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You're definitely in a tough spot right now. You will get through this. You can be sure of that. Some observations: You're not alone. Almost everybody goes through this kind of self-doubt once in a while. It seems to you like you're flailing, but some of that is in your head. You're not failing. You're struggling. They are different things. You can almost ...


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This sounds like your first position. Your boss is being unfair, whether knowingly or not is hard to tell. Don't let her impact on your mental health any more than you can help it. Do the job to the best of your ability, if you get let go then the bosses expectations were unrealistic for a new employee. But don't blame yourself, so long as you tried your ...


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You are overwhelmed. Your workload is too large/disorganised and as such you are unable to manage the amount of work you are expected to do in the time allocated for your role. First; talk to your boss. I know they've helped you and they are the 'best boss you've had' and probably helped you in your role/career numerous times and that you feel like you don'...


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You need to talk to him first. Start explaining to him how much you appreciate the conversations and explanations about these programming topics. Quote some parts of the conversation that you already had with him to show that you are paying attention on what he says to you. After that, just say to him that are some topics that you have knowledge enough to ...


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I can share from my experience. I managed to slow down to the point that occasionally I am told to speed up. Unlike what others have said, you need to practice. The most important thing for the beginning is to be able to listen to yourself and "measure" the speed of your speech. You will need to train about it, it will not come easily at the first attempt. ...


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“... he questions everything, makes me explain everything I do and every decision I make, explains everything to me (even the most basic stuff in the world he will spend ages explaining to me) and whenever I arrive at a conclusion he pretty much redoes all the work to validate it.” Sounds like he’s making attempts to coach/mentor you and trying to make sure ...


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I suggest you talk to your senior person. They probably have the good intention of training you and helping you develop in your profession. Or, maybe they have a common superpower: explaining the obvious. In that case you can call them Captain Obvious. (joke) If you can stay calm for this conversation, that is best. You should consider asking, "what can I ...


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This is exactly my problem! Being average by whatever criteria you choose the only thing that falls out standard distribution is how fast I'm talking. And in the past I also was approached and asked to talk slower. What helped me is not talking slower but saying fewer things. I've just realized that if I'm analyzing a bit what I'm going to say and what's ...


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I would take the following steps: Firstly, and perhaps most obviously, you may need to just buckle down and practice talking slowly. When you've got a whole lot of information in your brain and you feel the need to get it out, human speech can seem like a frustrating bottleneck. But you have to keep in mind that even if you talk fast, that doesn't mean ...


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You don't have to consciously try to slow down. What you have to do is interact with the people you are talking to, instead of just talking. As you make points in your talk, look at the listeners. Look at their reactions. If they aren't reacting, pause and wait for some response: a nod, a question, etc. By doing this you'll learn to deliver ...


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Fellow ADD here with a lot of struggles in the workplace because of that. I think that this is simply the wrong place to ask. I would say that, as long as your medication regime is fully followed by a proper therapist in a proper therapy setting, you should do it if it makes your life better. Actually, there is even no real question, as what I see is that ...


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I know what it feels like if someone speaks way too fast. It is hard to follow because a lot of information comes to you in a short time and words are likely spoken unclear if someone speaks really fast. In these cases I thought at least they could make a short break every now and then, it would give me some time to sort out the many words a little better. ...


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