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That's unusual and inappropriate behavior from the HR person. Regardless of what issues your colleague has, that needs to be dealt with behind closed doors and out of sight of any other employees. Ask your manager for advice. Tell him the facts of the story and ask for her/his interpretation and what he/she expects you to do.


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or is she genuinely trying to protect me? People in this forum can't know what the HR woman really plans to achieve. But I can give my impression of this situation which should help you to further evaluate it. The short form of my answer is yes she could be trying to protect you. I can't seem to find out why staying in good relation with him (as I have ...


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As the others have said, we don't really know enough to say for sure. Nevertheless, everybody has taken sides, and I am not different. To spin pucks School analogy: You have transfered to a new school. On your first day you spend some minutes chatting with someone who seems lonely. Later someone else tells you to stay away from them "if you don't want ...


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I'm a front-end engineer and have been in the field for a little over 4 years. I feel like I am stuck at my current position, with no room for growth. ...The problem is that I don't really feel valued at all for these contributions. ...I also have a belittling/jokey manager. ...I am really feeling fed up because I don't feel valued. ...


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What should I do in this case ? The person you've been friendly with does sound (by your own admission) like someone who could potentially damage your own reputation simply as a result of been seen to be friendly with him. Inappropriate jokes, poor approach to work, bad in arguments - it's a bad combination. And you don't know if that person has their own ...


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tl;dr a lot of the things that are coming out here make it seem like we're looking for advice on how to undermine one's line manager. One should, generally, work with their manager and rise with them. If the manager is a toxic person, and actively try to suppress the employee, then change managers first. I take the initiative on a project and I want ...


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Yes, you should showcase the relation between the jobs, to avoid confusion just as you mentioned. Something like Project Manager at A, 2015-current - item1 - item2 Sales Manager at B (Wholly owned subsidiary of A), 2015-current - item1 - item2 That said, I think you meant to write "2015", not "20015". You MUST NOT make these types of ...


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So, the first thing to do is reality-test your belief about not being valued. You were given a raise which was apparently significant enough to be noteworthy, and your employer has, by your own admission, adopted a number of process improvements which you also claim benefited the entire organization. There's a term for that and it isn't "unvalued". How ...


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As others said, it baffles me that HR would do that in an official way. It is unprofessional, in my view, because now one could wonder if HR is watching closely who talks to whom and passing judgement on it - and sharing it to others in scheduled meetings! It is strange at least. I wonder if there is any kind of social punishment for employees that somehow ...


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Employer will want you to give them proof of proficiency. For someone out of school it is typically a diploma. When advancing in career it'll be work experience and actions done. In your situation you'll have to choose where to invest you time to get such proof of proficiency. You mostly nailed formal degrees and certificates. Contributing to open source ...


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I can't [figure] out why staying in good relation with him... could hurt my career. People will judge you by the company you keep. Maybe this is wrong and unfair to the slacker who tells inappropriate jokes... it is still true. What could the possible motives of the whole matter be? Is HR trying to separate the guy from the other colleagues to convince ...


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You may find it a little more difficult getting your first job (and I stress the may), but after that it won't matter at all. Due to personal circumstances it took me six years to get my three year degree (which included repeating some courses), and I shared your worry that I might have torpedoed my career before it started. It turns out that no one cares ...


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You should showcase your experience but brevity and clarity are key. I tend toward "non-material truth altering" in this case. What I mean is not to lie, but standardize the presentation to the industry. You can explain any detail that might matter in an interview but you don't want to raise confusion for someone scanning your resume. Unless Company B ...


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For your more broader issues, it'll probably be more cost effective for you to buy a few office-related self-help books and read those. Forget office politics - simply concentrate on your job and communication that relates to the work you're doing. Your core concern here is your communication with your manager. For clues, look at how other people interact ...


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Give your line manager a reason why you want to chat with (a particular person) from senior management. Clearly, "hey boss, you're cool, but I want to hang out with the big guns to wangle a promotion, can you hook me up?" isn't going to go down brilliantly. However - "Hey boss, I've got an idea around x which I've heard Eric has a lot of experience in, and ...


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