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Questions dealing with workplace-related stress.

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stressed manager asking for more stress

So yesterday, new manager (of about 12 weeks) speaks to myself and two other colleagues. Says he's really stressed, and wasn't coping very well earlier in the morning. Then starts talking about our ...
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How to make a career shift to less stress with a Developer background? [closed]

How can I make a career shift from being a software developer to something less stressful without completely disregarding my background and skills? Some details: I've been working as a software ...
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3answers
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I snapped on my boss, when and how should I apologize?

I recently snapped on my boss. He's the CEO of a small company. I regularly have scheduled meetings with another boss where you talk about work life, complaints, suggestions, etc. In the last year or ...
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10answers
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Should I be talking to HR about my struggles with stress and depression at my workplace?

I've been really, really struggling with workplace related stress and depression. Recently, my companies HR department sent out a survey to check the mental health of the company. I decided to respond ...
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1answer
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Hired as a one-man development team and struggling [closed]

Question Is it unrealistic to expect a single computer engineer, however bright, to bear the full responsibility of designing and launching a hardware/software product? Background I studied ...
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How do I have a conversation about stress with my manager when he is the cause?

This question follows from How to deal with mixed messages during the probation period? My situation is that my probation period has been extended. Moreover, my manager sends me mixed messages about ...
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Stressed at work with no obvious source

Note: I initially wrote this question anonymously, so that I simultaneously be honest while avoiding any potentially uncomfortable conversations if anyone I know were to stumble across it. At some ...
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1answer
513 views

Employer responses to signing off [closed]

I work in UK academia in a moderately senior position and am already planning to change jobs as I am overwhelmingly stressed at work. I have recently seen a doctor and they have recommended signing me ...
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1answer
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Is it OK for HR to forward an email to your boss [closed]

Is it ok for an HR employee to forward your email to your boss about your stress from the job?
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1answer
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How to handle an increasingly 'hostile' working environment? [closed]

I've been working at an international company for just over seven years and for most of the time it has been an okay place to work. About three years ago, I was among the first people to start on a ...
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2answers
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How do I explain to my boss that a coworker isn't capable? [duplicate]

So I have this giant project that has a ticking deadline of a little under 2 months. My boss (IMO) over promised on the timeline to the client by a mile and let the client set the deadline rather than ...
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1answer
296 views

How to document sources of stress in the workplace? [closed]

I have a new boss who is causing much stress, not just to me, but to everyone in the workplace. I can see it in everyone's face every day. The boss stays in the office and does not talk to us much. He ...
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6answers
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Should I inform my colleague/manager that I get sudden “bad days”?

Some context: I work as a programmer at a large sized company in the Netherlands. I have been working there for nearly 2 years and so far (this is also my first job), I haven't heard anything negative ...
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4answers
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Always making small mistakes, how can I improve? [closed]

At the end of the day, I was pulled aside by my manager due to me making mistakes on a workbook that I send daily to a big boss in the company. The task isn't complicated, but I keep making various ...
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3answers
765 views

How to deal with sabotaging, possibly passive-aggressive, boss?

I work at an institution of higher education. One of our employee benefits is a generous tuition reimbursement if we take classes here. I decided to take advantage of this and go back to school here. ...
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2answers
2k views

How do deal with being demoralized by a toxic work environment? [closed]

I've been working at an office as a software developer for a few years, and the environment has been getting progressively worse. The boss of my department has been routinely calling department ...
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5answers
22k views

How to manage an “over worker”?

I have a direct report who is chronically stressed out and always seems on edge. I've tried to lighten his load as much as possible. I highly encourage time off, including just cutting out early or ...
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1answer
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How to correctly go on medical leave and claim Employment Insurance due to workplace conditions

For the last year and a half I have been daily stressed at my current workplace, and I don't think I can take it anymore. It's just piled up from the amount of responsibilities I have, my boss's ...
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2answers
679 views

Let manager know I don't fault him for recruiter's mistakes and am sorry about being rude [closed]

My manager recently 'strongly suggested' I apply for a job opening in our team that was a pay grade and title higher, from senior mid level developer to Jr level senior developer. As my manager said, ...
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2answers
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Dealing with an abusive boss

I am a 60 year old male with a great work record spanning over 30 years. Recently I have been assigned to a bully who has done nothing but make my life miserable. Accusing me of something I was not ...
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1answer
666 views

Supervisor forgets that I'm now part time and is assigning me too much work

I've been with my company for ~5 or so years at this point. I started as a summer intern for the first 3 or so years and became an hourly employee ~2 years ago. I work full time during the summer and ...
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2answers
834 views

Answering honestly on a performance review about how I felt my performance has been

I have a performance review coming up soon, and a few of the questions are about how I feel my personal work performance has been for the last year in different circumstances. I feel my work has ...
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2answers
620 views

Switch from full time to part time due to illness

Over the past few months I've gotten quite ill, and because I've developed quite bad anxiety. I love my job, though I find working full time is exhausting, and I feel that going part time will help ...
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3answers
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How to deal being alone in my department?

Being the sole software developer in a start-up and also being a junior (no prior experience either) I'm in a position that is hard for me to do anything project related. After discussing with my ...
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0answers
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How to handle working in a workplace where I dont want to be [closed]

It seems a simple question but it isn't, at least for me. I've working as a developer/sys.admin for 5 years, i've never like it too much but I had a well-paid work. My problem is that I've changed my ...
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3answers
748 views

Stressful fast paced training and not retaining information [closed]

I started a new job where the first 7 weeks are training. I’ve never had a job with such formal training where we have our own computer lab and listen to the instructor talk. I’m beginning to get very ...
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3answers
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Can I take time off work with stress when not all of it is related to work alone? (London, UK) [closed]

Work is so busy for me right now and my manager is off sick for who knows how long, and I've not been told by anybody more senior what the situation is. They have told me that they will update me, but ...
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4answers
984 views

A junior developer making more than I do with 5 years of experience [closed]

I have recently unintentionally learnt that a colleague of mine who is just few months out of university is making more money than I do with my 5 years of experience, while both of us hold Software ...
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3answers
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During a 5 year work tenure I developed a fear of flying. How should I handle this with my employer?

Even just thinking about flying creates anxiety, and I exhibit all the other symptoms that are associated with this.. 5 years ago, my life was less stressful however now I'm giving many more ...
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3answers
598 views

Workplace conficts - try to resolve or resign? [closed]

I have been facing few critical issues at my workplace just within three months of joining. The work environment has been so stressful and negative in both personal and professional aspects. I've ...
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4answers
1k views

I keep getting tasks that are above my skill level. How can I address this without coming accross as grossly incompetent?

I'm 6 months into a new job that uses a technology I've had no experience in (but am trying really hard to learn). Often I get tasks that I have real difficulty with. I flag this: I say that I've ...
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6answers
3k views

How to handle personal stress caused by utterly incompetent and lazy co-workers?

I've worked in Software Development teams my entire career and I've come to realize the spectrum of skill-sets is utterly staggering. Over the years I've managed to adapt my in-office behavior to ...
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3answers
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I said something terrible at the workplace, again. Am I gone? [closed]

So I said something inappropriate a year ago to one of the work girls about how I wanted to get with her friend and she dobbed me in and I got a warning from HR. I've been good since except ... Now I ...
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2answers
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My boss has made it very difficult to do my job, what can i do? [closed]

I have a few issues, I have a boss who is also the owner. I know that legal advice cannot be offered here so please do not block my question as i will look into legal options later on down the road ...
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3answers
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How can I deal with a new coworker who lies about his knowledge and experience? [closed]

and sorry for this long message... I'm the Team lead of a company. Recently the manager decided to hire a new coworker as performance tester (against mine and some colleagues suspicious that he ...
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3answers
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Dealing with stressed coworkers

I work in an open plan office, with my team members sitting in the same desk bank. Unfortunately most of the team has quite a heavy workload and there is some inter-personal conflict in the team with ...
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1answer
1k views

I was given two weeks to complete a task. I completed it in a week, then I was told to hurry up.. Is this fair?

I started a job with relevant experience but the business domain was completely new to me. I was told that it would take six months to a year to have a good grip on the domain. My boss told me to ...
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3answers
535 views

Overqualified manager looking for a lower position

I am a late-forties mother of several children and I believe my position as a manager for automation development is ruining my health. I have to take care of my family as well as manage my team in an ...
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2answers
1k views

How can I push back against a boss who wants us to work four 16-hour days in a hotel?

We're a team of three software developers trying to deliver a product with a lot of features and bug fixes in a little amount of time. Basically our boss decided it would be great for us all to fly to ...
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6answers
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Is it safe to discuss work grievances with a company psychiatrist?

Asking this one for a friend located in the United States. She's currently experiencing significant stress coming directly from her place of employment. All attempts to mediate this with her ...
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3answers
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Struggling to get along with new boss in a new country! [closed]

I really hope I get the help I'm seeking here. I'm a qualified and experienced person (10 years of work experience) I joined my present job 5 months back, in a new country. I have relocated from my ...
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1answer
333 views

Development Team vs Management Team - Politics [closed]

I am a team lead, in a company that may be a little "disfunctional" in its organization. There is a separation between development team(at least some team members, but that has been increasing), and ...
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2answers
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Project Lead quit, got assigned to a failing project, I'm the scapegoat? [duplicate]

As the title say, I was assigned to a project which other guy was managing 2 months ago, I was supposed to help him in whatever he needed. A few weeks back the guy just straight out quitted, leaving ...
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4answers
1k views

Management doesn't trust me because of things that happened before I came on

I am a software developer at a large company. I was recently moved from the project I was hired on to to another project. Part of this was because the development work on my old project was drying up. ...
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3answers
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What to do when your company consider estimates are part of your KPI? [closed]

I’m a software developer working for a finance firm of about 50 employees, 15 of which developers. I joined the company less than one year ago on a contract. I’ve recently been praised for my ...
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2answers
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How to go about my situation on interviews - painful divorce, quit one job for another, got fired after 6 months [closed]

After finishing college i got a job. It was position in small company and salary was low, but i accepted anyways it to get some experience in web development. I worked there for three years, and at ...
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Why do i keep making stupid mistakes at work? [closed]

so yeah,i just joined this company recently and i can't stress enough how many times i've made mistakes at my job.it's definitely not something to be proud of when the other new hires are performing ...
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4answers
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Missed my contract renewal deadline due to boss not communicating it by email, how to respond?

I work on campus at my university. Earlier this month, my boss sent me and my colleagues an email, asking if we are willing to continue working during the fall semester. He said that the deadline to ...
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3answers
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How should a teenage girl get ready for a job hunt?

I am considering doing a physical job hunt sometime today (Saturday, 6/11/16), and I am wondering if maybe I need to up my game in terms of my looks? And being as I have no real experience or ...
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LOA due to chronic insomnia, stress, depression, and DDD, chronic pain [closed]

I dont know if this question has been asked already, probably so. Due to the , mentioned above, Ive had chronic insomnia for years, resistant to anti depressants and sleep meds, from my psychiatrist. ...