Questions tagged [sexual-harassment]

Sexual harassment,as defined by EEOC, "It is unlawful to harass a person (an applicant or employee) because of that person’s sex." Harassment can include "sexual harassment" or unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature.

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Senior developer is discreetly remoting in to the computer and watching a coworker

I have a friend working as a software development intern. She mentioned to me that a senior developer, who works with her, was remoting into her virtual machine and discreetly watching her code the ...
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What to do if I have been accused of sexual misconduct?

I recently joined a company. Our training sessions are going on. During pair programming round, to try to make things go faster(as we are falling behind) when I tried to grab my pair's laptop(as we ...
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Any particular standards for what sexual harassment is in the USA? [closed]

I am currently looking for a job, and I am going to say that #MeToo has made me quite scared of just what might be called sexual harassment in an American workplace. I can also mention that I quit my ...
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How can I regain a professional atmosphere with someone who may have seen me misbehave? [closed]

I believe a female colleague saw me masturbating at work. I was in my office after hours with the door locked and blinds down, but I'm afraid the blinds had a crack. I am not an exhibitionist, and ...
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Sexual Harassment, helpless and scared

Disclaimer: I am not even posting this anonymous, because I really don't care anymore, and I want to be able to answer every single comment, and thank every single answer. Background Information: ...
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Owner of company practicing unethical behavior

I am currently working for a small company in which the owner of the agency is practicing unethical behavior such as flirting with employees and has been rumored to have flirted with clients as well. ...
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Male makes several female coworkers uncomfortable. What course of action to take?

A friend of mine works in the social sector in Germany. She works at a school for mentally disabled children. The school is loosely related to "Waldorf"-Philosophy, which apparently makes sexuality a ...
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Sexual harassment in the workplace and boss not doing anything

I'm 36, married with two kids aged 7 and 8, been with my wife since I was 21. For the past few weeks, I've been sexually harassed by a co-worker; he's been asking me about things like oral sex, ...
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Coworker is creating an uncomfortable, sexualized work environment for others. What are my responsibilities, and what should I do?

Short version I work in an academic lab in North America. One of the senior members of the lab has a pattern of inappropriate sexualized behavior and sexualized bullying with young women at work (...
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What resources exist, or how should a woman describe the details of sexual harassment (assault)?

A female friend of mine is telling me about a sexual harassment, which was in reality a sexual assault involving a coworker physically grabbing her backside with both hands, from upper hip with the ...
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Boss threatens employee with losing their job if they don't cooperate in forcing an ex-employee to drop charges

A friend's manager recently fired a coworker for no apparent reason, even though most people in the office considered the ex-coworker to be hard-working and efficient. After some time the ex-coworker ...
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Proven innocent of sexual harassment, but do not feel treated as such [closed]

I have been working as a software developer for a company for several months. It was a enjoyable job and everything was going great. About a month ago I was called into the director's office. My ...
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Subordinate doesn't want to report sexual misconduct to HR. How should a manager handle this?

I am a manager. I noticed a coworker who reports to me was looking very uncomfortable when another manager came to visit our office, and walked out of the room. Later, I asked her what was going on. ...
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Supervisor hit on my wife and exacted revenge on her after being turned down

My wife's male supervisor (engaged) hit on her, and asked her out many times. My wife refused him, and this supervisor stopped hitting on her, but turned everything to work harassment: far more ...
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How to handle this workplace harassment? [closed]

I am asking on behalf of my colleague. She started working with this company four years back. She is the finance manager. From day one she faced sexual harrasment from her boss. Little history, She ...
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Coworker saying explicit things on social media

I recently found my coworker's social media. He talks about me publicly saying sexually explicit things. He also mentions other women. I have never had an intimate relationship with him, the things he ...
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Can I choose not to disclose information such as names and details of past incidents to HR?

I had gone to a supervisor in the past to disclose that inappropriate behavior in the workplace was happening. I viewed this behavior as harassment, such as a coworker rating women's attractiveness, ...
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What can I do if the company owner dismisses my sexual harassment complaint?

A male coworker made sexual remarks about me. One of the managers saw and heard it but did not confront him. The company owner has a very violent temper, so out of fear, I did not report it. However,...
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Inappropriate touching by a colleague

I am 25 year-old female and I am facing a difficult situation with a male colleague. He has been inappropriately touching me and I am confused on how to deal with it. It all started one day as he was ...
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Incoming intern allegedly suspended from college for sexual harassment, should I do anything?

I was just told by an acquaintance that an incoming intern at my company was apparently suspended for college for sexual harassment, and has been on leave for the last semester and the current ...
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Sexual Harassment [closed]

Me and my coworker at McDonald's are friends and we have a special handshake that involves some kind of hug. We did it at the of today's shift and all of a sudden the managers start accusing us of ...
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I would like to know if I can report a sexually explicit blog to HR anonymously [closed]

My question is: how can one report this anonymously? I was planning on sending an email with links and screenshots of everything in this blog, perhaps even calling an HR representative and telling him/...
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What happens when HR is the source of harassment?

The news these days is rife with the #MeToo movement helping women find their voice against sexual harassment in their company or line of work. Everyone who has come out as an expert on the topic ...
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What can I do when my boss is forcing me to wear an inappropriate style of dress? [closed]

I am working as a private secretary (for CEO) of a small company in India. Even though the company is small, it is very well established with really good salaries and benefits. I usually go to ...
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How to handle a situation that passing hints which seems like Sexual Harassment?

One of my best friend (a girl) works on a small but very high facility company in south Indian country. She started work just before two weeks. There are around 20 employees in that company. 3 women ...
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Management resolved my sexual harassment complaint by moving my work location

I'm a 20 year old female, who recently started an internship. We work in an open office environment. One of the permanent employees, "Bob", who is about 40 to 50 years old, behaved inappropriately ...
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I got fired after rejecting sexual advances from the firm head. How can I explain this to interviewers?

I tried several jobs after my graduation to figure out what I want to do (I had two jobs and worked for 1 year for each firm) until I took my current job. It's exactly the job function I'm interested ...
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I may have witnessed my manager sexually harass an employee, should I report it? [closed]

My manager called an employee into his office today with myself (assistant manager) present to speak to her about not giving her number out to customers while working which he witnessed her do the ...
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My boss called me a derogatory word for a gay person. Does it matter if I'm not gay? [closed]

My boss has called me the "f" word multiple times over the course of this past year, along with other inappropriate remarks. I am not personally gay, but I found it offensive. Is this still sexual ...
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My boss' new hire, a friend of his, is making advances on me

I am a woman who has been working on a team of men for a number of years now. Up until recently I have been treated very well and with respect. I love my job and get on well with my boss and ...
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Talking to colleague with short skirt - how do I not come off as a creep?

So, today a colleague of mine from Marketing came by my desk to ask for some input with regards to technical information about our products. This is not our first conversation - the previous ones have ...
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Overly Revealing Attire and Behavior in the Classroom [closed]

I currently live in Japan and teach English conversation as a side job for additional income. I have a (very attractive) female student in one of my classes that likes to dress in rather revealing ...
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Anything to do (besides leave) when I was brought on board because of a crush?

I met an executive at a seminar; she emailed saying she was desperate for help putting together a website, and asked for 8 hours of my time at professional rate. She also wanted it to be all a (one-on-...
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How to deal with an overly flirtatious friend?

I have a friend who I consider lucky to have. Her kindness, intelligence and understanding helped me on many occasions since childhood. There is just one problem; she does not understand professional ...
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I messed up at the company party, got too drunk, flirted inappropriately. How do I make this better?

This Friday we had a company party. Drinks were free, we were at a night club, and people were dancing in a circle. I saw a lady there who actually ranks reasonably high in the company who had been ...
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Dealing with boss and his request to (male) employees including myself, how to handle this right? [closed]

I work for a small firm here in Minnesota; only 30 people work there. Well, 27 men, 3 women. I[m a 37 year old guy, married, to my wife, 34, with a 14 year old daughter in highschool. Our boss (a ...
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What do I with my boss who wants to have a relationship with me? [closed]

I am a fashion designer student, in the top five of my class. I also work part time at a place that has a good environment and good colleagues. It is just that there is a supervisor who wants to have ...
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Inappropriate comments by coworkers about new hire

Background: I work for a small software company, about 40 employees. My workplace is very male-dominated; only two employees outside of HR are female. I might as well mention that I'm a white male. ...
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Did I handle this sexual harassment in the correct way? [closed]

My previous post is here: Is my future mentor "harassing" me? I should've trusted my instinct and rejected his mentoring. However, after talking to my friend who was his mentee, I was ...
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Customer Service, Sexual Harassment by customer

I worked in retail, to be exact a cashier at an upscale grocery store, I had a situation where I was asked by a customer for help finding a product for him, I went to show him where the produce was on ...
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Can I refuse a customer service because they make me uncomfortable?

I work for a grocery store. In my store we have a man who comes in often and demands that people help him. This isn't that bad, but he is also very sexist and racist. He calls all the girls "Baby" ...
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Sexual harassment for a team member with no-evidence [closed]

My friend asked me for an advice, and indeed I don't know what to say to him or what to advise: He is managing a team of 10 members in one open area office (males and females). One of the female ...
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Looking at social media sites for a interview

I have just recently been brought in as a technical adviser for my company's interview process. After taking a look at a stack of resumes I decided to google the people I was going to be interviewing. ...
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Should I approach someone about their immodest attire?

While what may be deemed immodest by one person may be completely different to another, my question does not depend on what is 'immodesty'. Rather, if someone were to feel uncomfortable with what ...
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growing conflicts due to inappropriate/sexual jokes at work

We are a team of more than 20 people with only one woman, which is not unusual for most engineering teams. One of the guys in our team is well known for his "unique" sense of humor, which is not ...
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Preventing Vengeful Action After Complaint

I am the owner of a department store. One of our relatively new employees has claimed she was sexually assaulted by a manager while at a party not affiliated with the store. The case is underway, ...
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How can I tell a coworker to stop making awkward sexual jokes?

I am doing an internship with another worker of my age, early 20s, and he constantly makes non-funny sexual jokes. We are both male. How do I make him stop this unprofessional behaviour? I don't want ...
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How can I tell my boss the required uniform makes me personally uncomfortable?

I am a 17 year old boy. I have been working at a privately owned hotel in Cornwall, England for a month as a general assistant, mainly doing admin work. I really love the job and have fitted in well. ...
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Potential sexual harassment against my wife out of the workplace from my Boss, how to deal with it? [closed]

I work in a small company, 30 people max. My boss is cocky, a little older than me, has money, and is never afraid to show it by glitzy cars, toys, etc... I attempt to ignore this fact but my pay is ...
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Coworkers slapped me for jokingly suggesting them to kiss. How should I proceed when they deny the incident? [closed]

We arrived back at the office from a work party. A guy hugged a young woman, who was drunk. I joked about how drunk she was and joked that he should kiss her. She slapped me for this remark. Then the ...