Questions tagged [relationships]
Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.
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How do I deal with a co-worker that keeps making the same jokes, and same remarks?
Basically, I work in a small company that usually will have 4-5 fulltime workers at a time in the office. There are separate rooms in the office, and I share a room with a co-worker who I will call '...
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Strange line manager/colleague behaviour how to react?
It happened few weeks ago I was discussing with a colleague (name him Paul) about work, the conversation was about plans for a project we are both involved in. Paul was extremely confused and worried ...
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Does the general advice to not date coworkers also apply to employees of companies your company does business with?
I understand that usually, it's not considered a good idea to date coworkers, because it can lead to personal problems spilling over into the office and negatively affecting the company.
My question ...
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Found a co-worker on a dating website. How do I approach them?
I found a co-worker on a dating site. I've seen her around before but have never spoken and never really had any interest.
However, after reading her profile, I am interested in pursuit, but am not ...
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How to get along with a manager who loads the dice?
Our manager thinks other employees are competitors for his current position. He loads the dice against his subordinates. We're afraid to do our best in work. On the other hand, one whose performance ...
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Can I press charges if a coworker says he wishes my death? [closed]
I have a toxic coworker.
A few days ago, he said he had 2 types of wishes : good ones and bad ones. Among those bad ones is that he wants me to die
Can I press charges for such a statement ?
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How do I ask co-worker out on a date?
I have developed strong liking towards my co-worker for the past week since I met her and I cannot stop thinking about her. Although we only chat about work during work I want to ask her on a date. ...
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Recruiter knows I worked at competitor and that my father is a very relevant person is this market
So I am doing a recruitment process in a great company - Company A - which is a competitor from a former job I had for 4 years - Company B.
Company A and B are direct competitors, both premium and ...
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Convert a technical conflict into HR case
I have one conflict that is dressed as a technical issue which I believe is an actual HR issue. Involved in the technical conflict resolution are the project manager and the department lead.
But the ...
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Conflict with older employee
An older colleague, a woman with 30+ years of experience as a cobol developer has been escalating me every week for the last nearly 2 months. She finds different pretexts for the same issue again and ...
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What do I do when a newly-hired manager occasionally dispensed praise and accolades towards me?
I work as a programmer in the information technology area. A new employee was hired to be a manager of an adjacent department, where the department is a 'customer' of my work. They request various ...
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Is Singapore a power distant culture?
I live in Europe. I got opportunities to work in Singapore, but I'm worried about the Asian power distant cultures.
Here why:
Last time I was traveling to Germany for seminars, there was some ...
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What to do when I'm being blackmailed by an ex
I have a crazy ex, We have been together on & off for a few years before I finally managed to leave her and call it off for good, that was a couple of years ago.
She recently approached me (via ...
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Should I disclose to boss that I had a relationship in the past with a new hire?
My company is hiring one of my ex-flings. We were involved with each other for ~3 months, and broke up in mid 2018. On my part there are no feelings involved and working with him won't be a problem. I'...
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LinkedIn recommendations for some former colleagues but not all
At my previous place of work a lot of people had to leave, including me. We stay in touch. Of the people still working there some will probably have to look for new jobs soon.
A few of my former ...
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How to talk to people (to push them to do better)
I would like some advice/recommendations on how to talk to people to push them to do better. Not only so the team can work faster, maybe better, but so that everyone can "push" each other as well.
I'...
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How to do code reviews to people whose programming skills are weak?
I am a developer and I was recently promoted so I am doing significantly more code reviews now. Part of that includes doing code reviews on Github with people who are either not very competent or lack ...
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Company Christmas party coming soon, but I am new to the company and having panic attacks. How can I handle this?
I’m new to a role (started 4 weeks ago) and our work Christmas party is soon. Although I’ve spoken to most of the people I’m yet to be ‘in a group’ and the thought of going to a party where I’ll be on ...
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Reviewing old code database, how to start interacting with the dev team?
TL, DR: There was this software product being developed in my company, I needed to review a lot of the codebase. How do I talk to the development team?
The not-so-short version:
Due to several ...
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Relationship with former colleagues
Recently I have been receiving private messages from two former colleagues whom I worked closely with while was working as an intern at my previous workplace. The first guy was my supervisor, he ...
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How to handle Social Engineered relationships after Red Team engagements? [closed]
I'm learning to become a Red Teamer, which simulates attacks by adversaries from multiple angles: Digital/Cyber, Physical and Social. This questions focuses on the Social Engineering aspect of Red ...
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HR trying to sabotage my wife's work because we're married [closed]
TLDR;
My wife got a 1 month trial as a product manager and tester for a new product I'm directly designing and developing. HR hates the fact that we're married and is trying to seat her separate from ...
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Secular Holidays Conundrum
My coworkers are doing Halloween and Christmas at work, I'm a Messianic Jew, how do I avoid ruining my relationship with them?
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What to do if you are unintentionaly subject of favoritism?
I have the following situation at work. I am part of a team with people having different background age-wise and business wise. Since the beginning of the project It happened so that I took the role ...
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How to avoid a proposed role by an HR but still be considered for another?
I am looking for a job and I've been contacting a senior manager of a firm directly.
He is quite interested by my profile and forwarded my resume to his HR and the person right below him that covers ...
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Concerning a relationship in the team [closed]
This is about a situation that isn't strictly an employed workplace, but is similar. I am on project team at a university. It is supposedly a 'professional environment', though as we are all ...
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Advice on defusing a tense situation after disrespectful behaviour from a colleague [closed]
This happened to me today and I'm still trying to digest it. To give you some context, I'm working on IT at a company with several branches across Europe. I don't hold any position of responsibility ...
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How can I learn to navigate office politics?
I've had several jobs post-graduation already and whereas I always exceed expectations when it comes to my performance (i.e. shown expertise/ skills in the field I'm active in), I feel I could work on ...
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Asking project manager to put me in another project
Sorry for my english first. I am a programmer and I am working in a big outsourcing company, that provides programmers for other companies. Right now I am in a really bad project without any prospects ...
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How to deal with feeling left out at work? [closed]
I feel really lonely at work. At times I really just feel like my coworkers are only interacting with me because they have to.
Here's the situation:
I don't have any friends. So I think that might ...
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Crush on Cubicle neighbor from different team; how should I proceed? [closed]
I have a crush on a girl same age as me whose cubicle literally shares the same wall as mine. She is in a different team. For a couple of weeks now, we have never spoken a single word, despite having ...
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Romantically rejected a more senior coworker; how can I protect myself?
A coworker recently asked me out in a romantic way and I turned them down. I don't work directly with this person, or report to them. They're not on my team. They are older and more senior. I don't ...
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My co-worker aggressively tries to supervise me. Nobody appointed him. What are my options? [duplicate]
The co-worker who works for longer in the company is aggressively trying to supervise me. He constantly attempts to make decisions for me, requires to redo the completed tasks, insists on using ...
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How to reclaim personal item I've lent to the office without burning bridges?
We had a company issued service mobile phone to be used for emergencies and office related texts and calls. 5 months ago our supervisor's personal mobile phone got damaged and he decided to use the ...
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Is it appropriate to ask management to give me an evaluation?
I've been working at my new Software Development job for almost four months now. I've been doing the best I can, and also working hard to go above and beyond every now and then. However, I'd like to ...
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Colleagues with less experience being promoted ahead
My (previous) colleague feels as though she has been passed up for multiple promotions. Her junior colleagues are being promoted, but she is not.
What advice or guidance can I offer her?
First thing ...
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Phrasing an apology/ correcting possible misunderstanding
A couple of weeks ago I met a highly respected person in my field working in a C-suite position, during the smoking time outside, we chatted a bit, and he was interested in what do I have to offer, so ...
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Would it be acceptable like if you don't want to wear a t-shirt for a team video shoot in a large organization for some reasons? [closed]
The full details, if you want to read, are written under this question
In short, due to privacy reasons, possible reactions by people who know me, my lifestyle, my background, my shape and my ...
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I got a new job, and a friend turned hostile because of it. How to manage friendships professional network? [closed]
A friend of mine used to be a few steps ahead of my in his career. I was very happy for him, and I saw him as a trustworthy person and a future leader.
He got into senior management in some startup, ...
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How to protect myself in a departmental conflict?
I apologise if my language is a little unclear on this question, I've changed a few details to make the situation more generic.
I'm a Software Widget Expert for department A at a medium/large ...
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Should I point out my colleague's mistakes in this situation? [duplicate]
Last week I was assigned a project by our manager. I started it and worked on it in between some priority work which came up. The project was stuck. So our manager and I decided to forward the ...
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Dating a Former Employee
I'm a senior, C level executive at a relatively small company (~75 employees). A while ago, I became very close to a direct report. We began spending more time together outside of work; first in ...
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Is it wise to reveal that I have started dating an intern with my company?
I have a question regarding what should I do if I have a relationship with a colleague that just got hired. The 'story' so far is this:
I've been working at this company for 3 years. It is a small one,...
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How do I handle a potential work/personal life conflict as the manager of one of my friends professionally? [closed]
I have a rather peculiar situation.
My wife and I have a couple who we are friends with, and recently the woman (let’s call her Jane) was hired in my company and works in my team (I’m her manager!). ...
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My boss doesn't want me to have a side project [closed]
It all started back in February when I decided to start an e-commerce store.
When my boss learned about it, he started talking less and less to me. Some days he doesn't talk to me at all, like he ...
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My co-workers do not invite me regulary to coffee, after the work
After work, my co-workers usually go to grab a coffee or some drinks. They all go together, and I was invited only a couple of times. I have been employed there for a couple of months now. I would ...
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Friend wants my recommendation but I don't want to give it to him
I met my friend in my first year of college (Computer Science), so I can tell that I know how well he works and how knowledgeable he is.
He's a good friend, we chat occasionally, meet up to have ...
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Do I need to be arrogant to get ahead? [closed]
A colleague of mine is very good at PR and branding himself and does this by communicating to the whole world his successes no matter how small they are. He does this in a very arrogant way, by making ...
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Handling the aftermath of traffic accident with colleague
A bit of context:
I had about four months ago a motorbike accident with a car who was at fault (cut me off).
During the time I was waiting for the emergency services to arrive and take care of me, I ...
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Shall I mention to my future employer that I am leaving my current company because I am dating my coworker?
I am working at a company that has less than 100 people for 6 months. I started dating one of my coworker in my team for a few months. I decided to leave my current position because she feels it is ...
