that time of the year (apparently, since it's my first time) where we provide ...
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Is it fine to quit after company spends for future business trip?
Me and my fiance are in the same team under same manager. The manager and the rest of the team is unaware of this. We plan to tell them 2 months before our marriage. We are not sure what happens after ...
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Ex colleague wants me to introduce them to my contact, we are in the same job pool
An ex-colleague has asked me to introduce them to a contact of mine. I would normally do so without hesitation, but we are currently looking for the same kind of job. I was even planning on talking to ...
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How to tell boss about romantic relationship with coworker
I recently started a romantic relationship with one of my coworkers. How do I best inform my boss about the situation?
Background:
Our relationship has been growing for ~2 months now, we're both ...
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4answers
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How to respectfully flirt with an intern? [closed]
I'm a project leader in a small (a few dozens employees) Spanish IT company.
In one of my projects there is a 22yo female intern (I'm a 29yo male) who I'd like to flirt with.
I noticed my attraction ...
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3answers
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My boss is leaving the company. Is it okay to ask him for a LinkedIn recommendation?
I work for a fast-growing startup and I just found out that my direct manager (leading a team of ~25 people) will be leaving the company. I'm fairly confident that he's leaving because of the ...
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Why is it considered bad to “breach the line between private and professional interactions”
In an answer to the recent question Is it inappropriate to help an employee outside of work? It states that "you shouldn't breach the line between private and professional interaction"
Vaguely ...
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Is it unprofessional to car share?
To save some money, my colleague and I decided to start car sharing to and from work. Our workplace operates a flexible working policy between 7 and 7 and we often come in early and leave early to ...
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3answers
640 views
How do I deal with a coworker who offloads his work and personal tasks onto other coworkers? [duplicate]
I have a coworker that has no problems with offloading his work or even private things on other coworkers. He does not do this with me, since I have rebuffed him once, but he does this with a ...
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How to come out gay without jeopardising relationships with colleagues?
I have a friend who is openly gay, but the team does not know. The team refers to his partner as his girlfriend. This has been going on for a while, and it is now too awkward to go back and disclose ...
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620 views
How do I improve my relationship with difficult/pretentious colleagues?
I'm a programmer at a smaller company and I enjoy the responsibility and the freedom that this brings. It also mean that the professional relationships you have inside the company are more important.
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3answers
399 views
How to handle interpersonal issues with my supervisor at work? [closed]
I have been working at my job for over a year now and I have some minor but extremely annoying interpersonal issues with my boss. He's British and I'm Canadian but we are living in Ireland. I'm a ...
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1answer
227 views
Part- time worker rejected for full-time position
The company that I work at has few full time employees but a large number of part-timers, mostly all who work elsewhere full-time.
I have a very good friend that has worked part time in my ...
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7answers
23k views
Senior colleague feels threatened by me, an intern
I've been living a quite bizarre and pretty depressing situation the last few months. I'm currently interning as a financial engineer, and to make it short and blunt and without being too arrogant, ...
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3answers
668 views
Good strategies to treat unfairness at work
My team are my 2 peers and our boss. The projects of my two peers have been experiencing some extreme issues in the last months.
Colleague 1's project - a priority project - is delayed by (at least) ...
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9answers
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How to convince new employee to stop trying to change our office culture on profanity
Programmers and clients alike will use the F word very casually in my office (IT in rural Australia). It's not an insult but only acts as a qualifier to how difficult (or easy) the situation or ...
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9answers
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How to fix a weird relationship at work
I got hired around 6 months ago. But I started to have a difficult relationship with my mentor from the first weeks.
He got interested in me and tried to get close to me and I rejected him for two ...
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4answers
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Unprofessional, immature, credibility killing co-worker [closed]
I love my job. I work with at risk youth during the school year; teaching soft skills and preparing students for their next steps in life
During the summer myself and my two colleagues facilitate an ...
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3answers
541 views
Being a significant other at a company event, of a company I resigned from
After a year of working, I left for a higher position in a different field for another company. I gave my two week notice and the company overall understood my resignation since I wasn’t working in ...
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8answers
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High performing employee broke up with his girlfriend and it seems to be affecting his performance
One of my best employees has recently broken up with his girlfriend (3 weeks ago) and it's now starting to affect his work performance.
I have tried to ask him what is wrong but he does not want to ...
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What to do when someone is pushing to take control of a hobby project?
I'm working on a hobby project for a game - it's in an alpha state right now and I have users using it.
For the past 9 months I have been the sole developer, but now I found someone who was willing ...
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5answers
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What to do when PM estimates hours without developer input?
I'm a web developer, and I'm doing back-end and front-end to a project of the company I'm currently working at. I have a PM (Project Manager) for this project and I do report to him every day.
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1answer
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Coworker insulted me through text after asked about a task he failed to complete for me [closed]
What should I do in this situation. I'm not sure what triggered him to do this, but it boils down to:
He is responsible for maintaining the computer I work on among many other things. For 2 weeks he ...
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3answers
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Is it appropriate to share photos of life events with co-workers? [closed]
I noticed some people send photos of their new baby. Is it okay to also send photos of a new house? An email blast to everyone in the company you know (all of them BCCed).
If it is okay to share ...
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2answers
543 views
How do I refuse overly close personal friendships with co-workers without being rude?
I work in a research laboratory and my co-workers expect me to strike very close personal friendships with them that I find unhealthy - for example, they goof around a lot, playfully hit each other, ...
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1answer
344 views
How to manage lazy coworker? [duplicate]
I have a coworker in my workplace which is a web-developer. He is not so interested in his job and in case of problems in his daily tasks, he stops his job somehow and waits till the problem resolves.
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2answers
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How do I check whether my job pays out unused PST?
I get paid by the hour. I leave in two weeks, and have around 3+ days of paid sick time accumulated. I want to use this, of course, but I also don't want to leave my employer hanging without someone ...
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3answers
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How to deal with a manager that is (unintentionally) wasting my time and makes me feel very uncomfortable?
Some time ago a manager from another department organized a meeting to discuss about tech stack to use for rewriting a small internal application. He gathered more tech oriented persons from various ...
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2answers
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How to overcome corporate inertia [duplicate]
The situation:
I work on a small company in Brazil, that is not focused on development. I can’t really find a way to describe my position, but I work as a mix of infrastructure, network and database ...
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4answers
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How can I maintain my friendship with a person if they were to become my boss?
I am a software developer and have been working at my current company for nearly three years. A very close friend of mine, Bob, is also a software developer at another company, but in a more senior/...
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My colleague has spread fake rumors about me. How can I deal with this professionally? [duplicate]
One of my colleague was insulting me, making fun of me for no reason. In anger, I snubbed him and told him to get lost. From that day we have not talked. Its been 3 years now. I do not desire to ...
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3answers
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Senior developer doesn't trust my work
I'm a junior developer working in a small team of about 10-12 core developer and some technical people. I've been working with this team for about three years. We're all pretty close and spend a lot ...
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4answers
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Another team at my company is being secretive (or just uncommunicative) about work that we should be collaborating on, how can I get them to open up?
I work as part of a tech team team that handles database applications for various business statistics. Our database platform is somewhat dated, but the business application that runs on it uses ...
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1answer
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How to communicate differences in work practices without causing the other party to become defensive
In our group, there are two teams. While the group leader is the common official manager, each of our teams has a team lead, dealing with the daily managing of tasks. The teams have a very different ...
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Co-worker knows a small fact about me and blowing it out of proportion
Background
I work on a small team of junior developers. We have meetings 2-3 times a week. This was my first real job after school and I struggled to find work, because I didn't have years of ...
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How to deal with co-workers that hate each other
I am the sole R&D person in a pretty outdated company. I do a very broad set of engineering tasks in order to improve QC, from failure analysis to automatic systems development.
In order to ...
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4answers
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Asked to recruit/spam my LinkedIn contacts
A recruiter at my company, one of the big SV software companies, has asked me to collect a list of contacts from LinkedIn to send recruitment emails to. I consider this really spammy, and an abuse of ...
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2answers
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Is it okay for a secretary to not greet everyone in the morning when there are around 100 people in the office?
If one is an underling and notice that the secretary only greets those with some responsibility and otherwise never replies to someone who says "Good morning" anyway every day, do you think that ...
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3answers
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Should I queue up for the bus when not everyone else does? [closed]
At my job there is one bus back to where I live, which is around 50 minutes drive away. I don't have a car, and getting this bus is the only way I can get back to where I am living without spending ...
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1answer
615 views
Previously supported coworker promotion, now don't want to
I am a software engineer and our company hands out promotions around performance review time.
Previously I endorsed a coworker without having worked closely with them, having only a familiarity with ...
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3answers
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Possibly overheard that my manager will be replaced, should I notify him? [duplicate]
It is quite clear my team manager and the general manager don't go along that well. The general manager thinks he is unfit and would like someone he knows well on the position. However the team ...
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Should I tell a friend that I'm disappointed in the way he's running his business which hired me?
This is a long, complex situation, and I'm not sure how to proceed.
A bit of backstory, I made friends with a guy that I work with. He bails more often than not on hanging out, which is irritating ...
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4answers
3k views
Coming into the office early and leaving early [duplicate]
It was brought to my attention (from part of my boss) that my coworkers have told him that they've noticed I've been leaving 10 minutes early. I leave early because I have an hour commute to work - if ...
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2answers
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How to politely let new employee know he's going too far?
A new intern started working here about two weeks ago. He sits right next to me.
The things is that he is too intrusive. Whenever I am talking with other colleagues from my desk he turns to one of us ...
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A coworker is asking me to stop sharing links from Bloomberg because he thinks it risks our business. Is he right?
I work in a tech company and we recently joined an incubator along with many other companies. We use slack for communication purposes.
I shared a link from an article in Bloomberg's website in the #...
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2answers
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Is it recommended that my GF mentions she knows me in her application process?
My girlfriend is going to apply to a position at the company where I work, because of genuine reasons (she fits certainly well in the position). She knows some stuffs about the company business ...
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1answer
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I find it hard to make friends at work after a betrayal by a close friend [closed]
I did not trust people easily until the last year. So, I decided to make new friends and not to judge them in the early days. I made this new friend who became close to me in no time. We shared ...
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25k views
A friend/coworker and his wife are employed at the same company. He found out she's cheating. What to do?
Full context: I've been at my job for about a year and have formed close bonds with a number of people, including my coworker "Josh". A new position opened up recently that Josh's spouse, "Jessica", ...
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4answers
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Relationship policy change after company acquisition
I have a question - but the need a bit of background. I apologize if I'm vague in some areas, but I can't give too much info about the company itself due to non-disclosure agreements.
I have worked ...
