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I suggest that you get plenty of sleep, before you go to the Christmas party. Because a recent research study has found that inadequate sleep makes people more anxious. Deep sleep can rewire the anxious brain The authors of this study speculate that many people might not need anti-anxiety medications, if they just get enough sleep every night. ...


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I've joined purely because I think these answers skip over how serious this is for you. I went through a phase of panic attacks at machines that people queue up for (cash machines, self-service checkouts, ticket machines, etc.). At that point, I could not even get my card in the machine because you lose all physical control and can start shaking in a very ...


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It's just another night, you're not the first or last to feel this way. This is perhaps straying too far into Interpersonal.SE territory, but as someone who suffers anxiety and similarly had panic attacks at their first work Christmas Party (and team day out, and company bus trip to the cinema, and team lunch, and performance review meeting...) - the best ...


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If it's giving you this much anxiety perhaps it is smart to announce you are not going. They might be able to cancel the food that was ordered for you. You did not specify when the party is, but if it's for example 21 December, you would have to remain in this state of panic and fear for almost 2 weeks. And I doubt that's good for your mental health.


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I think this will be a fine opportunity to "break the ice" and start getting better acquainted with your fellow workers. I suggest you consider going. I know that this may be easier said than done, but I encourage you to make an effort and try to go and socialize and meet new people. No need to have a "smart" or "witty" topic of conversation, just be ...


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Why not use this opportunity to make some more acquaintance and friends? Don't outright reject the idea of attending the party - Go ahead, give it a try. What's the worst that can happen - that you'll have no new acquaintance - same as now? However, look at the bright side - you may actually find out some like-minded colleagues which whom you can start ...


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Go! Ahead of time, ask somebody you know in the company to introduce you to a few people. Making these introductions is one of the jobs of supervisors. Then say, "what do you do?" Then listen. People love to talk about themselves, and they won't notice you're anxious. Seriously. You don't have to stay long. You don't have to make excuses for not ...


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When applying for "Senior Software Engineer" positions it is still highly likely that I will get asked one of three questions at some point during the interview process (either during the phone screen or on-site), those being: Implement a doubly linked list. Implement a hash-table. Implement a binary search. My suggestion would be that as part of your ...


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Your situation is somewhat comparable to our office. Context We are a small development team and are part of a much larger company, however we have our own office. The company as well as our team has a strong focus on culture. There are summer and winter activities, sometimes we are asked to do promotional videos, or pictures and often we decide to do ...


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Your personality and your company culture isn’t a natural fit, so... a. You adapt and try to fit in the culture b. Don’t change anything and see if that slides or if you get singled out c. Have the culture adapt and accommodate you d. Move to an environment that fits you better Now assign probability values to each of the options above and see which ...


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There seem to be two aspects to your objection, one reasonable and one unreasonable. First, it's entirely reasonable that you don't want "silly things" to be a major distraction from your real work, especially in the form of a time sink. But a firm refusal to ever consider making light of what you do, or especially to consider how odd it may sometimes look ...


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In my opinion most company "social" departments are run by extroverts. As this role in the company, usually caters to their needs. Their main weapon is peer pressure. In my company, it also started out with these "integration activities". Many people had lots of fun with it. But as time has progressed, many like-minded people have opted-out. A few ...


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I think without a doctors note you will have no way to get around this except talking to your manager what the problem is and how it makes you feel. If they still insist, make a parody of your boss, get a wig, fake mustache, glasses, typical outfit, typical clothes, whatever makes you look and talk like him. Then you give them a hell of a show and afterwards ...


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I like to work here Firstly you need to be honest with yourself.... you do NOT like working there, you don't like the whole culture, you may enjoy your tasks but that's only part of what it takes to enjoy working somewhere. Once you're honest with yourself you can move forwards and make a decision. Until then the rest of your question is moot. It's ...


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