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Questions dealing with workplace-related stress.

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How to manage an “over worker”?

I have a direct report who is chronically stressed out and always seems on edge. I've tried to lighten his load as much as possible. I highly encourage time off, including just cutting out early or ...
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New manager is a jerk - is it OK to quit without providing a reason?

Imagine you work in a large company, and have had a great time. After quite some time working with said large company, the manager which hired you - an inspiring, warm, and empowering person - was ...
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Stressed at work with no obvious source

I work as a software developer in a small company. I graduated from university a year ago, and have been in this role for about that time. Periodically (about once a month), I become very stressed or ...
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Deal with toxic manager when you can't quit

At my first job, I had the bad luck to get a manager that was very toxic. This reached the point of him driving most of the team to quit. In the three months I was there, he drove 5 people to quit (...
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Should I inform my colleague/manager that I get sudden “bad days”?

Some context: I work as a programmer at a large sized company in the Netherlands. I have been working there for nearly 2 years and so far (this is also my first job), I haven't heard anything negative ...
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How can I learn to care less because it makes me sick?

I work as an administrator in a company with about 30 employees. In my position I have insight into many processes and I see many things my colleagues are doing wrong. This annoys me a lot and I ...
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How can one interview somebody for a job requiring work under severe stress?

A friend of mine is working in a company which is developing and maintaining a set of mission critical products. If one of those products fail at 3 AM, it is mandatory to do something immediately to ...
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Coworker doesn't actually work - how to deal with the situation? [duplicate]

We have a colleague who prefers to waste time at work instead of well... working. He's either watching movies, playing online games, or he's always on social sites. This is all on company time, with ...
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Workplace intimidation due to child's chronic health condition

My son has a chronic health condition. I was previously on intermittent FMLA but the company was recently acquired by a different company. When I approached HR about applying for FMLA, she asked if ...
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What to do about a teammate who is burnt out

Our team has been working hard on an extremely difficult project with an insanely short deadline. We aren't working 80-hour weeks, but the time we are working is stressful to say the least. Everyone ...
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Returning to the workplace after sexual harassment and arrest of harasser

I put up with harassment/sexual harassment & threats of violence from my General Duty Manager at work - I finally went to the Police after 5 months as I could not take it any more and they are now ...
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How to deal with non-stop callers in the service desk

For the last three months, I've been working in an IT department with first- and second-level IT support. This differs from a call center where someone picks up the phone and quickly creates a ticket ...
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How to deal being alone in my department?

Being the sole software developer in a start-up and also being a junior (no prior experience either) I'm in a position that is hard for me to do anything project related. After discussing with my ...
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When is it appropriate to take sick leave due to work stress/fear of burnout?

If you're in a job which is draining your energy and is even inducing physical symptoms, at what point is it appropriate to take sick leave? I'm trying to find a balance between: taking sick leave ...
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Assigned a job I cannot do

I am a recent graduate who moved across the country to get his dream job in game programming. I worked at a indie company for a year and then was hired by one of the largest companies. This is a dream ...
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Is stress expected this soon in my career?

I am a junior developer in a very small company and have been there for a year. Only a month ago it was just my boss and I working on developments. While I am a junior and only 21, I have had previous ...
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Boss showing lack of respect towards colleague

I've been with my company for 9 months as a software developer. Several times I've witnessed the boss shouting at people, talking condescendingly or aggressively. So far, he's only pulled me aside to ...
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Should I be talking to HR about my struggles with stress and depression at my workplace?

I've been really, really struggling with workplace related stress and depression. Recently, my companies HR department sent out a survey to check the mental health of the company. I decided to respond ...
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How to overcome fear while digging in HUGE code? [closed]

I joined a new company 1 month ago. This company has code which spans over 19 long years. It's a big company and the code is great without a doubt. But when I am told to work on a task to do, say, ...
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How can frequent anxiety attacks affect me in business and the workplace?

I tend to get very stressed out about how things play out around me in the workplace. A lot of the stress and anxiety comes from high level decisions and changes made by management and executives ...
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Should I reverse a key question during an interview?

Int. Why should I hire you? Can. Why should I come work for you? I don't mean it in a combative or adversarial way. I'm really nervous about this question and I don't know if I'll be able to ...
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Dealing with stress in coding interviews

I perform very poorly on coding interviews, I believe many people underperform in those interviews, but I feel like I am showing like 20% of what I got. In my last interview, the question was so ...
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How to handle personal stress caused by utterly incompetent and lazy co-workers?

I've worked in Software Development teams my entire career and I've come to realize the spectrum of skill-sets is utterly staggering. Over the years I've learn to manage situations caused by ...
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How to continue working with low morale and burnt out colleagues

I love software development and this is what I do for a living. My company is an outsourced software development firm. I can see that the company is pretty ambitious and competitive in terms of the ...
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How to make a career shift to less stress with a Developer background? [closed]

How can I make a career shift from being a software developer to something less stressful without completely disregarding my background and skills? Some details: I've been working as a software ...
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Addressing social anxiety disorder in the workplace?

I am 19 and work in a large office with many coworkers. As it stands I suffer from severe social anxiety and am currently in therapy to address this. I've had to quit college twice now as I have panic ...
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I've experienced a lot of stress that may impact my work. What can I do to reduce it?

I have a very stressful job in the chemical industry. I work shift work and often do not get enough rest. A few days ago, I received some devastating news about some family issues, which increased ...
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Is there any way of getting my bosses to fix the air conditioning?

I work in fast food, and after speaking to a lot of my colleagues I've found that I'm not the only one at work who feels it is too hot. We do have air conditioning, but the managers all admit it does ...
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Working alone and working overloaded with priority responsibilities + ADHD

I work in a very small privately owned manufacturing business (<5 administrative employees) as the only web developer (official title, but see second paragraph). My boss is the owner. I currently ...
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Is it safe to discuss work grievances with a company psychiatrist?

Asking this one for a friend located in the United States. She's currently experiencing significant stress coming directly from her place of employment. All attempts to mediate this with her ...
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How do deal with being demoralized by a toxic work environment? [closed]

I've been working at an office as a software developer for a few years, and the environment has been getting progressively worse. The boss of my department has been routinely calling department ...
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Resigning right after coworker [duplicate]

I work in a small department where it is just me and my coworker and our boss. Both my coworker and I have issues with our boss and we have brought it to management's attention and have had meetings ...
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When is it appropriate to let on to your boss you are looking at other jobs?

I've been unsatisfied in my current role and am in the process of updating my resume to start the job search again. My boss knows I've been stressed and may be able to read between the lines. I want ...
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How to professionally ask for vacation because of extreme stress?

I have reached a point where each day I feel in pain and headache for not being able to handle the stress at work. I really think I cannot take it anymore and will get ill if I just keep working ...
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Is maintaining 10-15 projects simultaneously considered normal for a software engineer in a small company?

I am working in a very small software company (2 developers - I am a senior one and an intern, and 2 designers) for 3 years. The working environment of this company is good. I worked very happily for ...
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Supervisor forgets that I'm now part time and is assigning me too much work

I've been with my company for ~5 or so years at this point. I started as a summer intern for the first 3 or so years and became an hourly employee ~2 years ago. I work full time during the summer and ...
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Post toxic workplace blues [closed]

I was working in a workplace where my boss was bullying me and it was extremely stressful, after two months of leaving and even though i found a better job that paid more in a bigger company i can't ...
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Groupism at work

I am Indian, working in Germany for the past 5 years. For the past year, I have been working in a team where everyone else is German. Since I am the most senior in the team; I'm always invited to ...
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How can I push back against a boss who wants us to work four 16-hour days in a hotel?

We're a team of three software developers trying to deliver a product with a lot of features and bug fixes in a little amount of time. Basically our boss decided it would be great for us all to fly to ...
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Explain that job uncertainty is affecting my ability to do work?

Should I tell my boss that job uncertainty is affecting my ability to do work? If so, how best to explain? I am a developer working on a contract basis for an organization and manager I like and ...
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When do I bring up unwelcome news?

In the past I tended to break unwelcome news when I was expecting attendees to be least stressed & most likely to have time to discuss about immediate concerns - staying clear of any special ...
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How to deal with under-qualified personnel in my department?

My four-person department has been using outdated software for years. Upper management hired me about eighteen months ago to begin a transition to an updated technical environment. I am the only ...
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I rendered 30 days but left behind a unbalanced one category

The branch I was assigned to was understaffed so I do both workloads, for the supervisor position and mine as assistant in operations. I also do accounting entries, reports, checks, investment,...
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Missed my contract renewal deadline due to boss not communicating it by email, how to respond?

I work on campus at my university. Earlier this month, my boss sent me and my colleagues an email, asking if we are willing to continue working during the fall semester. He said that the deadline to ...
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Handling unreasonable demands from other departments

I don't want to reveal the field I'm working in, but hopefully my question will be general enough that I don't need to. I've been at my job for a couple of years now. The team I'm on has to work ...
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I was given two weeks to complete a task. I completed it in a week, then I was told to hurry up.. Is this fair?

I started a job with relevant experience but the business domain was completely new to me. I was told that it would take six months to a year to have a good grip on the domain. My boss told me to ...
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I keep getting tasks that are above my skill level. How can I address this without coming accross as grossly incompetent?

I'm 6 months into a new job that uses a technology I've had no experience in (but am trying really hard to learn). Often I get tasks that I have real difficulty with. I flag this: I say that I've ...
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During a 5 year work tenure I developed a fear of flying. How should I handle this with my employer?

Even just thinking about flying creates anxiety, and I exhibit all the other symptoms that are associated with this.. 5 years ago, my life was less stressful however now I'm giving many more ...
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How should a teenage girl get ready for a job hunt?

I am considering doing a physical job hunt sometime today (Saturday, 6/11/16), and I am wondering if maybe I need to up my game in terms of my looks? And being as I have no real experience or ...
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How to deal with the stress of being in the middle of the chain of command

I am a manager for a team of people. My boss sets my team very ambitious goals. To reach these goals my team needs to work a lot. He ignores and reacts badly to my arguments that it's too much. On ...