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Questions tagged [unprofessional-behavior]

Questions relating to questions unbecoming and / or inappropriate in a professional work environment. Dishonesty, harassment, and discrimination are examples, among many other behaviors.

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Any particular standards for what sexual harassment is in the USA? [on hold]

I am currently looking for a job, and I am going to say that #MeToo has made me quite scared of just what might be called sexual harassment in an American workplace. I can also mention that I quit my ...
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Am I obliged to report rude/awkward language even if it doesn't offend me?

There is a colleague at my (American) workplace who is young and smart, but fairly inept at using his filter function while he's talking. At a group meeting (his manager was present), he went on ...
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Employer wants me to lie so they can qualify for a a subsidy. Should I be ok with that?

I've been working for a small company as a contractor for almost 6 months. Now they've agreed to hire me full-time, but said they would like to do so through a government program in order to qualify ...
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Will doing a project in PHP make me a pariah? [closed]

I've got a small private project that basically consists of adding server logic to a bunch of static HTML pages. PHP looks like the best tool for the job because this is exactly what it was originally ...
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Phrasing an apology/ correcting possible misunderstanding

A couple of weeks ago I met a highly respected person in my field working in a C-suite position, during the smoking time outside, we chatted a bit, and he was interested in what do I have to offer, so ...
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How to deal with a supervisor shaming staff nearing retirement?

I work at a public school that recently hired a new principal. There have been many retirements this year and the principal has been shaming the older staff. One senior teacher came to me crying ...
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How can I get a problem employee to do work assigned to him when I'm a supervisor with no real power?

In one day I went from being the junior member of a three person team to the senior member of a three person team. It's my first supervisory role. Unfortunately one of the new members of the team is ...
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Is it professional to answer questions about self evaluation?

In our company during interviews or evaluation processes, there are situations that you are asked to evaluate some specific skill of yourself: What are your strong and weak points? Between 1 and 10, ...
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Snide and unprofessional remarks from senior employee [closed]

I have come across a situation where an employee more senior than I (I am 30 and he is probably in his 50's or 60's) has taken a habit of making deprecating comments towards me such as the following. ...
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How can I stop my manager from trying to sabotage my transfer by spreading rumours?

I am facing a difficult situation at work. I started at my current company four years ago asa a junior developer. Today I am an unofficial manager, delegating work and possessing the most technical ...
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Ugly email exchanges, spreading Insecurity [closed]

Background: Over the course of the last few years, my manager has been bad mouthing me in nonofficial "around the water cooler" type conversations. I have overheard this many times and my colleagues ...
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How to deal with a manager who is bad-mouthing my client?

I'm currently working in a small team where my client can be seen as my line-manager, although he is not. My client and me are working for department X of the group Z. I'm contracting. Another team, ...
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Raised Grievance and Monitoring at work

I raised a grievance at work about 2 weeks ago and an investigation is occurring into another employee. The main problem is I think they have no intention of investigating this other employee but to ...
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Is this an unprofessional statement in negotiation?

I have about 4 years experience in the software industry. I recently resigned from current organization. During negotiation I mentioned my salary difference with my colleagues doing similar work. My ...
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How can I regain a professional atmosphere with someone who may have seen me misbehave? [closed]

I believe a female colleague saw me masturbating at work. I was in my office after hours with the door locked and blinds down, but I'm afraid the blinds had a crack. I am not an exhibitionist, and ...
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How do I get my coworkers to use my name and not a non-name they're fond of? [closed]

I've been with this company for 6 months, I've been on this site with the same crew for about 2.5 months. One of them (no longer on the crew for many reasons) started out calling me Val. Another guy ...
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How to react to hostile behavior from a senior developer?

I started working at Dec 2018, currently, there is only me and the senior developer and we sit next to each other. He comes to work really early and leaves early. When I started working I noticed ...
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Team member gave himself a new job title

A team member gave himself a new job title in his mail signature and asked for new business cards. I was the team lead and moving out of this position at this moment. I can leave it to my replacement, ...
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Fellow Scrum team member appears disengaged from stand ups, scrum master hasn't addressed it - what can/should I do? [closed]

I'm a member of a Scrum team in a matrix managed organisation (as a QA, my actual boss is the QA Manager who has other QAs in other scrum teams as well, but day-to-day I report progress/blockers etc ...
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What is normal when you get fired from a larger company?

Last week I was fired from a 500+ person company for reasons I won't talk much about, but it was on the verge of a wrongful termination. Let's just say my old boss lied to get me fired since he didn't ...
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Should I talk directly to colleague or go directly to HR for inappropriate behavior?

A new person was hired a few weeks ago. He's tells semi awkward jokes, mostly punny ones or "dad" jokes that half the time, aren't perceived as very funny. Every so often he tells a joke that has a ...
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Junior colleague developing animosity when I couldn't offer professional help

There were a few incidents when I had helped my juniors. They had accepted my answers, were happy with the solution that I gave them and everything went on smoothly until one incident. There was a ...
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Recover from management getting the impression that I'm haughty

I work for a company that makes a software product. This is my first real job. I started out on a team with a bit of a bad rep in the rest of the company. At first, I thought it was because of the, as ...
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My co-worker is secretly taking pictures of me

I started working at my first real job (not student work) in autumn of last year. In my job there are mostly male employees. I am a (like I want to believe, good looking) female – age 25. We have two ...
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Exposing a company lying about themselves in a tightly knit industry (videogames) : Is my career at risk on the long run?

TLDR: My former company is the example of start-ups malpractices. They're also vastly lying about themselves. They put me in a difficult situation in the past and I'd like to avoid others to fall ...
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How to deal with a new manager who was promoted rather than me?

At my work, I'm working in a department (of four people) in which the floor manager resigned. I would become the new floor manager, but my boss chose someone a week ago who isn't familiar in this ...
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How to handle a coworker's morbid attention seeking?

I have a coworker in my department whose morbid "sense of humor" is inconsiderate to others in the office. I find it to be disrespectful and insensitive. I don't want to get too specific with events, ...
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(How) should I make a case with HR about low-profile, regular negative behaviour from a colleague?

I am not sure how to handle frequent, repeated episodes of passive aggressive behaviour or low-profile abuse from a colleague. E.g.: one of my colleagues was my peer, but wanted me to report to her. ...
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How to find out if you are being given a bad reputation by previous workplaces [duplicate]

Can someone please tell me of a way to find out if potential employers are getting bad information about me without my knowing?
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What should I do if the HR of the company behaves this way?

So I got a call from a junior HR of a reputed company regarding a job opportunity that required my skills, they asked about my current CTC(cost-to-company) and my expectations. I gave them a number x ...
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Do I have the right to report 2 year old discrimination?

I live in Australia, almost 2 years ago one of my colleagues insulted my religion in the form of jokes a couple of times, once when we were at team lunch and the other when we were alone. I was new ...
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Is it a bad idea to display the F-word on my GitHub profile? [closed]

Ordinarily, this would seem like a no-brainer, but maybe not... I am a college student currently applying for a summer internship at a company where I would be doing a lot of software development ...
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Potential client has a problematic employee I can't work with

Background: I'm newly hired in a consulting company (IT), and recently I've met with a client where my employer would like me to go to work. I had an interview and met the team. The problem is that ...
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Coworker spilled hot bevarage on me because of a meme. What should I do? [closed]

Keeping a long story short - me together with Coworker B made a meme about Coworker A and circulated it in our room, which is what I thought was a group a close friends both in and outside of work (5 ...
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My employer refuses to give me a w4 to change my withholdings [closed]

My employer refuses to give me a w4 form because they are mad because i claimed a workmans compisation
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Staff returning to work after gross misconduct

I was wondering I someone could help me with the below on what paths I can take? I am from the UK. Recently, accusations was made about myself that could ruin the career I am in. The owner of the ...
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Peer co-worker “out-performing” me due to access rights left over from previous role

My co-worker 'Jan' and I have both worked for the company for a couple of years in our respective roles, but in totally separate teams/functions until now. We have now (a few months ago) been brought ...
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How to deal with overly attached student?

I'm doing private lessons for various programming subjects. One of my students has a tendency to send multiple messages if I don't reply at once, likes emphasizing his effort even though I tell him ...
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Is it unethical/unprofessional to keep a record of quotes from my colleague's outbursts?

My colleague is a 64 year old guy who is very verbal when working. He often shouts out slander towards his computer and also an ex-employee. Even though these outbursts are incredibly unprofessional I ...
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How can team relations be maintained along with maintaining personal and professional boundaries?

There are many situations in which the management, esp of the small medium business domain, organize events such as sports matches and frequent outings in the name of team bonding. Instead of bonding, ...
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Why would HR think it's inappropriate that I visited a coworker in the hospital?

I just got out of a meeting with my supervisor and a member of our HR department, giving me a "formal warning" for engaging in inappropriate conduct by visiting a coworker in the hospital. HR told me ...
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Coworker brings girlfriend to the office during afterhours

My coworker and I often work some (unpaid) hours on evenings and weekends. He recently started to bring in his girlfriend to the company. She will sit next to him without talking, doing stuff on her ...
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What to do after I signed a blank sheet of paper given to me by my manager?

I work as a teacher in a kindergarten for almost two years now. Last week, my manager called me to sign a warning letter about a small issue that is not my fault and not part of my job description. I ...
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My colleague works in an area with high security, yet he lacks the maturity and knowledge to be there

I work with the government. Sometimes we work with sensitive private data to find clues about tax crimes. Now there is this one new colleague of mine who is too nosey, he is looking into data that ...
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Why does everyone at work take me for granted?

I am an experienced individual, but have worked at my current workplace for many years. I am super nice and say everything with a smile on my face and even if someone is a bit rude to me. The ...
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Should I join a company if its reviews on glassdoor etc are not very good? [closed]

I am offered a job from the company as a web developer in UAE. I just went on to the glassdoor and read reviews, the majority of reviews were not very good and some were outrageous to an extent ...
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Asking about eating policy during interview

TL;DR: I want to work in a company with a strict no-eating-in-office policy. How can I ask about it during an interview? Background: Western Europe, software engineering, ~2 years experience. I have ...
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Can I file a complaint with HR against a coworker’s promotion? [closed]

I work as a Senior Software Engineer on my team, and I have a coworker who was recently promoted to the same level, but she has nowhere near the qualifications for the position, she lies regularly, ...
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Am I being unrealistic asking to go from working full-time to part-time?

I've been working for three months in a software start-up. This is my first job after graduating university. The deal was that I would work for at least three months subject to evaluation, with the ...
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Male makes several female coworkers uncomfortable. What course of action to take?

A friend of mine works in the social sector in Germany. She works at a school for mentally disabled children. The school is loosely related to "Waldorf"-Philosophy, which apparently makes sexuality a ...