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I am a fellow parent and manager. I had to un-stick Lego, wipe little bottoms (off-cam) and stop fights during professional presentations. Or tell my 5 years old to put on some trousers before he comes into the camera. Other answers talk about ignoring it if it doesn't affect work performance. Having to take care of children while trying to work does affect ...


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Your best bet would be to act as if the child isn't even in the room. If it's not having an impact on either their or your performance it's irrelevant. The professional thing to do would be to continue on about work business. It's a tough time for a lot of people, many I imagine are finding childcare hard to come by. There's a good chance that your ...


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I think you're approaching this from the wrong direction. You are complaining about how unfair it is that you have to do so much more difficult, strenuous work than your colleagues. Instead, at your next performance review, you should point out to your managers how you are doing so much more difficult and strenuous work than your colleagues and request/...


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As a parent working with no child-care and a lot of meetings, I've needed to navigate this a lot, and I'm not really satisfied with any of the current answers. The problem is that the current answers all make assumptions about what the parent would want. Instead, I recommend a simple, adaptive heuristic: match the parent's level of talking about the child. ...


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I'd assume that having the child visible in the video / present in the room does not affect the work. If so, then: If you're in the middle of a conversation and your colleague apologizes, don't stop or interrupt, just nod / say "absolutely fine" (or any variant thereof) and carry on with the normal flow. If the other person is apologizing at the ...


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As the leader of a team and a parent I can see both sides. Your observation is correct, picking up the kids at 4pm does not mean that free time starts. Especially if they has small kids, you can expect that your coworkers will not have more free time than you, even if you stay until 7pm. I would take it one step further: Every employee deserves special ...


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I don't believe you need to disclose it at all if you're at the halfway point (but stay tuned for a comment about the timeline below). Don't give a potential employer a chance at a "yeah, but..." in considering your candidacy. If your partner is halfway, that's 4.5 months. Let's assume you're interviewing today - it's reasonable to estimate 4 -6 weeks ...


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The other answers address how this affects the children (which are obviously most important) but I would like to address how this affects you directly. While I'm not a lawyer, I see a potential for liability here. In most areas of our lives, failure to report a health problem isn't that big a deal. Bugs in the restaurant where you work, nobody is going to ...


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If kids are being bitten then it's very serious. Go to a doctor, find out what is biting you. If it's fleas inform your boss and coworkers. If you're being bitten by rodents, inform them as well. But go to the doctor and find out first, because if it turns out to be your new washing powder irritates your skin..... If nothing is done about it straight away ...


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I don’t have kids, but I have worked in both Germany and the United States. While the top answers are both right, there are some contextual considerations you might want to make. Relationship to the colleague - if you’re very friendly with each other, it might be weird not to acknowledge the kid, honestly. If you’re more like strangers, then a short ...


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Childcare in Australia as you know is and has been in very high demand especially in the large cities. A lot of the centers are small with no real HR departments and pretty much at the mercy of the owner who is also often the person running the day to day business. This limits your options in terms of what action can be taken. In an ideal world you ...


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It isn't fair between employees, nor is it going to be Trying to make everything fair in a workplace is hard, if not impossible. Everything will look unfair in someone's eyes. So I think you need to lower your expectations in that regard. Treating this as an issue of whether it's fair on you vs your coworkers will only sour your relationship with them, ...


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Unfortunately all you can do is involve your local health department. The facility will be closed, though, until changes are made. And then you risk your job if you are found out. Sucks.


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The moral question: Does the partner of a pregnant woman deserve a job, yes or no? I'd say "yes". An employer might say "no", but that's their problem, not yours and not mine. I recommend you don't tell anyone that your partner is pregnant so you get the job. And then I'd recommend that you show yourself from your best side at work as long as possible so ...


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Certain dispensations for those with kids aren't unusual - and it makes sense for societal health in general to ensure that people can have kids and still be productive members of the workforce. Kids schedules don't always fit neatly with the 9-5 and you can't just put them away when they get inconvenient. But yes having kids (or not) is a personal choice ...


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If you don't want to or can't (having a good reason helps) do it you can always decline unless it is in your contract that travelling is expected. Of course this might be received negatively, so dusting up that CV could prove prudent. Regarding your question, no they largely shouldn't, except for emergencies. It is discrimination or the very least at odds ...


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I'm pretty sure you don't have to tell them about your partner's health status unless it will require absence on your behalf outside of the scope of already regulated circumstances, e.g. pregnancy. There are usually laws to protect you from being fired once you've notified your current employer about a pregnancy, but this company is not yet your employer. ...


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