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How to resign from company that will fail if I quit [duplicate]

I work for a startup in Ottawa, and have been with the company for just over a year now. The CEO promised me stock options, a massive completion bonus, and a month of paid vacation to offset the ...
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How can I deal with troublesome Professional Engineer?

I currently manage a team of quite a few engineers in Canada. Things normally run smoothly, but we've had a serious problem with a senior engineer as of late. This engineer is the sole engineer on ...
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Is it acceptable to quit in the middle of a project, when I am the only team member?

The backstory: I am a paid intern who did OK initially, and so was handed a fairly major project and was given free reign over it. The project is now over half way done. The client thus far has been ...
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Changing a job in a company where people are fully dependent on me [duplicate]

In the beginning when I applied for the job - I've given an information that the only reason I'm coming to their company (which is a Software House) was because I got rejected from a dream job at the ...
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How to informally motivate employees to spend more time working and less time on personal matters?

The company I work for has no written policy against using company time for personal communications and entertainment (Facebook, Skype, Youtube, etc.). It is expected that everyone balances their use ...
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Prospective employer asking for my current pay slip during interview

I recently did an interview (location is the EU) for a smallish IT consulting firm. They have been quite insistent in asking salary, benefits and contract type of my current job. In the end, the HR ...
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When (if ever) is it considered professional to yell in the workplace?

I've noticed this trend in my workplace where more and more people yell at each other, especially managers and executives to regular employees (who don't yell back). Personally, it's making me ...
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Accused of racism for refusing to name room after foreign name that sounds like an offensive phrase

We recently moved into a new office building, and I was put in charge of coordinating a lot of the new office logistics. One of the things I needed to do was to come up with new names for our ...
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Offensive language/behavior from co-worker in online game

I am a fresh-out-of-college student and a huge gamer. I recently got a job towards the end of this summer and met my team, which consists of a number of people who are in their late 50s. As I am a ...
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Departing senior engineer refuses to introduce replacement to open source community/peers

We had a senior, very capable (i.e. 5x) engineer, "Gust", who has served his notice (4 weeks), and will be leaving. Our company likes to "test" people in their new roles when being ...
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What should I do with my perverted and gloomy colleague?

I have this colleague that I am close to at work although we work in different floors. He has been very supportive when I was having a difficult time with my colleagues in my department when I was ...
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Is it professional to leave a meeting early if attendees are late and it runs over work hours?

I don't mind staying late to get something done in a fire drill, or to meet deadlines, but if there's a meeting that runs over the working hours that you've communicated to your co-workers (in a ...
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How to deal with a manager who swears and yells at me?

At times we have to work together, there is a fair amount of brainstorming and coding involved. They have a habit of swearing(real bad words in native language) on the work they do. Although I have ...
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How to deal with a noisy senior [duplicate]

I work for a medium sized software development firm who provides ERP solutions. The office space is great and so is the working culture where every department is nicely divided, even the one where I'...
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Can I renegotiate an offer I already said was okay?

I had a meeting (after passing the knowledge interview and another meeting) with a software company for which I would like to work. When it came down to money, they asked me how I feel about X ...
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Is it okay to ask my boss a laptop or computer loan? [closed]

I was considering to ask from my boss for 2 years even though he wasn't offering it. He outsourced his Customer Service to our country and he was nice all the time however with very few benefits, and ...
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My colleague always makes sound with the keyboard and mouse,how can i tell him to stop that politeley [closed]

I've been in the IT field for around two years. One of my colleagues (the 'senior') makes sounds with the keyboard and mouse. Those intentional 'tick-ticks' in a silent environment are annoying for ...
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Is it inappropriate to help an employee outside of work?

I have been known to be a compassionate person. Sometimes it overflows into my work. I'm a regular manager at a restaurant (nothing too important, just running shifts, blah blah blah), who has mostly ...
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How to negotiate salary with an extremely unprofessional in-house recruiter?

I'm interviewing at a certain programming job. I've passed everything, the people doing the interview say they really like my skills and want me to join the team, everything's looking great, the ...
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Supervisor commenting on appearance. Inappropriate?

I work for a big company and am fairly new. I'm on my third or fourth week and was transferred to a new (bigger) dept where it's all men. I am the only woman. I'm also fairly young at 25 years old. ...
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Finding balance between freedom and productivity

Preface: I am working in a company where most of the employees are in their early 20s. We have a very open culture and office. This is great to have a very friendly and low-stress working environment. ...
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How to force disgruntled worker not to publicly disclose "GPLed code"

I'm currently the only HR worker at a medium sized engineering firm in Canada. There should normally be 2 additionally HR workers on-staff more senior than me, but one is on parental leave and the ...
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How to protect junior staff from abuse by shady employer

I've been working at a startup for about 18 months now. I used to report to the key engineer for my division, but he left a couple months after I started. It's to my understanding that he worked crazy ...
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How to respond to an insistent recruiter's cold email?

In receiving a second cold email from a recruiter earlier today, I discovered I had missed the first among my usual sea of emails. The recruiter guilts me in the subject line, writing "I haven't heard ...
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What should I do if a coworker suddenly turns violent at the office?

Last night, I watched a video on Youtube that showed about 10 employees suddenly turn violent at the office. They suddenly started exhibiting destructively violent behaviour, such as breaking laptops, ...
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Protocol on important meetings when you have a cold

So I came down with a bad cold over the weekend. On Monday I have an important meeting regarding the future of our company, and on Tuesday we have an important client coming. Both appointments are ...
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Coworker's criminal conviction and current behavior make me uncomfortable

I work at some IT firm and recently, they have hired a "former" criminal (as a programmer) who was considered to be a possible suspect of two rape cases, and has spent some years in a jail for robbery....
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A co-worker secretly takes photos of me at work

I have recently joined an IT firm as a programmer, after a career in painting didn't look so promising. The office that I work in, is like any other force, like one of those open plan offices; desks ...
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Issue with my boss and smell coming from toilet

I work in a small company with a small office, we are just 10 employees and a boss. Recently two new workmates have been hired and we had to change the office distribution and now my workplace is ...
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How can I stop my ex-boss from still 'bossing' around?

This is a continuation of my earlier post here. Summary: I flagged potentially reputation-damaging mistake to my supervisor. They refused to acknowledge that it was an error, and based their decision ...
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Junior engineer initiating counselling sessions to offer unsolicited advice to senior employees

I am a senior individual (i.e. hiring and firing power) in a large tech company. The job is stressful, though we actually pay well, which makes this place attractive to younger engineers. One team ...
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Did I overstep my bounds by creating a tool "behind my manager's back", during non-work hours?

Context I am a software developer in the United States. I work on a very, very small team, and we are in charge of developing and supporting a custom mobile app for one of our company's biggest ...
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How to deal with a demanding and moody employee

One of my employees in a tech startup is behaving erratically. We are a small team of about a dozen people working our asses off for launching our apps. Initially he was OK, working and trying to ...
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Is it a bad idea to display the F-word on my GitHub profile? [closed]

Ordinarily, this would seem like a no-brainer, but maybe not... I am a college student currently applying for a summer internship at a company where I would be doing a lot of software development ...
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What should I do if the HR of the company behaves this way?

So I got a call from a junior HR of a reputed company regarding a job opportunity that required my skills, they asked about my current CTC(cost-to-company) and my expectations. I gave them a number x ...
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Degrading talk when resigning job. How to handle this?

A friend of mine works as a Nurse Practitioner and is employed under an MD in his private clinic. The MD used to be very professional and approachable at the beginning when he started practicing his ...
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How to persuade boss that games with e-mail are not a good way to increase security

My boss wants to force a game that when you leave your computer unlocked and walk away others will send an e-mail from you (saying something stupid; like free doughnuts tomorrow). The impetus for this ...
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Coworker consistently shows up drugged out

My coworker has been showing up to work dopey and drugged out most of the time I've been in my role. On a company trip, he has talked about how he takes Vicodin, Oxycontin, and Adderall (although I am ...
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Should I complain to HR about being mocked for request I made

I work in the I.T. department as I had an issue with cheap toilet roll and unable to sit because of pain so I decided to put in a request. We use a survey site to put in suggestion and those that get ...
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Relocating for a job, new boss is in town and wants me to take off work to meet him

I am relocating from Chicago to Brooklyn for a new job. I'm still currently employed in Chicago and won't be moving for another month. My new boss from Brooklyn is in Chicago for a week and wants to ...
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Are practical jokes common and acceptable at work if no one gets irreversibly annoyed? [closed]

Someone left a cup of water precariously balanced on the woman's bathroom door, and you can imagine what happened later. A coworker left a note on a manager's chair that said "Tack" after a ...
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Death stares from a colleague

I am an Indian female working in the IT sector, India. Context: During one of my conversations with a male team member, let's call him Paul, he cracked a filthy joke. Though I pretended to not ...
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Junior colleague developing animosity when I couldn't offer professional help

There were a few incidents when I had helped my juniors. They had accepted my answers, were happy with the solution that I gave them and everything went on smoothly until one incident. There was a ...
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Departing senior is ghosting me, I need info and code from him

Some background - I joined the company fresh out of college a year ago. My feedbacks till now from my manager and other team members have been quite positive. After couple of months after I joined ...
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How to react when employee quitting job even after a conditional salary increase?

I have recently become the new manager of a team because the old manager left the company. I found out that one of my team members was going to leave 5 months earlier, but was counter-offered ...
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How can I explain a religious conflict regarding working with women?

I started with my US employer over a year ago, and explained that because of my religious beliefs, I do not want to work with women. We are a small office with 20 male employees. My old boss quit ...
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How should I handle negative interactions with my direct manager?

I am having a hard time with my direct manager, and I would appreciate it if you let me know your opinion about the email I have received from him today. I want to make sure that my understanding is ...
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How to deal with noisy and arrogant co-worker with the attitude? [duplicate]

There are lot of question related to noisy co-worker but this one (in my opinion) differ in the fact that the co-worker I'm dealing with is displaying an attitude. I told him that he is loud and ...
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How do I tell my employer for 2nd (or is it the 3rd) time that I no longer want to relocate? [closed]

My employer has offices in multiple EU countries. Two months ago I asked my employer to relocate. Initially at the end of the year. Then at end of September. They agreed and prepared a new contract. I ...
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My coworkers don't know how to git and won't listen to me

I have been working with software for about 8 years and git for almost 6 years. I feel like I know git like the back of my hand. I started at a new company about a year ago and my coworkers don't seem ...
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