Questions tagged [unprofessional-behavior]
Questions relating to questions unbecoming and / or inappropriate in a professional work environment. Dishonesty, harassment, and discrimination are examples, among many other behaviors.
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Is it okay to quit my internship early? [closed]
I just got an unpaid internship at a law firm. It is somewhat helpful for what I want to do with my career but it was not my first choice. I have been there less then a week and when I applied the job ...
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Should I report co-worker I suspect of embarassing/pranking my employer publicly?
My company has had some issues since November, when some managers decided it would be a good idea to "promote" several senior scientists and engineers in the company (by giving them more ...
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What should I do when I am demotivated by unprofessionalism that has affected me personally at the workplace?
I have been working in this organization for more than 8 years now. I have always been passionate, motivated, hardworking, and happy at work. In fact, I have exceeded expectations for my performance ...
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How to address individual misbehaviours while preserving the team psychological safety?
Google's Project Aristotle describes "psychological safety" as what matters the most for teams to effectively work together. The study cites another, Psychological Safety and Learning ...
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What is considered inappropriate when participating in a video meeting?
So we had a business meeting the other day via Zoom. All the participants were from their homes, as happening around the world these days due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
One of the participants in the ...
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Boss demanding I “tone down and redact” my LinkedIn profile [closed]
I keep my LinkedIn (professional social media platform; sort of like a glorified online resume/CV) and my CV current every month (just a minor change if needed, make sure I didn't miss any typos), ...
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Insubordinate chief engineer training colleagues to be “too mobile” out of spite
We have a problem with one of our chief engineers, but we cannot fire him (yet) due to professional qualifications he holds, and it take time to replace him.
This engineer was a hard worker years ago, ...
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Saw senior, respected colleague repeatedly masturbating in the office - how to get him to stop
This happened over a year ago so there's not much point bringing it up at work now, but I did see a senior (male) colleague repeatedly masturbating in the office. At the time I (also male, junior) was ...
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Might lose job and have no income due to insulting my coworker
I was one of the first people to join an online meeting with coworkers today. Usually, most attendees are up to 10 minutes later before the actual meeting gets started. One of my senior colleagues, ...
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I got fired on my last day; is that possible?
On my last day of work, I didn't feel comfortable going due to men making multiple sexual comments. The day before, I had a lot on my mind, and I was too scared to go. On the morning of my last day, I ...
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Departing senior engineer refuses to introduce replacement to open source community/peers
We have a senior, very capable (i.e. 5x) engineer, "Gust", who has served his notice (4 weeks), and will be leaving. Our company likes to "test" people in their new roles when ...
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Manager lied to client. Is it legal? [closed]
Manager informed client that the software was tested even if it wasnāt, then manager asked the team to create a fake test document and send this document to client as some sort of proof. I think that ...
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Ambush meeting for silly plan
This morning I was invited to a 9.30am meeting by my boss (I normally start work at 9am although I am perfectly permitted to start as late as 10am if I so decide on the day and I have no earlier ...
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Boss badmouthing me after my resignation
I work in a small company, central Europe and I've been working here for 5 years.
Recently we started losing customers, money and frankly I just don't enjoy working here anymore. So I found another ...
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Boss wants me to join a team I dislike
In short: How do I tell my boss I don't want to join this team, or how do I negotiate conditions for joining if needed be?
Long version:
There's a group in my company who is responsible for developing ...
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Employee demanding company to guarantee counter-offer isn't his last promotion at this company
I recently had to take over for a second software team, "team Bravo", in addition to my own team, "team Alpha", due to Bravo's manager, "Bob", having to go on leave. This ...
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Been slacking off for a while due to lack of motivation (and applying for other jobs) but then exacerbated by COVID- how to repair?
This all started before the global pandemic. At the time, I was working at our office location. I was completing my work, but I didn't feel like the job was fulfilling anymore. I just felt like I was ...
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Is my Trainer over the norm harsh? [closed]
I am an apprentice for informatics. My Trainer does not like me and that is fine. He scolds me on a regular basis, I am not a flagship student and he has the right and reason to scold me. It just ...
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How do I learn and do my job well in an environment full of jerks? [closed]
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There seems to be very little empathy where I work. Resources to adequately ramp up new people to the job are sparse, yet we are still expected to perform like a well-oiled software ...
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Is it unprofessional to accuse someone of being “snarky” in a work chat?
An external colleague asked me if I was "being snarky?" when I told one of his report I had already sent them something they asked for. Am I right to find this unprofessional?
For context I ...
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How can I feel less intimidated by younger colleagues?
I work as a game developer. I work mostly on visual novels, fighters, shooters and arcade games.
Each year the workplace is more and more dominated by younger folks and fewer and fewer seniors. I ...
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How to handle poor social behaviour to a old senior from a colleague?
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I am working in a small business (< 15 employees) as a software developer. Roughly half of us are. The rest is working as IT specialists for system integration. The coworker I am ...
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Dealing with “Why didn't you do it some other way?” questions
The scenario is usually similar to this: I am presenting my work, which involves software related decisions and scientific related methods. I have almost no direct management from my actual managers ...
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Part of an HR plot without knowing it: are these HR machinations normal?
This question derives from the outcome of my other one and what happened next.
For all the details, please read the linked question.
After M joined back the company, they organized a party with myself,...
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How can I convince my at-risk employees to come to the office? [closed]
A few of the developers at my company want to work from home because they have "pre-existing conditions" that mean they are "at risk" from COVID.
I am firmly against this, as I ...
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Refusing to increment productivity beyond salary raise
A software engineer in the team I lead was a very good worker and in the last two rounds and got a salary increase of the maximum the company allows. A couple of months ago, he said he was very ...
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How do I interact with a person who only sees me in a bad light?
There is this one coworker at work who is responsible for the end stage of a certain process. In other words if you have questions that documentation does not answer, you have to go to her to get the ...
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How to finish my report? [closed]
I need some advice since the advice I have so far received from my friend can be considered dangerous. I was finishing up my report and although I was late my supervisor accepted the report. The ...
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Dealing with publicly offensive employee
This happened in a friend's workplace long ago, so I don't have full details anymore, but I've recalled it and noted I wouldn't really know how to handle the case.
In a big restaurant with several ...
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How to deal with a selfish colleague?
I've recently joined an organization. I'm 2 years 9 months experienced Software Developer and one of my colleagues in my team joined this organization around 6 months ago. He is 3-4 years experienced. ...
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Manager blocking employee to rise and succeed
My boyfriend is working in a big tech company in the US. Once he joined and showed some good success and very fast contributions, his manager got a bit scared and started to contain him and making him ...
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Forced by client to remove security feature, now client blames me for data theft
During last months the project manager (PM) from a client requested many times to remove some security features we put on their web portal to āease our day-by-day operativityā (their own words).
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Boss at workplace has threatened me and other colleagues to finish project before going to work from home
Someone from my workplace in Houston has actually tested positive for COVID-19. The branch manager has declared everyone to work from home for at least one month. Unfortunately, my boss (let's just ...
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IT manager giving false information to management about the possibility of remote work
My local government has requested that non-essential businesses either close or move to remote working if possible for the next two weeks. My company of around 100 people could do this, as everyone's ...
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How to protect my direct report being unfairly blamed by a colleague from a different team?
This situation is happening in Thailand and I and my team are also Thai (Chinese born here).
I am a backend engineering manager. Under me is a frontend dev, Mr. FrontEnd, and a backend dev. For some ...
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How can I deal with a disruptive team member?
I'm currently acting as a Project Manager and Tech Lead within a really small team, as we are just starting out. I manage about 6 people so far, and the integration and communication between the team ...
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I've realized my coworker is a narcissist. What next? [closed]
While watching various videos on mental health and anxiety, I began to come across videos on narcissism. This led me to this list. I'll just include the headers so I don't just copy the author's ...
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How do I approach my employer about being force to work as a warehouse grunt while I was hired as a mechanical designer?
I work as a mechanical designer but am asked to move warehouse goods averaging 20kgs per box.
The mechanical work I do is drafting designs for HVAC and plumbing layouts for residential/commercial/...
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Important ex-volunteer demanding the humiliation of former colleague
I am the "head volunteer" for a "patch" of Churches in a group of 3 neighboring cities. My job is to encourage members of our churches and parents/teens of families attending our schools to take part ...
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What to do about negative feedback from manager on my demeanor, without examples?
A couple months back, my manager told me that there had been a few people approaching him because of my rude and unfriendly behavior. He said it was informal feedback and would not involve HR.
I did ...
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What to do when your recruiter fails to follow through?
I'm wondering whether I can reasonably pursue the opportunity on my own, and if so, what may be the consequences. Here's the background:
A recruiter recently brought me an interesting opportunity. ...
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I'm leaving a toxic work environment, my boss won't stop pressuring me to stay. How should I handle this?
I work at a small company - there are fewer than 5 employees and my boss is actually the president and owner. I put my two weeks notice in yesterday. I made this decision as my work environment has ...
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Some employee silently farts regularly in meetings [duplicate]
Every morning whenever we are having a meeting with the team there is someone who silently farts and disturbs the flow of the meeting. Some days it's so bad we have to vacate the room. I have ...
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Don't have permissions after a long time
I've joined a big company and after about one month still, I don't have any permission in production environments, but in the sibling team with another manager.
A new joiner has all permissions ...
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Awkward moment before leaving work - Should I do nothing, talk to her or my boss
At my computer software company it is usual to end the workweek with a beer at the office. This time me and a few developers stayed at our desks playing computer games while about 10 people were in ...
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How can I deal with my coworker who is trying to take over my work?
I am a senior software developer in a software company. Recently, a junior developer joined the team and without being given any official responsibility, I whole-heartedly gave him extensive "...
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Changing your mind about parental leave
After the birth of our son, I (husband) chose not to take parental leave (Elternzeit), which in Germany is guaranteed by law.
My boss asked if I would want to go, and I said "no".
However, my ...
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Manager Not Changing Errors in Online Job Postings-Suspect Manager is Lying
We are currently hiring two full time employees with 40 hour work weeks. The positions are Clerical Aid I and Clerical Aid II. The Clerical Aid II posting has more responsibilities than the Clerical ...
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How to avoid mental suffering knowing that I have no resources (time, etc.) to fully satisfy client needs?
Client has changed the usage patterns (pre-holiday effects before the long Christmas holidays) of the software developed and supplied by the company for which I am working and new errors due to ...
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What should I do about the negative feedback I received from my supervisor?
I have been working an entry level position in an R&D lab for 3 months now. This is my first job straight out of college and I have the lowest position at work. I didn't get any real training or ...
