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Questions tagged [work-life-balance]

Issues about balancing the demands of both work and non-work activities.

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I just found out that my recent promotion comes with an unexpected 24/7/365 on-call status

I work in IT and was recently promoted to a higher position. While I was okay with the responsibilities outlined when I accepted the promotion last week, today I learned that it comes with 24/7/365 on-...
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Having lunch at home

I live near my employer's office. All I need to do to reach home is walk for five minutes. To go straight to the point, I prefer having lunch at home. It costs me way less money than going to ...
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How do I get my family to respect my home office?

I got my current job a few years ago when the company had a second office near my hometown. A few months later they closed that office and offered me the opportunity to work from home instead. I ...
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Stressed at work with no obvious source

Note: I initially wrote this question anonymously, so that I simultaneously be honest while avoiding any potentially uncomfortable conversations if anyone I know were to stumble across it. At some ...
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In a company crossing multiple timezones, is it rude to send a co-worker a work email in the middle of the night?

I work in a company that spans multiple timezones, and I work with people who are in wildly different timezones from me. For example, some of my coworkers are in the USA and work local hours, others ...
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Will declining my company's many social events negatively influence my career?

I've been working for this company in the Netherlands for 6 months now. When they said they valued get-togethers and game nights, I expected the occasional Friday afternoon gathering or a game night ...
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How do I stop getting all of this work placed on me?

Currently working for a three letter government agency in their IT department and going on three years as system administrator. I also work as the backup SAN administrator, and manage all of the ...
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How should I ask about work/life balance during an Interview?

I am interviewing for a company later today that has the following listed under Expectations on their career website: Some flexibility in a 40-hour work week In addition, their job descriptions ...
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Is it a good idea to push new employees to prove themselves in their first 90 days? [closed]

I am a new manager and I recently hired a new engineer. My boss’s philosophy is to really push people to achieve ambitious milestones in their first 90 days. He thinks a new hire should really want to ...
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How can I politely decline my boss's invitations to social events after-hours or on the weekend

I'm currently working in a software company and I am enjoying it so far. Everyone is quite friendly and gets along well together. A lot of times since I have started here my boss has asked me to ...
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How to deal with a subordinate constantly being in semi-professional chats

I constantly see one of my subordinates chatting in a semi-professional chat during her working hours. With "semi-professional" I mean that the chat is targeted towards frontend developers (which is ...
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My boss wants to do personal activities together. How can I maintain work-life balance without negatively affecting our work relationship?

Some background information: I've gone to the same chain of gyms for a few years now, and my boss recently joined. During last week's session, he approached me and we chatted about work and music (...
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Peer achieving more, by putting in more than regular working hours for not so urgent tasks

I have a great team member who is very reliable and dependable and a great asset to the team. However, of late, I have realized that this person is working for almost 14 hours a day. There is ...
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How do I maintain a work-life balance when company culture tends towards frequent overtime?

I usually don't mind working overtime (no additional compensation) because I enjoy my work. However, it does eventually grate on me. I've enjoyed a minimum of overtime in the past few months but know ...
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Is it possible to work more than full-time for an employer?

I have a full-time job for my current employer and have been working here for 2 years. The problem is that I'm working a lot of hours, since I enjoy my profession a lot (I'm in software engineering/...
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How to deal with a boss that doesn't like you to take time off?

To keep it short, I have a manager that is very nit-picky about when and how long I take my vacation time. My vacation time at my company works on an accrual basis, so I earn X amount of days per ...
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Is it unprofessional to bring your spouse/kids to work to visit? [closed]

When I was younger in my career (20's), and worked at smaller companies, I often brought my spouse and kids into work. I had good relationships with my co-workers, and even saw some of them outside of ...
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How do you separate or integrate your work and home life when telecommuting?

I recently started a job where I can telecommute 1 day a week, and the hours are fairly flexible as long as you are being productive and getting your time in. I find I'm as productive if not more so ...
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Continuous Learning when you have a family [closed]

I am trying to practice continuous learning at home so that I can keep up with newer technologies as a software engineer. For me continuous learning involves tinkering with code, reading stackoverflow/...
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Totally underqualified for position, don't know what to do

I'm in a technical position as a software engineer for a startup. At the beginning of my job (4 months ago) I was brought on with the expectation that I would be coding full time. I was the only ...
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Is it professional to tell my boss that major illness in my family was the reason for my lack of productivity? [duplicate]

I work in a telecommute position so most of my correspondence with my boss is over email/Skype. Today, I got a phone call that my mom's cancer has spread to the rest of her body. I knew she had cancer,...
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How do I explain that I am in the office to work, not to have fun?

Our office has a ping-ping table, and I am occasionally invited to play during work hours. Meanwhile my co-workers will often take a few minutes out of the day to chat about their homes, families, ...
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Using gym at workplace during work hours

My company has a gym, a nice swimming pool, squash court, badminton court et al but the employees are not allowed to use during working hours. The employees can only use from 6 am - 8 am and from 5 pm ...
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How to convince managers to let me work less hours for the same pay

I am working as a software engineer / developer. Mostly I do requirements engineering, implementation of said requirements, some testing and support and the like. I have somewhat responsibility for ...
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How can I argue against the idea of working overtime to fix bugs (constantly)?

My boss likes our engineers to work overtime to fix bugs. One of his favorite arguments is that being a responsible engineer, when you know it is exactly your codes that cause the bugs how can you ...
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When is it appropriate to take sick leave due to work stress/fear of burnout?

If you're in a job which is draining your energy and is even inducing physical symptoms, at what point is it appropriate to take sick leave? I'm trying to find a balance between: taking sick leave ...
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How do I keep a work-life balance while traveling for work?

My manager recently offered me a position that would require me to travel every week. I would fly to another location for 4 days every week for the first six months, and taper down to traveling every ...
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How common is overtime in programming field? [closed]

I'm a 27 year old Italian guy and currently, I work as a customer service technician for an Italian internet provider. I'm currently thinking about a career change, and I think that working as a ...
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Politely and professionally declining overtime

I've been working as a contractor at a large company for three months. I'm the most seasoned developer in a small team, and so far it's been a good relationship. However, as of a couple of weeks ago, ...
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My boss started sending me IMs to my private account. How should I deal with this?

I few days ago my boss started to send me instant messages to my private phone on my private account. He sends me error-messages and screenshots from customers. I fully understand this may be his ...
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Why do the huge tech companies not have bedrooms? [closed]

Companies like Google, Facebook etc. are famous for offering all kind of services like gyms, cinemas, hair dresser, music concerts and so on, so that employees don't have to leave the campus. But I'...
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Is stress expected this soon in my career?

I am a junior developer in a very small company and have been there for a year. Only a month ago it was just my boss and I working on developments. While I am a junior and only 21, I have had previous ...
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Should I state work-life balance needs in a cover letter?

I am job-hunting as a parent of a small child. My child goes to after care after school. After care closes at 6 PM. For most jobs I am applying for, the one-way commute is 30-45 minutes to the after ...
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Is it a bad idea to have 2-3 months off after getting a degree? [duplicate]

I am currently at university, and I have been wondering how bad it looks to a potential employer if an applicant takes some time off after university before they start looking for work. When I say ...
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Is it necessary to work 8 hours a day if I work from home? [closed]

I was previously working in an office from 9-6 but my boss decided for us to work remotely due to various reasons. When I was in an office setting, I had no choice but to stay in the office from 9-6 ...
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How to leave job when worrying the employer would be sued?

I currently work for a consulting company in the tech space. A few months back, we took on a project that was far too big for our team to handle, with too low a budget, and too short a timeline. ...
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How to react to my superior's demand to come to work when child is sick?

I took two days off because my child is sick and needs to stay home. On the previous week I took half a day off also because of my child's health. On the second day of my absence, my boss wrote me an ...
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Am I damaging my reputation by arriving and leaving on-time?

I work 9am-5pm, 5 days a week as an employee (not contractor). I'm fairly strict with myself in only doing work at work and making the absolute most of my time away from work. This means I will ...
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How to deal with a lead who thinks spending more hours and staying late in office is the surest sign of productivity? [duplicate]

In my team the lead thinks that only when people are spending are more time at the office or staying late in office, they are doing good work. Recently a project was done where team coordination and ...
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How can I find a better work-life balance in an internet company which is “always on”?

As a community manager for a large internet company, I find myself often working what most would consider too many hours a day. Indeed, several of my friends have linked me to videos such as this one, ...
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Do long commutes count against personal or work hours? [closed]

My employer (science) has several sites. One is in Cambridge MA, where some colleagues tell me their one-way commute is in excess of an hour. I've even heard that a few colleagues commute up to 2 hrs ...
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Convincing a prospective employer about taking a “lower” ranked job

For most of the past 15 years I have been working at the "higher" end of the technical spectrum, in both permanent and contracting roles such as tech lead, information architect, product architect, ...
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How to cope with an employee who stays late and does work on Saturdays?

I work in the IT industry. One of my employee works late and on weekends. I, on the other hand, arrive and leave on time. The project schedule is tight, and others are asking me to work extra hours, ...
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Pressured to take work home by colleagues? [closed]

Good evening everyone! I am an Italian guy which graduated in computer science last April (cum laude, saying this just to give a bit of context). The day after the graduation, I began work interviews (...
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How can I find meaning in 40 hr/week job [closed]

I've been a full-time software developer for the past 3 years, since graduating with a Computer Science degree. I initially had a lot of passion for this field - I used to spend my free time writing ...
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What are some guidelines for appropriate social drinking in a work-related context?

Everyone or nearly everyone has at some point an occasion to drink either at work as part of a work function or with a group of friends from work. What are some ways to help avoid the pitfalls of ...
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What do I do if a co-worker is leaving early frequently while the boss is out?

We are a team of 10 people, and one of them is leaving early. They are supposed to work 8:00 hours like everyone else but they are working about 7:30. Our manager is out of office till next month. ...
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Startup vs Big Company - ok to ask for details

Hoping for some guidance with this. I recently left the startup company where I was working as a senior backend Python engineer. The job had a lot of complications and the company suffered from a ...
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Abusive employer and “effective contract changes”

I am trying to navigate a really nasty scenario with my current employer, and am hoping there is a professional tactic or approach that won't require consulting with a lawyer, as I'm pretty much broke ...
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How to handle boss's invitation to become a Facebook Friend knowing that sometimes my Friends might post something that is not work-appropriate

I've had a pretty good working relationship with my boss for the past 1 1/2 years. He trusts me to deal with the problems he gives me, I give him the best quality work that I can, occasionally there ...