Questions tagged [relationships]
Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.
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Romantically rejected a more senior coworker; how can I protect myself?
A coworker recently asked me out in a romantic way and I turned them down. I don't work directly with this person, or report to them. They're not on my team. They are older and more senior. I don't ...
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My co-worker aggressively tries to supervise me. Nobody appointed him. What are my options? [duplicate]
The co-worker who works for longer in the company is aggressively trying to supervise me. He constantly attempts to make decisions for me, requires to redo the completed tasks, insists on using ...
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How to reclaim personal item I've lent to the office without burning bridges?
We had a company issued service mobile phone to be used for emergencies and office related texts and calls. 5 months ago our supervisor's personal mobile phone got damaged and he decided to use the ...
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Is it appropriate to ask management to give me an evaluation?
I've been working at my new Software Development job for almost four months now. I've been doing the best I can, and also working hard to go above and beyond every now and then. However, I'd like to ...
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Colleagues with less experience being promoted ahead
My (previous) colleague feels as though she has been passed up for multiple promotions. Her junior colleagues are being promoted, but she is not.
What advice or guidance can I offer her?
First thing ...
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Phrasing an apology/ correcting possible misunderstanding
A couple of weeks ago I met a highly respected person in my field working in a C-suite position, during the smoking time outside, we chatted a bit, and he was interested in what do I have to offer, so ...
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Would it be acceptable like if you don't want to wear a t-shirt for a team video shoot in a large organization for some reasons? [closed]
The full details, if you want to read, are written under this question
In short, due to privacy reasons, possible reactions by people who know me, my lifestyle, my background, my shape and my ...
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I got a new job, and a friend turned hostile because of it. How to manage friendships professional network? [closed]
A friend of mine used to be a few steps ahead of my in his career. I was very happy for him, and I saw him as a trustworthy person and a future leader.
He got into senior management in some startup, ...
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How to protect myself in a departmental conflict?
I apologise if my language is a little unclear on this question, I've changed a few details to make the situation more generic.
I'm a Software Widget Expert for department A at a medium/large ...
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4answers
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Should I point out my colleague's mistakes in this situation? [duplicate]
Last week I was assigned a project by our manager. I started it and worked on it in between some priority work which came up. The project was stuck. So our manager and I decided to forward the ...
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10answers
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Dating a Former Employee
I'm a senior, C level executive at a relatively small company (~75 employees). A while ago, I became very close to a direct report. We began spending more time together outside of work; first in ...
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Is it wise to reveal that I have started dating an intern with my company?
I have a question regarding what should I do if I have a relationship with a colleague that just got hired. The 'story' so far is this:
I've been working at this company for 3 years. It is a small one,...
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4answers
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How do I handle a potential work/personal life conflict as the manager of one of my friends professionally? [closed]
I have a rather peculiar situation.
My wife and I have a couple who we are friends with, and recently the woman (let’s call her Jane) was hired in my company and works in my team (I’m her manager!). ...
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4answers
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My boss doesn't want me to have a side project [closed]
It all started back in February when I decided to start an e-commerce store.
When my boss learned about it, he started talking less and less to me. Some days he doesn't talk to me at all, like he ...
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My co-workers do not invite me regulary to coffee, after the work
After work, my co-workers usually go to grab a coffee or some drinks. They all go together, and I was invited only a couple of times. I have been employed there for a couple of months now. I would ...
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Friend wants my recommendation but I don't want to give it to him
I met my friend in my first year of college (Computer Science), so I can tell that I know how well he works and how knowledgeable he is.
He's a good friend, we chat occasionally, meet up to have ...
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10answers
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Do I need to be arrogant to get ahead? [closed]
A colleague of mine is very good at PR and branding himself and does this by communicating to the whole world his successes no matter how small they are. He does this in a very arrogant way, by making ...
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3answers
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Handling the aftermath of traffic accident with colleague
A bit of context:
I had about four months ago a motorbike accident with a car who was at fault (cut me off).
During the time I was waiting for the emergency services to arrive and take care of me, I ...
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Shall I mention to my future employer that I am leaving my current company because I am dating my coworker?
I am working at a company that has less than 100 people for 6 months. I started dating one of my coworker in my team for a few months. I decided to leave my current position because she feels it is ...
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How to handle senior member of my organization who seems to think I'm not very smart after conversations at team lunches
Background: I am a junior developer at a large software company. The person in question is a senior PM who reports to my skip-level manager (my manager's manager). My manager has worked with the ...
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1answer
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Reminding someone to send me their resume?
My company is looking to hire and I told a former classmate (I'll call him Jake) about it since I feel he is qualified. He sounded interested in the position (it would be in a different department ...
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I come off as an expert in writing, but In person, nobody takes me seriously, and it is affecting my career, how can I fix this?
I have considerable knowledge in the business and technology of my field (supply chain and planning), from 7 years experience and from having a Ph.D in a closely related field. Although my colleagues ...
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4answers
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My team mate is talking trash about me behind my back with my manager
I am leading a team of 5 and there is 1 manager who is above/supervising us.
One of my team-mates I get along well with; she behaves well and I discuss personal stuff and share jokes with her. ...
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What are the mainly used policies to evaluated interns/juniors besides personal interactions and/or interests?
Context
I’m a senior team leader and technical project coordinator at a medium size company (650 employees). The company was public until 9 or 10 years ago, when it was transformed in a (formally) ...
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When should I tell my boss that the person I recommended for a job is my partner?
TL;DR:
My currently-unemployed partner is looking for a job. I recommended them for a position in my company.
I discovered afterwards that they would work in my department should they get the ...
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7answers
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Cultural favouritism in the workplace
This is in relation to the software industry in Australia.
I am noticing a repeated and consistent attitude stemming from Indians towards those of non-Indian background in the industry.
Examples:
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17answers
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Is it inappropriate to invite all my coworkers except for one person to a private event?
I work in a fairly small department, I have 8 coworkers. 7 of them are great, we're good friends, and I love spending time with them - we hang out outside of work often, but usually in groups of 3-4. ...
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3answers
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Drunkenly said something offensive to a coworker
So. Christmas dinner office party. Drank way too much too fast. Told a coworker he reminded me of a cow, but I didn't mean anything bad by it. He has this sort of "cow looking at the cars from behind ...
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Management Relationship [closed]
I am in need of some perspective.
Background
My boss and I have a good relationship overall.
She has told me several times that she is very good at reading people and situations.
Several people ...
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2answers
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How to foster relationships with managers that are geographically distributed
I'm a manager of managers - and I have a counterpart on the other side of the ocean with ~9 hours offset.
I'm wondering how I can foster the relationship between those managers that are located here ...
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4answers
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Colleague left me with his unfinished work [closed]
TL;DR: By the end of the day, a colleague of mine told the high level boss that she must go home and that I can handle the task by myself. While the task had nothing to do with me except for her ...
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Senior colleagues are deriding my work
Let me give you some context before. I'm working in a very well-known international company as a DevOps Engineer with 6 months of experience. I feel so grateful and lucky to develop my skills and ...
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6answers
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Hiring Significant Others
I work for a very small company: 4 employees including myself. We recently let go of our warehouse person. My customer service mentioned to me her boyfriend was unemployed and still looking for work. ...
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Why isn't everyone as excited as I am to work at my company? [closed]
I work at one of the most (if not the most) well-regarded companies on the planet, in terms of technical reputation as well as workplace benefits.
Orientation was great, and I was fully bought into ...
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12answers
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Dealing with attraction to my boss [closed]
I'm a recent college grad who finally got my first real programming job. For better or for worse, I am extremely attracted to my boss and have quickly developed feelings for her. This seemed awesome ...
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Coworker reviewing code too late in process
Over the summer I changed jobs from a big company as a senior engineer to a way smaller company as a principal engineer. Now I oversee about 20 jr-to-mid-level engineers working on 3 different ...
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A recruiter said they may be able to represent me to a company, but a different recruiter has approached me first [duplicate]
Recently, a recruiter approached me for a role which turned out to not be the right fit for me. They said they had a few more roles coming up that they would "keep me on the cards for". One of these ...
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I am a personal assistant for a blind person and not sure how to deal with this problem [closed]
I work as a personal assistant for an older blind person, I will call her KK. This is a new job for me. She is very extroverted and has a lot of friends. The thing is that her male friends are all ...
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How can I react professionally to sarcasm by my manager?
My manager sometimes uses sarcasm. I do not know how to react to that.
An example from today:
Him: Did you implement this all alone?
Me: No, I used code found on the internet as a model.
...
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6answers
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How do I unfriend a co-worker?
TL;DR; I want to unfriend coworker for her overly attached behavior, but she is also a QA of some of the projects that I develop.
I was dragged into a group of 4 girls at work without me trying to ...
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Professional relationship with close friend, who may be acting illegally
It is not my main job, but as way to increase my knowledge in a different field, when I was asked by a close friend to assist him in his business of selling consumers products (he promised me some ...
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What should I do when coworker insults me [closed]
We have an online group to discuss stuff we work on.
There are multiple people in that group; those people are located in multiple countries.
I asked a question there.
A coworker (from remote location)...
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Can I be a reference for my girlfriend?
As stated I know the answer to the title is a hard no, but hear me out.
I started a side business setting up video game clubs for libraries and schools in my area while I was in college. Eventually ...
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My previous employer has asked me to fix a bug in code that I wrote for them
My previous employer wants me to fix a bug in the code I wrote while I was working for them. Should I provide assistance to them—on contract (paid) or for free—despite the fact I am no longer working ...
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How do I deal with an unreliable employer?
I am currently in the process of getting a job at a small company. I have known the owners of the company for a while, and they have expressed interest in hiring me.
My problem is that they are ...
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Is it ok to ask your employer for English lessons?
I have recently moved to an English speaking country and started working at a software company some months ago.
We are at that time of the year (apparently, since it's my first time) where we provide ...
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2answers
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Is it fine to quit after company spends for future business trip?
Me and my fiance are in the same team under same manager. The manager and the rest of the team is unaware of this. We plan to tell them 2 months before our marriage. We are not sure what happens after ...
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3answers
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Ex colleague wants me to introduce them to my contact, we are in the same job pool
An ex-colleague has asked me to introduce them to a contact of mine. I would normally do so without hesitation, but we are currently looking for the same kind of job. I was even planning on talking to ...
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4answers
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How to tell boss about romantic relationship with coworker
I recently started a romantic relationship with one of my coworkers. How do I best inform my boss about the situation?
Background:
Our relationship has been growing for ~2 months now, we're both ...
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How to respectfully flirt with an intern? [closed]
I'm a project leader in a small (a few dozens employees) Spanish IT company.
In one of my projects there is a 22yo female intern (I'm a 29yo male) who I'd like to flirt with.
I noticed my attraction ...
