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I would like to ask for it as soon as possible, but don't know how to approach my new boss in a professional and non-awkward manner. You are seriously overthinking this one. Something like "Hey boss. I noticed that the women's bathroom doesn't have a sanitary bin. Could we get one?" would be fine. If you would find that too embarrassing to suggest in ...


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If a person changes their name from "Jake" to "Richard" then they expect to be called "Richard" from then on. If you insist on calling this person "Jake" because he's just "a Jake pretending to be a Richard" then that would be considered quite rude. You may not understand the reasons for the name change or think they're silly, but it's their name. Not yours....


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I truly sympathize with this situation, having been in a similar one myself. It's a positive sign that your supervisor is willing to make accommodations such as the altered schedule and partition. Unfortunately, there's only so much that can be done to minimize smells, and (like Keith said), someone has to sit closest to the bathroom. Here are some further ...


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Take a picture of it and provide to management. If you are over reacting they will say so, if it's really as bad as you say, then the picture will do all the talking for you. In the meantime use a different bathroom, but just provide the picture and indicate that you just wanted them to see what you are talking about.


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Consider the broken window theory. People will vandalize much more easily in an unclean environment. In my previous workplace and my current workplace, the cleaning company comes around every day. They only have about 10 minutes of work mostly: emptying the trash cans, putting the mugs in the dishwasher, cleaning the toilets. Workers also kept them that way....


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(For clarity, the question has been significantly edited from its original version, both before and after I wrote the reply below.) We've been assigned to work with a man who considers themselves to be a woman. Polite terminology here is "a transgender woman". She's making some weird demands, such as getting upset whenever we use the pronoun "he" (...


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The real solution? Unless your company is experiencing some really tough financial times, order TP and give some to your employees as a bonus. It's a difficult situation for individuals and families. It will buy your company a lot of good will with employees, and it won't be punitive. It might even cost less than trying to install all these fixtures, and ...


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Just very casually. "Hey, I noticed that the trash bin in the ladies room is gone. Who do I need to see to replace it". Don't borrow trouble, just go in assuming that it's a normal, everyday thing because it is. Update due to edit: Still make it "Hey, I noticed that we don't have a sanitary bin in the ladies room, who do I need to see to get one put in ...


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Approach your manager, and speak to him privately. Don't make a big deal out of it. Simply outline the scenario you described to us: Hey boss, I just wanted to mention that some of the other team members are still using the female washroom from time to time. This doesn't bother me as such, but the other day I biked in and changed in the washroom, and I ...


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There are really two options here. First, the simple option of just using restrooms on a different floor. I would recommend this approach frankly. The fact that your management (at a Fortune 500 company!) isn't actively taking steps to address this is a bit weird to me, which strongly is suggesting something else is going on that you are unaware of - or ...


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While it is nice that your manager is trying to help out your situation, clearly there is already a solution available ( the 3-4 empty desks on the other side of the office ) that for whatever reason you are being negated. The first thing I would do is take a sick day to see your doctor. Let your doctor know of all of your symptoms and explain what you ...


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should I just confront him directly about the matter? No, definitely do not confront them. How about you just knock first and say something like "Is this occupied?", and then proceed to open the door slowly? By doing this you are giving the person occupying the stall an opportunity ( ample I would say ) to respond appropriately. The person should know ...


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How to deal with this situation? First, you should try your best to address this person with the pronouns they prefer. I know that this may be hard, especially for people that are not used to working with LGBTX people. Now, regarding the bathroom, I think that this is something that has to be sorted out with management or HR, as you and your coworkers are ...


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How to deal with this situation? People get to self identify, you get to respect that and act professionally and that's it. People are tied to their identity. It's literally how they define themselves and it's important to them. Imagine it were their religion or political views if that makes things easier for you. such as getting upset whenever we use ...


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@J...'s comment is the real solution to this problem. A properly-ventilated bathroom should emit no odors at all inside the building. And it isn't just about the smell — other things could be riding on that air, too. This involves health codes as well as building codes. A fan should be drawing air out of the bathroom and exhausting it outside; with ...


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The specifics of this is very much dependent upon location, however the chances are good that your employer is in the wrong here. UK: The Workplace (Health, Safety and Welfare) Regulations 1992 cover this and the key take-aways are: If you employ anyone (however short the period) you must ‘so far as is reasonably practicable’, provide adequate and ...


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Do you punch out and back in when you take a restroom break? If so, punch after you used the bathroom. Otherwise, before.


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...but literally he could have and seen me... Before approaching management, you should do the same engineering done by the people who designed the bathroom. They've already figured this out. The (crude) diagram below represents a pair of U.S.-standard, three-foot-wide bathroom stalls with six-foot-high partitions as described. In the center of the stall ...


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If you're uncomfortable talking about it face-to-face, email might be a better alternative. You don't need to go into too much detail. Something like this: Our ladies' room is missing a bin for sanitary products. Can we order one? Martijn made the excellent recommendation in his comment to do an internet search for one - you could include that in your ...


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Allow people to buy toilet paper through the company. Your employees are having trouble getting it locally and, for whatever reason, aren't ordering it online. Your company still has a reliable way of getting it. Just let people order toilet paper like you would buy more paper, pens, etc. if they needed it and have them pay for it. I think Malisbad's answer ...


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Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I have caused? No, cause honestly I think there was no damage caused. You were just sleeping, outside your working hours, on a calm and quiet room; there is nothing scandalous or wrong about that. I also don't think the whole pizza thing is a good idea. Again, there was nothing "wrong" with what you did, so ...


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The fact that your absence creates the problems (or at least, they claim it to be a "problem") indicates two things: There is no proper communication of the break-time schedule. There is no proper escalation matrix both of which are required (and usually mandatory) in a scenario where a continuous monitoring and management is required and expected. As you ...


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The bathrooms on my floor are private and only support one person at a time. A previous company I worked for fixed this problem by having unisex bathrooms for individual bathrooms like this. How can I bring the idea of having unisex bathrooms to management in a way that is most likely to be accepted? With single-person restrooms, it makes ...


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According to OSHA: Provide an adequate number of restrooms for the size of the workforce to prevent long lines Do not impose unreasonable restrictions on restroom use Ensure restrictions, such as locking doors or requiring workers to sign out a key, do not cause extended delays Allow workers to leave their work locations to use a restroom when ...


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Is this normal and appropriate workplace pee-tiquette? Is he just being social? I wouldn't say it's abnormal or inappropriate. For most people it's just awkward. It has been ingrained in US male culture that any sort of interaction in the men's room should be avoided, so it's no surprise that this makes you feel uncomfortable. Clearly your coworker, for ...


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IMO you should look for a new job, and not simply because of the stench or air fresheners. The real reason is that, if a company considers a space that's so close to toilets that one can feel the stench as an acceptable workplace... it shows such disregard to its employees, that it tells you all you really need to know. You cannot ever expect any good ...


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To me this looks like a sign of a much bigger cultural problem that needs to be addressed. I can see only two reasons for this kind of behavior en masse. People are really desperate. They are also afraid to ask for help. So this is kind of an "emergency relief" if you will. Usually if I need something on a special occasion and my employer can ...


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If the bathroom is not your private bathroom and the downstairs employees are permitted to use the upstairs restroom, then firstly you likely have nothing to be upset about. I would assume that since the downstairs employees are permitted to use the upstairs restroom that the upstairs employees are likewise permitted to use the downstairs restroom. My ...


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