Questions tagged [unprofessional-behavior]
Questions relating to questions unbecoming and / or inappropriate in a professional work environment. Dishonesty, harassment, and discrimination are examples, among many other behaviors.
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Boss wants me to join a team I dislike
In short: How do I tell my boss I don't want to join this team, or how do I negotiate conditions for joining if needed be?
Long version:
There's a group in my company who is responsible for developing ...
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Employee demanding company to guarantee counter-offer isn't his last promotion at this company
I recently had to take over for a second software team, "team Bravo", in addition to my own team, "team Alpha", due to Bravo's manager, "Bob", having to go on leave. This ...
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Been slacking off for a while due to lack of motivation (and applying for other jobs) but then exacerbated by COVID- how to repair?
This all started before the global pandemic. At the time, I was working at our office location. I was completing my work, but I didn't feel like the job was fulfilling anymore. I just felt like I was ...
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Is my Trainer over the norm harsh? [closed]
I am an apprentice for informatics. My Trainer does not like me and that is fine. He scolds me on a regular basis, I am not a flagship student and he has the right and reason to scold me. It just ...
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How do I learn and do my job well in an environment full of jerks? [closed]
Background
There seems to be very little empathy where I work. Resources to adequately ramp up new people to the job are sparse, yet we are still expected to perform like a well-oiled software ...
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Is it unprofessional to accuse someone of being “snarky” in a work chat?
An external colleague asked me if I was "being snarky?" when I told one of his report I had already sent them something they asked for. Am I right to find this unprofessional?
For context I ...
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How can I feel less intimidated by younger colleagues?
I work as a game developer. I work mostly on visual novels, fighters, shooters and arcade games.
Each year the workplace is more and more dominated by younger folks and fewer and fewer seniors. I ...
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How to handle poor social behaviour to a old senior from a colleague?
Background
I am working in a small business (< 15 employees) as a software developer. Roughly half of us are. The rest is working as IT specialists for system integration. The coworker I am ...
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Dealing with “Why didn't you do it some other way?” questions
The scenario is usually similar to this: I am presenting my work, which involves software related decisions and scientific related methods. I have almost no direct management from my actual managers ...
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Part of an HR plot without knowing it: are these HR machinations normal?
This question derives from the outcome of my other one and what happened next.
For all the details, please read the linked question.
After M joined back the company, they organized a party with myself,...
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How can I convince my at-risk employees to come to the office? [closed]
A few of the developers at my company want to work from home because they have "pre-existing conditions" that mean they are "at risk" from COVID.
I am firmly against this, as I ...
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Refusing to increment productivity beyond salary raise
A software engineer in the team I lead was a very good worker and in the last two rounds and got a salary increase of the maximum the company allows. A couple of months ago, he said he was very ...
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How do I interact with a person who only sees me in a bad light?
There is this one coworker at work who is responsible for the end stage of a certain process. In other words if you have questions that documentation does not answer, you have to go to her to get the ...
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How to deal with rude junior and make manager aware of his attitude [closed]
I recently joined a company in February 2020. In my job, I was given time to learn with resources such as free Youtube links, whilst helping junior dev's. One of them is really 'self-confident with a ...
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How to finish my report? [closed]
I need some advice since the advice I have so far received from my friend can be considered dangerous. I was finishing up my report and although I was late my supervisor accepted the report. The ...
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Dealing with publicly offensive employee
This happened in a friend's workplace long ago, so I don't have full details anymore, but I've recalled it and noted I wouldn't really know how to handle the case.
In a big restaurant with several ...
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How to deal with a selfish colleague?
I've recently joined an organization. I'm 2 years 9 months experienced Software Developer and one of my colleagues in my team joined this organization around 6 months ago. He is 3-4 years experienced. ...
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Manager blocking employee to rise and succeed
My boyfriend is working in a big tech company in the US. Once he joined and showed some good success and very fast contributions, his manager got a bit scared and started to contain him and making him ...
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Forced by client to remove security feature, now client blames me for data theft
During last months the project manager (PM) from a client requested many times to remove some security features we put on their web portal to āease our day-by-day operativityā (their own words).
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Boss at workplace has threatened me and other colleagues to finish project before going to work from home
Someone from my workplace in Houston has actually tested positive for COVID-19. The branch manager has declared everyone to work from home for at least one month. Unfortunately, my boss (let's just ...
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IT manager giving false information to management about the possibility of remote work
My local government has requested that non-essential businesses either close or move to remote working if possible for the next two weeks. My company of around 100 people could do this, as everyone's ...
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How to protect my direct report being unfairly blamed by a colleague from a different team?
This situation is happening in Thailand and I and my team are also Thai (Chinese born here).
I am a backend engineering manager. Under me is a frontend dev, Mr. FrontEnd, and a backend dev. For some ...
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How can I deal with a disruptive team member?
I'm currently acting as a Project Manager and Tech Lead within a really small team, as we are just starting out. I manage about 6 people so far, and the integration and communication between the team ...
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I've realized my coworker is a narcissist. What next? [closed]
While watching various videos on mental health and anxiety, I began to come across videos on narcissism. This led me to this list. I'll just include the headers so I don't just copy the author's ...
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How do I approach my employer about being force to work as a warehouse grunt while I was hired as a mechanical designer?
I work as a mechanical designer but am asked to move warehouse goods averaging 20kgs per box.
The mechanical work I do is drafting designs for HVAC and plumbing layouts for residential/commercial/...
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Important ex-volunteer demanding the humiliation of former colleague
I am the "head volunteer" for a "patch" of Churches in a group of 3 neighboring cities. My job is to encourage members of our churches and parents/teens of families attending our schools to take part ...
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What to do about negative feedback from manager on my demeanor, without examples?
A couple months back, my manager told me that there had been a few people approaching him because of my rude and unfriendly behavior. He said it was informal feedback and would not involve HR.
I did ...
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What to do when your recruiter fails to follow through?
I'm wondering whether I can reasonably pursue the opportunity on my own, and if so, what may be the consequences. Here's the background:
A recruiter recently brought me an interesting opportunity. ...
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I'm leaving a toxic work environment, my boss won't stop pressuring me to stay. How should I handle this?
I work at a small company - there are fewer than 5 employees and my boss is actually the president and owner. I put my two weeks notice in yesterday. I made this decision as my work environment has ...
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Some employee silently farts regularly in meetings [duplicate]
Every morning whenever we are having a meeting with the team there is someone who silently farts and disturbs the flow of the meeting. Some days it's so bad we have to vacate the room. I have ...
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Don't have permissions after a long time
I've joined a big company and after about one month still, I don't have any permission in production environments, but in the sibling team with another manager.
A new joiner has all permissions ...
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Awkward moment before leaving work - Should I do nothing, talk to her or my boss
At my computer software company it is usual to end the workweek with a beer at the office. This time me and a few developers stayed at our desks playing computer games while about 10 people were in ...
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How can I deal with my coworker who is trying to take over my work?
I am a senior software developer in a software company. Recently, a junior developer joined the team and without being given any official responsibility, I whole-heartedly gave him extensive "...
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Changing your mind about parental leave
After the birth of our son, I (husband) chose not to take parental leave (Elternzeit), which in Germany is guaranteed by law.
My boss asked if I would want to go, and I said "no".
However, my ...
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Manager Not Changing Errors in Online Job Postings-Suspect Manager is Lying
We are currently hiring two full time employees with 40 hour work weeks. The positions are Clerical Aid I and Clerical Aid II. The Clerical Aid II posting has more responsibilities than the Clerical ...
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How to avoid mental suffering knowing that I have no resources (time, etc.) to fully satisfy client needs?
Client has changed the usage patterns (pre-holiday effects before the long Christmas holidays) of the software developed and supplied by the company for which I am working and new errors due to ...
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What should I do about the negative feedback I received from my supervisor?
I have been working an entry level position in an R&D lab for 3 months now. This is my first job straight out of college and I have the lowest position at work. I didn't get any real training or ...
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I was offered a job at one of my clients. Would it be unethical for me to take it?
TL;DR - I was offered a job at one of my clients. Would it be unethical for me to take it?
I work as a contractor for a person with strong ties in the education industry. He wants to start a new ...
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consulting industry - chaotic behaviour
My team and I have been working on a change management project. Our client, a director, has set rather broad goals on a particular topic to reach within a complex context.
D doesn't participate in ...
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Is it illegal to deny or charge customers for receipts? [closed]
I've had an unfortunate experience with a passive aggressive secretary who initially demanded payment when I presented her with a request for a digital record of my invoice/receipt history. I promptly ...
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Prospective employer asking for my current pay slip during interview
I recently did an interview (location is the EU) for a smallish IT consulting firm.
They have been quite insistent in asking salary, benefits and contract type of my current job. In the end, the HR ...
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How to deal with a difficult employee who doesnāt want to change
I am a manager in a software company managing about 30 people across multiple teams. I have 3 team leads in each section reporting to me.
One of the team leads ā lets call her Linda ā is a very ...
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āYou are not paid to think, but to do Xā is always wrong in the workplace?
Background
I work in an IT consultancy company of about 200 people. As in many other companies, we work on multiple projects, with short deadlines, with a lot of pressure, both from internal managers ...
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What personnel files should I request after unfair dismissal?
I was unfairly dismissed at the start of the year after another employee made a false allegation against me.
This could have easily been disproved but was dealt with very unfairly and I was dismissed....
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Former supervisor rejects my idea, competitors implement it and thrive and I got fired for not being experienced enough to deliver new ideas
I was in a job where they expected me to come up with innovative ideas. I had one excellent idea where I insisted on working on it and got rejected like 3 times from my former supervisor. The third ...
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Colleague taking credit for my work [closed]
I work at an engineering company where we do circuit development. I was handed the task of laying out the circuit board, tracking everything up, placing components etc on a very small PCB. To fit ...
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Handling a tricky ex-employer
A friend of mine works as a Nurse Practitioner and was employed under an MD in his private clinic. She recently quit her job and now the ex-employer wants to hire her back. She ended up leaving the ...
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Is expressing anger prohibited in the American workplace?
Recently some co-workers were called in for a stern chat with the boss because they had expressed anger during a meeting, when the boss was out. The anger seemed reasonable. Specifically, two co-...
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How to deal with co-worker who is unwilling to communicate during meetings?
I have a co-worker who communicates very little during meetings. She is very talkative and outgoing in other situations outside the scheduled meetings.
My supervisors keeps asking the two of us to ...
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Is it a good idea to contact a candidate?
About a year ago I resigned from my ex-employer. After my resignation, my ex-employer hired some new people.
As the work load in my new company increases continuously, my new employer decided to hire ...
