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Questions tagged [stress]

Questions dealing with workplace-related stress.

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How to deal with mean/rude supervisor?

I’m 9 months or so into a new position as a junior software developer at a large enterprise corp. I feel that my manager/supervisor is often quite mean and rude to me and I believe as a result my ...
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HELP! I shared a confidential offer letter from job A with another company (job b). Will I lose my offer? [closed]

I recently was given a very generous offer from a well known company (Company A) that I was thrilled to get. At the same time, I was interviewing with job B, which was taking some time, even after ...
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What should I do about a coworker that is slacking off and in turn, creating more work and stress for myself? [duplicate]

EDIT: I had to edit this because I realized this situation is very specific and I am too paranoid thinking someone from work will see. Thank you kindly to those who read through my backstory and ...
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Is maintaining 10-15 projects simultaneously considered normal for a software engineer in a small company?

I am working in a very small software company (2 developers - I am a senior one and an intern, and 2 designers) for 3 years. The working environment of this company is good. I worked very happily for ...
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kind of nervous about my upcoming new programming job

After a 6 month long battle I finally got my very first front end developer internship, mainly will be working in react. I am not very experienced when it comes to front end development, besides ...
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I listed a wrong degree date on my background check. What will happen? [duplicate]

I had a pretty complicated college history. I transferred to a small college after spending a year gathering credits at two colleges in NYC. For the two colleges in NYC, I also took high school and ...
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When do I bring up unwelcome news?

In the past I tended to break unwelcome news when I was expecting attendees to be least stressed & most likely to have time to discuss about immediate concerns - staying clear of any special ...
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How to deal with the stress of being in the middle of the chain of command

I am a manager for a team of people. My boss sets my team very ambitious goals. To reach these goals my team needs to work a lot. He ignores and reacts badly to my arguments that it's too much. On ...
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Deal with toxic manager when you can't quit

At my first job, I had the bad luck to get a manager that was very toxic. This reached the point of him driving most of the team to quit. In the three months I was there, he drove 5 people to quit (...
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How to deal with an overworked boss? [closed]

Today I had an argument with my boss. We had some problems with our software. A configuration issue that was partly our fault, but also a problem with the support team that didn't deploy it correctly....
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Feeling overwhelmed at work

I was hired at this company about a month and a half ago as a junior programmer. I realize that they were looking for a senior dev, but felt like I could do the position with a little training based ...
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Workplace intimidation due to child's chronic health condition

My son has a chronic health condition. I was previously on intermittent FMLA but the company was recently acquired by a different company. When I approached HR about applying for FMLA, she asked if ...
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How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick?

I work as an administrator in a company with about 30 employees. In my position I have insight into many processes and I see many things my colleagues are doing wrong. This annoys me a lot and I ...
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I am extremely uncomfortable & fed up at work- do I quit without another job lined up? [closed]

EDIT: TL;DR I had 100+ problems with my current company, esp due to horrible & inappropriate management. For the sake of my well-being & mental health- I put in my 2 weeks. Thank you to ...
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How to handle a colleague that can't handle stress and makes poor decisions but can work hard

About 6 months ago we hired a developer that came straight from university. He's smart, works hard and seems to create quality code. The first couple of months I acted as a buffer between management ...
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Boss showing lack of respect towards colleague

I've been with my company for 9 months as a software developer. Several times I've witnessed the boss shouting at people, talking condescendingly or aggressively. So far, he's only pulled me aside to ...
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I have taken a new role and I am not enjoying it [closed]

I have recently started working for this large company mid of last year. I initially started as Accounts Payable officer. The bosses have recognised my work and they have offered me a position in a ...
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Any jobs that offer lots of vacation, and low stress? [closed]

I’m 45 years old and am looking to semi retire. I have enough money to retire but would like to stay somewhat busy and also have health insurance. The job pay doesn’t matter to me but what matters ...
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New manager is a jerk - is it OK to quit without providing a reason?

Imagine you work in a large company, and have had a great time. After quite some time working with said large company, the manager which hired you - an inspiring, warm, and empowering person - was ...
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Additional role at work highly stressful - keep for growth, or drop for not a good fit? [closed]

About 3 months ago, our teams restructured and I was offered the opportunity to be Scrum Master for the new team. The role pretty much meant 1) being in charge of scheduling the necessary ceremonies, ...
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stressed manager asking for more stress

So yesterday, new manager (of about 12 weeks) speaks to myself and two other colleagues. Says he's really stressed, and wasn't coping very well earlier in the morning. Then starts talking about our ...
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How to make a career shift to less stress with a Developer background? [closed]

How can I make a career shift from being a software developer to something less stressful without completely disregarding my background and skills? Some details: I've been working as a software ...
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I snapped on my boss, when and how should I apologize?

I recently snapped on my boss. He's the CEO of a small company. I regularly have scheduled meetings with another boss where you talk about work life, complaints, suggestions, etc. In the last year or ...
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Should I be talking to HR about my struggles with stress and depression at my workplace?

I've been really, really struggling with workplace related stress and depression. Recently, my companies HR department sent out a survey to check the mental health of the company. I decided to respond ...
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Hired as a one-man development team and struggling [closed]

Question Is it unrealistic to expect a single computer engineer, however bright, to bear the full responsibility of designing and launching a hardware/software product? Background I studied ...
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How do I have a conversation about stress with my manager when he is the cause?

This question follows from How to deal with mixed messages during the probation period? My situation is that my probation period has been extended. Moreover, my manager sends me mixed messages about ...
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Stressed at work with no obvious source

Note: I initially wrote this question anonymously, so that I simultaneously be honest while avoiding any potentially uncomfortable conversations if anyone I know were to stumble across it. At some ...
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Employer responses to signing off [closed]

I work in UK academia in a moderately senior position and am already planning to change jobs as I am overwhelmingly stressed at work. I have recently seen a doctor and they have recommended signing me ...
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Is it OK for HR to forward an email to your boss [closed]

Is it ok for an HR employee to forward your email to your boss about your stress from the job?
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How to handle an increasingly 'hostile' working environment? [closed]

I've been working at an international company for just over seven years and for most of the time it has been an okay place to work. About three years ago, I was among the first people to start on a ...
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How do I explain to my boss that a coworker isn't capable? [duplicate]

So I have this giant project that has a ticking deadline of a little under 2 months. My boss (IMO) over promised on the timeline to the client by a mile and let the client set the deadline rather than ...
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How to document sources of stress in the workplace? [closed]

I have a new boss who is causing much stress, not just to me, but to everyone in the workplace. I can see it in everyone's face every day. The boss stays in the office and does not talk to us much. He ...
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Should I inform my colleague/manager that I get sudden “bad days”?

Some context: I work as a programmer at a large sized company in the Netherlands. I have been working there for nearly 2 years and so far (this is also my first job), I haven't heard anything negative ...
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Always making small mistakes, how can I improve? [closed]

At the end of the day, I was pulled aside by my manager due to me making mistakes on a workbook that I send daily to a big boss in the company. The task isn't complicated, but I keep making various ...
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How to deal with sabotaging, possibly passive-aggressive, boss?

I work at an institution of higher education. One of our employee benefits is a generous tuition reimbursement if we take classes here. I decided to take advantage of this and go back to school here. ...
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How do deal with being demoralized by a toxic work environment? [closed]

I've been working at an office as a software developer for a few years, and the environment has been getting progressively worse. The boss of my department has been routinely calling department ...
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How to manage an “over worker”?

I have a direct report who is chronically stressed out and always seems on edge. I've tried to lighten his load as much as possible. I highly encourage time off, including just cutting out early or ...
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How to correctly go on medical leave and claim Employment Insurance due to workplace conditions

For the last year and a half I have been daily stressed at my current workplace, and I don't think I can take it anymore. It's just piled up from the amount of responsibilities I have, my boss's ...
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Let manager know I don't fault him for recruiter's mistakes and am sorry about being rude [closed]

My manager recently 'strongly suggested' I apply for a job opening in our team that was a pay grade and title higher, from senior mid level developer to Jr level senior developer. As my manager said, ...
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Dealing with an abusive boss

I am a 60 year old male with a great work record spanning over 30 years. Recently I have been assigned to a bully who has done nothing but make my life miserable. Accusing me of something I was not ...
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Supervisor forgets that I'm now part time and is assigning me too much work

I've been with my company for ~5 or so years at this point. I started as a summer intern for the first 3 or so years and became an hourly employee ~2 years ago. I work full time during the summer and ...
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Answering honestly on a performance review about how I felt my performance has been

I have a performance review coming up soon, and a few of the questions are about how I feel my personal work performance has been for the last year in different circumstances. I feel my work has ...
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Switch from full time to part time due to illness

Over the past few months I've gotten quite ill, and because I've developed quite bad anxiety. I love my job, though I find working full time is exhausting, and I feel that going part time will help ...
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How to deal being alone in my department?

Being the sole software developer in a start-up and also being a junior (no prior experience either) I'm in a position that is hard for me to do anything project related. After discussing with my ...
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Stressful fast paced training and not retaining information [closed]

I started a new job where the first 7 weeks are training. I’ve never had a job with such formal training where we have our own computer lab and listen to the instructor talk. I’m beginning to get very ...
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Can I take time off work with stress when not all of it is related to work alone? (London, UK) [closed]

Work is so busy for me right now and my manager is off sick for who knows how long, and I've not been told by anybody more senior what the situation is. They have told me that they will update me, but ...
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A junior developer making more than I do with 5 years of experience [closed]

I have recently unintentionally learnt that a colleague of mine who is just few months out of university is making more money than I do with my 5 years of experience, while both of us hold Software ...
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During a 5 year work tenure I developed a fear of flying. How should I handle this with my employer?

Even just thinking about flying creates anxiety, and I exhibit all the other symptoms that are associated with this.. 5 years ago, my life was less stressful however now I'm giving many more ...
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Workplace conficts - try to resolve or resign? [closed]

I have been facing few critical issues at my workplace just within three months of joining. The work environment has been so stressful and negative in both personal and professional aspects. I've ...
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I keep getting tasks that are above my skill level. How can I address this without coming accross as grossly incompetent?

I'm 6 months into a new job that uses a technology I've had no experience in (but am trying really hard to learn). Often I get tasks that I have real difficulty with. I flag this: I say that I've ...